I don't know why people have to explain themselves as to why they are single, it's your business and nobody else's. I applaud you though for being honest and no you are not the most imperfect person as it doesn't exist you are who you are and that's a good thing. As to the people who think you have a guy, it ain't their business 💯✌️🇮🇪
Listen to the clock, not some diddly eye biddy - Twenty tick tock seven - is not a time for procrastinating - you should be squeezing out sprogs. There's a man out there waiting for you (an obstetrician with forceps).
Spoken like a true Modern Woman. And there's nothing wrong with living life that way... just know that living that way also diminishes the probability of being married and having a family.
There is something...OFF with a woman who is ADAMANT at not wanting kids...I get not being interested but making a point to emphasize how you can't tolerate them is ....OFF. Having children is a blessing to those who are fortunate enough to have them. However, I would encourage more people to chose a side and stick to it because there are who people DO NOT deserve kids anyways.
Damn… I mean, do you, but keep in mind, that what you do now, your choices, has consequences in the future. I have been reading a lot of the comments, and I’m glad that there are people that are knowledgeable on Kevin Samuels. I HIGHLY doubt she will take into consideration what we all say, although we mean well.
You can’t force it, can’t prevent it, you can say you’re waiting,but when it happens, it happens and if it’s right, you’ll know. Too many people taking this modern approach of controlling the where and when, no wonder the shit never lasts. Just like the must have lists,, someone should turn the table on those people. Too many high-maintenance people nowadays
I've been married twice and cheated on twice so I'm done, now I travel more and am happy doing the things I love without the heartache.so just do what makes you happy! You know what you want so don't settle for anything else. Good luck!
A relationship isn't a possession to "have" an achievement to "get". It's a conversation. It's something you both agree to in the moment. It requires hard work and dedication if you want it to continue, and nobody should be faulted, or shamed, or made to feel like less because they're not actively involved in one.
A woman's place is beside a man. A woman naturally is a nurturer. Without a man or family, her energy turns inwards and becomes too self-absorbed. This leads to dysfunction when/IF she finds a man. Women are naturally followers and so are directionless without a man. Without a man they instead follow celebrities, or corporations, or trends. But these things do not have the best interest of a woman in mind. A corporation only wants you to consume, celebrities only want your money time and attention, trends are fickle and shallow. And so a woman becomes these things without a man, a consumer, a shallow fickle person, directionless. In society today we have too many women who think they should lead society. This is wrong. A man leads society, a woman leads the home. Yes, a woman leads the home while the man provides and protects. This does not mean the woman leads the man. The man leads the woman, the woman leads the home. When women lead society, it becomes directionless and confused. But I digress. In conclusion, a woman's happiness is alongside a man. - WW
I'm a woman and in case you didn't know, biblically, you are also spot on. The Messiah is the head of the man, who is the head of the woman, and then children.
OMFG A SINGLE TEAR CAME OUT MY EYE WHEN SHE SAID SHES 27 BROOO. I’m 27 and turn 28 in June, I’ve been told I should be trying to get in another relationship by my friends and family. Honestly most of what she said up to 5:33 (I paused it to express myself) I am experiencing now. I fully agree with her, I kind of spoiled my partners like queens to point that my boys call me a simp. Thank you for this it’s really gratifying to hear someone at my age is in the same boat and I’m not alone. Do you Jay all the love in the world don’t mean nothing if we can’t love ourselves first. P.S when she said she’s so deserving I damn there melted LMAO
You've been Alpha Widowed and unfortunately will take a lot to get over him and find someone you might ever consider on or above his level.. Should have married him first and got the ring smdh
I was always told if you can't truly love yourself then you can't truly love another. Self love will heal you from lack of confidence, self esteem, validation for self, understanding of what you're truly deserving of.. etc. The way life gets the best of us sometimes we need a min to ourselves to reevaluate everything. Start by being patient in your growth, embracing your imperfections, and putting your emotions and mental health first.
Ppl are typically single cuz they are confused or at an emotional crossroads w themselves, and potentially struggling in their purpose for life. That state of mind often is very overwhelming, draining, and damaging to oneself... especially to their confidence and optimism. It very much feels like a stagnant and hollow place, emotionally. Its like being stuck in the muck, and the longer you stay there thr more difficult it feels to get out. It often requires a large change in one's life to get out of, or the introduction to a new personality or energy that revitalizes one's passion and purpose for existence. I commend you on your move to Colombia. I'm sure many struggle to understand it, but I understand the life it has breathed into you. Best wishes, Gorgeous!
Don’t you live in Vegas? I moved to Vegas 8 months ago. The dating scene is an absolute travesty here. I know it’s bad everywhere, but here it’s especially bad. It’s transient. There’s no culture or sense of community. Can’t wait to move out of here lol.
I was there 4 days for the first time ever a couple months ago and I think I had my fill for another 5 years- also consider I’m 31 lmao. I couldn’t imagine living/dating there, nothings real lmao.
I'm enjoying being single. There's nothing wrong being single. You are free to choose what you want to do. You can live however you want to live. Don't let no man dictate how you suppose to live. You are free to make your own decision. Like I said before there is nothing wrong with being single. Create a future for yourself. You don't got to have a future with a man or a woman. Just continue to do what you want to do. I'm supporting you girl.
There’s that saying: “The grass is always greener on the other side.” A lot of people who aren’t in relationships wish that they were; just as many people who are in relationships wish that they weren’t. But, if you don’t take some time for yourself, no one else will do it for you. Always enjoy the content. Keep it up!
Ohh shit that's why you're single because you don't want kids buy a dog and die alone because most men want family kids and you don't want kids I'm sorry to say but but you're gonna be single for a long time such a beautiful woman.
Hey, Jay, I'm 28 and i understand the freedom of being single. It's nice lol. You do you first. Yourself is important, like a priority, get where you want to be, mentally and physically, you'll be happier in the long-run. much love to you ❤️🙃😘😀
I always encourage women to heal completely before entering into a new relationship....actually everyone should heal completely when they've been hurt before entering into a new relationship
I'm 60 & got dumped by my girlfriend of 15 years because things went wrong for me because I got screwed over by some people & ended up homeless. I've had 3 serious relationships over the years. At my age I'm done & don't want a relationship anymore. You are still young and very beautiful. Take as much time as you need to concentrate on yourself. There's nothing wrong with being selfish when you're single. Do what 'you' want to do, but I know I don't need to tell you to be careful. All my best wishes. ✌❤
As a guy, I can related to the toxic relationship aftermath. It does take time, faith, peace, and understanding. Whomever comes up to you, I pray that they have the patience and the heart to be open and help you out in many ways even on the emotional aspect. Because finding someone equally yoked, may take time, but it is best for someone to come in a great timing where you and he know exactly what y'all want in life. You are too cool, very sweet, funny, and real, never let anyone or anything get you down, because the best look and sight is upwards and forward.
That’s where I’m at now bro. I did what I had to do. Dated and slept around. But now, I’m over it. Met someone who did the same and wants to take things seriously me. We’ll see where it goes. But you’re right, taking time for yourself makes you realize what you really want in yourself and/or with someone. And trust me, there was a lot of mistakes during that period of time.
Nobody *needs* to do anything they don’t wanna do. Society in general likes to box people in and force them into situations they either aren’t ready for, or just don’t want to be in. I don’t need to be in a relationship…period. That’s me. I agree with you, I enjoy my freedom, not answering to anyone at anytime for anything. I’m responsible for my happiness and freedom is far better. If you feel happier being in love and being with someone, you do it when you are ready to do it. In the meantime, you have fun and enjoy life.
I Went back and looked because my birthday is 3/25 and I believe yours was around that time also. They way you described your feelings when in love. ARIES NO DOUBTS !!!! Aries women when young never want children at an early age. But when it happens THEY ARE THE GREATEST SINGLE MOMS. The minute they see their newborn ? The love for that child is unmatched. The mate has to compete, whine and cry for a little attention. Hence the SINGLE MOM statement I referred too. LOVE YOU JAY !!!!
People assuming that if you are "beautiful" you shouldn't be single. Also with each breakup for some people you need to take some time for yourself. And in some cases with each breakup that time in between sometimes get bigger and you have to evaluate and wonder if it's you, can you you do better, what you avoid and figure out what you can do to make things better in future relationship
Keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about trying to explain your feelings. Sometimes selfish is good, and it's more selfish to have kids just because everyone else is and then not give them the love and time they deserve from you. Follow your own path and love yourself!!!!!
Those are very good reasons to stay single imo. You need to take time and find your own identity because you never want to lose that...especially in a relationship. The perfect person understands that and won’t try to change you. That’s where unconditional love fits into the whole equation. I’m not a love guru or anything, that’s just the way I see it.
honestly, anyone that would ask that is just being passive aggressive because of their own insecurities and need an excuse for their own compromise and settling for "alright" because of society's expectations. take all the time you want to find someone that is worth it. finds joy in life from the same things you do. A good partner can ad a lot joy in your life but Happienes is our own responsibility his and the same for your partner, I would say a few good hints is they look at you the same way with or without makeup, financial success can be attractive as a bonus, but make sure its based in passion. if success is based on greed, it you will always come second since greed Is a manifestation of selfishness. I know a lot of Americans are rather sexually repressed (I have dated 4 girls from the U.S. all of them ether thought they weren't or hid the fact ) but later after a few open talks and "practice" all agreed they had been repressed. looking somewhere else doesn't even cross my mind. find someone that you can be completely open with about any thought or fantasy without judgement both ways. having no mental walls with someone in the bedroom is so amazing that it makes "making love" just on a physical level quickly boring and drastically increases unfaithfulness if you find the topic of sex uncomfortable, It's just the leftovers from old Realigion. jealous, unlikable and bitter people like judge this because they will never know what having your mind free with someone I say let them judge, it just makes it more fun 😎
Two quick things: 1. Human beings are already whole beings and don’t require relationships to “complete” them. Being single isn’t a deficiency and it’s unfortunate that we put this pressure on ourselves that we “aren’t enough” unless we are dating or married. Your value is not based on relationship status whatsoever. 2. It frankly is no one else’s damn business.
Do what you have to do!! Self love is not selfishness! Your a great person and you will find your soulmate when the time comes! “ hello, babe hello; I’m single” 😂😂😂 like you always say in your reactions: I’m done I’m gone!! Love and peace
I'm a Older Man... and what you've said is interesting... just be Careful when you're Ready... ask Specific Questions and Know what you're Looking For in a Man. Also, being Single can be addictive... because you Live Life on your Own Terms... Especially if you're the type of person who doesn't appreciate anyone trying to dictate to you. Your Age Group is no joke... you have to work out who's Real and who's Fake... I can't lie... Us Men like Sex... and some of us will Lie to get it. I'm the more Brutally Honest type... I don't play games with Women. Jay, Keep an Open Mind... but be Smart... Take Care Out There #JustMyThoughts ☮
In the immortal words of Dori the Fish, "Just keep swimming." Life has a way of working these things out. If you want to press the issue, press it, if not, don't. If your friends and family don't understand, oh well. It's your life and you only get one crack at it (to the best of my knowledge anyway.)
I’m your ‘ex’ and my wife is you. And we’ve been together for many years. The key is understanding that being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re both one and the same or you both have to do literally everything together all the time. It’s about being good teammates in life. You both get to still have your own lives or own time, that doesn’t detract from your relationship. I never can understand people that don’t get that. The quickest way to run a relationship into the ground before it even takes off is being attached at the fuckin hip and thinking everything has to be done ‘together’ alllllllllllllllllllllll the time 🤦♂️
Best advice, enjoy the single life and enjoy and learn about yourself. But Do not do it for too long because you will become too selfish with your time that you don't even wanna let it go and share it with someone. I swear it's true
I'm the type where if I find someone I want, I set myself on them. Once I feel I found that person I stop looking. I don't talk to anyone else or flirt with anyone else none of that, I just put my focus on them and see where it goes and if it doesn't go any further then I just move on. I know that most people aren't like that, they talk to or mess with multiple people and tell all of them the same shit and that just ain't something I've ever done nor will I put up with tbh. I've had a guy two time me in the past and when it came time for him to decide he damn near had a breakdown because he said he was in love with us both and wanted us both so I just told him to go be with her. I will not be a multiple choice answer, I'm sorry. I feel that if you just find who you want and build with them then there will be no confusion. Even when I'm just in a sexual relationship I'm monogamous tbh. That one person is fulfilling my needs so I don't see the point in fucking around with multiple people. I'm simple to me but complicated to others lmao. I'm 23 and just got out of a toxic relationship five months ago and as of now I'm just done. I've got some healing to do. It's gonna take a miracle man for me to feel secure anytime soon after what I endured lol.
Amazing video. Glad that you did this because even though being single can be hard, it can be stress free too since most of us don't have to worry about the headaches, the drama or being taken advantage of. Trust me, I'll be 40 years old this October with no kids, never been married or in a serious relationship (okay maybe one serious relationship during my 7th grade year in '95-'96) and focusing on being an universal black rock musician and entrepreneur. Also, focusing on getting the hell out of Pittsburgh because being born and raised here is enough for me. But keep doing what your doing and really enjoy your channel.
Im trying the approach of following my path and hopefully meet someone who is walking on that path as well. Instead of walking a path and doing dating apps on the side. Go with the flow
Its been 9 years since i got married, and to this day i wish i wouldve married my wife sooner, thats how my marriage life is going, so thank god for that, there has been ups and downs,but life is perfect that way, choosing to be single is cool for a while until you start to get lonely, thats just my opinion, im not saying that im right or wrong im just saying that being in a relationship is the way of life.
I feel that betrayal hard. I was once engaged, but she killed that noise real quick by getting in bed with someone who wasn't me. I was ABSOLUTELY heartbroken by that. The killer was that she didn't confess her infidelity face-to-face, she told me through Messgenger. Didn't even have the decency to let me know to my face. I forgive her for what she di, but (this might be petty, IDK) I would prefer NEVER seeing her agsin.
You don't owe RU-vidrs any explanation of your personal life. I don't subscribe because your single. I subscribed because I like your content. Really don't care about love life. You seen less level headed and cool , doesn't matter about status. Majority of men screwed up .
People assume that beautiful women, like yourself, always have lots of men approaching them constantly for dates. It always looked like women that I was attracted to already had about five guys after them already and they just picked the one they wanted.
JayShara, this was so nice, so honest and you deserve to be however you want to be at this stage in your life. Enjoy you, love you, have fun, make new friends and love your current friends. I wish you the very best young lady! Some day when it’s right the right guy will come along. Either way I pray for all good things for you! You’re awesome!! God bless you!!
Good for you! I hear a lot that I am to picky with girls. Never understood that. I think it is not good too have a relationship just too have one. People in a relationship think often that you don't have a life since being single. But you got a lot of freedom in what you do and want to do. I had a short relation with a great young lady. But she choose not to continue with me. Well that sucked. But my life wasn't over. As a single you can enjoy life just as good as being in love in a relationship.
I hope everyone can really focus on their self love regardless of situation. Hope all can find a new purpose that provides you the upmost happiness love and joy
You definitely don't need to be in a relationship 24/7, but before you're past your prime, you might want to consider what you want your future to look like. Ya need therapy, because chances are, you'll end up taking out your experiences on your new dude, and that alone will ruin your next relationship. Be selfish, get therapy, then when you're ready, settle down with realistic expectations.
U don't need to expain your stuff to no one and u know what comes to Britain u might fine a soulmate or a great guy who accept u for who u are. Hope u fine the one keep the high spirts 🤗
