When I told my therapist that I didn’t know who I was, he said, “well who do you want to be?” Also, I thought it was just me that felt two very different identities that were powerful yet completely opposite. My advice is find a middle ground. Or be whatever side you want to be.
Me too! I always feel like I can’t find a middle ground between all my identities. Like I’m a nerd, but I’m also presenting very sophisticated and chic. I love to read both very cheap romance novels and deeply crafted high-fantasy. I can post a deep analysis of a societal subject and then the dankest meme ever in one go. I love to wear baggy clothes and present as male and yet I just love being into super feminine things. People see me as super serious and well-spoken, but I also am the goofiest doofus on a regular basis. I wear lots of makeup and skirts and I’m listening to hardcore rap. I don’t know, I always felt like I had to choose a stereotype of one of these and make it my personality, but in truth, my personality is a patchwork. All personalities are. It is possible to be all those things at once, fully, without it being contradictory: I’m the evidence of that. That’s normal
My 2 cents: “just be yourself is advice” for people who are too consumed about how other people perceive them, which dictates how they should act. It’s advice that is seen in a lot of high school movies because a lot of younger people don’t do things because they like them personally but because it will get other people to like them. For example, a lot of kids feel ostracized when they don’t follow the trends that popular people in their school like. Rather than doing things that they like, which is the equivalent of being themselves, they join the bandwagon, which inhibits them from finding out their interests and forming an identity. The question of what is a self is with regards to identity is, I think, a far flung concept that comes out of left field. You’re delving into a topic that is a lot more philosophical and has almost nothing to do with that piece of advice. If you struggle with “just be yourself” because you don’t know who “yourself” is, you’re still on the path of self-discovery. If you’re unsure of what you like and what you don’t like, you explore and try out new things. Your interests sometimes change which can cause an identity crisis but people aren’t tied to a label; you’re interests are always evolving. But on a deeper level, if you wish to delve into discussions of the “self” in a metaphysical sense, you have no choice but to go in a downward spiral. It’s a question philosophers have been asking since the time Ancient Greece. There are theories and postulates so you have at least an endless amount of reading material if you want to get into it.
you have no idea how much i appreciate this video and i completely understand the sentiments that you expressed. "just be yourself" is something that i never understood and watching this has made me finally understand why, it's because i have always struggled with my identity and who it is that I want to be. people have this image of me that i don't completely understand - when people say "oh this suits your personality," i just can't help but wonder what my personality is like. maybe it's because i subconciously refuse to perceive myself in any way. maybe i don't want to be perceived in anyway - why can't we all just be left to be "as is"? i feel as though everything would be a lot more simple if that were the case but i guess perceiving is just human nature - whatever that is --------- there is so much to say on this topic and i am super grateul that you have opened up this conversation, it is one that i will continue to ponder upon
i would listen to these types of video/ podcast from you on a daily!!! i absolutely love these! your curated insights and wisdom are so useful. i'm so grateful that you choose to share these topics!
Oh Jusuf!! Your post was so beautiful and touching it made me cry happy tears! I love it when art can touch your soul like that. Thank you for sharing! Much love and mad respect always xoxo Bravo!
I think we're all on a mission to be our fullest self. To be closer to the, "I am" After taking psychedelics, I found a lot of ways to interpret my surroundings and my love for the everyone (including myself) I started listening to a podcast network called "be here now" mostly from Ram Dass who was a psychologist that went to India to understand psychedelics deeper
First of all..... I have so much to say... Too much actually.... In a point that is so hard & difficult to say anything at all right now.... I haven't felt that sort of connection with someone for years..... "Be you" necklace is the first & only jewelry I've ever owned.... I've been wearing it every day since I first got it 2 years ago..... It's been a daily reminder of my goal..... Cause my goal is still to "find myself" in order for me someday to look at my necklace and to actually know how to "be me"..... Thank you so much jusuf..... For all these years.... You'll never know how much you've helped me in my life..... The journey to find myself...I know is a never ending journey but it's taken me to places that I could never dream of & I'm so grateful that I decided to begin it... It's been a wonderful journey & you've played a big part on it.... Thank you.....❤️
every time you upload, i get this feeling that "i will cry" but i never cry, my chest feels so heavy but I don't cry. No tears flowing nor a teary eye. I don't know why. I feel happy that you are here, I have someone that understands what my "insides" needs and wants, longing for. Thank you so much... Now I'm crying HAHA. I love being here...
rightt? last year was an intense year for me, dealing with grief, existential crisis about my career and everything, the pandemic, and also some beautiful things but it was just so confusing, my soul couldn't deal with so much. so living by "just be you" wasn't a good option when people told me so, because I didn't even know who I was anymore since my whole life completely changed
Wow jusuf! The last video of you I saw was you vlogging your productive day 3 years ago. You were always motivating me to keep up with school. Now I find you again and I can see how much you have grown! I'm excited to start watching your videos again 😊
Who’s the lucky person who gets to spend time with jusuf filming her b-roll footage? I would apply for that job just to hangout with her ✨😂😂❤️ nah all jokes aside seriously I love your content jusuf it’s so meaningful peaceful and powerful thank you for inspiring me and so many others we truly are grateful for you so THANK YOU SO MUCH ✨🥰❤️❤️✨☺️
aaaa this had me crying my eyes out at the end… thank you so much for sharing this warm, kind and important message✨, I really needed to hear this. This entire video feels like a warm hug. I will definitely go back to it and watch it again at times of feeling alone or insecure… thank you💌💌✨🧡
I remember this moment when I decided to shift my self-development to self-knowledge because I wanted to «find myself». Not the best period of my life...
I've personally always asked myself-how can I 'just be me', if I am a bad person and it proves? Therefore I shouldn't be myself. Or imagine someone being a maniac or serial killer or a liar or a betrayer? Would it still be relevant? What if those kind of people embrace this message....
I haven't watched the video recently, how are you? I love the mood of your video and look forward to new videos. I'm looking forward to it, but please do not overdo it and spend your time slowly. From Japan🇯🇵
I've been thinking for some time now about what "being" and "my self" truly entails. It is definitely not a question where the word "just" fits. It's something that i've been continuously contemplating and my thoughts on it have changed so much from time to time. Especially my thoughts on the concept of self. How can i just be myself and love myself when i can't even get a grasp on what the self actually means? So at this point in time, and my feelings on this may change of course as they always have done, i feel like i shouldnt get too hung up on this question. I dont know the answer to what my self is, and that is okay. Because maybe there was never an answer, and this was just the wrong question to ask. idk
