why I have no friends at 19 

I used to have a lot of friends but realized that they were not friends. They were envious and dramatic people. Some of them are users too. I got too exhausted from them. I’m in my 30s. I consider others as acquaintances. I only have my family, bf and dogs. I’m an introvert too. Not everyone is blessed to have good friends

I became really sad and depressed for not having any friends to call or talk to at all and I actually feel somewhat better that there are other people out there who can relate to what I’m going through right now.

as 28 i can relate. ive had few friends back when i was in military but ive lost them and now i live alone having contact with no one and to be honest its much great than being with toxic people or being involved in drama every single time, so its not really as bad as i thought it would be.

I'm an introvert and I haven't any friends either. I grew up thinking something was wrong with me, too. But I only learned about introversion in the last decade and have embraced my solitude with great relief. You are an AMAZING young lady!

It's far better to be alone than have "friends" who might bring drama to your door. I admire the courage it took to tell your story.

love this!! words can’t explain how grateful I am to be seeing this video today. it was motivational and on point!

Hang in there... I'm 34 years old. People have come and gone throughout my whole entire life.. whilst others lasted for many years. When I went no contact with my toxic family.. and they turned on me. So I've been socializing with others.. but for the past 2 years I have had no friends in real life. But I know that is going to change.. and I will have the right friends. May you be blessed in everything you do.. including finding a loving partner, if you want one.

Speak your truth, Bri!! 👏 You are not alone. Let's dismantle the stigma.

thanks for this video, and for saying there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. it’s an important message - for the longest time i was convinced it was impossible to get a job as an introvert and that i would be a failure, but it’s not true at all. embracing being an introvert is the best! i do feel alone sometimes and that’s okay too, i think finding balance is the healthiest thing to do :)

I loved the way you explained that young lady, that is exactly how I view the situation.

I'm glad you've realized what kind of a person you are and good with it.I can definitely relate to how you feel cause I'm the exact way.I'm 44 and never been big on having friends or anyone to talk to cause I myself enjoy being alone and doing whatever I want, how I want,and when I want.Thats the best thing about being alone is that you're in control of your life,living environment,and your money.Plus you got nobody to bother you or to argue with or share anything with and best of all nobody to spend your money on! A word of advice since you're still young and still have your whole life ahead of you,Stay how you are and find a good career to keep you busy and distracted from loneliness and depression cause believe me it can catch up to you as you age. And one more thing Don't Have Kids! It saves you alot of stress, problems,and money! Good Luck

This video has been recommended to me when I'm in the exact phase of my life. I had friends..??! But being with them I couldn't be myself I mean I was afraid they wouldn't like me for who I was so i pretended to be someone else not the real me. I cried a lot, almost every night and sometimes tears would just come down when I was alone..in my deep thinking. I always wished for a not many friends but only one best friend.But now I'm at home it's been a month I've graduated from high school and I'm planning on changing everything, like new life new friends new everything. And i don't even want to have any connection with them therefore I'm not using any social media now not even whatsApp because I just don't wanna be in that environment again. YT is the only social platform that I spend my time on and enjoy. This video and all the comments down here have really got me to think that I'm not the only one without friends and it's really ok without having friends. I think it's healthy. And I find peace being on my own and talking to God especially when I'm on the roof of my house staring at the night sky. This is really beautiful. Indeed the best feeling in the entire world.

This helps me realise being a natural introvert is okay.. thankyou... I relate to being drained by people. My energy gets taken from humans.

same. sometimes interactions can be very exhausting, and i hate when that happens especially when i want to build friendships, i feel you.

thanks for sharing this. i feel exactly the same.

True friendship are rare, you have to experience them to see this. Best off with acquaintances to focus on you’re path, not theirs.

For me, it is the opposite. I would like to talk to people, approach people, but I am too shy and anxious. But I do not like shallow people with no depth. I am not in for superfical relationships.

I have 0 friends. I get really sad about it but I know I will be ok. It just sucks not having anyone to call or hang with. I wish I had at least someone to vent to in life but I don’t have that. On the plus side, I can relate to you a lot, I like being alone sometimes too and when I used to go out with my “group” I got really bored and tired and just wanted to go home and chill. But I still get upset about not having anyone anymore since I’m out of school and everyone moved on in life and now I’m just a single guy that works with nobody to talk to.

Great thing about of being alone is you can do virtually whatever you want and go anywhere you want. I need some social interaction, but I also NEED to be alone here and there.

Can't believe I just discovered your channel. I've been through several phases when I yearned for friends, suffered depression because of it, and sometimes I just couldn't care less. Now, I do enjoy my company and prefer not to make any friends, but sometimes I do wish that I had someone in my life.

WOW! For someone who's 19 you are very matured. I needed this. Thank you. 😊😊😊

I like being alone too and I'm 55. I really was never the type of person that has to be in a crowd. I like to think, have peace of mind, imagine, create, and it can be fun. My social life ended when I was in my thirties. God Bless everyone and everything!

I'm 25 and I'm in the same boat & it makes you feel so lonely❤️

hey bri :) thank you so much for sharing these words. it's so soothing to hear you being so unapologetically honest and self-loving in spite these traits being stigmatized. it's so beautiful and helpul (:❤as a child, my mom made me think that being this way = i'm a very bad person, which made me hate myself really badly. i grew up with extreme attachment issues and self-hatred, which resulted in me feeling like i wasn't even there for the past 10 years, that i didn't deserve to be a person and that there was danger in all friendships. today, i'm 18, and it was extremely painful for me to realize that in the past 10 years i wasn't able to form any safe attachment, and that i'm still living by the extremely rigid mechanisms as a result of feeling unsafe. for me (as you mentioned it at some point), my loneliness stems from a disorder (borderline personality disorder) ; i have severe attachment issues and am doing everything i can and more to heal ❤which is very hard and painful. but i remind myself that whatever happens to any child is never their fault, and that i am fighting so so hard. thanks again bri for sharing

No friends either . It gets me down for periods of time but I come out of it feeling ok . I go lone but not lonely

Nothing wrong with not having a friends. I am the same way and it can be rewarding either way. Love your vid.

Thanks for this message ❤️

It's good to know there are people that relate to me, a single night out can drain the life out of me. I just love my alone time.

Hey, I was just thinking about this topic when your video came up at the top of my feed, everything you said was just so relatable and thank you for the positive and accepting energy 💜💜

i feel you, im going trugh the same stuff rn, im 19 also

im going 19 this year i have no friends, i dont have anyone to talk to and the people i did just stopped talking to me, i do have social anxiety but i want to socialize because im lonely but going out with people makes me exhausted and irritated i dont like people but i want to like people

I don't think it's healthy to have no friends but the definition of "friend" can be rather fluid. Some people think that friends are the people you hang out with regularly and you go shopping or clubs or whatever the kids are into these days. For an extroverted person, that's actually a reasonable definition. For an introvert the definition could just be somebody that you trust and you can tolerate sharing a space with even if just briefly. You should have at least someone you trust and can confide in outside of your immediate family.

Damn I sorry for this I mean it really sucks soo much to not have friends I am also like that I am extremely introverted and shy I can't talk with people or socialise I have had received suggestions from my parents to socialise but I just can't soo I can feel you keep you head up everything happens for a reason I do think that now I have anxiety in places which are social and around people soo I feel alone but it's all okay life gets better soon you accept that you are alone and everyone is at the end

Same! 29F no friends. No boyfriend, no kids. Can be a bit lonely sometimes but luckily I have my sister and my introversion. I also have social anxiety. But, I do feel okay and “content” not having friends. Despite occasionally being lonely and thinking “oh I wish I had someone to go kayaking with”. I think the societal part is hard. Like when my boss asks me “hey, did you hang out with your friends this weekend?” It’s a triggering question. I feel a jolt since it’s so “expected.” All I can answer is “….no….I was busy working on my house anyway….”

i’m actually convinced that i’m the loneliest person alive. i have literally nobody and i fucking mean it..i also have an inability to connect with people, i used to have one good friend in high school but i never felt like i could trust her on a personal level. 2 of my cousins were also kinda close to me but everything changed in 2019-2020, everything fell apart, i just want to have a genuine connection with someone :/

Hi, I live on the other side of the world and I'm a girl the same age as you. Being considered pretty and not having social anxiety, I don't have any trouble with first impressions, but I feel bad in the long run when I don't have my solitude. I've had judgements from my teachers and some family members, saying that I must feel better than others if I isolate myself. Art is my passion and I'm always super busy. I ended up thinking that something must be wrong with me, especially as I became like this in my teens whereas before I was a very sociable child. Thank you for sharing your experience, I've never felt so understood about who I am. And stay yourself :)

I agree with you mostly, but there are times in life when having a friend can be great emotional support

I had friends, i was social, i was never shy, i moved from my country to another country when i was 13, its been almost 6 years, im now almost 19, and i was not able to build a social life,not ONE friend, mainly bcz of language barrier that makes me feel embarrassed, i for some reason even ghosted my friends in my home country and I don’t think we are friends anymore lol, now I literally know NO ONE, LITERALLY, with covid 19 lockdown I developed social anxiety lmao now I can’t even make friends bcz i spent all my day at home, besides school home and the gym I don’t go anywhere, I don’t have experiences to talk about

Same. The difference is that I am 32 and never had any friends. I even never had a girlfriend. I am completely alone. With my night shift job I am completely isolated.

I am here. I am the same way the happiest feeling. Ur beautiful

Everything will be Okay,Love the glasses btw 😁

Don't feel bad. Their are actual apps for social meet ups. That's the world we live in.

I don’t have many true friends. about 3 people plus my partner and mum. I believe in quality not quantity and I keep my circle small and supportive. You have a beautiful soul and deserve people who match it. I’m sensitive too and Many emphathic people are exhausted by other peoples vibes. Aloneness can be a huge gift and I do find other people very very draining. I love my alone time. Being happy is about being yourself….Enjoy💕💕💕Sending love🙏🏽💛💛💛🌈✨💫

Yes, you are perfect the way you are! 🤗 And I agree, it must be a little hard for an introvert to live in the US where extroverts get rewarded.. Where I live the majority of people are reserved introverts. This country is Finland in Europe, and everybody here finds it incredibly funny, that Finland been ranked as the world's happiest country by the UN for five consecutive years. However, you are still quite young and life is very long, and building friendships take quite some time.. there may come a time when you would like to share your personal life with a friend. It might be worthwhile to build one or two really good, loyal friendships, perhaps with another introvert. Just so that you will not end up in a depressing, lonely place when you get a bit older.

I'm too very introverted. I absolutely love my time i spend by myself. In my class, or any other places, i usually stay alone and do my thing, with peace, and i enjoy that..until some of my classmates and other people say that being introverted is just a "double-faced" thing, and that it's not even a thing, you shouldn't be quiet and act all introverted, and i don't even know that where did they get it from¿..and they'd just constantly force me to keep talking and interacting (though at the same time, won't even listen or care to what i say)..though still i try to maintain my peace even then, this had let me to think a lot that why am i like the way i am.. much later i realized it's totally normal to be that way

Many young people nowadays just like being akone. Some were ruin by the phones and others just had the same old bad experiences throughout their youth that made them that way.

Same and it’s worse when u have sisters that have lots of friends to go out with. Then they always ask me abt my friends too 💀

I've been exactly the same way all my life . Also called a latch key kid. Always played alone. Your sweet and absolutely gorgeous. No really i see what's on the inside too. Looks with the sound of your voice. I could listen to to endless all day and night. Wish i could get to know you more.

Hey girl 👋 I want to say you're beautiful 💟 ... sometimes Just go with flow n enjoy the smallest things of your life you have a worl to explore ahead you universe doesn't revolves around school and college

Finally someone else who actually means it when they say they have no friends. Like I literally have zero friends. No one ever hits me up to hang out. No one ever really talks to me like at all.

I'm in a similar situation and I'm 17 but I do have social anxiety.

Im in the same boat as u, im also 19 with very little to no friends

When I was a teen, my peers were so flaky and shit, it was hard to make meaningful friends. What I did is to hang out to international kids, not only were I interested in learning their culture, food, customs etc. but I also made fantastic close friends and I hang out with.

i was very social but i dealt with an abusive environment throught my life, with my father being POS and my classmates being significantly richer than i was, i was excluded even though i was a nice person, rn i don't care about being alone i just go to the gym and enjoy the time i have left, just telling you because this is not something one person can experience it's a worldwide thing and there many people who go through adversity through out their life

Don’t feel alone Bri. It’s actually really common and it’s becoming more common in the digital age. As someone who has been studying this let me tell you there is nothing wrong with you. There are so many people like you. There are an overwhelming number of people in your age group looking for friends as well. When you decide you want to have friends you’ll find they’re everywhere.

introvert here, having friends is mentally draining for sure but with all its fun and giggles its honestly worth it. but i cant hangout everyday tho otherwise i'd die lol

A lot of people don’t want to be friends. It’s strange when I offer my friendship and it gets declined by a person with no friends.

My son is similar to you. In fact he is quite successful because he began creating products which began from always being alone which he says helps and grows his imagination and creativity. Especially when there are no distractions or any other people he needs to explain himelf to or whom perhaps would of spoken unkindly and negatively toward him at times when some ideas or new products didn't work out or fair well. His main residence/home has a gym, indoor sport field and a creative floor with machines such as 3d printers and cnc machines to even t-shirt design nd making stuff all just for his own fun wearables and he finds not even having to travel and be in a gym around other people much better for him and far less draining and taxing on his system. Its kinda like ironmans cave where he builds things, my point beside what seems like the humble brag 🙄 sorry, is that being alone can be a really positive experience, which leads to a fulfilling and rewarding life. He says he just wishes he could meet a lady similar to him who likes and needs her own space as much as he does. Most woman he dated seemed more interested in trying to move the relationship along fast and some after just a few short months even insisted on living together to move into his place. So now he feels most women sadly see him as a means to an end and he finds it hard to trust or date anymore. Now my son often says he has had many fond days instead on his own because at the end of those days he felt it was filled with purpose and productivity, and continues to have days like those. Best of wishes to you and all the introverts and sigmas. My son to me is more a sigma male than anything else actually asI realised over the years trying to research why he was (well is), so different but happily unfazed or unaffected by being so different and on his own

Work on yourself and build self confidence. Be prepared to do things outside your comfort zone. Don't take yourself too seriously. Be easy to talk to, be a good listener. Do hobbies in groups as it will build a common interest with you and others. Don't worry about being happy on your own. I've found the best friends are the ones you don't try to get, as they accept you as you. Oh and go and learn to play guitar! These things have worked for me.

I feel that a lot of the young people had their social life ruined by covid. I have a beautiful but socially awkward niece was just starting to find her groove. She joined the theater dept and finally met people she was comfortable with when she was a junior but then covid hit and she kept in contact by zoom and skype but that faded out. She's a phenomenal artist but during the tail end of covid she stayed in her room drawing eyeballs and then it was time to go to college. She's better now but her confidence was interrupted during important years. What a horrible time to be in lockdown at that age.

I know I had to separate myself from my friends because I knew where things were headed wasn’t entirely good or productive l. I over time developed a feeling that I didn’t enjoy the activities we did but I just put it to the side because I wasn’t good at making friends. I cut em off and things have been both up and down, I have really tried to change behaviors and habits that would enduce a productive or more upbeat vibe and I was good for a while. But every now and then I have these deep bouts of sadness knowing there is literally no one to talk to. I also haven’t had a car for the past 5 months so I’ve been only able to commute to and from work which adds up to costing more than a monthly payment and insurance combined. So every paycheck I have to go back 1.5 spaces for every 3 moves. All to save up for a car. It is terrible at times and good at times . But the overwhelming nature of the cycle is a bit saddening. There isn’t a way for me to even try to make friends. No car, no socials really. Then also add doing online college as well to fit in the time to work full time to expedite the time to get a car.

39 yrs old and no friends. I love being alone. I go watch movies alone, prefer gym when less people are there, I even go to restaurents alone. I also always thought something was wrong with me growing up. It's just that introverts are wired differently.

This is very relatable 🤦🏾‍♂️

You are not alone, God preserves those who are precious to him. Most people don't deserve to have you in their life to be completely honest. You are loved and CHOSEN by GOD. Jeremiah 29.11/ Proverbs 3.5/ Psalm 23/ Isaiah 54.17/ Romans 8.28. 💫😘

Ur perfect.. Don't let anyone tell u otherwise.

Someone who goes to events by myself. I do get confused looks by the event staff, sometimes even looks of sadness 😔

It’s strange. I love being alone so I can communicate with people online rather than in person. I enjoy being able to delete/backspace 😂

Y'know, I used to think there was something wrong with me because I DIDN'T make the effort to hang out with people outside of work and school. I like people, I generally get along with everyone, and have no problem with making conversation, but...never, and I mean NEVER, made the effort to actually build a long-lasting friendship. I just never wanted to become disappointed if they let me down. True friends are hard to find and most people in your life are gonna come and go. I just saved everyone the trouble and never tried. Yes, I do have days where I become envious of the friend groups I see out in public, but as soon as I get home, those feelings go away. 💨 I thrive on being alone and having a better relationship with myself. I think having enough alone time is necessary for everyone.

At least you are honest. There are many who actually have experience hanging out and making friends but ended up neglecting them only to pretend to have solitude life. There are many who made friends but not proud of it. Some even managed to get out of a friendzone with their partner only to neglect their partner. Many post videos about themselves pretending to have solitude life when in reality, they have friends. So I will say your honesty in youtube counts because you aren't faking to have 0 friends. You really have 0 friends.

You sound like a good person and would be your friend if I knew you. I advise you to join some hobbies groups

It's ok. For me I don't really care and it doesn't bother me at all. You'll see that later people tend to annoy, irate us and drain you and also take from you. I usually enjoy the comfort of my own peace and solitude.

What a wonderful life it is (!) Peace is the most important Thing. God...father made YOU, a daughter of HIS OWN.Be happy ,please. Your charakter protects you .I am 65 years and a kind of blueprint ...of you. No worry...please. Living stoically...step by step.And you will see, some people shall becoming friends. Be patient 🙏 and you will understand more and more...ther are much more people in this life...are,like you. Good people ,with all their good intentions...couldn't we built a much more better world ... Introverts are mostly high sensitive people. You should live more slowly and never think about to much. Love from Thüringen, Germany .

Introverts unite separately in your own homes.😆

Introversion is a gift that extroverts wish they had just like introverts wish they had the gift to be outgoing. Just be glad you don't need to feed off other people to feel energized like an extrovert. Introverts energize themself! It is so cool considering you make yourself happy and energized. Introverts are warriors when it comes to survival! It's a gift

It's not a bad thing tbh when I was younger I thought I had lots of friends now I'm 35 and realise I have 2 real friends , you have figured it out early 👍👌

same for me no friends and i dont want it..

I like you just from watching this video. Especially the glasses is a plus for me

I have one singular friend, so I don’t have friendS. she’s got a bf now and I just know she isn’t going to love me as much as she used to :( it’d be fine being second place to a man if I had anyone else…. I don’t even have acquaintances or people I say hi to. I wish it would change

I feel this same way I dont go anywhere I dont have any close friends nobody asks me to hang out

Yeah friends can be a burden...... I was always informed that everyone in this lifetime will only have a handful of friends when you get up there in age... They were right.... Yeah I found my own world, just me, myself and I.... Best deal in town folks!... F those so called friends.. Most folks want friends so they can get bailed out of a fnancial situation or just to keep them from spending a Friday night or Saturday night alone or some yard work that they are too lazy to do... I 'd rather be alone... Friends always need help, whether it's money or a ride or some type of sh-t that really has nothing to do with being friends... Oh yeah, then you have those friends that can elevate your situation in life by getting you a good paying job but now you are in debt to their whims or whatever the F they want...And better not let them down.... Nah F that sh-t, no more , no more....I'm DONE!!! Oh Yeah, and once you let them down from not showing up at a dinner or helping them with their household chores they will cut you off... They won't even bother to text or call you and make sure you are okay... They just take it personal...Nah, Don't need it!!!

Just seen this, hope all is going ok with you :)

I don't have friends either. Im 27 and I haven't had a friend since middle school

you are so beautiful with your pretty smile and your pretty long hair and you are so lovely

Watching from cameroon 🇨🇲 in Africa

Don’t have any either. 😟

thank you, from another friendless human :)

this just hit the algorithm for me it might blow up

i am extrovert and social i still dont have any friends because i have been stabbed behind again and again i no longer have any emotional/mental enrgy to be wasted on friendship and b.s

Keep getting recommended this. RU-vid knows me too well.

I want to be your friend!!

some times it can be your high functioning adustic. lots of friends drains your sensory issues

My friends are whatever animal I come across cats dogs Blue Jays robins a deer came right up to me 😁 animals do not judge at all

so 2 years on.... how are you. I never had friends either, just coworkers and I am good with that now as I have gotten older.

The reason why sometimes you don't have friends it's because you didn't try sometimes or some people don't participate sometimes but I have no friends and I'm 10 years old right now but no need to worry about that

Wanna know what's better than having friends??? Organizing seats for comedic purposes at important events that air on television

My friends have faded away over time..and I have more time for myself now.....result !!

My daughter is 15 and extremely intelligent. High IQ. Has had friends but not many. She finds it difficult to maintain friendship because she really enjoys her alone time. Also, anytime we go on vacation she loves going away but will require a few days to decompress afterwards. Any tips?

I love this girl

Criticism coming from a place of love: Having no friends sucks. But I get what you're saying. I think you should reconsider what 'friends' 'and 'socializing' mean to you. I mean, making a big ass RU-vid video is definitely a kind of socializing. Coming out of school, a lot of people have ideas that you have to comform to some kind of norm, that socializing means you need to like parties or do whatever is popular. What I'm saying is you shouldn't give up on other people. But you should start looking for connections in other places, that are more in your element. For a lot of people, that's college and a career, where things start to get a lot less dumb, as you start to find more people on a similar path to you. There's also romance, which is awesome, again, once you find the right kind of people and the right paradigm.

I'm 64 and very few humans are worthy of the title "Friend."