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They are not getting anything better and they are probably still contacting you and other exes or supply....keep them blocked ..being alone is better than staying in a circus.
It could be that the codependent is a pickmeisha and the narcissist is a dusty. So the pickmeisha is paying the narcissist's way. She's too needy to kick that narcissist to the curb so she takes care of him like she's his mother. This is very common in narcissistic relationships. Pickmeisha is bank rolling him just to have a man. 🤦♀️
Facts.. She take care of him, he drives her cars, he stays in her home that her ex husband purchase, doesn't work and she's the fourth family member he's dated. It's sad..
Yup.. she’s pressed and self esteem in the trash.. little does she know all his toxic energy will transfer to her she’s gonna carry that black cloud over her too
Codependents still can't handle narcissists either. Narcs eventually drain them or run off out of boredom. Narcissists are impossible to get along with no matter what.
Quinn said it best, “remember how they treated you”. The behavior patterns never change.. forgive yourself for being with them- annnnnnddd move in silence let your actions talk.. ❤️❤️❤️we are survivors !
I was pretty codependent while dating my narcissistic ex. We dated for three years. However, we all have our breaking points so when he started playing games and disappearing for days at a time, I withdrew time and attention from him and focused on myself. I was wise enough to know that if somebody is putting in no effort the worst thing you can do is chase that person even more. This infuriated him and he discarded me.
WOW ....you just described my situation exactly! .....it's really hurtful, but I believe in general, in life 'everything comes out in the wash eventually'! ......THEY WILL GET THEIRS for just treating people like crap!
If you're paying attention to a narcissist ex STOP. They know you're looking and will still try to purposely push your buttons. It's funny as hell when you truly don't pay them any mind any more and the flying monkeys are confused as to why your not reacting to them the way you think they should.
They've found someone that has a higher tolerance for being mistreated. Maybe, the financial stability, resources, status being provided is enough for the supply to endure the abuse. Maybe, the supply is a narc and narc as hard as your ex narc!
@Happy71052- Nope they almost always downgraded from you- these new people are just easier to manipulate. Which means they usually get it much worse… Quinn said it best, remember how they treated you… patterns never change - but we did ✌️🙏🏿💪
I can say, with all due respect, this WAS me. Codependent. I dealt with so many issues of zero self respect and self esteem it was unbelievable. Granted, I wasn’t an angel. I always maintain that all of us have some “dirt” underneath our fingernails, but it took me going to therapy to realize, I was the codependent, she was/is the narcissist. As you look back over the shattered remnants of the past, it’s easy to see. NOW that you’re out of the loop. One book that ABSOLUTELY helped to understand this dynamic (narcissist/codependent) is “The Human Magnet Syndrome” by Ross Rosenberg. Absolutely illuminating
Often times the co dependant is not easy on the eyes. The narc won't marry them as it doesn't suit the narcs image.. the whole thing annihilates the codependent in the end.. Narcissists thrive on the destruction of another. The whole thing is very tragic.
Funny, I was the new supply and it lasted over 20 years. I had no idea what I was dealing with. I knew something was wrong but I had no idea about narcissism. He put me through the wringer with every form of abuse except physical. He would never lay a finger on me but there were times when I felt physical abuse would be better. Yes, it was that bad. I Don't think I was co dependent, I was just stuck in old fashioned thinking because my parents kept saying to stick it out because not all relationships are perfect.
My ex Narcissist had a new supply yet was still calling me to hook up 🙄he always told me he didn’t cheat after seeing that I realised the whole time I was with him he was cheating on me🤷🏽♀️ I laughed because I was no longer in that foolishness I actually felt sorry for the new supply tbh 😳
Most likely they took a look at what's left of their harem and picked somebody who was gonna keep on putting up with that. Once I woke up, I started to become more distant, narcissist know when you about to leave them, I stayed at my own house I wouldn't go over hers . Truthfully being no contact for one year and 7 months the hell they put us through? I really don't care who she's got. I am healing from this, and for people who got two, three, four, five years no contact, I'm just beginning, and y'all still getting hoovered? Even though I discarded her this is still new to me. Peace Quinn and to everyone healing from this.💪🏿💯🔥
"Who cares" SHOULD be one's attitude! Get to a point, a place folks where "NOT giving a shit" .....what your ex is doing, and you'll know that you're genuinely healed, or very close to it. ~Rick
25 year later Hoover for me I’m married and he married the downgrade new supply. he contacted me on Facebook and was trying to get a combo. He wanted to Make me his married side chick and try to swindle me out of my hard earned money. I denied the Hoover.
My ex narc new supply found messages he sent to me recently on social media confessing his love where I never responded and she is still with him. I’m just happy she has him.
This is extremely true. I was a Big time codependent & I lasted 20 years with my ex narc. I’m so happy to be out of it now. It’s terrible terrible dealing with these people. No matter what way you spin it, They are a Dead end!!!! Period
Correction: I thought we were really in love! It wasn't love at all! It was a addictionship!😥 the new supply will keep it hidden behind closed doors and she don't love herself! He will run all kind of games with the manipulation! His family and friends couldn't believe we stayed together for so many years. They knew he was a NARC and he would devalue me and I walked away! 😌
I have wondered a lot why we would even care, and I've come to the conclusion that it is really about the way the gaslit us and planted so many seeds of self doubt. The damage they did makes us question our perception. When they stay so long with new supply it feeds their narrative that we were actually the problem, not them. And even if we can logically see this is ridiculous, our damaged parts still buy the story.
Look FALL is approaching get in a swing or stepping dance class people do something to stimulate your mind and get your health back in order.. Stay out of the way and let KARMA go to work.... Stay safe QUINN. appreciate your updates you stay on POINT
One thing that baffled me was my ex's new girlfriend told me that he used me because I let him, and I should've known he didn't like me from the red flags. She has been dating him for almost 3 years, the same amount of time I dated him. It seemed pretty hippocratical of her to say that, considering the only way a long term relationship can last with him is if you slowly lose yourself.
Some of the narcissists have had this supply hidden from you for years and something happens between them and they end up back together a night an hour,a week Month or year, they go through all the toxic ways of the narcissists living behaviours they could know all about you and all the rest and just sit back and wait for the narcissist and go through all the cycle again.
I know a narcissist that lost everything no one wants to be bothered with him anymore not even his family and now he’s stuck with that not so new and also toxic supply. 😆
Don’t feel any bad for yourself not be able to be that narc like that toxic person, karma will catch their assx. Their life will never end up in good end. Trust me. I have seen again and again and again.
My nex kept telling me I’m the beginning that he wanted someone to accept him for who he was. Now I understand what he meant! He called my pastor to tell him he was giving me 6 months to come back or he was moving on…well he got engaged right after our divorce and married after that…Good riddens!
Heard narc ex I divorced was saying his new supply is overly needy and people pleaser.. that she came from an abusive marriage. Of course she’ll conform to ,put up with ,let him get away with by making excuses for and enabling his destructive disorder. His perfect prey , jackpot for supply
I Always Said, She Will Get The Same Thing I Got, And That Is A Player, Liar, And A Theft In The Streets, That Is For The Streets. And; What He Done To Her, Is The Same Things He Is Going To Do To You!
YUP. I was the codependent in a relationship with a woman that had cluster B and narcissistic traits. Things were fine, until I began standing up for myself and leaning away from those codependent behaviors. That's when the manipulation and gaslighting started, and it only ramped up from there when I refused to fit into the mold she was trying to cram me into. Currently working on unlearning those codependent behaviors, so I can be a better partner in the future, and so I can live a happier and more fulfilling life.
You're so comforting because you don't judge how/why we're still feeling this stuff. Some channels are literally "You're 5 days from being discarded. Move on. Question nothing. You need to be 100% healed by day 9 now that you know that they are" You get it. I don't know, but guessing you lived it at some point. Thank you for just being REAL and realistic!!
I promise you are so very correct I just Divorced my Husband of 17 years he was Covert terrible person very manipulative. I was Co dependent like a dumb ass but now I know never again..I can spot them a mile away easily
This video was painful to hear .. but 💯 percent on point . I was a co dependent with childhood traumas .. use to all the drama and thought that was the normal .. never realizing this was toxic . Throughout my childhood I saw and was put through a lot .. so when I met my first narcissist o dealt with everything turning myself into a doormat and did everything one sided entanglement for 15 1/2 and he discarded me on Thanksgiving .. living under the veil .. I met a covert narcissist who was passive aggressive only then did I understand what I painfully dealt with .. I took time to heal and am growing each and every day . I journaled and stayed with my trauma … the childhood trauma that was stuck in my body .. I got the education .. I learned to face my biggest fear of being alone to only realize it is easier to be alone than to be with the narcissist . I learned to have boundaries , listen to my inner voice , see red flags , not be thirsty for a relationship , I have an easier time to leave , .. I grew and don’t recognize the woman I was .. I was thrown so many opportunities and chose myself .. I lasted with the second narracissist about 3 1/2 yrs … this video was on point .. I JUST WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR ALTHOUGH I WAS A CO DEPENDENT I WAS COMPLETELY LOVING AND GENUINE TO A FAULT .. we are way to giving because we don’t love ourselves ..
I was codependent and you're spot on. I can say that I've learned from the relationship with the narc and have become spiritually aware. At the end of my relationship I put up boundries and she wasn't used to it. I'm definitely a work in progress but I'm learning self love.
I rather he with her than me. Thank god he left. My life is so much better. I was very sad and lonely. They are not real people. If it is 10 years from now and they are still together im grateful it's not me.
Man you got to talk about a healing that's the tool right there we put too much energy and I understand your teaching is good cuz it's well informed and it helped me but what I'm saying is why we putting so much energy in what they're doing what's happening us is healing ourselves and moving on
Because soon they will say narcissistic abuse doesn’t exist, if we STAY silent about it. So it needs to be talked about to keep innocent people out of jail.
Thank you for this from a co dependent woman that was .. I no longer resonate with that woman .. I grew and developed .. I am blessed for the personal growth .. it took years .. I had to reprogram and shift my thinking .. work through the traumas .. journal .. took lessons .. educated myself .. self love
I am severely codependent. Once, I was jealous and angry about the woman who came before me and thought I could do better than them. The last one was also a codependent. She got the courage to remove herself and her children from him.
So he is doing everything with the new supply that he didn't do with me, new supply being a friend/someone I was working for, I am having a really hard time with this
He tricked me really good great actor I can't believe.. Now that I am free I look back and see he was doing all kinds of evil to me and behind my back. I be wanting to punish him but God will .. .
Quinn you talking right … I’m watching my ex do everything underneath the sun to his new toxic supply…. Some of these he says to her I couldn’t see myself being with him. In her eyes she’s winning because she took someone. But I’m there to witness her misery.
I second the persons comment underneath mine. When you are completely healed, you don’t give a dam what they do. You just embrace your peace and sanity. You also sit and realize how blessed you are to be rid of their toxic asses. And many of them have drug addictions that they will hide from you and everyone else that they can hide it from. 🙌🏽 peace be unto anybody encountering them. 🙌🏽
It feels like a blessing, at first. Years into the relationship, marriage little signs occur and red flags snap but you toss it up like oh I’m just imagining things. Note to self…your intuition is trying to tell you something, but you make excuses. Then the devaluation increases and your intuition keeps sending out signal flair yet you use emotional reasoning leaving logic in the backseat. Then the discard and full exposure of the cheating, the lies, and the manipulation takes full effect. What the hell is happening. It is the you are directed to NPD. As you attempt to find your way blindly out of the fog so does the educational and knowledge process grow. You become extremely disappointed at them then your disappointment gets directed to yourself. Now you know you. But at this moment you don’t know you. When you find you, everything become clear. From day 1 to day done! Then you develop disgust towards the narcissist. Yes, this is an emotion. However, when the facts along with the receipts are on the table the truth is out and their mask is gone. Black eyes, black heart, empty self, and empty soul. It is at this moment you realize the Narcissist and The Empath is a battle of the soul. Armor up! Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️ Thank you 🙏 for some good content and discussion points. Keep moving forward!
I was long distance from my EX NARC….. I also wasn’t on social media, so basically I was in my own world. I had a key to his apartment, we went on dates every time we saw each other and he took me on several trips. I discarded him two weeks before my 40th. Birthday trip to Belize, that he paid for. Once the trip was paid for, I saw a WHOLE different side to him. I guess bc he thought that I wouldn’t go anywhere bc I was so excited about the trip, trick was on him!! I saw subtle red flags but I called him out on them and changed his behavior. It probably wouldn’t have lasted that long if we were in the same city. I found out he had been sleeping around the whole time SMH
Maybe codependent people feel that way at first, but I think we all want a real grown man or woman eventually, and need more than an childish adult can give.
In my old situation the reason why I stayed for so long was because I honestly thought they were going to change. So much future faking. I also came from a toxic family full of narcissistic personality. I was groomed to have a high tolerance to abuse. Very toxic codependent. But all that has changed!!!❤️🩹❤️🩹
Yes. Me too. This was the biggest lesson and after healing from the discard and abuse, I needed to look at my part, my patterns and break that programming. I had such a high tolerance for pain but thought he’d change. But I was not willing to overlook the lies and cheating ad infinitum.. finally I realized I deserved to be treated better if I was in a relationship. I’ve been solo 17 mos and relearning how I move through the world. Some of what Quinn says is painful, but he’s 100% with regard to why the narc stayed with me. People told me after that they thought he had changed. No, I just put up with more bs than the other women. Sad but true. I was a fucking doormat
This was a good class. In most stuff I read how a narcissist is pure evil and the victim is an angel or a saint. Since I’m neither, I have to come to terms with my part of the responsibility in this. My denial and toxic ways. How much disrespect I would tolerate. Whew! It’s heavy inner work.
Thank you my brother in Christ! This has been on my mind heavily the last week. Thank you for this video!!! Keep up the good work! Appreciate you so much!
So basically, the ppl we have nicknamed “the Old Faithful”, the doormat, the oldest fool, & the low hanging fruit …. these are pretty much ppl that are most likely a co-dependent in the relationship. And they usually stay a really long time. When you hear of cases where the Narc was married to someone for 15, 20 years, you automatically know their spouse was a codependent. To stay with a Narc that long, it had to be someone that was a total, complete doormat.
You know Wasup foo I knew all this but it feels to know I’m not crazy and I feel validated by this video because the narcissist will screw with u so bad that u start to doubt ur own sanity
Wow haven’t seen your videos in a year, yt don’t be notifying people on videos I have this issue as well with my subs. Good to see you still on here. You provide good info, definitely helped 4 years ago to understand the narcissistic behavior. Most don’t know that’s what they are dealing with, it’s helpful to have this foresight to avoid the pitfalls! Be well!
Quinn, I viewer's like those little funny comments you make like groupon's and smellin like pastrami and swiss on rye😅 it puts a smile on victim's faces. I know it did me. It actually adds strength to the topic. Love your messages and always spot on. Im 7 years out and still gravitate back to your vids and other narc vids. Thank you for being you and strengthening the world. Bless you Sir🙏🙏🙏
Hey Quinn! I found out I was a codependent by going through narcissistic abuse. I love being alone or by myself but I do need people for social interactions. I know that I don’t like being abused and I’m glad now that I had to go through this experience. I see them…awareness is key 🔑 🔓! Thank you 🙏🏾☺️❤️
If we're honest plenty of people have these type of transactional arrangements....It doesn't matter about the codependency or narcissist label you put on it...If he gets horny or she needs money they come together...Their personalities are almost irrelevant...It's a stress free transaction where neither one are around each other long enough too deal with any flaws...
Co-Dependents are like Narcs just inverted. A Narc is the Worst co-dependent and hates being alone. They both manipulate and use to keep each other. No love no self ...both are alike.
Hi Quinn, would you be able to do a video about older narcs in their 40’s getting into relationships with much younger girls? My ex is in his early 40’s and he got with a 19 year old girl. He got her pregnant within a few months and they’re now engaged. It looks to people on the outside like they’re blissfully happy, but they’ve already split up once last year and then got back together.
My ex is in 40s and got Instagram whore pregnant last year. He has denied her to end. She got abortion last year. Ive gone NC again and yet she and her tribe of minions pass house everyday. He has me gang stalked. ....
Bro you are spot-on with this video and you just made sense of the question that's been eating at me for years as I was hoovered a few months ago. Hundreds of videos I've watched and educated my self on and this one video probably help save my sanity. They did eventually get divorced and he's suing her for full custody of the kids so I guess I won lol
EX- husband narc and i been married for 14 yrs.... during our marriage he been seeing his sister friend... She knew of me well, and i knew of her later on I eventually called it quits and she is still hanging in there.. I guess we were 2 co dependants with huge low self esteem making exscuses for him and ourselves
I'll admit, I did watch (stalk?) some ex's and former friends of mine for a time, some I suspect are narcissist women after being hurt badly and backstabbed by them. Some of their new relationships didn't last long at all. Some of them did get married and it honestly baffles me how these women manage to stay married, especially if they had a history of bad/toxic relationships and cutting me off for really petty reasons. And I kept wondering when they were going to break up, because she clearly wasn't mature enough to be in a relationship. And they stay married for years....surely these guys have some flaws far worse than me. So I wondered why won't she break up? What did he have that I don't? Why is he worth keeping around? Sometimes they will brag how amazing he is, but not go into much detail. On the other hand, I know I shouldn't judge really by appearances, but I noticed the new boyfriends/husband or supply seemed to look more like a "nice guy" or "simp" than me, who is also somewhat kind but has a limit to being pushed around. They looked less attractive than me, don't look masculine at all, the way they dress doesn't seem to show much confidence. True, I can't judge by the photos. And it's possible those guys are narcs too. Still, I am glad I didn't end up with these women, even though I liked some of the good in them that was fun, which is what I hope to find in a healthy relationship.
What a match made in hell. It won't last so don't worry about it. Just be thankful the pos is off your hands. The narc won't be treating this person well at all !
The Narc I was with it's not lasting long! He's jumping and & out of different relationships, He's looking for the chosen one that one A supply. Once u have it the first time you will never get it again, Alot of times these Narcissist find a no-good women or a men, And expect them to be like the good A supply it's not gonna happen that way. God is real and so is the Karma he dishes out. So whatever you put out in the world, It will find it's way back to you twice as hard. Everyone on this video I love you all have a bless day 🙏💞💎💎💯
I stay 18 year 🤦🏽♀️ it was an up and down roller coaster with 4 kids at the end it got really bad he tryed to frame me get our kids tooken but now I got custody of my kids and move on now he’s mad cus he stuck with the new supply and making threats towards me.
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If it’s lasting between them, then the new supply is also a Narc! Good people don’t last around these types for very long because they are chewed up and spit out. The only relationships that work with a Narc are with people that are super messed up themselves!
My narc discarded me for one of his MOTHER's friends - his mother is 80 years old LOL So it doesn't matter if she ends up being "perfect" because she'll "time-out" to the grave soon enough.
