Signs You're Afraid of Intimacy 

Same

Ikr

Same, ha Haha Hahaha I love everyone else, though. Have a nice day, bye!

this is me but even when people try and be friends and then in my head im like wHY do U WANT TO haNG oUt WiTH mE??

Jep sounds like me. What a club.

this is depressingly true

our jesus

it's like that one person that always pays netflix

bless

@Gytis Stankevičius The depressing part is that I can't afford those and have to put up with video's on RU-vid

Ong

Omg this hit me....

I've never felt more attacked

Yeah no

oml yes

this is me, I don’t really know what’s wronggg

@Clinton Reisig this comment is so funny idk why 😂😭💀 I hope you find the one bro

@Clinton Reisig I love me a fat booty tho

@Clinton Reisig yeah I see why you're single. women wont date you if you objectify them.

thedifferent14 happening to me right now, i feel like he likes me but i’m too scared to actually be in a relationship that i’m scared to tell him

Plus the long distance friend we all need :D

Right? I didn't even know I needed this, but it speaks to my soul

Anna is very weird, soo........ Get a real one .......pleeeeeeease

Agreed!

With a side order of thirst trap.

Midnight Commander 😂

are you sure you're glad ?

700th like!

I need this on a poster.

I died at this

Unless you have an anxious attachment style

I have...both, kinda.

Then I guess my crush might be the one, even though we're not dating.

I did find one like that but I'm pretty sure I screwed up my shot lol

This gives me a whole new perspective

Dang that hit me

Ahem. Same here 👀

But where is this cominh from?

Same 😂

😂😂😂😂 AHAHAHA I LOVE THIS....I HOPE MY CRUSH DOESN'T SEE THIS CAUSE IF HE DOES "HIS" SELF WORTH IS GOING DOWN LOL

Mylife.

Me... I'm here 🙃

🤔 I think your a lithromantic

Can’t relate. No one likes me

Same!

me too

lalauma lmao I don’t know how to respond. Cause I don’t agree with them 😂 “You look pretty.” “Oh look, a tree.”

I have the same problem. Well if friends tell me something nice it is not that bad...but it is also different.... but when strangers give a compliment ( it doesnt even matter if it is a girl or a guy) it feels very strange....but especially when guys tell it. Idk ...I always feel like they are lying....

i dont know if its a girl think to get compliments, but i cant remember getting a compliment by anyone im not related to. (I did have a relationship once, but that was when i was 14 and she was my childhood friend.

Baekhyun’s Chopsticks I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING

@@n.fer.2596 Me too

Definitely both!

Ye had the exact same thang xD

Jfc trueeee

@Lady snake84 that is how you get put in the friend zone.

Not necessarily, the friendzone is fake in the sense that the rules state that if you where not friends or if you tried earlier they’d be into you when that just isn’t the case. If they would like you in that way they already would. Both people need to be interested to have a relationship my dude

Doesn't work for everyone. Personally if I don't sleep with a girl soon enough, I slowly start to see her more and more as a sister and eventually lose my sexual desire for her.

of course, Anna is talking about her own case and problems, while yours might be totally different. Might be a good thing to look into :) But thanks Anna for making me feel less weird again. I can tick a few boxes there, and also as a serial monogamist I never considered myself to be afraid of real human connection, but I learned last year that I do. I'm doing better now, and you will too!

same

Your reply was honest and courageous. Thank you for sharing it with everyone.

@@pixie_laluna I think it's the same for me. I'm not necessarily AFRAID of intimacy, but I don't want it right now. I want to advance my life and become someone with financial independence, an advancing career, more maturity, etc. I'm also pretty young (17) and so I'm living underneath my parents roof still. I'm not so afraid as I am just knowing it's not the right time

Jonathan Paspula I just only wish I had as much insight as you do at your age. I use too but as I got older I ignored life as a whole. Just never loose focus of your goal. I’m 25 and just now figuring this all out!

SAME. The level to which I felt personally attacked was too damn high.

Right!

Wtf is wrong with u

Sameeee damn whts wrong with me 😥

Me tooooo

Why is this me

Clash Smchitcle and that’s why you will end up with 10 cats sweetie. Go see a therapist

I feel you

right there with you! also clueless and 23

We should make a club

@@Palangkikay We should probably make our own dating site.

@Bekah L. so true! I've been dating since I was 16 (I'm 25 now) and I honestly still have no idea what I'm doing!! Time to focus on family, friends and hobbies! :DDD

kyia belle you and me both

Me too💘

Thats the magic mixture !!! : ) So I hear.

Clinton Reisig go back to 4chan

@Clinton Reisig sexist much?

That is actually really good advice... thank you!

@@bolas5838 wait who?

DarkLight523 that dude will go far in life. You too. Not sure about your sister tho.

That dude is perfect. I still remember my ex being kinda clingy in a way? He was like 'Plz tell me why I don't deserve u and vice versa??' I clearly told him I didn't want anything to do with him after.

Is Elliot single ?👀

Elliot sounds like dat boi where is he at I want to befriend him

That's really sweet

I think people don't understand that many men can hide this feeling. I know I can, everyone thinks I'm normal and just haven't "found" the right one. They have no idea I have terrible anxiety at the prospect of begining a relationship. Boys have some terrible childhoods too.

You damn right. I was dating a guy that I now realise was afraid of intimacy. He absolutely broke my heart, I kept asking him what I did wrong and he only said he didn't know. Beware the people that afraid of intimacy, they will break your heart

@@starcherry6814 unless you find one who wants to work through it. But if you insult him for it or otherwise react like the one who hurt him early in life (usually Mama) he will flee like an abused cat at an open door.

Thats why you date for years then youre engaged for years. Not only to confirm loyalty but for these intamacy things. Old fashioned works.

Gregory Peterson this right here i feel you man i only got like 2/3 girlfriends from online dating i AM terified of girls i font know why

Indirectly you asked people to beware of Me!!

:(

Oops 👉👈

Well that hurt.. i like them so much. I don’t want to be afraid of getting closer to them.. I’m working on it ok ;-;

For all the girls in her situation: You are all healthy women, you are attracted to men that dont care about you because that is a sign of high status in males (Since means abundance in female options to mate), evolution puts "the challange" that if you can change his attitude you will be rewarded with an upgrade in your social status and multiply your chances of survival, both of you and your offspring. Men know this and play along because we are designed to have as much sex with different women as we can (Again, this is a sign of a healthy male) That is why you dont feel attracted to a male that makes "everything right", since that is a sign that you (female) are not upgrading your social status. In more simple words, "bad guys" are the real price in evolution, you like them because you have everything right in your instinct, unfortunatelly for you, nature and evolution couldnt care less about your happiness or your long term mental health, and that is why antidepressants are becoming a trend in women, if a man treats you well you cant be aroused, you could settle down with him, but always feeling like he is inferior to you, or you could remain single and eventually your fertility will go away and with it your chances of getting a high status male. In the past, your grandma knew this and it was her duty to force you to not make this "mistake" (Is not really a mistake since is nature), and the way they did it is by arranging marriages and not letting women "sleep around". In our times, thanks to the sexual revolution we are all free and left alone with nature/instincts. This trait of human nature has been explained in all cultures, even in modern times in popular shows such as Seinfeld ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-0UXR8444n8c.html

Haha

Omg same! I get shock and confuse when i get "goodmorning" texts so I back away and dont reply

I literally just friend-zoned a guy who liked me and I liked him because he was being sweet all the time and I thought it was too much and weird.😂

@@ClassicAlberto interesting.... and do you know this applies to asexuality? Or the LGBTQ community in general? Perhaps even same sex couples? 😯🤔

nah the feelings and struggles you have are just relatable to a wide audience, Anna is the is the one speaking about it but you could go on the street, talk to anyone and they'd feel the same way. maybe talk more about your feelings with your friends and family, I'm sure you're just staying quiet

Dude. Same.

Right

I really hope this encourages you to open up to the people inn your life who you feel might be most thoughtful.

Honestly yes because there’s someone out there experiencing something similar But it does not take away from what you are experiencing only you can understand that it isn’t something a person cannot get past

New best friend lol

“i’m damn good at rationalizing my self sabotage” the truest damn thing i’ve ever heard in my entire life

can we bond over our intimacy issues? but like in a non intimate way of course.

@@ForeverFashionGirl21 yes definitely

Wow..You have no idea how much I just related to this😂😂

This was mentioned in other comments, but look up lithromantic. There's also frayromantic, but that doesn't sound like your case.

I guess the fact that you’re seeing someone and you’re getting turn off after they showed their affection, you’re just thinking a lot of things or paranoid about it , it’s takes time to get there . Just try and date that person with no rush , I’ve been there it’s takes to get comfortable.

@The Absolute Madman wrong

When flirting goes too far🙄

Improve yourself

This is me too

This is me

same. i always thought it was fear of rejection, but didn't know i also had fear of being intimate with someone else. good to know, i guess...

Same

Good luck!

Same thing, but with me it's definitely fear of rejection. No idea where it came from, but it's kinda there.

Ethereal Dinamo Thank you!

Amaya The Otaku I feel the exact same

I don’t have a dad so does that mean I have dad issues too?

I've literally loudly announced my dad issues at parties so no one gets the wrong idea

Big mood.

ME TOOOO

Yeah, I think it really is the wisest thing to do. That's why so many relationships are failing imo-peoe don't get to really know each other first on a friendship level. Because when they jump straight into romance, the lines become blurred with all the hormones that get involved. Hence, why so many married couples obviously start out in love, love each other...but further down the line, can't stand one another, because they don't actually LIKE one another 100%.

100% open to building a friendship vs a relationship as well

same

Same that’s how all my relationships were

I hope this will work out for you, rooting for you!

Same age. The only thing I haven’t done with a girl is having an actual relationship. I did date a few times. And I had sex a few times. (Those two sentences are not related.) That’s about it.

I mean if you think about it. Beening intense with someone you just met at first is a huge stretch and just puts a lot of stress In my point of view ya know. It should just be chill and getting to know the person first. If you instantly like someone at first glance I'll just assume its lust and that feeling never stays the same.

​@Obakeng Ngoepe Great question. I had a LOT more work to do than to just watch her videos, including going to therapy, addressing my deepest fears and desires, speaking to lots of people, etc.... and then 1.5 years later after going through all that stuff (still going through more now) - I found the LOVE OF MY LIFE. I LITERALLY DID. I had been online dating for 12 years, and I finally found someone incredible, same thing, online, when I was finally ready - someone that was at my level of maturity, ability to connect, ability to communicate and work through our problems, etc. The relationship is still work only because we're continuously working on keeping a safe space to share and understand each other better. Anyway, I thought I was cursed... but no, I just had to do the work. Good luck out there! And do the work if possible, if you have the resources, etc.

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Its honestly stunning how hard it is to do this lol, for me at least (And a lot of other people it seems like judging from the comments)

It's a shame that there's that me-too movement (just think there could have been a better name real lazy really everyone say me too when they have something in common 😒) think I loo... I loo...i-i-lo-loov... Me-too would have been funnier because if the whole "I love you...... Yeah me too" awkward reply that happens on films, shows and I guess real life

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What other similar channels do you know?

@@elizamaria3008 The School of Life, I really recommend it!!

@@missdaytonax Thanks :)

Right?! Also I love ur channel, La Guardia 🤗❤️

Bro... Especially the parent thing

The parent thing is what I’ve been thinking for myself. I crave intimacy, but I know if someone touches me, and I mean here like hugs, it’s incredibly uncomfortable. It’s so strange because I crave them too, but when it happens it’s unbearable. Like my skin gets sensitive to touch, as if the slightest contact is incredibly ticklish. I’ve been thinking lately that I’ve never seen my parents show intimacy, not so much as a complement even, throughout my childhood until now in my mid-twenties. I’ve been wondering if this has any bearing on my experiences.

Mine too

Please run away are you going to be collecting cat

She really is 😂 and I love it ❤️

@@bobno66 i like cats anyway

Yes ❤️

Fahtimma 😂😂😂 ❤️ This!

Love Guru reference, I caught that. ;)

w o a h 👁👄👁

genius

#mindblown

@@lefaek3720 lol

m444ria you must do all of these things 😂

Me too.

Good thing you're not the only one recognizing some things and feeling attacked (vulnerability?) ;)

Same

me and you both brother 🤠

COLLAB DO IT N0W

Same

Soo why do you think you have to marry someone? Ever thought about just going with the flow? Marriage is a very old concept. In my opinion it seems very unpractical in our modern society. Just don't do it, if you don't want to

LerobotZ While I agree that no one should get married if it's not their thing, marriage, secularly speaking, is a legal contract that grants you certain rights that would otherwise require their own separate legal contracts. Then there are the insurance and tax benefits.

first last I literally just wrote a novel about how I was terrified of getting caught in a failing marriage and you still say that women just get married so they can get cool stuff in a divorce? Maybe some women do but wow, thats next level insensitive

+Julia Homola Whoa...i'm a guy and i agree with all you said...girls do have this fear as well, interesting.

Moonlight Mochi Anna sees therapists, we watch her videos, THEREFORE.... Her therapists are our therapists 🤝

Me. I need them.

Oh I definitely need a therapist. That’s why I have both!

Haha, even though I'm male it's very relatable. I used to think the exact same thing. I'd say it's because you think either 'I don't deserve him' or 'He doesn't deserve me'. At least that was the case with me. My advice is: be assertive and talk to him anyway! In the worst case it's really awkward and you never see him again, in the better case you have a really fun conversation :D

OH MY GOODNESS i feel attacked by THAT comment more than anything anna said because i've never even been in a relationship hahaaaaaaa i feel your pain

Send money FOR help.

Stop being relatable this instant. *I feel attacked*

Blubbl Blab I have snickers bars...?

Magic mushrooms are supposed to help

Sounds like a typical woman

Corky Duke you’re annoying

Same but I love touching other people not in a weird way though.

plumear You spelled amusing wrong

nope. I spelled annoying correctly

Be a strong willed person. Grow up. Just look at the mirror and make a promise to yourself that you will love who you should love. My advice: Try to go back to your any past partner and try to make things work. Ask your partner what he/she is going through or is everything alright, keep asking them until they open up to you, then empathize for them to soothe their pain. Encourage them for their betterment, appreciate them for their works and love them unconditionally. If they cheat on you or if they leave you after that then they don't deserve you and move on.

that's called not knowing wtf you want like 3/4 of other girls

sounds like u needa meet the WOO

ArborParva tru and I don't know either

I’ve made new friends through volunteering at political events and also through partaking in Meetup.com events (like hiking clubs). I know adult friending can be tough!

A good friendship will feel good and you’ll just know it

HZLLVUSI SHE DOES WTF

AHMAHGAHD YAS

Haha, this also is very relatable. A lot of first dates were 'too good to be true'. Turns out I just thought I wasn't worth it. Too bad I'll probably never see one of them again.

omg right?! or if you don't feel an intense spark on the first date, i tell myself that that guy isn't right for me. If he messages me quickly, i think he's clingy..if he messages me after a while, i think he's too distant and doesn't like me. Love is way too complicated and yet so beautifully simple haha

Christine Prasad Very, very relatable 😅

@@christineprasad1547 well that's one toxic way of seeing it. No wonder why you're having trouble with this

@@xermy1648 ahaha fix me pls