Hello friends, a video about a more vulnerable subject today. I’ve always been a loner and enjoyed my own company the most. I know it’s not for everyone. I worked as a freelance photographer, videographer and editor most of my professional life. Even though a portion of my work always requires communication, most of the time is still spent alone, creating and working on the computer. It can get pretty lonely if I don’t find a way to connect with people in my spare time. One other way to socialise for introverts that I forgot to mention, is joining art classes and lessons. I joined an evening pottery class with only other 5 people, and it was a lovely way to add a mindful social experience to my day. Even if you don’t speak much, it’s the activity of doing something while surrounded by likeminded people, which can add a needed social fix into your day. 😊
As an introvert myself I rarely feel lonely despite loving being alone. For me the cure for loneliness isn't more people. It's being understood 🌌 Often introverts are afraid to be themselves due to cultural norms. I go to public places and read/write. Recently I went to a pub with my journal. People were.having drinks with others, enjoying each other's company and me: I was by myself writing and I loved it ! I think it's so important to fully accept yourself as an introvert and get to a place where we no longer care about what other people might think of us. Reading books about introverts really helped me. But most importantly having the courage to show up authentically to the world 💪💪 And introverts (believe it or not) are not always quiet. With the right person I can talk for hours on end. Whereas with someone else, after a few minutes I am like: "I need to make up an excuse asap to get out of this situation asap !" 😅😅
I live alone with my rescue greyhound Madge, at 67 years young. I would rather live alone, than be with someone I was not happy living with. I have not been out and about since January 2020, and I sold my car, as due to my sever anxiety, driving was making me sick, and so not using my car, I could not afford to keep it. My nearest village shop is a mile away - there are no houses around until I get to the village - and I can not walk that far to it, as I am afraid that I will be unable to get back - I sometimes get nose bleeds, or my leg gives way - and I have no one to call on to come and get me if this happens. I do walk Madge 4/5 times a day, but they are short walks, and sometimes I can walk further than others, but I am always so relieved to get back to my home, my safe place. I love being out in nature, so I enjoy my walks with Madge so much, and I would rather be alone with her, than with someone else. I enjoy doing my own thing, without having the worry of thinking about another person. Blessings to you, from Jilly & Madge, from West Devon, England. xxx
When I’m alone I am more relaxed, happy and comfortable. I find it easier to think about things I want to do and not get swayed by the opinions of others around me.
I love my solitude ... I like my friends and enjoy their company .. but I truly LOVE my time alone to just think, garden.. read, listen to my favorite music and be with my animals. It's blissful to me :)
That part about preferring to connect one on one rather than group of people is so true. I personally feel alive and comfortable with just one person at a time, as the number grows, I get anxiety and I feel obliged or forced to read all the people's emotions and act accordingly so as to not hurt anyone's feelings and that's exhausting.🙂
Hello, dear Daria. I rarely leave comments, but this video was especially resonant. It so happened that I, too, have been a loner all my life (I’m 25) and it’s not that this was solely the result of my choice, that’s how the circumstances developed. But it has changed me in such a way that I really value my loved ones, I can see friends a couple of times a year, but I try to make these meetings warm, soulful and strengthen the deep connection between us. So it turns out that when someone else is nearby, I automatically switch my attention to the person and give as much as I can give, the surrounding background blurs out, I stop seeing what is happening around, stop remembering the road and taking a meaningful approach to actions,.. so traveling, going to museums and watching films is much more enjoyable for me alone. When I'm alone, I'm present in the moment and I hear myself. When I'm with someone, I stop hearing, my inner voice is drowned out and I begin to adapt, sometimes to such an extent that only looking back I notice how much I was mimicking. When I'm alone, I don't need to dance with tambourines and come up with topics for conversation, I can just be myself. I'm trying very hard to learn how to communicate naturally with people in order to maintain that honesty of my own self, but so far I still have a long way to go in this field. One person once told me that I am “an introvert in communication, an extrovert in perception,” and indeed, when I am alone, I feel sharper, brighter, more fulfilling. But at the same time, connection with people is a very important component of life, everyone needs support from time to time, everyone needs “their own pack”, even if it consists of a couple of people. Recently I read a popular science, near-psychological book of Alfred Adler, there was the following phrase: “In the modern world, people communicate, but do not feel a community.” This is probably what I am most worried about right now. Living in a city with a population of millions (greetings from St. Petersburg!), I see that everyone is for himself, at the same time, in practice or part-time work somewhere in the north/mountains/taiga, not everyday you can communicate with people, but you really feel this community, belonging. It seems to me that this is what we miss so much when we feel lonely. Paper letters help me cope with the influx of such moods. Handwritten with fountain pens and ink, with a large wax seal and dried herbs. You put warmth into such letters, you send a piece of your heart to the recipient, and even though a lot of time passes before you receive an answer, it’s as if there is a thread of light stretched between you. I will be glad to write you a letter if you also like this kind of thing. Thank you for allowing us to look at the world through your eyes. With wishes of peace, calm and warmth, Darinika
I am also an introvert. As I get older, I am finding more and more that I understand George Carlin's thought about being able to handle people in small doses is joyous. Having a brief interaction can be trying on my sanity.
You're right that you are never really alone, even though you would like to be and then there is a spider who disturb your moment of silence and when you do speak with your audience there's a bird to sing through your speach....I had to laugh about it. I loved your talk with us. I know exactly how it feels when you are exhausted by too many people and being an introvert you need a lot of alone time to replenish your energy. Being alone is indeed different from being lonely. Especially when I am in an crowd of people with whom I don't feel connected then I start feeling overwhelmed and don't feel safe. That's when I feel most lonely. But when I feel connected with a friend, and we have deep conversations one on one, then I feel enriched and loved. That is for me really quality time spend with friends, so that I can spend the rest of my day alone without being lonely.. Have a great day today, kind regards from Elise
I’m exactly the same, large groups of people at one time exhausts me and I’m left with a splitting headache afterwards. Apart from being with my husband, family or a few close friends, I’m comfortable going places alone too. It just helps me feel relaxed and calm.
I was telling a friend visiting just the other night that I have never experienced loneliness, even though I spend 90% of my time alone. Perhaps if I didn't have one or two home comforts around me, then it might be possible. And if my freedom was taken then I might definitely feel lonely. But up till now that's just how it is.
oh, I felt this so much! Like you spoke my mind! I am in a similar situation - I also moved away from "known and safe" to North England, maybe not as young as you, but the majority of my adult life happened here, in the Unknown Land ;) I think is so refreshing, after years of keeping myself in big "packs" (which I really loved, I used to be that extremely extroverted kid!), I love solitude - until I crave that immediate connection. Sometimes I miss being able to just get out of the house and pop to a friend for a brew, or go with them for adventures. As a highly sensitive human myself, I take those hits really close to the heart and they are excruciatingly painful sometimes... But still, I enjoy my own company most of the time. But am I ever truly alone if I'm always with my dogs, and have a man to go through life with me? ;) It is lovely to see you talking directly to a camera, I think you could do this more often 💚
I believe in quality time by oneself. This 'lonely time' recharges me, helps me build myself, discover my talents and inspirations, sit and enjoy a book, look at nature, or just be. We live in such a hectic world, it's a need for me to stop and be with me - to be still. Big gatherings make me feel uncomfortable. I enjoy the short moments with a friend and the longer moments with my husband. That's me - that is right for me and I love it. The beauty of humanity is its differences. Thank you for your lovely and insightful reflections.
I love being alone until it gets too lonely.. I agree loneliness is not by choice but by consequence and some of our past choices good/bad! Sending you love from Malta 🇲🇹
So lovely to see you face to face while you talking. The older I got the more of a loner I became. And I love it! I love to be with myself. I came to know myself better when I'm spending time alone. Thanks for the lovely video! God bless!❤
I had no idea you were not english 😮 I felt this video. As an only child I was always used to being alone and cope with it. I had many friends, but there were plenty of moments when it was only me and myself, so I learned to be fine with it. I moved to the UK uh 10 years ago, to live with my husband to be. I work in a coffee shop and I have my connections wih our families and our friends/coworkers, but most of the time it's only us and, likewise, we absolutely love it. We may be alone, but not lonely. Sometimes you can be lonely in a crowd.
What a beautiful video you have made 🍃🌼 hope you have a wonderful day! Being alone sometimes is a good feeling cause you get rid of the outside noise and distractions we have on a day to day basis.
I love my own company too. I feel whole, complete and enjoy my sports and hobbies alone too. I have always been self relient, independent, resilient and learnt to enjoy my own company. I cycle for miles in the forests near where i live, stopping at a favourite spot for something to eat, and read, meditate and just being with nature. Sometimes i dont see a soul. Im free, happy and content. I love and connect with your videos.
It is profoundly true that nothing can be poured from an empty cup. In some instances, filling that cup can come from the rejuvenation of quiet time, like reading a book, or walking through a forest. In other instances, it can come from being fortified by good connections.
I just turned 25, and I’ve also spent most of my adult life alone, and I’ve always been rather satisfied with my situation (with lots of different hobbies). But sometimes I wish at least I had someone to think of even if we’re not always together physically. So, I think it’s so lovely for you to have your husband whom you could think of even when you’re alone at the time… Thank you for your beautiful work, your videos are always oases for me😊🌱
Hello Daria, I love this video!! The field with buttercups is amazing and not a lot of people, so you can really enjoy! I think you had a lot of courage leaving your familiy and friends at the age of 16! Making friends that are 'compatible' to your soul is not always easy. So good to hear that you surround yourself with kindred spirits in an art class. I love to be alone too, it brings me calm and hapiness. But i also love people, in honesty: i sometimes have to give myself a push to leave my home, my safe place. I'm an amateur classical ballet danser (still doing it at 62). So weird that, despite i love it, i have to 'push' myself ....... I do love to hear you speaking to us directly, as if a friend is talking to me! Lots of love and have a lovely week 💕
Hi Daria,t hank you again for sharin! I feel that for me being alone does not mean that Im alone. On the contrary I enjoy it alot, and it is the best time for prayer when Im alone. And of course there's a time for everything. Being alone is challenging but it is those challenges that keeps us Growing on these very difficult times that the world is living today. Oh my its funny how there was a spider near you! Because last week I was doing something and a spider was also approaching me! So I suppose we're not that alone! 😄😉 🌸🌻🌸🌻🌅
Wonderful video & sensitive topic for me. I have spent these later years very much alone due to circumstances, but I have found life & solace in books, music, & in nature. The arts express the state of loneliness beautifully, as well. I hope you’re enjoying the colorful spring & thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I adore your way of thinking and talking it out, I am also an introvert who gets exhausted by constant company of others but still seeks connection with the right people. My best friend moved away as well and ı can understand you so well. Sitting with the right people and not putting much effort by simply being your true self is so relieving. We should keep in mind that life is everchanging, so you never know, maybe you'll meet your kindred spirits soon ...
I feel the same. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about loneliness because it's something we don't talk about enough or acknowledge as being ok to actually crave being alone. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, but society seems to put so much negative pressure on us to conform to social "rules" that don't fit us as individuals. I too get exhausted by being around too many people, or with a person who talks too much because it takes so much energy to focus and listen to them when they don't seem to understand that conversations should be two-sided, and they just unconsciously don't think about their companion's right to interject or share. I usually arrive home after such an experience feeling disrespected and even anonymous because I wasn't seen or heard myself - I just ended up feeling like a sounding board. I don't feel lonely when I'm painting or sewing or reading. I'm lucky to have things to do that fulfill me in that way. But you're right about something else...how spending time with people today seems to require planning because life is so busy, people are involved with work and their families and just trying to take care of their necessities. Spending spontaneous time with a friend is an almost impossibility. Please do share more topics like this. I think there are so many of us who have connected with your words. You help more than you know.
I love you talking to the camera, you should do that more often 😊. I love being alone although I am an extravert person but because of a burnout fifteen years ago, I can't be in groups anymore, it costs me to much energy. Even loud noises are problematic. So I live in the Netherlands in a cabin near the forest with my six dogs and I love that, I never feel lonely. I work from home but I have two friends in the neighborhood who I speak regularly. Thanks again for this lovely video ❤
Oh boy, this video resonated with me. I recently been doing alot of Self Discovery, and found out that I am a INFJ. I am a Intervort, but I do enjoy meeting New People but on one on one. I'm not into Crowds. I used to be so out there meeting people and being Social. But since I got Sick, I've had to change my Lifestyle. I do struggle with Loneliness, even though I am happily married. But sometimes I miss my Old Life!! I have alot to learn about Self Discovery! Thank you for this video! I think if we ever met in person, we would become fast friends 😊☺️🙂
Introvert here. Everything you said about being alone and enjoying one-on-one interactions but loathing large groups is exactly how I feel. It's possible I missed it along the way, but if you're comfortable sharing, it would be interesting to hear more of your story. You mentioned moving away from home to England when you were sixteen. That sounds quite interesting and unlike most people's experiences.
😃👍 Loved this video so much, Daria!! 🤗 Suddenly, it was as if I had popped up there in the secret garden in front of you! 🤭 (Although I would have certainly jumped away when the spider passed by!! 😱😂🤣😅) Naturally, being an introvert like you, I totally agree with everything you expressed!👌😊 I'm so happy you're there to say these things! Thank you so much!! 🙏👏👏👏🥰😘
I adore you Daria! Like you, I often find myself seeing just my partner when he comes home, if I don't ever go shopping, even though my family, his family and my best friend live nearby. I guess I'm a loner by choice and I also love it, but sometimes I crave company so much that I start calling everyone I know just to seek a bit of connection!
Thank you very much Daria! I love to be alone sometimes but my family often needs my presence and support, my colleagues too.. and so I look for someone little precious moments to be with myself, especially during the night 😅.. see you!
¡Mil gracias!!! 🥀🍃 Me encantó este video, me considero introvertida, y este tema es sensible, no siempre se comprende esta situación. Me gustó la sugerencia de buscar conexion cuando no se está a gusto con estar solo. Convivir consigo mismo es muy importante. Gracias de nuevo por la frescura de este video y por tu sonrisa. Cuídate bien y disfruta de la naturaleza 🌿🪻🌸🌼 Saludos desde Costa Rica 🇨🇷
I think it's okay to feel lonely sometimes, even when you're around people, including your family. I don't know, at least that's how I feel sometimes. btw looove the thumbnail!
Being an introvert in my village is a nightmare...it is not possible to feel happy n enjoy life...but I try to except my self as I am in my little happy family...thank for sharing this video ❤
My son just graduated high school and my mother was here at our home. We watched your video together. We both resonate with you and your message. We enjoyed your video immensely. Please continue the chats in person we got so tickled over the spider with you! ...video highlight. ☺
Hey, I loved your smile in 8:51 and it was really nice to get to see you talking to us directly 😊 I also spend a lot of time alone, and I enjoy the company of youtubers such as you who just make me feel warm and cozy. Thank you!
Being comfortable in your own skin is a wonderful thing, solitude is a great time to reflect on yourself. Personally I use alone time to meditate and keep in touch with God (my higher power). But I like how you said there is a balance. Human beings are social creatures, so putting one's self out there is also a good thing.. Cheers.
I enjoy being alone, especially now that I'm retired after working years in a hospital, managing was worst; too many people to work with, disrespectfulness of others, responsibility for many etc being an introvert, it was exhausting, especially 24 hour call (wish I was paid for that). Now the silence and alone time is bliss. Loneliness hasn't come yet, as it's been only 4 years, and PTSD is what I'm working through and my relationship with God is so helpful. Thank you so much for sharing ❤, balancing life is key.
Another beautiful, contemplative video Daria. I can really relate to your topic. Being alone is mostly a positive experience for me even though I also love one on one conversation. Loved your time on camera and your adorable cat reminds me so much of Max, my part siamese. May I ask what is the lovely music you used at about 4:12 when you were hanging your laundry? Thanks again for your creative and sensitive works you share with us💚☺
I love being on my own. I actually prefer to shop alone, being in museums alone. The odd thing I don’t like being alone in public at restaurants, shows (which a rarely go to) or traveling. But sitting at a cafe on my own is glorious! I have my sketch book and lol my activity bag and I love just observing and ruminating on life and creative ideas.
It's strange that what she said , I feel the same way I'm kinda similar to her . Thanks for making this video and i really prefer staying alone than big groups who don't appreciate my choices.
Like you I became alone due to circumstances but I am loving it now. I have a few precious friends I trust with all my heart. But I love my own company. Big crowds exhaust me.
I have that as well, when I am with people, it is difficult for me to focus on myself. I go with my attention mostly to the other one in conversation. Socialising, i don" t like that, but you have to sometimes.
Interesting.. when I was in my teens, 20's, I loved being around others, I'm now 53.. and very much introverted and I love it.. I do feel somewhat isolated at times or socially disconnected, I own this, however I do enjoy my quiet life and solitude.
Thank you for yet another beautiful video! I love your content so much, it brings me so much peace and inspires me as a content creator myself! Your shots are so stunning and I love your message in this video 😊
I could really relate to you in this video. Yes, why is it so difficult to make a friend whom we can talk to whenever about whatever after becoming an adult? I would like to meet some kindred spirits but every time I try to make a new friend I either get disappointed or hurt. Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me.
After my workweek I love to spend a time alone. Actually I don't want to see or speak people. I feel like I need to restore myself. Thank you for your peaceful video!❤
This sounds so familiar to me. I moved from Denmark to the UK in 2004, got married and had kids. It can be so hard! I am happy here but it’s always with a bit of longing.
Great video! So great when you find a special place not many people go. I found an arboretum that i can visit occasionally and it's magical. Your cat is just gorgeous. Can we have a short video on her (?) one day? Please give her a pat from me and this is for treats. ❤🐈⬛❤
It gets really lonely as you approach 40. I wouldn't trade my single life with anything else but I do regret not compromising and finding someone when I was younger. I didn't think much of it then, never thought it was for me at the time, always thought I had plenty of time. Then suddenly whoosh you're over the hill and it's too late.
To be honest, people drain me, especially family.... I know, controversial. I have some lovely friends whom I've known for years and very occasionally I get to meet up with some of them. I do live with my husband but we are both loners if that makes sense. I lived for 12years on my own before I met him. I love being by myself and I am never bored. I am creative and have so many interests. I am almost 70 with many health and mobility issues. We are all different. ❤
It's so weird that you can also feel loneliness when you are with so many people, and you can be happy alone enjoying your own company too. It shows that only matters what you feel inside and the relationship you have with yourself.
"Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was." - Cheryl Strayed 🤎🍀
No i do choose to be alone, i am done with people using and draining me. And im not lonely i am genuinely happy. If i cultivate any healthy relationships that is fine , but i still can fall back on my own company. And like me i see you do not like the company of spiders.😃
Hello Can you please Remove Dimming Filters in video as Video looks very dark , Please use original clips Please!!!!!!! Don't know why but that darkish tone in entire video makes me sad , Please......
Feeling lonely and being alone are two different things, and I have felt them both. I often don’t have much to say to others, but when I’m comfortable with someone else I can have almost too much to say. I find I need a certain amount of time alone every day to be calm and happy. I love that you mentioned being bored by yourself. It’s almost an acquired skill. Thank you Daria. It was nice to see your face today. Have a wonderful day 💕
You are so right! Oh and I get the feeling, usually if I’m comfortable I can talk a lot, but a lot of people told me I’m too quiet before! 😅 It’s tricky isn’t it, but I’m glad us introverts and loners have space to be ourselves!
We both really liked this video. It was a nice treat when you sat and talked to us. My husband is an introvert. He doesn't like to be around alot of people. I like to be alone and also with people but not big crowds. Thank you so much ♥️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and your fear for spiders. I am an introvert also and love it. INFP, 54, single, works from home. Yes, I will occasionally socialize but happy to be home when it’s over.
All about balance ❤️ it’s hard to be alone but also hard to be around people too much. I’m not sure which word would describe it the best but there is a warm and pleasant solitude and then there’s loneliness, the sad and dark one. It’s important to have one but not the latter 🫠 beautiful video, and i loved the last part of it ❤️
Im a writer and being alone brings me peace tranquility as I go into different worlds within my stories. I’ve just started watching your channel and love it. You’re videos are so comforting to the soul. Love from Yorkshire England
