Don’t worry remi, I get those waves of sadness randomly too, but then I also realize how grateful I am to live the life I am living! Also don’t feel pressured to open up, take your time girl - we love you and will always support you! 💕
i went to therapy a month ago and my therapist said that it is normal and the only thing we can do is to embrace our feeling ald understand that it's ok to be sad ! if we want to cry , let's cry! It's the same with being happy, when we are happy we laugh , so why we can't cry if we need to!
No one is happy and energetic all the time. I know that when you were heavier, that was the personality you projected. But, I believe there were times when you were hiding deeply rooted insecurities. And maybe you didn't even realize it at the time. I do know that I started watching your channel less than two years ago. The one thing I noticed is how much you did for other people. I used to do the same thing, until I realized that I didn't feel like I was enough, so to keep friendships, I had to do extra things. When you decided to start an exercise/diet plan, that was you first step towards putting yourself first for a change. Self care is so important to our self esteems. How can you NOT change when your entire life is different. When I lost my weight, there were "friends" who would say, "All you talk about and do is diet and exercise. Where is the old Remi?" Then I realized that I had out grown these people. We all change over the years, and sometimes that means you need to just move on. You will always have the memories. Stand up for yourself, Remi. You have a terrific life now with wonderful friends and a healthy lifestyle. As for your clothes, if you look good in them, wear them!!!! You always look adorable to me... and your body shape will continue to change after you have lost the weight. (sorry for the long comment, I just went through the same thing when I was your age!)
I relate to this too much. When I started to improve, "friends" started getting mad at me and belittling me EVEN more. Sometimes you need to grow to know who cares about you
Liz He It is a hard time in life when you realize your "true" friends are not who you thought the were. When you become "competition" they turn on you. I am much older than most of the subscribers... but I feel like Remi's life is so much like mine was at her age. I finally went to a therapist who said, "You must be your own best friend. That means being kind, patient, encouraging, and loving to yourself." So I did! No more negative self talk!!
*omg Remi I literally go through the same thing you go through & I thought I was just going crazy & was the only one. I can be perfectly fine then all of a sudden I just feel so sad and alone for no reason. Just like you said, it can last all night or just 10 min, but trust me you're not alone. It's so crazy that other people go through it too. I've talked to friends and family about it, but no one ever really knew what I was going through because I would randomly get sad for legitimately no reason at all. I love how you're opening up on your own time and pace & it really does help knowing im not alone. Wishing nothing but the best for you Rem 💕*
I am older then you and you still inspire me. You are the only YT I have actually recommended to my daughter to watch. Girls of all ages can benefit from watching you. Thank you for being you🤗❤️
Remi I relate to you. I never liked to open up about myself. I still don't, but I try so hard to let others in. I was always seen as a tough strong girl, you know that wasnt sensitive, but I am and not a lot of people know that. But you are my inspiration to let others in. ❤💋
I don’t usually comment on your videos but I felt like this comment was necessary. I feel that society and this generation has confused the difference between change and growth. I just watched Nikis video about everything you’re dealing with, but there was one thing that suck with me. You mentioned that people hated on more now then before you lost weight and I guess that just contributes to societies expectations. no matter what we do, we’re not good enough for their standards. And lately I’ve noticed that people choose to bring down social influencers becuase of the things they choose to see. They say you’ve changed, but who hasn’t changed within a year or a couple weeks? There’s a difference between change and growth. And I think you’ve been through both. ITS NOT WRONG TO CHANGE, remi is changing and growing mentally/physically for herself and no one has the right to tell her not to do so. Remi you have inspired yet another piece of advice that I think society needs a lot of right now. I hope that you continue to succeed and see the best of what you’ve accomplished and what you hope to accomplish
_Angelica _ exactly what I said. She’s a young adult. This is the time when we’re supposed to be figuring out what we want. She’s not married and doesn’t have kids so she should be focused on herself.
_Angelica _ TOTALLY!! When I think about the amount of change and growth I went through between 20-25, it’s huge! And I think that’s completely normal 💕
Yes!!! I am 39 and love watching Remi’s videos as well as all of her friends who are her age who are you tubers… In fact I just love RU-vid in general and this is something that I see from a lot of big RU-vidrs, who are normally in their 20s...either early 20s or later 20s, that I’ve been watching for a couple years and they always talk about how people get pissed at them for changing. But growing and changing is just such a normal part of life and I don’t understand why viewers who are also changing and growing in their own personal lives get so angry at social media influencers who are literally doing the same thing. I am not the same person I was a year ago, two years ago, six years ago, 10 years ago you know? I mean evolving, growing and changing is just what happens in life.
Hi Remi! I just wanted to let you know that there is a God out there and from the moment you were born He had every single day planned out for you. And you are His daughter and He loves and cares about you more than you could ever imagine. He can change your life in the best way possible if you just let Him in❤️
❤️❤️❤️ it is our hormones, I know we only think about them during that time of the month but a stressful moment from the day prior can affect how we feel today. If anyone is having more then occasional depression then needing to see a doctor is definitely needed cause there is help and you don't have to feel alone, so many of us go through it and all you need to do is speak up and seek help. Being sad sometimes is normal though we do all go through it but the older I get I realize how much lack of sleep or bad eating habits or just having an argument with your bf can creep up on you days later but I also know exercising is sooo good for your mind as well as your body, it increases the Serotonin levels in your brain we make you feel calmer and happier. I only wish everyone a happy night⭐️💋
Tu Reyna Nena Baybee I am so sorry, it's such a different death, different emotions. My brother killed himself and I had 4 other cousins kill themselves. We all on my dad's side of the family have OCD and we are all medicated for it but unfortunately some people the meds just do not work I remember when I was 16 trying to explain to my mom that I had these weird things I needed to do like the books on the shelf NEEDED to be straight, I mean I HAD to fix them before I went to sleep or I would start to obsess. Back then there was not a name for it so we didn't do anything. Mine grew so extreme that going out of the house was such a chore, between counting & touching everything 4 times and the germs, it was exhausting! I did however see a psychiatrist and after a ton of trial and error we found the right meds and dosing for me & now I still have panic attacks but they are much fewer and less extreme. My brother started self medicating himself with marijuana and alcohol when the medications were not working on him and after a long fight he killed himself. It was sooo hard on me cause we were so so close and with it being he did it, I had anger in such a way that made grieving difficult. It was years until I coped with it, I needed professional help to get through it ( if you want to call it that cause I still cry at the mention of his name) Mental Health is SO important, people that have problems are missing chemicals in their brain just like a diabetic is missing insulin let's say. Murders, rapists, many many homeless have mental conditions, could you imagine if they put more of an importance on it how much suffering could be handled. I do think the word has gotten out more then ever but with that you also have many that are being misdiagnosed or just diagnosed with something they do not have. I remember when my kids were younger I swear half of my son's class were ADHD & getting older it was Bi Polar and those are some scary drugs being prescribed if they truly don't have it, you know. One of my friend's sister was misdiagnosed and she went to a forest preserve poured gasoline all over herself and lit her & the car on fire, the doctor they were seeing did not find her to have Bi Polar and changed her meds. She had just been married and bought a new house, she should of been happy but did this instead. I am so so sorry for going into this so deep, I hear suicide and I just ramble. Suicide Awareness is so so close to my heart and think I need to educate everyone. Thank you for listening and I am so glad your friend did not succeed, if they could just understand how much of what they are going through just will not mean much to them in like 6 months you know. I will keep your friend in my prayers tonight❤️🙏🏻 Sleep tight my dear.
Bella Allen Thank you so very much, my brother happened many years ago ( not that I don't miss him every day) I am just very passionate about spreading info on mental illness and suicide, it's my way of coping cause that's all we can do. Losing one person is to many.
Remi I can 100% relate. Sometimes I get these waves of sadness even for days at a time! It might be the feeling of being alone without my friends I'm not really sure but you talking about it actually helped me so much and that is the main reason why I love your vlogs. I feels so good when you know that someone else understands and I could never put a video out on the internet explaining it all so remi you are so strong for doing this and you have truly grown so much as a person. Well you were talking about how you feel and just letting some of those feelings out you were saying everything that I feel and I didn't even know how to put it into words so when you did it helped ALOT kind of similar to how just talking about things with niki helped you. I don't know if your going to see this or have the time to read it all but to everyone I just want to say that others can relate to your feelings and people are really thinking about you!💕💕have a good day everyone cause u r BEAUTIFUL!!!
I get those waves of sadness too. Sometimes I just feel drained and sometimes I want to cry. It changes all the time for me. I feel ya girl, you can get through it. You have such a strong soul and kind heart. Watching your videos just boosts my energy. Love you!!!
I also get waves of sadness as well... but then I just have to remind myself how grateful I am to have the life I have! Btw, I love these long vlogs! 🤟🏻💖
i definitely have random waves of sadness, especially when i'm alone and reflect. i'm in between an introvert and extrovert so i do need alone time to recharge but sometimes when i'm alone too much, i find myself sad more often. i just wanted to let you know i completely understand!! thank you for opening up.
the waves of sadness are a real thing, I go trought the same sometimes with no reason, and is amazing to know that more people goes trought the same, I love that you are more open about this stuff💛
I know exactly what you mean remi. I also get like these waves of sadness, there’s no reason or time span for them they just happen randomly. It’s really hard but we’ll get through it. Please open up more with us when you feel comfortable doing so. Cause sometimes I feel like I’m the only one that this happens to and it’s nice to know someone I look up to can relate to my true emotions
Hey! Ik this is prolly something you already know, but therapy helps! Ive been going to therapy recently, and i am also afraid to open up. Talking to a professional can really validate your problems! (You don’t necessarily need to be mentally ill to seek therapy, EVERYONE can benefit from it.)
Panic! At the Everywhere just make sure you get it privately and not theough insurance. Most people arent aware but therapists that are through insurance take notes of your problems and put it on your medical records. Other doctors and anyone with permission can access private things that you said. My gen practitioner knew embarrasing thoughts and private things via my medical records bc of this and it was not fun.
6 months ago I was diagnosed with depression and i was scared to tell anyone because I’m usually the “Happy” person, people will tell you you’re fake, but the reality is that we are humans, we cry, we laugh and every emotion in between. I ended a relationship with a guy that question my emotions instead of trying to understand that I wasn’t always gonna be happy. Keep at it beautiful Queen ♥️
remi!!! what you feel is what me (and many other people) experience as well! i always try to be the best person i can be, but the occasional sadness comes along and i think that’s completely normal. i understand the idea of opening up to others and you can always choose what to share and what not to share! only show the camera what you feel comfortable with because people can use that against you and i would absolutely hate to see that! and especially take your time, you are under no pressure or time limit. you deserve to be happy (and have your sad moments as well) and i wish you nothing but the best, we love you remi!
I have those waves of sadness once in a while and it feels like a homesick feeling...can't really pinpoint what brings on those emotions but i certainly get them every so often. I feel like it's just a reminder to be grateful for what we have and to tell everyone we love them
Honestly, I've totally had those waves of sadness before. I find that it comes out of nowhere too, which is probably an indicator that it's hormone-related. I've learned to put it into perspective, remind myself that it always passes and then it's just a temporary state of mind, as best as I can. I've also noticed that triggers (for me at least) are lack of sleep and drinking. Maybe start logging how many hours of sleep your getting/diet/drinking/etc and then log when those waves are happening in order to find your triggers! thanks for opening up. xo
I was raised by Romanian parents and I had the absolute same issues of keeping all of your problems inside. I will say I'm surprised because your mom has always looked like the type of mom who does stress the importance of going through your issues. That just goes to show how little we see of other people's lives. I absolutely adore you and I'm so so proud of you for how far you've come! You're such a radiant ray of sunshine. Keep glowing girl! Love you!!!!
Remi when you said waves of sadness just hit you I totally relate!!! It really helps me to know that I am not alone with that because I didn't think that anyone else was feeling that way. Love you so much
Just know that you’re never the only one going through these things. By you opening up, you’re helping people who feel alone with these issues, cope with it.
I totally understand what your going through Remi. I get waves of sadness sometimes too, and I so appreciate you being so real with us. It’s a good reminder that even RU-vidrs have their own struggles.
Yeah i get waves of saddness I really don’t know why but I’ll just have some time where i am crying and thinking about everything I regret and wish hadn’t happened but it’s all good by the next day, and sometimes even the next minute. Just think about the good stuff and remember it will all be better soon. We love you Rem!💗💗💗
It's completely normal to have those random waves of sadness, I get them a lot more than I'd like to admit. I also know how it feels to be afraid of putting the more sad or depressing moments online, especially when you're an influencer. I just rebooted my channel and it's hard to not mention the tough times I went through because I feel like it might bring down the mood of my viewers and in a way make me seem pathetic. Remi, you and I are completely different people with literally the same issues. I'm also on a weight loss journey, where I've lost ten pounds and counting, life is confusing but you just have to keep pushing and do what makes you happy. #StayStrong&KeepThriving
remi i get that too! Im such a happy and bubbly person but sometimes randomly i just get sad and then i get annoyed and i find it SO hard to snap out of which upsets me even more!
And also I love that you're trying to be more open with us. And I know what you mean, I get those random waves of emotions but can't pinpoint them or know how long they'll last. And I do the same thing, remind myself how blessed I am and all the happy things currently in my life
Just watched Niki's video and it was wonderful and you did a great job opening up and it was very informative. never clicked on a video so fast! (this one lol) but you are so inspiring and I love you so much!!
Hey remi just wanted to let u know we are here for u I’ve been here for u since u first started at ur parents house when u were in ur room with the purple walls😩 u have put an amazing impact on my life ❤️
So funny you’re talking about being sad. I was actually in LA for vacation a couple weeks ago. I was so happy, so care free with one of my best friends and I got a HUGE, overwhelming wave of sadness. I felt it and began to reflect, “what’s going on with me? I’m on vacation with one of my best friends. I should be so happy right now.” It’s happened to me more than once. Even when things are going great, I get in these weird funks. I can never pin point exactly why it happens. I’m so glad you shared because now I don’t feel so alone! Love you, Remi!!! Thanks for being you no matter how you’re feeling :)
Remi! I suffer from BPD bipolar personality disorder. Some days I feel extremely happy and extremely sad. Sometimes I know why but sometimes it’s a feeling that lingers. Don’t ever let your sadness define you though. You are such an inspiration! Thank you for opening up 💕
Same for me. Growing up in a Carribean household we where also taught family problems stayed in the family no matter how serious. It's weird because when you age with that mindset you have a hard time opening up to people like even best friends and significant others. That can put a strain on relationships.
I'm so proud of how far you've come Remi and I have those moments when I can be happy or had a wonderful time with friends and suddenly I just get overwhelmed with sadness. You are not alone and you opening up helps us all so much. Thank you for opening up to us Remi.
Remi I literally relate to you so much when you said the waves of sadness!! You'll be perfectly fine and then all the sudden you get sad out of no where. I feel like you just need to surround yourself with the right people and we just need good vibes surrounded by us! I love you so much remi!
remi is my favorite RU-vidr- she always puts me in a good mood and she’s so real- I know she probably won’t see this but I love it when your real!!! Also giving all those lipsticks was soooo kind of her & tarte! Love you remi!❤️ ps. Also I have Invisalign too! (Which I’m very thankful for) but I know the struggle when you can’t eat anything because you don’t want to take the Invisalign out😂😂
It happens to me too and I also have no idea what it is. Sometimes I get this weird emotion of sadness and it completely washes over me for quite some time and in that moment I get so moody and I just wanna be left alone. Last time when it happened I was with my friends at the party and I literally shut down and wanted to move away from people. Weirdest thing ever.
I do go through those waves of sadness and it sucks but at the same time after the phase I feel so much better bc I remember all the friends I have and my amazing family so it’s almost a good thing! Just remember everything happens for a reason and if one bad thing happened it happened to get you to good things. I didn’t really know how to put that into words so that whole thing kinda sounds messy but anyways I love you so much and keep thriving girly💓
I get waves of sadness too. It’s so random and honestly annoying. I could be having a great time and all of a sudden I’m sad and I kind of just have to wait for the feeling to pass. I also am way to scared to open up to people bc Im afraid to be vulnerable. Your not alone remi 💙 life is hard and crazy, but also amazing, and we all are going through it. Your not alone.
Having you be so real with us really makes me feel so good because it lets me know that its okay to feel down sometimes because it happens to amazing people i look up to and who i honestly forget sometimes that ur normal like us and u go through emotions too
Yeeesssss totally feel you! I think people are like I just want to be happy with my life but being happy and being sad is not a destination it’s a feeling. You are a star!!
yes remi!!! i definitely get waves of sadness too for no reason. and about being vulnerable, it won't make us hate you. i think it will show how you are relateable becuase many of us do get sad as well. but anyways, keep doing you because we love u!
Also, I too get waves of depression from time to time, almost randomly. Often, being an introvert , being around lots of people can be draining and make me feel alone in a crowded room. Even when everything in my life is at a high, like now, my brain tells me to feel down. For me, it's a strange mental thing. Whatever it is, I feel you. :)
your vulnerability not only in this video but in the other one too is SO beautiful.. You are human, Remi.. never apologize for going through your struggles. within your struggles you've stumbled upon your strengths and only the strongest can take something really crappy that happens or falling into being sad or dare i say depressed even if only for a couple of minutes and pull themselves back together and see the beauty of it. You are an inspiration to me and SO many other young girls and boys. Ive been watching your channel for a little bit before i actually subscribed and now i am HOOKED! you've inspired me to be more aware of the way i treat people, and more aware of my body and food and also to branch out and try something new like a spin class! I admire that you're nice to everyone, and choose to see the world as a glass half full. Keep on being so brave and strut your stuff babe!! you deserve it 💕
maybe you're feeling nostalgic? sometimes you just realize how much things have changed and then we miss old times or old memories or something that was and we just feel nostalgic.
I’m a cancer sign and I have crazy unexpected mood swings. I understand how you feel completely, it’s the worst sometimes but I think it’s normal beloved. I love you so much, you’re such an inspiration to me.
Thank u so so much for letting me be brave enough to get my BUTT UP and lose wheight without loosing self confidence!! You have helped me to be happy and fit. Love you so much remi and thank u so much for helping me to get my butt out of the chair and WORK OUT. You have helped me with my self confidence even if i look skinner or not!! THANK U REMI!! LOVE YOUR VIDS btw I go through the same thing to and I feel like it’s just the devil trying to bring u down! Don’t worry remi!!💖✨😻🌻🐳🐬🍃
I’m not one to normally comment on videos, BUT I just needed to say that I’m so glad you’re opening up more with what you’re going through & how you’re feeling, even if it only applies to one moment in your life. You are SO strong, & vulnerability is just another sign of your strength. You are not alone, & you are ridiculously loved & admired, even by people like us who only know you through your videos. We adore you, Remi. Keep being real & beautiful!
I literally feel the exact way remi like you said it comes in waves and I don’t know really what is but I can truly relate. Open up more if you want to when you want to cuz it’s hard for me to open up as well! Love you remi! Keep being you!
Remi, if u feel uneasy about your acne scars, u can try laser to improve it. My friend did it and results are amazing. The only problem is that laser is expensive! Love you, thank you for your positivity!
I go through that pretty often, you aren’t alone!! Just know that whether you choose to keep it to yourself or start being more open you have an army behind you ❤️
we all get sad sometimes. its pretty normal for me, and it happens no matter how great your life is or how happy you are. just keep pushing through because everyone loves you, remi :)
I hate to say this but my life could be much better. N when I get depressed or anxiety even, or in your case sad moments. If I can I try to just say out out what I'm grateful for, " my legs for walking, my brain that functions regularly, my ability to have contacts or glasses, and most of all my heart that still beats for me even when times I give up" things like that. And overall I try to remember that yes this may be hard for me but it's just not that bad(even if it may be bad lol) because someone out there would do anything to get what I have. Embrace the good problems (should read the subtle art of not giving a... by mark Manson). Yesterday was history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That's why they call it the present 😉 luv you Queen R! ❤️
I totally understand where you’re comig from. I’m always happy especially when i’m around my friends, i try to give out positive energy when i’m outside but at some point, it gets really tiring that when i’m all alone, i get this sudden wave of sadness where i just cry for a good 30 minutes and I wouldn’t even know why i was sad in the first place. Yesterday i had niki and gabi’s out from under you song on repeat and i was just crying that i had to go for a late night run just to calm myself. So it’s really nice to know that others are feeling the same way aswell and i’m not just crazy or anything 😂 we love it when you get real with us rem ♥️
Remi i 100% agree with you about how you were talking about waves of sadness hit you and it changes your mood so fast. I think a lot of people go through it.
i go through that stuff as well and usually, it's at night. it's ok to go through this because it happens. i have had this forever and i get scared that i have depression. and we all love you and you help me through it and i am here when you need support
Hey Remi I’ve been subscribed to you for 3 years now and I just love the journey you’re in. You’re incredibly inspiring!! A few years ago I started dealing with anxiety. And when you were talking about your emotions I get that feeling when my energy needs to be refueled. It’s hard when you’re constantly on the go, but don’t forget to have some you time to really recharge, refuel, and relax. It’s very normal but not a lot of people talk about it. So thank you for saying something 🙌🏼You’re a burst of sunshine for us, you’re only human 💕 Don’t forget to have some you time- UNPLUGGED.