My reasons behind why I went for Metoidioplasty and not phalloplasty Surgery Vlogs: • Lower Surgery Vlogs Meta info: • How Metoidioplasty Wor... Phallo info: • Video
Thank you for the support on the video, glad it seems to be helpful! Let me know if there's anything else you think would be useful to talk about. Much love guys
The idea of you considering which kind of penis to get, factoring peeing while camping into your decision, then remembering you don't like camping, really amused me more than it should have 😁
I've been debating the two surgery options since being accepted for a consult for T. Meta sounds less risky from things i've read regarding healing. Thank you for sharing your opinion on this. 💖
I want Phallo but is Meto better I wanna be able to make sperm have sex and pee standing up Idk what'll work Well but I only want the surgery after I have kids with my gf who's birth certificate says male and mine says female and I kinda want to get bottom surgery now that I think about this more being with her I feel 90% or 100% male even tho I was born female but I've had more top dysphoria so I never ever really thought of it much and I'd be on testosterone if it wouldn't not let me have kids and on top of that my ovaries are upside down so Idk what to do PLEASE HELP ME!!!
"useful to talk about" Sorry if you've done this and I missed it, but I always like to hear more perspectives and experiences regarding the pressures of toxic masculinity on trans men. I did some really shitty things when I was younger and I'm still finding my way. I love practical advice on non-toxic masculinity.
Of course pp size doesn't matter during surgery. You only need to make a good meme at PewdiepieSubmissions and wait to get upvoted by the meme god. Yey, you now have a big pp!
I'm a transguy and all I can say is that I highly appreciate the fact of all of you cis females are here learning about us transguys are fully accepting of us. If I could hug you gals I would because that means a lot to me knowing that there are people out there fully accepting of us. I say that mainly because I come from a very unaccepting household. But thanks to you gals who are fully accepting us transguys. -Toby
@@niconiconiikillmeplease2286 You're so welcome!!! Someone I have known my entire life recently came out as trans and I hadn't spoken to him in a while but I wanted to see how he was doing mainly because we also live in a country where people tend to be super homophobic, transphobic etc because it fits in with the culture (along with being racist. I can't stand it) and he said to me "A lot of people have been accepting but I feel like you're the only one who understands" and it made me so happy that finally, he felt understood
When you are a Cis, Straight Guy but watch anyway because A)Education is always good and B) Videos like these always need more views and support even if I am just one person :) oh and C) its always great to find someone who is just really down to earth and also incredibly clear and concise. Keep it up dude :D
Exactly Ruben. My younger son is Trans, and Jamie's been great for helping me understand some of what may lay in store for him in the future. Plus Jamie and Shaaba are such a cute couple :-D
i go back and forth on phalloplasty. if i could wake up tomorrow with a cis male body, i would DEFINITELY love that. hopefully bottom surgery advances in the future for trans men :/
@@aweeb4687 i watched a documentary on how transwomen get vaginas, and it looks so much cleaner than these options. nothing remains of what was there before, but for us its either small, cant get proper sensation, or the original stuff is hiding behind it. im not saying in any way that transwomen have it easier because they dont, this is just a comparison. i hope it advances so its exactly like the cis ones, just as transwomen have been fortunate enough to receive.
Same. For now I'll go with all the other steps but exclude bottom surgery until there's more improvement. I'm a young adult so I might be able to hold out a bit more for future advancements.
imagine a world where trans people could just switch genitals somehow. find someone with a matching blood type and skin color (or why not mix it up ay) and just switch all that junk the end. this is just my obviously professional phd in medicine opinion Edit: damn this popped off, hope all my trans friends are doing well and finds their way ❤️
Did you know you're the first result when you Google "metoidioplasty"? Isn't that neat? :) Thanks for discussing these things and helping trans people make big decisions or feel better about themselves. X
Even though we're cis women, my mom and I got on the topic of trans surgery options (one of the stranger rabbit holes for a convo with a parent, but whatever) and I mentioned that options for trans women seemed way more advanced than for trans men. She is a conservative republican Christian but without missing a beat she says, "Because surgeons were all men." That random bit of wokeness from her was so shocking I nearly fell off my chair.
Conformist138 That genuinely is a root cause for some of that, but phalloplasty has been around since the '30s, originally for cis men who had lost their penis in war or suffered some other kind of penile mutilation or a congenital thing like having a micropenis. Cis men _love_ their penises, so you'd think the surgeons being men trying to replace other men's lost penises would mean phallo would be more advanced, lol. But even in saying that, phalloplasty _is_ actually an _incredibly_ advanced procedure, and modern phalloplasty is so advanced it's like science fiction when compared to its beginnings. Phallo isn't 'less advanced' than vaginoplasty, that's just a common misconception
I've noticed that it's very common for trans men to have really bad chest dysphoria, like worse than genital dysphoria, at least that's what it seems like.
I feel like its because people will notice your chest in public, but people wont know what's in your pants. You look down and see boobs and hate it but looking at your pants you dont have to think about it as hard cause its covered and hidden more
Nanacka Plus I feel like it's the difference between something that goes outward vs inward, or like, having something you don't want vs. lacking something. You brush up against your chest and feel your breasts a lot more, you're more aware of them. Since your vag is all up inside, you're not usually feeling anything.
Well yeah... Same as trans women typically have more bottom dysphoria than top dysphoria. Being a trans male on T doesn’t get rid of your chest. And there are things like packers + STPs that can alleviate bottom dysphoria. You can bind, yes, but that gets very annoying + dangerous based on your dysphoria (I’ve had a friend who bound with duct tape at a concert + broke his ribs). Being a trans female, it’s harder to hide a penis or an erection. Sure, there’s gaff underwear, but things like having a prominent chest are more dysphoric to most trans men, as having a penis is more dysphoric to trans women. (But also: trans women on E get breast growth).
my father is also ftm and i have dysphoria for both i know as soon as i have chest surgery behind me i will start to cry in the shower and on the toilet also im gay and im bottom anyway so dosent matter if i need functional help but it matters to me to look in the mirror naked without cry cramps well but my father hes alrady 50 and he says he dose not need that and i just cant understand him as long as he has no period and no brests he seems to be fine i just dont get it also i see it from that side if i need a pump i cant have awkward puplic boners or morning boners man i have a friend (cis) he has one EVERY morning and hes not small so he tent to destroy his underware ok well it wouldent be huge in that case but if you are small like me 1,59m and you know what the genre shota "menas" you may se why i put size over funktion i dont wanna feel like an 11 year old that would kill the whole mod for me
Makes me very greatful to be a trans woman. Trans men seem to have way more complications with the whole bottom surgery process. I guess creating a penis is more complex than creating a vagina. Honestly Jamie I love your channel soo much and all the info and stories you give to help people better understand our community! and congratulations on the surgery! xo!
Jayla Funk yeah, in terms of surgery we get fucked. Breast augmentation is common enough that it’s a cheaper, well honed practice and scars way less, andway less obviously than top surgery. Our bottom surgeries are RIDICULOSLY expensive. More easily detectible as being well,,, not what we were born with. And the function isn’t even there if you go for phallo, since we have to get rods. I would absolutely be fine if I could get a functional penis (phallo) that required some daily thing, as in the stretching that has ro be done for vaginas, if it would only look exactly like a cis penis, and retain full feeling (another thing that we have to give up). It’s weird because we luck out in hormones. Testosterone works pretty good, it’s a stronger hormone. But in surgery, it’s ... grim. Sorry to be a downer, just super dysphoric and hate that there aren’t really options. It feels hopeless, ’cus all the money in the world still couldn’t magic wand the disadvantage we have for our surgeries
Also If you think you want meta but might want phallo later, you can always go through meta now and if it’s not enough you can have phallo afterward, but can’t have phallo and take it off to have meta. I don’t know if it’s clear 😂 anyway meta to phallo is possible phallo to meta no
@@himeyukimatsumoto994 it's like surgical penis enlargement for cis men (not really though). If you already got M. and it's healed they can transform it again, but like op said you can't really take stuff away from P and then try to go the hormonal way.
I plan to get metodioplasty when I am older. I am currently 16 and have been living as male since I was 13, and got top surgery 9 months ago! Videos like these, and your surgery videos really help me learn more about it. Thank you so much!
Lucky! My boyfriend's parents have never been supportive of him so it's taken him a while to get the courage to come out. Plus the price of top surgery while we are saving for college is pretty scary
ahjshsa That's great! So happy for you man. I'm 15 and I've been out to my parents for about three, going on four months now and I'm hoping sooooooooooooooooooo much that I will be able to get top surgery before high school is over.
As a cis guy, I find videos like this, on subjects that many trans people are understandably reluctant to discuss, very helpful in turning something that a few years ago would have seemed to me to be very exotic into something really ordinary, a kind of problem that I don't have, but one that others can't avoid. So, it becomes really clear how important it is to empathize and be helpful when I can. So now I'm off to watch more of your videos. Good work!
"from now on I'm gonna call it phallo instead of phalloplasty and meta instead of metoidioplasty cuz it makes it easier" *Continues to call each thing by the full name
I was looking at aquatic plants, and don't know how this video popped up, but I'm glad I was curious enough to take a look. Jamie you are adorable and I'm sending you a virtual hug. I am now much more informed than I was 10 min. ago,lol. I wish you all the luck in the world. Have a great life.
Thank you so much for these videos! They're really educational for trans/nb people who can't get information from people irl and they're so helpful. Your channel is a lifesaver. ♥️
honestly this is such an important topic - you never hear about people who have meto, I literallly only know people who have had phallo. It’s really important that we have videos like this to educate us on the differences.
From what I’ve seen the scarring from top surgery is much less obvious than the skin graft scars from phallo, top surgery scars are incisions not a layer of skin removed and as you said not in as obvious a place as the forearm
Thank you so much for all of your amazing and informative videos. It is nice to hear it from a lay persons point of view rather than having to shift through all of the medical jargon. Thanks for your vulnerability and knowledge!
I’ve never heard about this process before, so when he said the skin from the forearm is removed because it’s more sensitive..... I immediately rubbed my forearm to see how sensitive it was 😂🤦🏻♀️😂
You explain this so well. You are always frank and honest and I'm sure a guy considering which surgery is best for him appreciates your aporoach. You're the best!!
Im a cis female. But i enjoy watching trans youtubers (especially you) because it educates me on the subject. I honestly didn't know a lot about transgender people until i found you on youtube. And your genuinely just a really calm and awesome dude. =D
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I did enjoy learning all about the surgeries available and how you made your own choices. I think you are an awesome couple and wish all the happiness in the world.
Be sure you don't call anyone out in the bathroom. If they tell you that's one thing, but don't ask. There are plenty of guys that would anti-trans hate crimes (like beating them up for a more tame example) and trans people can't be sure you're not one of them despite your best intentions. If you wouldn't ask a cis guy about his penis, then you shouldn't ask a trans guy about it either. Just a PSA. Keep being a great ally! Maybe one day it won't matter and we can all be safe to talk about it in the open without fear. :3
@@OriginalCreatorSama yes ofc! n yeah i have no business asking about what’s in someone’s pants. be who you are inside, live your truth. the best I can do is make my trans friends feel as safe as possible and hopefully we can all help others to grow more accepting in this scary world :)
Thanks so much for sharing so openly. I've been a fan of yours for a while for your clever, fun commentary and meme/tiktok collections. I have a relative who is having his lower surgery in like a month and have been trying to be supportive and informed from afar. Now I have a better idea of terminology and what questions to ask if he wants to share more about his experience. 💗💗💗
"phalloplasty will leave a large scar on your forearm" Me: AWESOME, now I will have a scar to tell epic (fake) injury stories about edit: I'm not trans apparently, good thing I caught myself before I did anything irreversible
"I wrestled for years with an intangible, relentless foe, and tore off my own skin to defeat it. This is that scar, the scar that is a sure reminder of my victory. Also peepee :)"
Everyone can already immediately recognise that your damaged arm is a sign you have had elective FGM. Or that the scars where your breasts should be is a sign you have had an elective double mastectomy. Use the correct words. Be honest.
thank you for documenting your transition and posting this video and others, im starting my transition and im only 18 but this really is helpful to my decisions ill be making in the future.
I don't think i say this enough because there are a lot more RU-vidrs now who are trans and share their experience. But i seem to forget how lucky i actually am. You're videos are so amazing. I've learned so much from your videos and i am so greatful to have discovered you. Thank you so, so much.
Thank you so much dude!! I've been watching you for a while and I sorta just... presumed you'd gotten Phallo, and this video weirdly only popped up to be after I googled Meta!! Thank you so so so much for this informative vid!!
Your humorous way of talking is actually really relieving bc honestly just thinking about the fact that I'll be trans my whole life is terrifying but you make it seem so normal; weird analogy but kinda like adults reassuring kids going through puberty that it's completely normal and not something to be ashamed of.
That's really cool! I've always viewed being trans as just another way of being human, it comes with it's own challenges, but that's just like many other things in life.
I love your content and videos! I am just a boring cis lady but I have always felt a certain level of discomfort with my gender... but mostly just with the way that people treat me or act about my gender. I'm happy with my body but it's just the mismatch with what society by in large views it as that I'm not so keen on. So it's really great to hear literally anything like at all from somebody with a perspective that partially comes from not matching with societal expectations of your assigned at birth gender. My apologies if this is nonsense. I am grateful to hear your voice!
Thank you Jammidodger for sharing your journey. I am beginning the steps of medical transition and will start with T first, and go from there. Top surgery is in the mix, but still not sure about lower surgery. Its all a process. Thanks for all the great content over the years...we are watching you!
Thank you so much for this video! I've heard so many things from cis people passed down the grapevine that I wasn't sure if they were true and now I feel much more educated :)
I can't thank you enough for making this video. I've been experiencing horrible horrible bottom dysphoria. I thought that phalloplasty was my only choice for bottom surgery and I know I wouldn't be happy from the result of it. I don't know how I haven't heard of Metoidioplasty from the hours of research I do every so often. I can't even begin to explain the wave of relief 'm feeling knowing that there is another option I can now consider. Thank you.
Great vid thanks for sharing your journey, it's inspiring for me, I'm right at the beginning of mine pretty much, and you helped me get the courage to start it!
this video will help an enormous amount of people who don't know where to go to get such useful information from someone who has lived it. Bravo to you.
Thank you for discussing this so comprehensively and with your own personal viewpoints to the fore and properly contextualized. I hope that I can find a nice trans guy at some point, and while I think any option between these (and various others, too!) might be interesting, I'm of course more interested in the "whole person"...but, now knowing what you've discussed here, I think I understand this better. I'm enjoying your videos, and you sounds like a lovely chap all around! ;)
**Me not being able to decide if size or function matters more to me so just praying to the surgery gods you'll be able to get both size and function once I'm old enough and able in general to get bottom surgery**
I have heard that, if you start out getting meta surgery, later you can go back and get phallo more like a cis guy going through penis enlargement surgery would?
i'm not interested in bottom surgery due to no dysphoria there and i'm big ace (who is even gonna see down there lol) but i didn't know the differences in the surgeries!! super interesting to learn about them and good luck to everyone considering/getting their bottom surgery !!
Thank you for your straightforward explanations. I follow a few trans people on YT and you are my favorite for information that is easy to understand and good to know.
I don't know if I would ever want lower surgery, but it feels so validating to hear that 'your tattoo' is part of what held you back. It would be the same for me..
I also know that one day I will want to have meta. I used to think that phallo was what I wanted but I've changed my mind over the years. The scarring is one of the top reasons why I want meta. Seeing your videos about it has helped me really see that meta is the way to go.
Jammidodger thank you! Also fun fact: I watch your videos when I do my T shot because it’s almost like having someone else there and it makes me less anxious. My girlfriend and I love to watch your videos together. She loves the one where you guys were Sims for a day. Keep being you!
Thank you...just thank you...i didn't even know about meta surgery. My fiancee has been saying he has no interest in bottom surgery. But he only talks about phallo...don't know if he knows about meta. But thanks for the info and insight.
Thank you, I love this kind of video. I am leaning strongly toward meta (I am applying for pre-authorization through state health insurance already) and you echo a lot of the concerns I have about phallo, even though the results LOOK great and I would love an average sized outcome, it just seems REALLY intense and I don't think I'm up for that. I'm a masochist, but it sounds like too much for me.
Fascinating. Congratulations, young man. You've done what some people are absolutely incapable of doing...marshalling their will and the resources at their disposal to effect a positive, neccessary, and very fundamental change. With the ability to do that, you can do just about anything to continue building a wonderful life. May I also say that I am glad that you are the sort of man who obsesses over penile size. That tends to become a metaphor for other things in life that can only impede happiness and contentment. Cheers!
this is so cool, i always think about gender reassignment for trans people (tho i am a cis female and sexually confused still) i only knew about mtf reassignment, and have been asking if there's a ftm surgery. the advancement in surgeries is so amazing, now im thinking that it's possible in the future they'd have a safe and more advance surgery like making the genitals be as identical to as if one is born with it(meaning all of the functions and stuff). anyways, im so happy for you jamie!
I'm 3 months on T now. Transition surgery of any kind is not currently on the table for me right now because I have other health issues to contend with (they found a malignancy on my thyroid that I need surgery for first). Bleh. I definitely want top surgery and a hysterectomy, but I'm not sure I want any other bottom surgery. If I did I may go for the simplest option I recently read about - called a "clitoral release." It's basically the first stage of metoidioplasty without any of the other options (releasing the micro-penis from the pelvic muscle and vulva so it hangs farther outside of the body and in a more natural position for a penis). I don't know if I need/want scrotoplasty and I don't think I'll go for urethral lengthening either. Only time will tell if that changes for me or not.
Thank you for making this! I was having a hard time choosing between whether I wanted Phallo or Meto once I got older and started testosterone, now I know I'm definitely picking Meto for most of the same reasons.
I completely agree with you that there are different people and they choose the option that will make them feel the most comfortable with and honestly I feel better after watching this video because you really know a lot about this stuff because I'm pretty young and don't know that much so I watch you. Anyway I loved this video even if I'm commenting on it very late. 😂
