Why I Can't Be Friends With Straight People 

It's really super pitiful that in today's world you can't simply be yourself.

When they can't put you in a box, they don't know how to act... It's really sad

I really like this video for sooooooo many reasons: Gay/bisexual guys who are believed to be straight because of their masculine appearance and or mannerisms are given a bad rap. 1. Straight guys are intimidated usually because they feel uncomfortable around us. We are generally attractive. 2. Straight women who find out that we are attracted to the same gender as them are quick to say, “what a waste”. 3. Feminine gays are usually trying to find a straight appearing gay man and are offended when you tell them,”sorry you’re not my type”. Believe it or not there are men who are checking for effeminate gay men. However I have yet to see two effeminate gay couples. Like you said some straight men have been betrayed by gay men who pretended to be their friend and wanted more, but some of them were curious themselves and baited their gay friends into drunk sex! Tripp, my cousin, don’t change be authentically you.

the older you get the less time u have to waste on relationships that dont fit with what youre looking for.

Bro I'm so low key this my FIRST time commenting on ANYTHING on this topic...mannn I feel u. Same shit and im mos def not the nigga that's sayn anything....damn near a munk. Living in a one man world...for years. Depressing and lonely but I been promising myself I will start living. This shit crazy. Especially when u disagree with who I are....self mutilation. But me myself...im tired of missing out on life.

Some straight people feel if u gay that u automatically want them when it’s not the truth I got some straight friends and while some are attractive i make it to where I only see them as like brothers or friends nothing sexual and it’s not everyone u see in a sexual way like this society is crazy how people can’t get along without them making assumptions.

Yo, as a straight dude. I used work in a gay club as a bouncer. It was super weird at first, then shit got normal after i made it clear that i wasn't playing for y'all team. Started having regular ass conversations wit cats, jokes and just all-round regular night club shit. You gotta find straight people that are secure with in them selfs and MOST importantly, they need to be on a higher frequency in the brain. Most people like to put there limitations on other people because that's as far as their brain and experiences have taken them. It's really that simple. As much as i dislike humans in general regardless of sexual prefference, i try not to give up on them lol. Individually people can be smart and understanding given that they are in the right brain space. I know its a contradiction to say "i dislike humans" then right after say "don't give up on them", but such is life.

This conversation is so needed and necessary!! Good Stuff!

"Gay - Be My Friend at Your Own Risk." That's a good slogan!

I love MASCULINE energy. I don’t get along too well with females, I don’t like feminine gay dude too much because they put off the same energy as females, and straight males don’t know how to be friends with me. One moment we’re friends and I’m helping them pick out engagement rings for their girl and as soon as it don’t work out they want to come to me expressing their feelings for me. So I know EXACTLY how you feel.

Cuzzo. I still get that from straight men that dont know me "oh you playing for both teams" and feel uncomfortable. I'm not trying to pass, which I can, but why should I have to tell you my sexual preference when we're getting to know each other (associates). So I keep to myself... fck'it Cuzzo .. I will say that friends I grow up with especially my best friends Cares for an authentic friendship. And I/they appreciate that..

Tripp I have the same problem, but I do have straight friends that accept me for me but it's hard to just be a regular dude who likes dudes without being put in that box and straight dudes are the worst, lol you are the best cuz this topic is definitely on point, as always I appreciate you.

Like I always say, my female friends, I tell them I'm gay and they say "Challenge accepted".

As a lesbian myself I understand exactly where your coming from. When I used to be around my gay male friend other girls would be nice in his face and say slick shit about him/his sexuality. And if he said something they didn’t agree with or didn’t like they would bash him by saying “that’s why he gay,” as if that’s an insult.🙄 Then the gay heterosexual males were even worse they were so damn toxic and insecure they tried making my gay male friends life a living hell but he never allowed them to get to him. Even though we all know they was picking on him cause they were DL👀

This happened to me. My coworker been trying to hang out with me for a minute. When he asked for my IG his whole demeanor changed. Some of these characters want to try you but will stay away once they see you're openly gay

I love that you keep it real with those around you, as well as us,your subscribers. Love you cuz.💙👊🙂💙

making sense bro!! didnt even think twice before hitting the subscribe button

Love How You Just Be Sittin There Cuzin, GIVING REAL TALK....Just Being Yourself!!!!!

Speak that TRUTH Cuzzin! So glad this channel is growing the way that it is! 15k on the way!

I understand where you’re coming from. I could definitely be friends with you because you’re real. Just kickin it! You seem FUN!!!

Hey cuzzo tripper I have several str8 friends that were cool with me being gay they were very open minded 💯 I'm not masculine nor am I fem I'm just me we grew up from grade school tell their deaths 😥 they came to me after high school and said man just be you stop hiding who you are if your gay who gives a fuck we been cool since grade school and nothing can change our friendship. I would hang with them at the str8 clubs ... they loved house music so I asked if they would hang out with me at the gay bar 😳 to my surprise they agreed to it .. one was a little uncomfortable but he saw it was just a party and we had a ball even though they were just wall flowers but I appreciated my besties supporting me frfr . My str8 besties 💯

Oh yeah I'll make conversation but I'm not trying to get in nobody's pants. Tripp you be on point with the topics. I'm going through what you going through right now. Being put in a box, I'm just trying to chill and have a good time. Just fun chill and that's it!

Cousin I love your videos they are so insightful. They are for the most part always interesting. I love you dude.

Tripp always said we could be real here. I'm a straight man and I would totally hang with Tripp. He is so cool and I'm cool with knowing my favorite cousin is gay. Not a problem at all. I believe people have a right to love who they want to love. I'm open minded. Tripp I dig you cause you're cool you're real fun and all around great guy!! 👍 I can be friends with anyone who is gay and I don't care what anybody say I know they will probably say I must be gay too but as we grow older we learn not to care what people think. So cuzzo you got a straight cousin here who rocks with you and I respect everything about you brother cousin. Much love ❤ Family!! 👍

🤣😂🤣 Damn bro, this my life story. Thank God when I came out my straight friends senior year they were cool with it. I knew these niggas for 5 -10 years we still smoke blunts and kick it. I see them as my brothers some may be attractive but im not attracted because i see them as family and have never ever thought about trying them even at the sleepovers when we were young. 🤣😂🤣😂🤣Lmao some said they already knew.....When it comes to work I keep my business and personal life to myself. I try to stay to myself for all the reasons you said, but women and men love me they wanna talk to me and be cool with me, but once everybody start gossiping they think im gay its because im not talking bout fucking hos or hollering at the females at work, everybody start acting different. I'm like damn im the same nigga you knew before. I'm tired of that shit, one day im just gonna be real when they ask me would i fuck ole girl and say "naw. I like dudes"

I feel same way my dude. I look straight but I'm gay. 🎯

Thanks for that. Im out masc gay and I have never heard anyone speak on this other than myself. Completely true.

I love getting your perspectives.

I tried having gay friends but that didn't work out. In most cases they were more interested in sex than building a friendship. Most of my closet friends are straight and married. I have several straight associates that are single and they know I'm gay but it's not a problem. I think a lot of that has to do with maturity. I haven't been put into a position as Tripp described. But then again, it more about the "type" of company you keep. As I mentioned most of my straight friends are married. Our conversations are more centered around building and expanding business relationships, or our kids. Where it does become interesting is when I'm dealing with clients. Most automatically assume that I'm married with kids. I do where a wedding ring. A lot of times, I don't reveal my sexuality and just tell them that I'm single parent with kids. It isn't a lie, but it isn't the complete truth either. Bottom line is that my sexuality has nothing to do with my ability to delivery on a business contract. At the same time, when you are dealing with a client on a $M deal in a southern State or foreign country, it always best to keep things professional and leave the personal aspect off to the side.

Good morning cuz! I have never ever met a honest person as you in my entire life.you are really going to go very far and be successful.Why does anyone care about the way anyone is?.its amazing how pple can be sooo stupid becos they have an impression about you and want you to be a certain way and not be true and authentic to yourself and you know what? They are all fake.I love you and I respect you sooo much.yeah! We hve to do better.pple misunderstand your kindness and being nice for what they think you shld be.Thanks cuzz.hve a great day!

So glad you spoke on this.

What's up cuz peace and love I love your videos Man you make mean laugh you're fighting you do peace and love

Often times it’s because they are uncomfortable with their own sexuality, I run across it often, I’ll spend a whole night, day or work shift talking to a dude then when he find out I’m bisexual things change. Smh it’s a sad fact of society and the stigma that gay and bisexual men are put in.

Bro im in the same boat as you kid. I work in law enforcement bro and my straight male coworkers are either A) talking to me about the females they plugging or B) trying to hook me up with the women we work with smh. Its mentally draining and exhausting to say the least bro. Im masculine and i understand where they are coming from but it has come to the point of where i also am not going to hide who i am just to make them feel comfortable. At 35 years old i have finally come to terms that i am gay big homie and its ok to not be placed in a box kid. I recently told a female friend who has been pursuing me for a while and she looked at me confused as hell lol. She said why, but but but but how you act and look like a man i just smh. Times have changed ladies and gentlemen us gay masculine dudes do exist

I love this so much this type of representation for gay black men is sooooo needed! I wanna cry...

Here’s my thing.....as an out gay man live your life the way you want to; don’t let others make that expectation. I think you can be friends with straight women but at the end of the day, they need to accept the reality that you are gay and that is not going to change. If they are good friends they will understand that boundary and respect it. Now if they don’t.......thank you next😊 as far as straight men....you need to find ones who can hold an intelligent conversation and they are few and far between. You got this😀

Tripp! This is 100% the truth right here! As always, I love your commentary. **Hugs you**

Tripper plugged I swear I know exactly what your talking about the straight human label construct...

My favorite video i swear I sways feel the same way like let me be me lmao 🤣 😂 tripp crazy I love em tho

You the best thing i seen this morning Cuz

Lol....I listen to your vids a few times and catch something different every time. Vlasic and neon light made me giggle. 😛

Gm tripp,boy u hit these nails on the head all time,I've been put in these situations many times tripp,where I felt like I had to always be explaining myself to straight people, and what I don't like is people who labelize me by thinking because am attracted to guys it means am sleeping with every guy,like u tripp I have my choices in men,and not every guy I talk with it means I wanna get into their pants,now when I meet guys I like talking things of interest be it in the news or about me,many I have to Scrug off guys who think that by me being gay it automatically means I want them,and hell who wants to be with some guy who uses alcohol, as some device to say he was taken advantage of by me because he was drunk,first of all I ain't want no guy who has to be intoxicated to get down dirty with me ,we both must be fully aware of our actions, i have lots of women friends I hang out with and we always have something in common to talk about ,but the question of my sexuality has never arise in any conversation we have,but if I was asked I would simply tell it like it is,even if it didn't sit well with some,at least am honest enough to let u know and we don't have to play these mind games on u trying to find me out,but like u said tripp, we'll always have the fear of straight people wondering if they can have a conversation with us without us visualizing them for something, which in some cases is totally wrong,when am interested in a guy for pleasure the conversation is way different to that of if I want him as a friend, so guys out there,stop fearing yourselves so u won't have to fear me,love u cuzz,and say hello to Korea for me.

Real talk I feel you 💯...I'ma masculine dude myself and people get surprised when they find out...but teaches own...great video bro😁

Cuz, you are so funny! Love from Orlando

Damn that's the problem right there, if someone knows you're gay, and they see you with another guy they think that you're a couple. Damn people grow up, they are insecure and desperate. You're a handsome guy and people are so doggone thirsty. Pitiful pitiful pitiful, I know this has to be nerve-wracking! But I feel you, I just keep to myself. Cousin you don't have to tell them anything. But if they ask, I'd certainly tell them the T-R-U-T-H. If they want to continue to rock with you cool. If not their loss. I'd love to hang out with you. Who gives a fuck if you're gay! I just wanna enjoy life and living! You seem cool as fuck though!

When you have a friend, keep a friend, no truer words have been spoken, although sometimes one thing leads to a another and "bam", friendship leads to something else.

This is right on time/point and it all boils down to Insecurity and Ignorance. And MAN that identifies as hetero, has NO issues with any man and his sexual orientation.

Sad that so many folks feel they have to put other people into a box that centers on sex and/or sexuality. Power and control over other folks is exercised way too often in order to mask insecurity. I like what you said, Tripp! Just be yourself despite what other folks may do. Real friendships are rare and few. Being an acquaintance is can be trying because of those crazy expectations. Thanks for bringing up this topic.

I like this guy

His videos always have a deep message. Much ❤

Wow! I’m older than you, and you have echo what I’ve experienced all my life! It’s amazing that you can be handsome and straight appearing and put in the box! For me life is to short, not to be who you are and love who you are!

I totally understand cousin. I hang with alot of straight friends but I give them their respect. I am still friends with one of my straight friend. I told him about me and it didn't matter to him. We slept on the same bed and he was cool because he just not attracted to men. I always say a straight man is not intimidated by a gay man.

You are right Tripp. Fear and ignorance man puts more people in boxes does anything else. Keep speaking truth.

Hey cuz, glad you left out the minute 40 second intro. I like to have you jump right in and when your eyes are shaded I dont get your full aura. Aunt Jaxstar AKA auntie Snoop just giving a lil side note. My only friends are gay black men. One masculine and 3 ladybugs. Lol

That's so true they like to categorize, everybody doesn't fit in the perceived boxes. They refuse to get to know people they like to judge.

The issues you are having with straight people happens among gay people as well. People are people regardless of sexuality. I am a woman and was good friends with a gay guy who had never been with a woman but he later said he developed feelings for me and wanted to experiment with me. That was certainly not an option for me.

No in my opinion you're being yourself and that's great I'm straight you haven't met me yet though I'm not judgmental

I hope they all come across this video. This so needed to be said cousin

I can relate to this in so many levels.

“Lituaion” 😂💀

BROTHER TRIPPER! P L E A S E! keep telling US the realness! It needs to be heard!

Hi cuz hope your doing fine love to listen to your story's learning a lot thanks cuz

I understand exactly where you're coming from Tripp, be yourself....some folks aren't comfortable within themselves or so conceited they feel it's always about them.....I can be friends with anyone who wants the association.....in other words, regardless of ones preference or style of life....my love is free...free for you to take or leave....ither way, no problem.😂😘💜

Tripp seems like the type of guy that is fine with certain aspects of the gay lifestyle, but doesn’t want to be labeled as a gay man because all the connotative notions attached to it...just thinking out loud.

so much of homophobia is performative and trying to avoid being mistreated themselves

You kill me every time you say "Ladybug", I got to use it Hahahaha

THIS IS ALL FACTZ..... Going down this road as we speak and it ain’t easy... The girl situation and the homeboi situation.... Tripp YOU IS HELL but it’s all truth bruh frfr... I’m still tryna figure this road especially being gay but it ain’t easy to just come out with it so they assume that a nigga straight cause I’m masculine but that ain’t all the layers to me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 ITS GOTTA BE A BETTER WAY!

I can relate to this! One of my closest friends is gay and what I appreciate so much about him is, I can be myself around him and vice versa! We have laughed together, cried together and almost came to blows lol! But I love and respect him so much, for just being real. A couple of years ago, he got locked up, not coming out any time soon. I miss him dearly, he is and was the true definition of being a Friend! Great story cuz! Peace n blessings to ya

I got the same struggles brah😕

I have been blessed to say that my closest friends who I have known for most of my life are straight as arrows...they knew before i did! LOL....I think I have heard every story known to man about fellas chasing fish and like you I just make like Beyonce and just Listen...and with my Judy's they didn't want me when I'm my younger years I was interested in fish...NOW since I have been living my truth...they go "why you gotta be gay?" as if you were going to really give me a chance! Go figure...😊

This is very powerful

Just saw this video in my recommendation and clicked quick. I’m not no ladybug/ straight guy. I’m a mixed of both but when drunk the flamboyance definitely comes out. Just me I’m just me in other words not over the top. Majority of people think I’m straight but once they find out I’m single at 28yrs old Latino they be like u must like guys. It’s all the time. Lol. See in my case I hook up with guys on apps and when I’m out in bars / clubs or just out I’m not looking around because I do all my hoeness online. I can be a friend and that’s that. Having a small circle works out in this. 💪🏻

As a bisexual man, I agree 💯. Both straight and gay can be quite thirsty with it when you just want to connect on a non-sexual level.

Word this was deep 🤘🏿

This was a good video. My problem is that every time I meet someone straight they end up trying to hit on me. I don't get it, but I know how you feel.

I definitely relate to a lot of the points you said. Especially the one where straight dudes are scared of gay guys cause they think they'll automatically try to get in their pants. its so so frustrating and really hurtful tbh. Everything changes when they find out you're different in that way.

Aye tripp Im dealing wit the same shit i deal wit more straight people cause how i roll but that convo wit dudes and women being attracted brushing the entertainment of attraction and not talking bout fuckin women gets me to hearing the bullshit they think cause they do act like that's the only thing to talk about or somethings wrong but i don't be giving a fuck and will tell em i don't if that line gets crossed but then i ask myself why am i in the situation we need to talk man holla back at me cuzzin!!

It is not uncommon for a gay man to be attracted to a straight man. Neither it is uncommon for a gay man to be attracted to his straight friend. What makes a straight man having difficulty being friends with a gay man is his phobia of which society dictates that if a straight man is friends with a gay man he is considered to be a closeted or downlow gay by his association with friends of the gay community and their gay culture. Society expects a straight man to be in conflict of the life of the gays. Specifically within the Black community if a man who chooses to be gay who is not in a position to marry a woman or produce children is an abomination. I strongly believe that if a gay man who becomes friends with a straight man he should keep his homosexual lifestyle in secrecy. Nobody has to know that you are sleeping with a man or parading on the streets at the Pride carnival. That’s none of their business. Reason being into today’s society most straight people are not mentally ready to accept the gay lifestyle. In the Christian community, gays are an abomination and this biblical concept will not change as the morals and values of the Christian belief is built on the commandments in the Bible. So, if you are a gay man and you expect to receive a fair and tolerable treatment from a straight friend KEEP YOUR GAYNESS TO YOURSELF.

Tripp ! You crazy truthful a real virgo ! -- get -um joe .

They want you to be what they think you’re. Sorry to them because it doesn’t work that way.

I’m straight but You are so real and funny as hell. I would love to have a friend as real as you are.

Lol same. Happy blackmas. Dope jacket. Lol not ladybuy. Lmaooo.

I love you man you hv really touched my heart

This is so true!

boy u is speaking the truth, only straight folks i deal with is family members, because when the dudes find out they go out of their way to avoid you and when the women find out they want to get comfortable and start talking to u like u they best female friend

Continue to be yourself because so many aren’t

Man I love the truth that you are living. Its so much easier than living and continuing the lie. TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH

Hey Tripp. I feel a lot of what your saying. I've always been a private person. So whether I been with a man or woman I've always kept my business to myself. And I've always been me. If you know, you know, if you don't, you don't. But if we're starting a friendship I will say tell you then. Because I except a person for who they are, if I'm your friend. And I expect the same. If a guy tell me he's straight he doesn't have to worry about me because I don't go after straight guys. The two just doesn't go together to me. At least with a gay guy you know what your getting. I don't even mess with bisexual guys. This was a good topic. I think you should talk about this some more. Plus the differences between masculine and feminine and so on. I feel it's a lot more to talk about.

I love everything you just said. It's damn shame ppl can't be themselves.

Once again...you are speaking truth. I'm gay...married...and just like yourself refuse to be placed in a box or closet or DL or any other term society choose to use. I am thankfully lucky enough to have a nice small circle of friends (And I never use the term loosely) who are very straight and could care less about who I share my bed with. My friends care more about me and my happiness and we each help each other live life in the Grandest Version of ourselves. As a society however I agree with the fact that people have to change their mindset of sexuality as a whole and just let people be simply themselves.

Literally going through this now! I'm a training supervisor at work. I've been working with a lot of new females lately, they have been feeling and flirting with me a lot and asking me out etc. I'm just a nice gentleman and all of sudden, ima a ladies man and a player, tryna smash. Like no I'm just doing my job! And my straight friends always just talking about smashing females 😩

I sense a revolution in the making.

Hey Tripp be you regardless of your gender bro. I would definitely hang out with you my niggà just because you most definitely keep it 💯.

How did living in Korea come about ?

This is good advice for EVERYONE.

Just be you bro and anybody that can’t handle you being you is not worth your energy or your space. Never allow anyone to put you in a box of any kind.

Man i love masculine dude like him im Masc for masc

Brooooooo a year later I'm just seeing this and damn this is my life. Smh single "handsome" chill, cool, well rounded, masculine, black gay man. This shit ain't easy yall

Never be fake and change for anybody Tripp you continue to be who you are and what you are periodt most of these straight ppl just insecure with themselves and that's why they can't be comfortable with you and that's she change who you are and it shouldn't periodt

Is the pickle “VLASICK”. 🤣🤣😂