It's sad I relate to this. When I'm on the job, it's just a job. I'm not here to make friends or gossip. The worst is when there are people on the job attracted to you and want to figure you out.
Why is it necessary for someone at work to know who I am sleeping with unless they are trying to sleep with me? When someone tells me about people at work sleeping together, I say ok that is their business.
Damn this really hit home and i love the prospective you came from, as gay man that dont have the outward appearance of gay that society wants you to have so they can be comfortable with. The hell we have to go through just live in your truth. WOW Thanks ( no disrespect to the gay man and woman that wear there sexuality very well ) Love' em
That’s exactly what I was feeling cousin. They spent so much energy trying to figure me out just because I wouldn’t sleep with any of the women but they were best friends with the guy at the register. Why are people so threatened by the masculine gay man but love the fems
@@TripperPlugged had that experience working at the hospital. ALL the women wanted to fux. One even stayed pissed for 6 months for not hollering. Anyways, they all found out from the horse's mouth when i resigned after a failed relationship with their male team lead, who wasn't out. He did me soo dirty. I left him to pick up the pieces 🤣. In hindsight, thanks to God he wasn't the type to fly off the deep end
I’m so sorry that happened to you.Brought tears to my eyes.That was very unprofessional.That’s good you hold your ground and don’t let people run over you.You handled that in a very mature way. Some people are just stupid.
Cousin Tripp, The workplace is the worst environment to put up with other people. You have to make a paycheck, & keep your emotions in check even though you are being wronged. Love From Orlando
Sorry you had to go through that unfortunately a lot of black gay men go through this at work like we’re some kind of science experiment! Glad you put this out here! It helps people!
Man Tripp, you hit close to home with this.. 2008 to 2010..Man they always be trying to find out if you masculine. People ignorant. Why they wanna know. It's always women. When it's a masculine dude. Then the rumors start. Totally agree, it weighs on you. You made it though man. Preach
Wow...this whole situation was a hot mess. I am so happy that you not only stood up for yourself on many occasions at that job, but you stood firm to send the message that their behavior was inappropriate. This was a form of sexual harassment. Their questioning and gossiping around your sexuality align with sexual harassment. The main cast in your case just happened to be women. Flip this script with men in those roles and the status quo would be sounding the alarm. Thank you for sharing this.
Tripp is definitely in the Virgo family, he handled that situation the best way! EEOC will always be on speed dial for me! That's was a very professional way to do that!
I'm so glad! That you went to court for that. That was very wrong for what your co-workers were doing. Because that's discrimination and defamation of character! It is clearly Nobody's Business. You still a human being🙏😢💗🌅
He was a messy kween for that! See, he wants to be that "it messy gay" that wants to tell everybody business! I'm glad you won! They either want you or they are jealous of you.
That’s great that you came out on top!!! Your private life is your own what ever the case maybe!!! I don’t know what the problem is with a lot of black women it’s an offense of a black man doesn’t want them!!! Not all but it’s hard to find one that is not like that, even in regular situations I find that they are rude and off putting to black men unless the men are flirting with them!!! I guess they have to justify why you don’t want them (self esteem issues)
Cousin you teach a lot of positive lessons from the negative things that happened to you I would like to celebrate some of your joys also !!! I know that our greatest lessons come from bad experiences!!! I love your sharing the stories do teach!!!
I'm with you on this topic. I have experienced the same type of thing at work places. I'm open about my sexuality and very much OUT but because I'm not a textbook stereotype or dailed up to 10 all the time I often get the same reaction. Unfortunately that reaction comes most times from black women. People often judge us and our comfortability with our sexuality if we aren't like "their gay friend". People think flamboyant is being out and if your aren't flamboyant (or entertaining) you must be ashamed of your sexuality. Meanwhile many of these flamboyant gay men are not out at home and act totally different around family.
Salutations & Blessings Cuzzin!! I Wonder What Those Haters & Losers Are Doing Now?? They Probably Haven't Advanced or Succeed, Because You Never WIN, When You Play Dirty!! frfr Cuzzin Tripp Look How You Have Succeed & Elevated, People That Hate You Behind Your Back, GOD Will Bless You in Front of Their Faces!! Be Encouraged & Continue To Prosper!! Respect and Love You Cuzzin'!! frfr
Hey Tripp, how are you? Man you are a master storyteller. You got me in my feelings. I am absolutely upset with this happening to you or anybody. People need to mind their own business thanks for sharing the story and keep up the great work🔥🔥🔥
I'm doing good. I've been dealing with my sister's health situation in Cleveland for a couple of weeks, but I'm back in ATL now. Other than that goodness and grace has kept me.
@@davidtaylor8787 Thank you David. She had heart surgery and she has lung disease. She's learn how to function with her new lifestyle. How have you been?
Oh wow Tripp. Sorry you had to go through that. People don't know how to mind their own business. Those managers don't need to be managers acting like that. A person don't have to talk about who or what they are attracted to unless they want to. I'm glad you sued and won. You can also be a man that's attracted to women and be in a relationship and because your not trying to sleep with any woman at your work place. You will still get an attitude. Women don't care if you're in a relationship either. It's a which one can get you type of thing. Great video 👍
I am so sorry for your experience. There is so much ignorance in this world. You seem like a good and decent man and you deserved better but I am so glad you took action. I am a gay man and women are always nosey about my private life. They need to stop prying and tend to their own business. Hopefully this company will now change the way they train people in orientation .
I had a similar experience at work. I'm bi and everyone knew this. My tipsy boss once called me out at a Christmas party and said, " how the f*ck you gay and have a daughter? Sh*t I can't even have kids, but here you are gay and got a daughter. Life makes no damn sense!" Long story short, I quit that job, and decided on the next not to be so open with my lifestyle.
I don’t like that when I’m open about my sexual orientation at work, people feel like it’s okay to say things about me or to me. Don’t ask me shit about my personal life!
I've always had the same problem trying to work and bitches mad cause they can't have me. I could write a whole novel about what I've gone through. Enjoyed your story even though it was sad that it happened. Thanks for sharing it.
Females feel a type of way about males not attracted to them. Even thou that same male is not their type. This is a great story time. This happens a lot, more than people might thinks and it needs to be dealt with accordingly. So Tripp you did the right thing.
Now I see why jobs these days have sexual harassment training classes because of situations like this. I am so sorry this happen to you and proud that you sued their asses!
Thank you for sharing your experience about people about such. That happened to me where I live. People as such are just nosy because they want you but know you’re not for them. They will try push you to the limit. Just hold on. I also pray while that happens and have learned that God is for me not them. You know who you are is what matters. Stay blessed always man.👍🏽🙏peace Man.
Thank you Tripp for returning my chat. I do what I can and know best to respond. Hopefully my eyesight will return soon and I will be able to do more. There are times I listen to you share your stories and believe me the majority of them ring a bell 🛎 in my brain. You’re thought of. Charles
Facts cousin. Been in the same boat. You come to do ur job. All that gossiping miss me with that. I worked at a job I had rumors coming from everyone all because I kept to myself. You did the right thing. Anyone going thru this, find a new job and file a complaint with the EOE.
Cousin tripp bro same happen to me but in my case mgr. Called me in to unload a truck and went as far as taking off all his clothes. I did file a lawsuit and I won.. 60 racks was not worth what I went through but I used it for my own business and business still profitable and doing great. I understand you bro. I just wanted to be this cool regular joe working hard and have people love me bro for what I did at work and who I was. I love my masculinity but I hate when someone knows something about me and uses it for mess or a laugh bro. Sorry that happened to you ...
Tripp all facts 💯 most of my problems come from females. Sometimes I feel like they feel we there inferior like we the reason why they don't a man or there man is jumping the fence and jump back to them 😡. They need to get mad that one they sleeping and married too . Check them boo . Keep it up cus Tripp. P.S. Ladybugs not all these girls are not your friend. So don't Keke with them because some have alternate motives . Just for y'all to think about
Thank you for sharing your story. I feel that black men who are about their business on the job are always a target and try to sabotage their position on the job. Work place gossip always started by females but they get mad when you confront them. I was in a situation where a black female could not stand my passion for the position and she began to spread roomers about me where I have to leave the job. The white principals supported her behavior so I left because I did not want her to sabotage my teaching career. Why is there a need to know if black men on the job are gay? Why is there this need to sabotage the careers of positive black men?
Cousin, I remember being in my high schools marching band. I was one if the assistant drum majors and they are know to be lady killers. Lol But the co-captain of the dance team kept pressing me about what type of girls I like. And I always skirted around the question but I just remember her always pressing me when we were alone. It got annoying. So I feel you on wanting people to respect your privacy. People always think you’re ashamed but that is never the case.
Exactly bro and to bring videos and show everyone. I was pissed bro. All the girls were being nosey and messy as hell she said passing the video around lol.
I've been watching your channel for probably around 2 years now cousin, but this story really hit hard for me. It was really reminiscent of my last job ( I worked at a grocery store in my small hometown.) Particularly early on, there were some very nosy and messy people there. I'll never forget this lady kept asking me was a new guy gay. Like she literally caught a slight attitude because I wouldn't give her an answer. Now your coworkers take the cake for off the chain though. I've never heard of such unprofessionalism and messiness in the workplace. Passing a sex video around of another worker!?? WHO DOES THAT!? Not to mention all the he said, she said. Your coworkers were really a bunch of pressed bitches who obviously had no lives.
Tripp. Thank you for sharing this. Having to contend with anything other than doing the job you are getting paid to do can making doing to work unbearable. When you go to work, one is their to DO A JOB. Nothing more. Not be a person for co-workers to date or mate with. One is there to EARNING A LIVING in doing the job one is hired to do. Tripp glad you went to EOC, glad that a decision was made to compensate you. Know that you are fine actor, and that is your true talent. I also understand you must EAT and Make a living, thus you take a job. HARRASSMENT is never a part the job description or REQUIREMENT.
We live in a day and time where we have to be careful in the things we do and say, someone is always watching. It's true that ones bedroom business should belong to you. Yet someone is always trying to peep through your windows or attempting to know your bedroom business.
I feel you Tripp .the same situation occurs to me twice on my two major last jobs.and it all came with women and black women .no disrespect for black women but facts. Never understood why people were so into interfering in my private life and so eager to know what was going on in my bedroom.it got bad to the point that rumors were spread homophobia stepped in and tension reached at his most high.first job i quit after ten years because i had enough.second one got fired for the same reasons.no understanding nor support from my managers.since i decided to work by myself without any colleagues .
Went through something similar at work myself with some co wokers going on my FB page only to be shock to see the comments men was leaving me.. so she screen shot the pic and passed it around work ( by the way I was on bereavement leave when all this shit was going down).. one of my Gay Co workers said to me I should be more transparent with my sexual identity because by having kids you come across as straight.. Chile boo... thanks for sharing.. I think I may share my story
An ex friend of mine used to do that all the time. Like clockwork she'd get a boyfriend, and tell my business. One even told me, he couldn't tell and it didn't matter anyway, so he didn't know why she felt the need to bring it up. I had to let her ass go.
Lool look at this now 😭might have to sue somebody taking a page outta your book my whole fuckn life /all jokes aside he was disrespectful and deserved what he gets🙌
WOW!!! I wish I can recall the many times stuff like this or simpler has happened to me. The trying to figure me out, the trying to get at me, the talking about my sexuality and thinking that they know all about me!!! Guess what? The people in the church (religion) is at fault with the way LGBTQ is treated so poorly, but not God.
I have experienced what you are saying. I was a person working in a situation that was about 95% women. And they are intrigued that you don't identify that some of us G Blk men don't want to always be with our shit hanging out or be down as a puppet. And then talk about all you business with other girls and guys. Black women can be very much lighting up stuff. It is totally inappropriate and unprofessional the way some of your co-workers can cause a persons discomfort with their livelihood. And act or be not even educated enough to realize, or respect the problems they create for others. And if your new on the job and you already caught in drama that is not good. I though be fore sometimes you got to be straight to management or talk it outside after work. Which another whole new problem.
Yeah adult people can definitely act like kids in that they crowd into others space at work. And overstep the I am at work professional attitude. They start acting like they at a BBQ or worse a club.
