I love the way you get in my head and make me think! I’m so happy I found U! Your voice is so calming, yet so understanding. I could listen to you all night. Your amazing
Best answer: Tax benefits, Asset Management, and Spousal Privilege ( legally next of kin, informal contracts for child support)- in all honesty, a commitment to be in a relationship includes all of the things Matthias mentioned…. And more, much more - but marriage is basically a contract between 2 people validated and secure by government and by extension the society with benefits. Unfortunately, people need to understand this before going into the deeper end to hop into a marriage- have conversations about finance, intimacy, children, lifestyle, and yes- the very changing/evolving nature of the relationship that will have to see through it.
I'm still in high school so maybe I don't completely understand but since I was young I never really wanted to get married. If i truly love someone and everything about them and they feel same way about me, why do you legally have to put a title on just staying together for the rest of your life. Why go through putting a contract on your love. Plus marriage sometimes will just divide people instead of bringing them closer. If you already want to spend the rest of your life with each other why go through actually getting married and just spend the rest of your life together. I totally get the whole staying together with fear of them leaving. And this isn't a whole hate thing if you read it that way. I love your videos they make me cry all the time. I was just wondering and was super curious.
I think that once you go through that experience in reality, you’ll find that you actually really want to commit to that person legally because you want to give everything to that person
If you aren’t married you need to realize you may not be allowed in the hospital room when your lover passes and vice versa. You will not be able to make sure their final choices about burial or life support are respected. Those rights are for next of kin. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is not next of kin. If you are afraid of what will happen with marriage (ie afraid they will divorce you and take all your shit or act different after marriage) then you don’t actually trust that person. And that’s a problem in any relationship that is serious and committed.
Best answer: Tax benefits, Asset Management, and Spousal Privilege ( legally next of kin, informal contracts for child support)- in all honesty, a commitment to be in a relationship includes all of the things Matthias mentioned…. And more, much more - but marriage is basically a contract between 2 people validated and secure by government and by extension the society with benefits. Unfortunately, people need to understand this before going into the deeper end to hop into a marriage- have conversations about finance, intimacy, children, lifestyle, and yes- the very changing/evolving nature of the relationship that will have to see through it. So it is understandable for you to come to that conclusion and this is more or less based on the cost benefits analysis for people individually and not all templates fits all.
I have lived with my long-term partner for 27 years. I never wanted to get married for the same reasons as you, and i'm glad i never got married. It's not for me and i am happy i respected myself for not bowing to societal pressures to get married.
I just don't feel like marriage (legal documentation, weddings, etc) is needed to create the conditions you describe (unconditional love, assumption of not leaving/commitment, honesty, vulnerability). Please consider ethical nonmonogamy and hopefully you can be less normative.
Wow man, just wow. You've given me a whole new perspective on relationships and marriage as a whole. Love how you make your videos seem like we are having a genuine conversation. Keep it up man. Found you on tiktok and I'm definitely gonna subscribe.
Even though I for the most part disagree with your thoughtful reflections on marriage, you gave me pretty much the only valid reason for marriage I have heard so far ... and also a new perspective to sharpen my arguments against it - and for that I thank you.
Been married twice. I’m so confused about marriage. Can’t wrap my mind around it. Getting the law involved has made everything so complicated. Thank you so much for explaining your perspective. It’s a really important and a dangerous thing...
What peace of mind are you talking about? One partner would still make life hell to the other, or better yet get divorced and that on its own is devastating. Marriage is just a contract that people always regret signing - it looks promising and "secure" from the outside, but once you're in, you're a hostage and breaking out of this contract is never easy,so why sign it? Just not worth the risk
If both parties are mature, respecting people with good values, and are mentally and emotionally fit, marriage is an amazing and joyous experience. If this is what you have experienced, then you and/or your partner were clearly not prepared for marriage as a person on the inside.
If you can contact a domestic violence line and get counselling I think that’s your best bet. Try to convert him and have a good conversation with him if that is possible in his state. If professional help for him is not working, this is the point when you leave the relationship and call the police, if what he’s doing is considered in your part the world. It’s not healthy for you to be in this relationship and sometimes people are beyond health. Even if you love someone, it’s important to respect your self worth and dignity.
You better not tell your wife about any problems your having. She will file for divorce and take your house and children. The government is never a good idea in a relationship. Your dreaming about your ideas on discussing with your wife. She does not love you - they can't, it's in their DNA
