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I’m a cisgender man being evaluated for phalloplasty because I had radiation when I was 3, stunting the growth of my penis. I’ve had prosthetic testicles since I was 13, my dad picked them out and chose the largest size possible. Now they are uncomfortable and I have to have them resized. I’m 37 now and have never had penetrative sex. Fingers crossed all my scans come back clear and we can go ahead and lengthen my bits so they’re at least functional. Keep in mind I’m gay and currently cannot be penetrated (thanks again radiotherapy) and cannot penetrate another man. I’m so sick and tired of being alone because of the defects radiation caused. It’s hard to be happy when people keep discarding oneself because they aren’t up to par with what others want.
Um mate who ever told you that sex between 2 men is strictly penetrative is an idiot. You can do other things, who ever can't understand that there are medical reasons why you can't do certain things is no worth your time at all and does not deserve you. There are gay men who never practise anal, never, there are people with chrome, ulcerative colitis etc who can't be bottom coz it can literally kill them, but don't like being top, so they are not doing it.. Listen man, go out, meet people, don't stress out about sex, if you click with someone be honest, explain how and why, never allow to be pressured into, coz the one who understands and cares, even if it is one night stand will do all other kinds of things with you, even more enjoyable. Anal is over rated.. majority mature guys, mature in head,not age will have no issue with your medical state. I was like you, torturing myself coz of my handicape until I met right person, later more normal mature people. Raise your head up, go out and meet people, eventually right person or people will show up..2 men can do a lot of sexual things without anal....
i have no clue why i watch this, i mean, i'm hetero, married with kids so why am I here? Why have I watched every video for the past few years? Why do i watch Shaaba? I will tell you why, because it is great to understand others better.......if more people did this, the world would be a better place.
@@brimoririver6435 In the UK there is zero 'profit' in the NHS, it is entirely publicly funded, and you can only get what you need (sometimes you get less but that's a different thing). You talk about 'the structure of nature' but I expct you are unaware of just how messy nature is. Female is the default sex of all animals, every embryo, from fish to elephants to humans, begins developing as female and will continue to do so, irrespective of genetic markers, unless or until hormones from the mother tell it to do otherwise. If those hormones are irregular, then the embryo will get a mixed message, sometimes it is level of hormone, sometimes it is timing of hormone, and this produces the rather large variation in physical 'biological' sex, such as intersex and trans individuals, as well as cis women with XY genetics.
mghtymffn honestly same. Not the married with kids part, but the hetero part. I have a lot of friends who are lgbtq and I never really had a great understanding of that t. But with friends who are trans, I wanted to learn more, so I could be more accepting and understanding, because they’re the ones that matter in all of this. The world hasn’t accepted everyone completely yet but hopefully the more we learn the more we will.
@@SevCaswell In addition to the genetic variance of humanity, cultural variance is also significant, with many cultures throughout history and across the globe having, sometimes radically, different notions of gender identity. Many non Western cultures have recognised at least three distinct gender identities, with some cultures having still more. Personally, I'm inclined to think this is probably because of the variation of sex and chromosomal presentations.
@Jonathan Roberts Trans medical research is in it's infancy, and if you really cared about science rather than pushing a narrative you'd understand that. You want to break this down? I, Jamie, other trans people, have gender dysphoria. It's crippling and not something I can control, and testosterone has alleviated that immensely and has made me finally start to feel whole and correct in my physical form and presentation. If I lived alone on an island, I would still experience dysphoria. You can throw anything you want at me, but this is the reality for me and all other trans people able to take hormones.
Thank you for this video. I am FTM, older but still pre-transition as I didn't realize I am trans until 50 yrs old. You explained so thoroughly about bottom surgery. I knew little before watching your video. I love your sense of humour.
I'm 2 months late on replying but it's never too late to discover who you are, i'm also FTM pre-transition, I'm 19 years old and even I sometimes feel down seeing others transitioning or making steps before me, but I wish you luck on your journey!
@@bronsonmcdonald5473 I'm a youngin and ftm, I agree it's never too late or too early to find out your trans. We don't get taught this stuff, and you might think it's normal until told otherwise. Don't worry, the age of finding identity is non-existent :)
@@EveryDayGetsWeirder Thank you Random Alternate. I agree...it's never too late or too early. My journey is going very well. I have come out at my work and it's going very well. I am 7 months on T and seeing changes. Have you started your transition?
@@Mandy-nt2cs I think they may be exaggerating! Kinda like how when people say lmao when they really aren’t laughing their ass off, they just thought it was funny. :)
I had watched your vlogs before but never had subscribed, then a teenager told me her mom kicked her out over here wanting to trans, I remembered your name, recommended your blog, he is now 19, and getting ready for final surgery. Thanks for doing the video series, they've helped him.
Jammi: "I got [my metoidioplasty] done though the NHS in the UK, which means I didn't pay for it." Me, an American whose insurance barely covers a Band-Aid: *WHAT*
@@emperor_elkcip4260 it's a joke about how American insurance doesn't cover anything but (apparently)20% of a bandaid. And nothing else. Because it's absurd.
@@louiserules oh yeah i know trust me my $10,000 surgery was paid almost entirely out of pocket. i get the point but still ive never heard of any insurance having coverage whatsoever on band aids.
I'm amazed at science. I would never have known this guy was not born as a guy. So glad for the technology that allows people just to be themselves. Something CIS people take for granted.
You shouldn’t be that amazed at science. Most people suffer a great deal from these surgeries and they will be medicated for the rest of their lives- which also has consequences including early onset dementia
@@KylieEileen Meh, it's like everyone telling me I will regret not having children and that I'll be so lonely (we'll see about that...I make friends). But I'd much rather be happy whilst I am 20-70 than be miserable for 50 years just in case I happen to reach 90. Which I might be unhappy anyone for failing health.
As a cis guy the balls section was really fun, I was really surprised at how much of the "having balls" experience is exactly as you described it, but I had never really thought about it in my life, and hearing about it from someone who has thought about it so much, put so much effort into having them and gotten used to them later in life was super interesting
As an older cis man, I can assure you that standing up to pee becomes less and less important as the years go by. It's far more convenient and comfortable to sit down, and as a bonus for those who have a female roommate or partner, you'll never get yelled at for leaving the seat up OR for peeing on the seat. Also if you have kids and you teach them to pee sitting down, the bathroom's a whole lot easier to clean.
I'm confused and I don't know bloody why but seeing you be comfortable discussing this openly and freely tells me that maybe just maybe the world is moving in the right direction. However slowly.
Hmm ye... to be noted I know people happy who are FTM trans & fully seem like men after years its.uncanny but not MTF unless in drag or or lady boys ect... People don't seem happy mtf transitioning fully with chemicals\surgery, many have noticed 🙄 maybe that changes tho I suspect not anytime soon
Right! My boyfriend is 8 inches long and 3-4inches around... Lots and lots of lube... It makes me miss an average penis Lots and lots of communication lol
Jammi, being a 50 year old gay man, I have spent many years watching my LGBT community change and grow. Your videos are really something wonderful. Growing up in the 70's I had no leadership or examples of what a gay man was, not to mention how life was going to be. Your videos answering questions so honestly are not only helping trans people but the people who support them. By being so detailed and open your TRULY helping people. I wish when I was a young boy in the 70's and 80's there was a resource like you to have answered my questions. I admire what your doing! Thank you.
As a non-binary that recently got top surgery, I feel the exact way you described getting bottom surgery. I did have some dysphoria around my chest but it wasn't huge and I probably could have lived alright without getting it done. However after doing the surgery I was amazed how happy I felt in my new body once I'd healed enough to move around. I felt complete! Thanks for sharing your info and journey with the world
You are doing such a service to the world helping us understand why this path is so important and how it works. It has clearly unlocked a beautiful happy soul. Thank you.
YOu lucky man. I transtitioned in 74 didnt have bottom surgery as it wasnt near adavaced as it is now. I am now seventy too old for it now i dont take anesthetic very well either. Enjoy your life be happy wish i was you.
I'm sorry you didn't have access to the options you needed when you transitioned. I do feel though that people transitioning now will be saying the same thing to people who are transitioning when they're 70!
As a trans dude I'm always appreciative of anyone who's interested in learning about trans issues! It's always great just to have friends or people in the community who will be supportive or advocate on a small scale.
Same. I'm female but I've always fantasized about having a penis and even watching these videos I think it'd be super interesting to get to experience that, but hearing stories from trans people really helped me understand how lucky I am to not have dysphoria and how complicated and devastating some of these experiences can be. And especially being queer, I always try to make sure I'm not alienating people in our own community. You can never be too educated.
So like seemingly everyone here, I have no idea why RU-vid recommended this to me. I'm a cis guy, last time I was interested in LGBTQ+ issues was at least a year ago, and my trans friends can be counted on one hand - Safe to say, I am not the main demographic for this kind of content. But I'm so glad that it _is_ being recommended. RU-vid has a bad habit of half-hiding content they deem "non-advertiser friendly", so a lot of videos regarding transgendered and homosexual people isn't being seen by those who need it, such as young LGBT-identifying folks. Overall, your channel seems like a great resource for those who need it, and I'm glad RU-vid is allowing it to be seen :)
@@TheMistressMisery Well, thank you for the kind words. But it also feels a little weird to be praised for simply accepting people who are different from me ^^;;
@@Duskstone89 I feel like we need to praise simple things like this, because many still think it's ok to be dicknozzles to people who are different from them
I know this is probably difficult to make videos about, but as a nurse in the middle of no where I appreciate this information! This is unfortunately not yet covered in nursing school and learning from brave people like yourself helps me give trans patients better care. Which is especially vital living in the middle of nowhere. Thank you so much!
Well done choosing to inform yourself. I'm a cis man and wanted to learn more as I have trans friends from college. In fact in almost sure here in Ireland they must mention trans issues in modern medicine. I mean trans people have become far more visible in my generation in Ireland and hundreds transition a year so surely they are training here. Well (I hope they are). Its an important medical issue. Fair play again, if only all staff were as open minded and curious as you. Trans people deserve our respect. I hope we start teaching little kids too to be more open minded
Probably a TMI but my dad had one artificial testicle lol he was in a horrible car accident and only one of his balls survived. He had myself and my sister with that one ball 🤷♀️
Thank you so much for being so open, honest, and willing to share the details of something so personal. I've always had a genuine curiosity on the medical and anatomical aspects of this type of surgery but was aware that that curiosity could be perceived as something more salacious and intrusive than it was intended. You didn't owe anyone these intimate details, but I am grateful for the education you've provided. I've always liked all of your videos and am so happy that you have found your peace.
As a German being unfamiliar with inches, I laughed my ass off when I converted 10 and even 7 inches to cm. Honestly? That‘s (sometimes literally) nothing more than a pain in the ass. 😂
I don’t give a rat’s arse what his tackle looks like - he’s cute and a good lad and that’s enough for me! I do appreciate him answering questions that we all wanted to ask but were too scared to.
@@Crazygirl-eu5dc what a weird thing to say haha. I'm a bisexual cis guy and I don't give a shit what anyone's genitals look like. As far as hearing Jamie talking about his experiences I feel like that's one thing but not everyone is so focused on the most personal or base aspects of a person's body. What does anyone's sexuality have to do with it..
Most of us won't get off our ass to make the smallest changes seeking happiness. Here is young man who has risked his life redefining his place in the world. I don't understand transgendering at all. But who am I to decide what is right for others? This man is both adorable and courageous, God Bless him and his partner.
@@frusia123 my therapist told me this, and its really changed my perspective: someone can die from a physical thing, and someone can die because their mental health was so bad they saw no other choice. the suicide rate for transgender people (including myself, and yes, in the past I made a very-close-to-successful attempt on my own life because of dysphoria and fear of rejection) is astronomically high. yes, focus on helping others who are less fortunate. but don't think for a minute that its "preoccupied with oneself" to take these kinds of steps. they save lives too
Thank you for being so open! It's so cool to see people who aren't afraid to be open. I'm MTF and I love answering questions about my experiences because it helps to educate people and normalize the experience.
I am so glad I found you-My son is in transition and one day will be facing this surgery. Your video gives me a little insight so I can understand what to expect and help him through it- Big virtual hug of thanks from this proud mother.
When you say you feel no dysphoria for the first time it really makes me realize what a struggle life can be for trans people. I just can not imagine. I'm so glad you don't have to feel this way anymore.
I am a boomer and I am grateful that anyone can feel satisfied with who they are, on a lot of levels ,including this issue. Wasn't so when I was growing up. I'm CIS ( just so ya'll know my take on this is ). Even though this does not directly affect me, I am happy that people can be who they are inside, on the outside, too. Good luck J, you are being so helpful to others needing this info.
@@possums154 Well, hello Beetlejuice, appreciate the kind reply. Takes one to know one ! Any positives about me are because I KNEW my parents loved me. Some people who are "different" don't always have that, that is a shame.
I really appreciate that you post videos like this. trans genitals and transition procedures are understandably treated as a private matter, but for me personally as a person questioning its very comforting to hear about it casually and comfortably
Cis woman here: anyone can pee in a bottle when stuck in traffic if you really need to. At least... My personal experience leads me to think that's true.
Hello there. I mean no disrespect but would you be willing to explain and help me understand the difference between "cis woman" etc. I genuinely would like to know so I can be respectful to all . Sorry 💓
@@Alexandra-qc9te Hey! :) No problem, Cis woman just means my gender identity coincides with my birth sex, so I was born female and I identify as a woman.
@@phancypahnts Thank you so much for responding. I truly appreciate it. May I ask what is the difference in regard to queer ? I'm sorry I would rather ask to educate myself. Hope I'm not bugging you . I feel pretty silly asking because I've identified as Bi since I was 14. You'd think I'd stay in know. Lol
why am i even watching this, i'm a trans GIRL, i'm trying to get rid of my little guy down stairs and get my donut installed EDIT: guys please stop saying "tRaDe" its overused, annoying and im not even trans anymore so please stop EDIT 2: ok i used genderfluid wrong, i meant non-binary
@Great Awakening Im done threatening you, This time i'm gonna show you what Transphobia is, transphobia is the basic definition of: "i do not understand this, therefor, i disagree with it", This is what You're doing, Dysphoria, The need to look different, Isn't Weakness, Its Actually Pretty Empowering, I Agree i went a bit too far with the laxitives and Hydrochloric acid, However your shoes deserve to be shat in, You'll have shitty shoes mate
@Great Awakening Being trans isn't Death, Infact, Its Actually reversable, Its not permenant, If You were say a Trans girl, IE: you were born a boy but identify as a girl, If you, a Hypothetical trans girl, Could if at some point in your Female life decide that you were Born as your Prefered Gender, IE: male, You could Detransition, Its not death, Infact i will Make me a Happier Person, I've been more Sad because my current Biology is male, I Hate that, So I'm Gonna Change It
@Great Awakening and also as another thing i Wanted to do, But didn't as an act to Justify who i am, Heres One thing that i can do, or Say rather. ok boomer
I'm biologically male and I also sit down to pee because A) I too am lazy and take any excuse to sit and B) I end up peeing on the floor and seat. But I get tortured for it from my male friends as though it makes me less of a man. Ridiculous!
This is so illuminating for me, thank you for your candid answers to such personal things. You didn't owe anyone this video but I'm thankful for your willingness to share. 💗
It kinda is because with nearly 8 inches that i have (not bragging, just being honest) I have to be fully aroused during sex. Being moderately aroused means having 5 to 6 inches of firm but squishy meat that bends and folds up as i try to shove it into the vagina.
For sitting and peeing. My boyfriend is cis. And he sits to pee when hes at home because he feels comfortable, but if hes at a strangers house or a public washroom he stands to pee since he doesnt feel as comfortable.
absolutely amazing I wouldn't know any different seeing you and hearing you. Very, very happy for you finding you, everyone deserves to be themselves. It is amazing the surgery available today.
Im a straight cis women. With no plans of changing my body, hell I dont even have piercings or tattoos! Always liked your videos Jaimie. I find it fascinating to learn and understand about this sorta thing. X
@@autumnicole3221 oh PLEASE FUCKING STOP!!! You're literally searching for opportunities to be offended! She said she found it "fascinating to learn ... about this sorta thing" - it's a fucking compliment to the maker of the content, not an insult to the person. Fuck!
Me too and I love learning about this it opens your minds to others struggles and their issues, and truly makes me feel happy seeing these people being happy with themselves and it’s also educational for if anyone around you goes through this you’re more likely to be more understanding and supportive
As a straight man in my mind this person is a man. Congrats, I hope you are happy. If you're happy you will make others happy and therefore you will make this a better world.
Thank you for your frank, intelligent, and informed discussion. It is helpful to those of us who are not in this population to be more aware and sensitive to our fellow humans.
I am 76 year old mother of three boys, three grandkids, and one grandchild! I am fascinated with this subject. I think of all the people when I was your age that may have felt they were in the wrong body but had to pretend their whole life. You are very articulate and I have no doubt you are educating many people but also helping people out there trying to navigate their feelings . I must say you and your girlfriend are a wonderfully sweet couple! I wish you both much happiness. I wish the world were a kinder place. I do think you are making a big impact on everyone who watches your videos! Bravo young man, bravo!
Just found this, cis male here. Welcome to the fantastic world of constantly being aware of your balls. All you are missing is the natural reflex to protect your crotch whenever anything is being thrown at you.
I loved the 'too much maintenance' 😂😂 my boyfriend is... Well hung? I don't know how to not make it grimm 😂 and I stg he is constantly complaining about it 😂 from what I've heard I think if it wasn't for oversexualisation and exploitation from the porn industry around penis size most guys would rather a a smaller one 😂😂
I hope you’re joking. Not that I understand jokes but six inches is definitely not small. Most people are way smaller than 6. Five inches erect is average.
Absolutely fascinating, informative and very interesting. I’ve been aware of a few of these procedures for some time but your telling is remarkably fresh, candid and revelatory… Very well done - thanks!
I wish there was more content out there that answers a lot of curious (and sometimes ignorant) questions. This channel will live on forever for how valuable his lived experience is and it’s so cool to be a part of it ❤️
I think it gotta do with lawsuit RU-vid is facing from LGBT content creators in regard to content discrimination because since the lawsuit was made public many people said LGBT contents appears on their recommendation.
Thank you for sharing. I’ve recently realized that transitioning and the different processes is a special interest of mine, but it’s difficult to learn about and not super appropriate to ask about in most situations. Super cool and informative!
I don’t think I’ll get bottom surgery but it’s so reassuring and helpful to hear and learn about them! I feel like it relieves a lot of the fear people have about it which is awesome so thank you potato dad 💛
Yeah but it's doesn't always work out for everyone, there are some horror stories out there especially MTF with hair growing inside the fake vagina not healing properly, why can't you just accept who you are, there are people out there who are deformed and can't be fixed with better self esteem than trans people it's kinda sad
I'm a cis woman, but I was still morbidly curious about this kind of stuff. I was never willing to research it on my own for fear of what my ads would become ahaha, but I know better than to randomly ask these things of some poor trans guy I barely know. Thank you so much for all the gorey details! Now I don't have to make anyone uncomfortable with my curiosity!
I did the same thing with realizing that I'm not straight. I was just a really passionate ally 😂 Then I started getting more and more ads for things about being gay, movies, books, groups, etc and I thought "wow, gay people are really starting to get a lot more representation. That's awesome". And then I happened to look up my Google account info and there's a place where you can see all the things that Google algorithms decided you were: female, white, between 20-30. Things like that. And it had decided based on my searching habits, that didn't have anything sexual at all because it was a monitored work computer, that I was gay. It was literally like "you buy Calvin Klein, listen to Avril Lavigne, read books with strong female leads, own more boots than shoes. You are gay". Actually I'm pretty sure it was because I was semi active on gay rights political issues. I think I signed a petition way back when marriage rights were still not a thing yet and it flagged me. Anyway, google knows who you are before you admit it to yourself 😂
I'm just a regular lady that has been fascinated with learning about the trans community and the process to achieve the desired changes. The advances in medicine is amazing and you just can't tell by simply looking at someone if they are trans or not . You are a very handsome fellow and it's good to see how happy and confident you are. Bright blessings and great job answering potentially awkward questions
@@FalconsMaltings awe no need to thank me we're all human and we all go through different struggles especially the trans community which I think has to go through the most difficult process my respects always
Absolutely fascinating and enlightening from the perspective late in life early stage MTF trans woman. I'm so pkeased for you to see how happy you are with you are. Well done. Footnote - when you said "I have no dysphoria, pretty much, anymore" it made me emotional and cry (in a good way). Thank you for your videos.
Thank you. I have a teen who has recently revealed trans status to me and now is on a FTM journey. Thank you from my heart for being willing to speak openly about your own personal journey; you are very young still, but you have created the opportunity to help others navigate the FTM transition, and I am so grateful. Of course I support my child’s decisions and needs unconditionally, but I still worry that others won’t. Having people speak openly and matter of factly about their own experiences helps others understand, and with understanding comes empathy and acceptance. Thank you so much, you have done so much to foster acceptance.
"well that answered my goddamn questions about bottom surgery!!!" -me whose parents wont even let **him** cut **his** hair edit: well guys i got my hair cut not long after i posted this, i hope you all get your haircut eventually. best wishes edit: turns out i wasn't trans-masc after all, i'm non-binary apparently. sorry this comment is a little outdated
@Linda Trefan I've always wanted for my future to come where I can leave and do what I always wanted to be. That's one thing that'll make me happy. I can wait for that momment
I'm so glad I stumbled across this. I've been a bit late to transitioning only now looking to start testosterone at age 29, and your videos have tackled a lot of the fears I'd put off until now. I'm finally going to be calling my doctor today, so thank you for being so informative and helpful! Can't wait to finally start into my own journey :)
I have no clue why this was in my recommendations however I’m glad it was. Definitely answered a lot of questions I always had when it comes to bottom surgery for trans men and women.
You handled these subject material with Grace, humor, and solid research and experience and you did an amazing job. I have already shared your channel with some friends of mine working on their transition. Thank you for being there and sharing your experience.
Seen this video in my suggested for a while, finally took the plunge. I appreciate the honesty and the information. We can all be honest that the stuff between the legs goes a long way for a lot of us for intimacy. It is considered unacceptable to talk about what a trans person has, but same time its rather important for what we want/expect/etc. Very glad you are comfortable to help people understand!
thank you so much for sharing all of this! your entire journey has been so beautiful and inspiring and educational but so personal and precious! like, I can look up medical videos but I want to hear about the person and their experiences. I just got top surgery and I watched a bunch of your videos first to see a more personal side and you helped me so much!! thank you 💜🖤
I’ve been watching your videos all day, I’m trying to educate myself so I can better understand my trans boyfriend’s struggles. Thank you for putting this kind of information out there, I’m sure a lot of people appreciate it including myself ❤️
I freaking love your honesty and your bluntness and I’m a huge shipper for you and Shaaba. Just... thank you for putting your truth out into the world, and helping others who may need your encouragement and advice. You make the world a better place.
I love how chill and open you are to answering questions. You’re serving a greater good of educating anyone who isn’t trans and anyone who is and has questions. I bet Little Jaime would have bee very grateful for your content
My child (18) just started the ftm journey last week (involving us, that is). This video was so helpful for me. I’m going to binge watch your videos. Thank you so much for doing these.
