As a man who is a singer songwriter and actor..I will admit that the ultimate for me is to meet a fellow songwriter or creative and make music and art together.
This is my first time watching your videos. Most men I know including me are not against ambitious women. You're right , men are visual and if a woman is attractive, they don't care if she's ambitious or not, but they care to know if she's at least financially stable. Men ideally want someone who looks attractive to them , who is educated, family oriented , pleasant to be around and presentable to other people. Some will even lower their standards below this if she's attractive. I find the men who obsess about how much you make are broke men.
I agree with you about the social media aspect. There are people from your past who will stalk your social media but will never contact you. I think this is for various reasons but the reality is they're not interested in connecting with you in everyday life. There isn't anything you can do to change this. The flip side is there are social media personalities who have stalkers and will not stop contacting them.
the only voice note I ever had was from a boy I crushed on in jr high in the 1990s and it came in the middle of the night in 2020 when I was happily married and quite surprised LOL
