I myself am Dr glovers age.sober since I was 27 at 66 I am learning to love the man in the mirror.have gust got out of a situation ship of 13 years , really she accused me of abusing her end long ago the thing about shame people that get close to you will use it against you working relationship hard to drop my gard again working really hard to forgive myself for not taking care of My self never felt as low as I do today I am basically homeless now trying to straighten things out with a person that thinks I am a narcissist.wose seeing her approval stopped going to aa sometime ago I am isolated from others now will fix that soon.feel shame you bet a long with fear not much hope after my life is ruined by that nice guy thing giving dose not work at 66 i can tell you that if you don't forgive yourself I will never seek the approval of others again