Why Learning to Enjoy Being Alone Changes Everything 

“I used to think that the worst thing in life is to die alone,but I realized that the worst thing in life was to die with people that make you feel alone”-Robin Williams

'It's better to be alone than to feel powerless in someone world'

4:25 "You can make more friends in two months by being interested in people then you can in two years trying to get people to get interested in you". This hits hard.

Being lonely and being alone are two different concepts that people often mistake to be the same. They are not. One is a choice and the other isn't.

I feel lonely only when I'm with people.. But when I'm alone, I'm with the best company.

"You can't make people like you, you can only try to understand them and hope they try to do the same back".

“Be alone, that’s how ideas are born.” -Nicola Tesla.

I am alone, no friends, no partner, nothing . Yet I find joy in my heart by pursuing my passions, I have a job that I love, I have hobbies that I love, I find everything interesting and feel so grateful about the little things in my life. I don't even find time to think about being alone or to pursue connections. Something deep down tells me that I have enough in my life to be happy and don't need nothing more. In the end how you feel is dictated by what you focus on, so go on and focus on beautiful things.

"Being a human is both a blessing and a curse and you're the one who gets to decide why." - Don't remember who said it

I am a lone wolf, i like my own company, i appreciate it more than any other thing. But sometimes i can't avoid to feel the need to witness someone else's life, and to not be the only one to witness my own life. This feeling comes just from time to time, and it never comes weaker than before

Being alone by choice may be the best way of not being lonely, while immersion in people can create intense loneliness.

I love being alone, I just love the peacefulness of it, the solitude and freedom of only being responsible for yourself. I don't like being lonely though.

I think that meeting people by chance is the best way to find the best people. if we’re constantly searching for a partner or friendship, we won’t know how to find them. we are capable of loving anyone and everyone because it’s all in our mindset. a love for another person feels more dear when the universe seemingly brought them to you.

“What someone says about something says far more about them than what they are talking about” or something like that…that got me good.

This sums up my current internal struggle at age 30. I needed this video today. Thank you, #PursuitOfWonder

Why is it that with every video i watch from you i drift off into my own thoughts and 20 seconds before the video ends i snap out of it and think like:"Shit, i've missed the whole video"

“Most of who we become close to is just by the random odds of proximity; chance, met with desperation and the fear of being alone. If you’re lucky, maybe one of those people you would keep close if you could live forever”

Being alone is always peaceful for me ❤

The older I get, I come to the realization that alleged friends and family are not to be trusted. It’s terribly weird that after suffering child abuse, pre-school abuse, elementary school abuse, and right up to latent teenage years abuse, that this shit never ceases! Once upon a time, I was told by a counselor that in my family I was considered ‘second best’. She told me to be careful regarding my facies, that when you are treated as ‘second best’ it becomes too easy to appear as second best and others pick up on that, resulting in a never ending cycle of feeling abused and being mistrustful of most everyone. I’m aware of the fact that we as humans are ‘social animals’, but I’m better off spending most of my time alone. I don’t abuse myself and I certainly can trust myself. 🌝

You can't make people like you, you can only opt to understand them and hope that they'll do the same.

So I discovered this channel a little over a year ago and it's really helped shaped my mind and also to be a better person as a whole. I've been over a year sober now and I think your channel has helped my life in ways I never thought I'd imagine. Thank you for everything you do and all the hard work and effort that goes into these. This channel is a blessing in disguise for us lonely people that have no outlets to go to for support. I'd never thought I'd be in the place I am now in life without the words and advice I've gotten from here

Maybe I'm a dark person, but i find so much beauty in this level of melancholy. I want to feel sadness, I want to feel sorrow. It is a teacher, and a looking glass into what it really means to feel joy. I'm not addicted to sadness, It is in fact the opposite. I seek out joy. At my core I am a happy person, this is why i make myself feel deeply, only to remind myself that happiness is earned. Happiness is a perspective and such i seek to remind myself of what i have.

"And to know that there are infinite possibilities for how life could go and that you'll only get to try just one"

Being happy being alone is a super power. 😊😊

3:35 ”There are infinite possibilities for how life could go, and you only get to try just one.” Damn, man…

a lot of the times i see comments saying they were thinking about the topic when u posted it, and it never felt that real... Until now, ive been feeling so lonely from yesterday and u drop this banger The entire Pursuit of Wonder team is amazing they always give so much thought provoking content

3:36 - I’ve had that feeling so many times over the past several years and never knew how to describe it. You perfectly summed it up in a couple sentences.

I understand that it’s ok to be alone, but the feeling of loneliness is something I don’t want. It’s sickening…poisoning…empty…it’s killing me. I wish it would end, but despite my best attempts, here I am once again. The close of yet another year, lonely. Somehow hurts even more at 29 this year…

About finding yourself feeling impossible: i used to think the same thing. I've always been a very passionate and curious person, but for some reason always struggled with keeping things up and staying motivated. I got burnt out so fast on things i usually love. Then my intense fear of the future started to creep in. I was starting to feel like I'm just chronically depressed and stressed. But what it actually was all this time, was dysphoria, about who i was. Now that I've finally come out as a girl, everything has sorta clicked. My fear for the future is suddenly gone. I'm suddenly a morning bird with an actual routine. And i enjoy stuff I've always loved even more for some reason. I never thought one "small" change could do this much to my mentality and energy levels. So yes, finding yourself really is possible, be it work, passion or Identity

I don't know how to explain it properly, but I feel like loneliness is the difference between your current social situation, and the one you once had. If it was never great, you wouldn't feel like you're missing out on much. But if you did (which demands a lot of luck) experience true friendship, romantic love and family warmth, then no matter how much you will lie to yourself, you will want that back until time takes the vividness away. I'll conclude by saying that we are social species and there is nothing wrong with feeling lonely, it is an emotion like another, useful sometimes, not so much some other times. Like every feeling, you should analyze it, reflect on it... Never numb yourself, it has never done anyone any good in the long run. I invite you all to respond to my comment and let me know your point of view :)

I love the statement that "People are just messy and sticky." Wow! What an understatement. With a few of the many individuals I have had the unfortunate experience of meeting during my lifetime, it literally took years to get all of their messiness and stickiness off me and to successfully remove the damaged parts of me not unlike self amputations. So much time wasted on deleterious people who I genuinely wish I had never met!

Watching and listening to these view point makes me believe that I'm not alone to have such feelings about myself and my surroundings.

I just spent five minutes hearing parts of my inner monologue and I heard things I really want to add to it

The last 5 years I became a loner, and it feels great! I live alone with my dogs and a cat and never was happier. Sometimes I'm visiting friends, but after 1 hour I can't stand it anymore.

Notes from the end of everything is one of my favorite things…ever. It helped me reflect deeply. Thanks for what you do.

i am amazed how people can stay in relationships. being by myself and still being able to have a really great time has since i was a small kid always seemed like such a great strength to have. not saying every day is great, but if i'm not having a great day its not because i'm lonely, and its not because of any problem related to a relationship.

In my walk of life i passed by thousands of people and for each individual i passed by, i was one of the thousand. -me

I’ve thought of exactly everything mentioned in this video, but never had the words for it. This channel is truly a wonderful voice and representation of human nature at its greatest, thank you.

the cadence of your speech and the thoughts that flow from - something healthy restful - its good meeting -keep on

I have been following your channel for quite some time. I could say this content changed me for the best. Love to see that ou have met my country. All good for you m8, love u

Somehow you've compiled my every thought recently in this video. Most of these thoughts I've actually thought this past year. These things are things I've recently come to realized.

Wow. I found this video and this channel at the best possible timing. I strive to be comfortable in solitude someday. I know it's a beautiful thing. And loving yourself and your own company is really a journey that cannot be fast-forwarded. It's a gradual process that will take time but at the end of the day, it will be so fruitful.

This video hits me really deep; i was thinking this exact same thing during my solo trip in europe. The absurdity of the odds in meeting new people, each with their own stories, and being able to connect with them - while some leaving the “theater” messy. Thank you for this video, it has all been a blurry blob of thoughts to me, and this video helped made me understand it. Much love to everyone here ❤

I'm so in love with your voice, especially when you do the fast paced seriousness.

You're one of the best writers/thinkers of this (and Any) century. Sincerely .

Although I have no problem socializing, I just love being alone, free from other people’s problems. Spending time to do stuff that I want, working towards my goals. I rarely feel lonely, I don’t have many friends, but those who I call friends, they are the best friends ever.

This is one of the first comments ive left on any video or piece online, im 19. Ive started appreciating content that hasnt just been created to be viewed and discarded for that quick dopamine rush, but to be appreciated for its blatant honesty to the message its trying to convey. I feel like this video does that perfectly, it piques my intrest because it was able to show some clarity on some of my own interpretations but to also pull me along through someone elses current theories and beliefs, i felt like he wasnt trying to do anything but convey how he feels about a topic and how it applies to his life, almost like listening to his inner dialogue. i understand that there might be a script behind this video, but then the way this is written is very pleasing and genuine, i appreciate the effort that was put into this and hope to come across alot more of your content!!!

WOW This is probably the most beautiful thing I have ever seen and heard. Every single word hits home

This was truly and utterly poetic. Struck all the right nerves. I'll be saving this one for later. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, friend.

This ties in neatly with another notion called "Sonder". Makes a huge impact when you truly experience that. Meanwhile - many thanks and the best greetings from yet another stranger...

Freshman in college been commuting all year lost most of my friendships. At my most depressed loneliest stage of my life, I just feel numb. I just spent New Years alone. I’ve spent the last couple of days reflecting, beginning to accept my loneliness as good thing. This video is a great supplement. Needed it

Wow. Just beautiful. The story unfolded so well through your style of writing and delivery.

words truly can't describe how much I love this channel

Thank you for making this.

I should be going out making poor decisions. I’m 21, and I was the unfortunate “class of 2020”. I never got to say goodbye to my friends. I didn’t think I’d never see most of them again. Didn’t help that right before covid, my closest friend who I had genuine feelings for left me and I never got to try and explain how I felt. Never got to explain how I really felt to a lot of people. How many of those would share a closer bond than what we had.

your videos always keep me on track and move me in ways i can't explain. thank you.

I just want you to know what you do is incredible. I mean this from my heart 😉, when I say ' I commend your work and hear your messages. I love the pace and journey of each video you do. I'am truly moved and it touches my soul when I hear what I already feel from another fellow human xx

Being alone is your choice, sometimes its what you prefer and your comfort but you will bear the consequence of it at time of being lonely. just a blip because having your own live and space will still be important.

Thanks to the team of Pursuit of wonder 🙏

Such a brilliant storyteller; your choice of words is breathtaking 🙌🏾👏🏾

I just came back from a solo backpacking trip a month ago. When I was back home, I didn't know how to articulate my experience to whoever that asked about the trip. Thank you for this video, it definitely helps in putting them into words.

This speaks to me directly. Thank you for that video!!

I love to replay videos like this a couple of times to let it really sink in.

Your journey is amazing, happy I could be here

Notes from the end of everything is absolutely amazing.

I've literally share *EVERY* singular thought & contemplation expressed in this video. I juggle them often & frequently. Infinity is a long time. All that's required of us is patience. ❤️⚖️🧠

I think balance is the key. Too much loneliness will be problematic and too much socialising too. It's fun and refreshing to see some friends, having fun, laugh together and all. But I love loneliness too. Especially after a busy day with people. When i'm just all by myself. You need to have both. I think, that's the best.

That was very personal! A trip into your theatre. Thanks for that

Thank you. I really enjoy your writings and listening to you 🖤

All the stock footage from the beginning of the video seems to be from Lisbon, and the fact I literraly just moved here to get a change of pace in life and try to re-invent myself is scarily resonating with the part of my mind that sees patterns in this complex web of interconnectedness we call Earth.

I have "art of living a meaningless existence" wrapped up under my Christmas tree.

I like that people like you exist in this world, thank you

I can't explain how hard this video hits home. I feel like it summarized the last 3 years of my life.

Man if I can write and express myself like this. This video is amazing.

This whole video is sooo intelligent! 5 minutes long, but it feels like an infinte story of self-inquiry. Beautifully done!

Left me in tears man 💯

"Loneliness is a failure to forgive." Harry Palmer

Pursuit of Wonder: VERY VALUABLE video! THANK YOU SOOO MUCH for it!

What I learned from life is that it is better to be alone than being with people that makes you feel lonely. Being diagnosed HIP, I always struggled with social interactions. I spent years of my life trying to find people with whom I could share my thoughts and passions, I got interested into them without anyone ever getting interested back into me, and this made me feel more lonely than ever. One day, I just accepted my difference and the fact that I may think differently and have niche hobbies, and now I'm alone, with only very few friends, but I feel less lonely and more at peace

Thank you, stranger. Ironically makes me like I'm not alone. Knowing others share my thoughts and feelings.

Yooo I definitely appreciate this 👏🏽 thank you so much

this was an experience... made me reflect in so many things.

I’ve previously loved being around people who are superficially different from me, not because it made me feel the differences, but specifically because it has made me feel more connected.

Incredible video as always

I appreciate your content so much. Thank you

That one was a banger, damn. The thing about theaters of other people was good, changed my perspective, good job!

this was over before I knew it, genuinely beautiful words as always

This channel is so good. Keep it up.

Going through the exact same thoughts these days, it's nice to hear your perspective on them

I really appreciate how deep this went. I do this all day long and its exhausting

"What someone says about somehthing, says far more about them than the thing theyre talking about." Now this, this is something special my friend.

i could care less for other people. they are ignorant and small minded. i am perfectly content knowing i am the only person to have the pleasure to know myself truly

This is very inspiring thank you.

As a solitary being, I find myself in a state of perpetual solitude. Conversations lasting more than 20 minutes with anyone other than family have eluded me for the past 15 years. Nevertheless, I do not experience any sense of loneliness, as I have grown to cherish my own company and find solace in being alone. Despite societal norms dictating that one should crave human connection, I have come to accept that I am not like most individuals. Through this acceptance, I have found a sense of contentment and happiness. Living in this manner is not for the faint of heart, but rather requires a certain inner strength that most individuals may not possess. For me, the universe itself provides the companionship that others may seek in human interactions, and my loyal canine companion has become a steadfast presence in my life. I feel incredibly fortunate to have found such peace in my solitude, and it is something that I reflect on often.

Definitely a video I'm going to rewatch again

Simply BRILLIANT….I look forward to reading your books.

I reeaaally dig this installment.. poetic and profound, an instant favorite alongside Amor Fati & No One Asks To Be Born.

I've been through a lot despite being young, and I learned from bitter experiences while I was walking in the cold breeze of an empty world that this is me. This is the real me. I live alone, I think alone. I have my own philosophies, beliefs, ambitions, desires, and goals. I am walking to a path where I will be complete. A path not many would be able to reach because its too painful, lonely, and cold. Before seven years ago when I was still a teenager. I didn't understand what it means to be me. I always lied to other people so I can be accepted. But now I feel even more freer and at peace even when the feeling of sadness crept up to me. I was adapting to this new perspective. A perspective I've denied for so long because I was afraid. I always questioned why no one was there for me when I was suffering so much. They couldn't understand what I was saying or feeling. No matter how many cries of help I said to them they stopped caring. So, I gave up after all those years once I got to the age of 19. This peace and solitude. The feeling of walking alone when no one is there at your back to support you even when a storm hits or a blizzard slowly freezing you. I am the only one that can support myself, because I am the only one who can understand me far better than a world of lies. There is no point in looking back into the past of deceptive moments. Those feelings of happiness were delusions made by people who never cared about me in the first place. It is a give and take relationship, that's all there is to it.

It helps our creativity and ability to learn new things as it helps our mind to stick to a single point i.e. we do not get distractions

“I have never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude” Henry D. Thoreau