Why I REALLY quit au pairing & How to Rematch 

Lmao the kids wearing dior I so relate to! I used to have to iron a babies dior dresses and I was like well, this is as close as I'm going to get to holding anything from this brand 😂😂

There really should be a list of red flag families for au pairs before they get stuck in families like that. How awful. I'm sorry you had to experience that.

As a host mom, I gotta give myself a pat on the back and maybe even tell my current AP to step her game up! I believe that AP’s should have disciplinary rights, since parents aren’t there all the time. Parents should let you know they’re style early on...my kid would have flown if they pulled that shenanigans. I’m also a firm believer about time off, who wouldn’t want a break?! Respect needs to be both ways. You also need to speak up, HP’s can’t read minds. As much as we sit down with you to voice our opinions, hopefully, that is your time to do that as well, at least, that’s what we do. Again, manners & respect are a two way street. Please stay safe and take care of your mental health!

I'm an au pair right now in Spain and I literally cannot imagine my situation looking like this. I am so happy you realize all the things wrong in that situation and how the family functioned as a unit. It is very upsetting that they treated you like that and it sounds like they took advantage of you in many different ways because you just didn't know what was normal and what is not. But for them to do that to anyone? Wow.

I normally never comment on videos but girl, I feel you. I worked for a vip family in the middle east and had been through the exact same situation you were. It was a different kind of hell and something I would never wish on anyone. The worst part of it is you cant really openly talk about it because theyre not just regular families but I admire you for finally speaking after some time. It takes courage. Salute!

I got chucked out of my family today after saying that I wasn’t happy with the situation and the way they treated me! I really needed this video!!!

I was going to AU pair but it honestly looks like a hit or miss kind of situation. People either LOVE it or HATE it, and idk if I want to take the risk and end up hating it. I’m going to teach English abroad instead. I’ve been a nanny/babysitter before and I’ve had some pretty bad experiences...I just feel like I don’t like being told what to do all the time or have the uncertainty of a schedule. I’m glad you at least got out of that situation and you’re sharing your story because it’s not always a positive experience.

I just received a message from my dream family asking me to be their aupair next year! I am so unbelievably excited to be aupairing in Berlin, Germany next year. I wanted to say thank you for all the resources! The skype question suggestions really helped me feel more confident.

thanks for sharing your story!! My first aupair experience was VERY similar, i was in italy last year, 19 leaving the US for the first time, waited it out until i was forced to look for a rematch. luckily i had made some great friends who helped me that week and ended up with a new family who truly made me feel welcomed and loved. Everything happens for a reason, I learned alot going forward. My rematch family was so great I went back to the same family a year later for a summer vacation

It’s so sad that you felt bad to quit when THEY were the ones taking advantage of you. Hearing your story makes me so angry that this happens all the time. I remember girls in my french classes would talk about literally having no time off on the weekends. It’s ridiculous! Something I wish I knew at the time and that most aupairs should know is that having an aupair is kind of a bargain. They pay for the visa but after that, what they usually pay is nothing in comparison to what they would pay a normal french babysitter or nanny. Families often make it seem like the aupair is the one getting the deal so they feel scared but leave but there are more families than there are aupairs

This is the opposite side when some families write down in their profile like « we’ll treat you like an elder sister », but in reality you’re more employée than a sis It was the same to me in China. I was a clown for the kid and knew this luxury chinese lifestyle. But it’s not for me. Maybe they expected it from previous au pair before, but I’m not like she. So I was really glad that I quit. And went traveling around South Asia and came back to my hometown What will you do now? Find a new family or? Stay strong, girl!!! I’m sure you’ll get through this sh**

The " we don't mean what we say thing" is the MO of host families! "We care about you! Nahh!"

im currently in the same situation in spain .. im ready to go lol the first 2 weeks were good. But the kids are a living nightmare literally . I have 4 months left in contract ! Trying to figure out how to express this without been rude ...towards the parents ! but im overwhelmed with the back talking & hitting

Thank you soooo so much for this video!! I think hearing some of my own experiences affirmed was the push I needed to leave and find a new family. I’m still hopeful I can find a more welcoming family❤️

Wow. It's incredible what you had to go through. I can't imagine how hard it must have been to have someone mock you in the face dismissing your honest feelings and being unappreciative of how hard you've worked for them. I'm glad you were able to quit! I'm not an au pair myself and had never heard of it until recently but stumbled on this channel after getting curious and doing some research. I can definitely see many au pairs (and those who want to become one) benefiting from your videos and community Really appreciate you sharing your experience 😃

Hectic experience for sure.... But I'm certain you're stronger as a person. We learn from every experience.....that's undeniable ! Better days ahead....

Edwina, you are such a positive person and it is honestly so refreshing to see. I always enjoy every video you both put out also, I’m becoming an apop member tonight! Have a good day. :)

Wow. I’m watching your videos as a future host mom in then the states and I can’t believe someone would treat you this way. Thank you for giving me some insight on the candidates that are requesting rematch. I hope that our au pair feels loved and part of our family when she comes. This worries me though as she is coming in the summer and the kids will be out of school. We were hoping to take her on a week long trip to water parks and the beach (definitely not the nice places you went) I’m hoping our match goes well.

I knew I had leave my first Finnish family after 2 weeks. I later found out that their previous au pair had also left them because of the host mom

I've been thinking about taking a gap year after I graduate high school and have been looking at being an Au Pair and doing lots of research. I've seen the stories and hope that if I become an Au Pair that this doesn't happen to me. I can't even be an Au Pair until almost December of next year since I'll be 18 then. I've been going back and forth on whether I want to be one but I also want to learn either Spanish, French or Chinese and this is the cheapest option. I'll have to wait until next year to see what I decide.

As a new host family, this breaks my heart. We would never expect this from our Au pair. On the flip side, it’s been very hard to find an Au pair that feels ready to make the jump and match with us. I know it’s a hard decision but it’s been so much harder to match than I thought.

I'm an Au Pair in the Netherlands right now and I have been here since August 2019. I did rematch at the start because my first family were a bit mental lol but now I'm with my current family and I am having the time of my life. Everything is amazing right now, I get treated a lot better, I actually feel a part of the family and I don't have to hide myself away at the end of every day. However, besides all of this, I really want to go home now. I went home for Christmas and maybe 2 weeks in between my rematching stage, and I've been here full time since January. I really just want to go home now, I miss my family, friends and pets so much. And now everything with the Coronavirus is making me so much more scared because the number of cases in the Netherlands now is 82 and it's scaring me because the government might start closing down airports, cancelling flights etc if the situation gets any worse. I want to get home before all of that happens and I have no idea how to tell my host mum. I already feel so bad about it because they've given me so much joy and happiness and I feel like such a bitch if I tell them I'm leaving. I'm meant to sty until August but there is no way I can last until then. Any comments and relief is much welcome!

i suggest that you please create a Facebook or what's App group for the au pairs abroad so they can help each other what to do and what not and exchange experiences and even make friends so u won't be so alone in that country and feel depressed and always get help or motivation

Honestly I am cracking and I don’t know what to do or how to handle the situation

Lool I would just leave in the middle of the night and go to a hotel and vacation in peace 🤷🏾‍♀️ and I wouldn’t tell them, I will enjoy picturing the looks on their faces. IDGAF 😂 the misery and panic they’ll go through trying to find another au pair ASAP will bring me peace😂 That’s why it’s important to ALWAYS TRAVEL WITH YOUR OWN MONEY!

Have you ever hosted for a single father? I want to invite an au pair to me home to help with my daughter, but I wonder if it's unconventional. Also I live in the California in somewhat of a rural area so I wonder if anyone would want to travel here. It is a touristy area though. But I mostly wonder if my being a single father would be a comfortable situation for an au pair.

I was an Aupair for 2 years the fist 1year was horrible but i managed to stay for 1 year because i need to save that money! Iwas overworked in vacation u must have ur own room for privacy reasons! I did sleep with the kids while parents have another room! Aupairs should be a parz of a family like a big sis not a slave or just part of household for work! I hope you find a very good host family next time ! ❤

Hi I am an Au Pair in sort of the same pickle and would love to contact you for some advice. Is that possible?

do you think it would be a good investment to buy your own second hand bike maybe from a thrift shop in Paris then when you leave you just donate it to a thrift shop?? Sorry that's a weird question haha

Thank one for sharing.

can i keep an au pair visa and not get a host family if the first one really sucked and you dont wanna do it anymore?

Most of the families who needs an aupair are fucked up, I had many host families exactly 8, and just trying and hoping ... They just like dont want to be with their kids, but they wants to seem to perfect family outside, but inside is a big mess as you described, no system or order in the household, even the parents cant disipline their child. You were lucky at least because even if an aupair doesnot have to clean etc they made u to do it anyway... I t also depends what is the nacionality of the Family. I dont mentions names here... You can find yourself on the street if they get angry or you do something wrong you supposed to but of course how we should know if noone tells us. Police or agencies are not helping you at all in emergency they will always support the family... I am very dissapointed in this Aupair program, this is like hiring a cheap servant from an other not well developed country so they think you are desperate and you cant do anything, u dont know where to go etc. Yes you feel urself in a cage... No private life at all. No rest on ur free days, u live ur boss and u always feel like u are working. I was hiding food in my room on my free days in the room just not to see to go to the kitchen and the livingroom to see them. I finished this life forever....I cant even watch through ur video sorry, just brought up many awful memories and pain:(

Wait so- So working without getting free days and sleeping with the kids and being with them 24/7 is not ok.I will have to leave then lol.Besides I’m being overworked.Thank you for this ,I finally have the courage

I want be an au pair how to find family to start working?

I'm a nanny in America, I would love to au pair. I'm also an older woman (47). I don't know how to go about it can anyone help? At this moment I have a horrible nanny situation at the moment and want out.

Overworked and underpaid, these French people are taking advantage of the cheap labor, treating you like a fucking maid. Anyone would have quit

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