The Courage To Be Disliked 

Question: Have you ever been authentically ostracized? Like a whole classroom? A whole school? A whole community? A whole company? A whole race? a whole country? I think if you have, then you can't say that being ostracized would be helpful. We need to understand the "bias" of strangers towards gossip and their cognitive dissonance against the change prior to the bias. The damage of gossip and reputation dismantlement ripples more than we thought we know. It's like being an amputee with complete limbs. Talk to an innocent, or not, ex convict, or a an adulterer, or a Black guy living in a community of white supremacist, then you'll know how being "ostracized" will be helpful. Their are not being ostracized just because they're being themselves, I recon. They are being ostracized by their previous actions but isn't being just yourself a previous act? I'm just emphasizing the fact that "being ostracized is helpful" is an oversimplification to a fault. It'll create a positive behavioral reinforcement that it's okay to ostracize or gossip coz it's helpful, it'll enhance the performance of the weak link or the free loader. GOSSIP AND OSTRACIZATION IS NEVER OKAY. It rusts our own character and it dismantles the character of the other. It's a lose-lose scenario, if we want people to improve tell them honestly. It's easier to move forward in an organization by building bonds through trust than gossiping others performances so that people get away from them. I love the content though, just the thought of "being ostracized is helpful" irks me. Keep it up bro. I watch you and I'm a subscriber, just this content I'd like to argue.

Have you ever thought of starting up a podcast

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I've been disliked by my home family, i feel so liberated against stress.

lmaoo

Lol

Haha

what was that guys name i can't find him @@Bbvbvfhn

Teehee

And stupidity, is knowing for a fact you cannot do something but still proceeding to do it anyways

@@ingenuity23 😃😂

No one is talking about how ironically the vidoe doesn't allow you to dislike it.

@@Pro-oe6ht living up to your name i see

@@Pro-oe6ht damn you really just did that to yourself man

Can someone explain an example of what projecting insecurities is? I don't understand

@@D1ceplaya It's basically, when someone is lacking in self-confidence and feels embarrassed by that lack of self-confidence, and as an unhealthy coping mechanism, tells themselves that other people they compare themselves with are lacking in self-confidence too and tries to convince themselves that they're more self-confident that those they're comparing themselves to. It's all about comparisons: someone thinks that other people are worse than them, and that comparison makes them feel that their own issues are easier to bear. An example is: someone who, secretly, thinks that they wouldn't be good at writing a story for a target audience, and feels ashamed by that thinking, and so as an unhealthy coping mechanism for that embarrassment, verbally lashes out at some movie, or book, or comic or whatever which someone else has made, for the purpose of thinking to themselves "I COULD DO BETTER!!!", in order to make themselves feel better about their own insecurities. And b Another example is: some fan of some franchise that is popular in hollywood or whatever, is scared that some other franchise will be favoured by the people with the money and authority to actually make the franchise's movies happen, thus making the fan's preferred franchise not come to fruition. So the fan roars his/her/their head off "THIS FRANCHISE SUCKS!!!" in the hope that the people with the money/authority will think to themselves "Oh dear, these people prefer this franchise over the other, I must favour it too.", so as to enable the fan to think "Ha! They're more scared of me than I am of them! Ha! Ha! Ha!" It's basically all about insecure people trying to bully people into becoming cowards, so as to enable the insecure people into thinking to themselves "Ha! Ha! I'm less insecure than them!". It's playground bullies trying to push other people down so as to distract themselves from how weak inside they really are. It's absolute gracelessness and self-irresponsibility.

@@nicholasclarke171 oh wow that was really goopd! Thank you for the explanation!

​@@D1ceplaya Person 1: "I hate my nose... Person 1 to Person 2 " Hahahah look at your nose it's so big"

Exactly

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Thank you balls

There is an old saying "People in burning homes are never busy chasing rats." Maintaining this perspective is crucial.

The message is already strong but your nickname makes it 10x stronger. Balls, you are a life changer

No, i think you should always consider others opinions and not discard their importance because of prejudice towards that person. They May be wrong in everything except what they just told you you never know, dont assume you do.

@@NicholasPool facts

@@NicholasPool and the universe teaches to love and respect is a form of showing love so respecting others ideas and thoughts is important

BARS!!!

We? Speak for yourself

An artist should, I think, make things he or she likes. There is often criticism, but do not be disheartened. I think that envy plays a big role. If someone create something, there are people who envy this freedom snd want to puöö others back into the place where they want him or her. It is their uncertainty, that they revenge on you.

I dislike your comment. 😐

Don't worry. You'll forget about this all soon enough. Just a passing useless realization.

How does a voice become redundent?

You and me too brother I dealt with some trash talk on the basketball court today, but I told myself why would I give af if ur not important unless your worth listening too trash talk doesn’t faze me

Can you tell me that username of trying to find a good RU-vid video please

tylerzwise@@ksrishparishthya

Tylerzwise

I came from there too and I'm glad I did

I know im the best player on my team not emotionally just logically I know it. But, I always conform or play small so I don’t upset anyone. I hate this cycle that I’m in. Im the most athletic, most skilled, and put the most work in daily but I feel so restricted when I play. I hate this cycle I’m in

@@iamzay4938 I'd say do whatever you can to get onto a better team, league, or play up an age, dont hold yourself down because the ppl around you arent on your level. I always progressed the most in sports when I had teammates better than me.

@@iamzay4938 Take Baking soda while you play Zay, your not top tier unless your using baking soda. One teaspoon with spring water before workout. Side effects are gas and poops. You'll gain 4:30s on your workout, it'll give you testosterone too. It's anti viral anti-fungal and anti-bacterial, you'll never have sore muscles again! Tell your whole team about it so they can catch up to you. Work on making them better then you'll understand them better and gain freedom as a result.

Yes, don't comply at work, in your family, at school, or anywhere. Do whatever you want and flick everyone off. Makes sense and great for humanity as a whole. Oh wait, that's probably why humans are a mess. They have their tatts, drink, and do whatever the F they want to because they are plain STUPID but at least they aren't cowards lol

Love that quote.

Ty ppl have said I am brave or strong for doing things like helping others or throwing myself into danger but I nvr feared those things so I nvr saw it as courage more natural partially bc of my adrenaline junkie self the other part tho bc it feels right to help others fearless and courageous in my eyes r similar but def not the same

The tagline to my third book involves the subject of courage. People will find out about it in June and December (solstices). 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

Butterfly effect

there's no courage without fear,if you don't fear something and you do it it's not courageous it's just doing it but if you do something you fear that's what being courageous is like talking to your crush or changing your style and notice these examples have a high reward outcome,our bodies are weird fearing change to the better and will always tell you're alright the way you are,if you understand fear and embrace it and learn to cope with it you'll live the best life and even if somethings don't go as planned at least you won't have regret, it's completely ok to fear it's not ok to let it cripple you're decisions

The only time one can be courageous is while one is afraid

Holy shit what a quote

I never finished the book but got pretty far into it!. 👍

Damn

what of the book is that

much obliged amigo for this comment, wonderful quote by Sir Dostoevsky

I was just browsing to see if anyone noticed that gym

may I ask how exactly?

@@uwumommy323 Yeah that's the important question here. If freedom of speech was really taken seriously then politicians would not take their sweet ass time to speak.

freedom of speech does not imply others have to tolerate you being a dumbass on the microphone, ofc we'll turn it off

I think that's only a minor problem in America, even if that minor problem is exaggerated. I mean you can burn the flag down in broad daylight right now but in some other places that can get you killed.

I used to feel that way especially with my so or parents but in reality we only have control of ourselves and have disciplined myself to think over the Y, where it came from ect. And usually understand most ppl r more susceptible to their emotions anyway

@@Dokgo22 susceptible? I disagree, by default you already are just by being alive. Problem is that people mistake the feelings they have as good or bad, right or wrong, depending on how it affected them in a positive or negative way.

@@Yusa_Beach so the feelings or emotions they have ur saying it's them converting those said feelings into positive or negative thoughts and feelings? I believe it starts as feelings then thoughts flood in but u r right in a sense that those thoughts do to a lack of discipline over run many ppl. For instance someone talks with a loved 1 and then they say something and the man gets anger. Now all of a sudden his mind could be flooded with negative and harmful thoughts but it was the anger that guided him to those thoughts. And in return reinforced those negative emotions like a cycle.

@@Dokgo22 Exactly on what I'm on about, our feelings guide us of how we interpret things inorder to use logic to convey conclusions through our experiences Weither it be something that seems to hurt us or benefits us. With everyone going through the same thing as in viewing the world differently, sometimes we interpret things the wrong way of how they are conveyed which makes us act out against our will since we're not thinking it through of what that person actually means. It's a cycle that's pretty difficult for the average person inorder to become aware of since there are so many things that distracts one ro have time to lay down, observe, and take it all in to try to see the bigger picture of it all.

Just be mindful of this strategy. Misapplied it can be used to dismiss criticism by turning those who criticize you into enemies you don't respect, in order to avoid self reflection.

"THE MOMENT WE STOP JUDGING OTHERS IS THE MOMENT WE BEGIN TO STAY UNAFFECTED WHEN OTHERS JUDGE"~Mohan Keshav

@@mohankeshav205 No need to scream, calm down.

​@@mohankeshav205 nah forget that scream it!

That's an interesting rumor 🤔

If there is a ugly and middle class guy and all people saying he is poor, bad and uneducated boy and you believe in that, does that mean you become idiot

Capitalizing it makes me think you are referring to a Fleetwood Mac album.

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I wouldn’t say accepted by idiots, maybe unaware/arrogant people?

😄😄😄but we still think other people worried constantly about us but reality is totally opposite , but we think but very very little about others but most of the time think about oursleves of how to just make myslef better person or idulge in instant bad entertainment

100 percent agree

I feel like we all go throughthe same thing kind of at the same time

Right... Like the exact same time i realize it's a problem he drops a video on it. This has happened a few times already

Yeah i also think the timing of things whether it may be videos,dreams, a motivational video outta nowhere when i usually watch memes on youtube is kinda...idk big coincidence.But the other possibility is that i never took care of the problems and the world is filled with things that urge you to look at them again and move forward...why you ask? bc the world is moving forward and so are you...just not how you want. If you wanna change things and achieve your goals...just move, if you want those things fast guess you just gotta run faster than others. In life _speed_ is the only thing that matters. You will look at your faults,feats faster, you gonna mature faster. After all there is no greater joy in life than achieving your max potential. At the end of the day,......it's a new day.

Because he's making videos to appeal to a greater audience. It's all very subjective and can be interpreted in many ways. A neo-nazi and a Jehova's Witness can both look at this video and feel the same kind of comfort. Now, "The courage to admit you're stupid and your ideas about life might be wrong" would be something interesting to hear.

That's so true. My own mom doesn't talk to me, let alone all the rest of them.

Despised for throwing pearls to swine. My in laws hate my beliefs.. difference is I don't judge them for it.

We all need to learn how to have options in these events imo

True Indeed.... So Damn True. Disowned, Disliked, Hated & Judged... Yet,. They will STILL give you THEIR Energy.. And Focus, While NOT Dealing with you. Let Em............

@@wolfsoundsmusic8820 I Feel You on the Family Thing...

I have looked death in the eye. The time here is very scarce. So I can't agree with you more

​@@Overeasyeggsoee I think this video considers you to have some level of autonomy. Many people won't have even that luxury. For sure.

There's a thing called "optimistic nihilism"

Nothing matters :( Nothing matters :)

@@saint5105 My train of thought exactly

Why do you not?

Please elaborate

​​@@saitama6345 people often look at self help type videos to feel motivated and already better than they were prior to watching the video, only to continue to do the same things everyday without incorporating the things they learned.

@@bro3797yeah somebody can read 100 self help books and don’t apply what they learn 💯

Sounds like my ex lol

because only they know the minds of people and hence peaceful with themselves 😄😄😄

Indeed

Enid:I'm afraid I will be dying alone Wednesday:We all die alone,Enid.

"A person who is okay with being alone is either a LION or a GOD - or BOTH !" (free after GRACIAN)

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And what exactly does it mean to be authentic? People wanna be themsleves yet they don't even know what themselves are. You could be anyone, you could choose to do anything or be anything as long as you desire, yet, if that is the case, then you are......nobody. And so, the only person you can be or have to be, is within this moment. Not the person within the past and the not the person in the future, only the now.

I agree, manson's book helped me a lot.

That’s not true though. Even harsh criticism can give you valuable information. If someone thinks your singing sounds bad, then you could ask them what exactly they find bad about it. Either they tell you (constructive criticism) or they don’t (useless bashing). So, they DO matter.

@@spoopyscaryskelebones3846 In order to be accountable to yourself and your own boundaries you cannot allow everyone's & anyone's opinions affect you. Especially when you are being criticized by people who haven't invested time and energy in truly getting to know you. I Yes constructive criticism is necessary yet from what source and intention? In life the only things that matter are what you, the individual, make matter.

Psychopath outlook wtf

I love andrew tate

My question is, why would you always need to grow, eventually you'll need to stop, because what exactly are growing to actually be?

​@@Yusa_Beach a full person, the world is in constant change, and new needs and situations arise every day, imagine for example a 60 year old man that needed to learn how to use a cell phone because all the people he knew were using WhatsApp to communicate, he needed to grow and develop skills for it

​@@Yusa_Beach We grow to meet the unplanned for challenges of daily life and of social relationships. Growth means the building of our character through adapting to the unpredictable and chaotic, which is often what life is. Learning to think for ourselves and not letting people scare us into submissive paralysis is also apart of being a more mature person.

it's better to be that wierd kid than to be normal

That's the Spirit!

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Sadge

Same.

what is existential crisis? and what is self-love?

I can relate I'm trying to change my goal to freedom of being myself

There's more than one microphone in the world. Grab it hard and say your peace. Having done that...drop it and walk away.

Sounds funny

I don't like you

yea me too well.. not the courage to be disliked, just not stopping because i am disliked

You’re so lucky

@@maikusei yea but it catches up to you sometimes

Thats just what I was thinking, thanks for putting it into words, have a great day.

Not caring what people think is a form of ignorance because this knowledge can be used as information and puzzle pieces for the unconscious

I think what he wants to say in the video is that whatever it is that you want to be or want to do for your own good like good health, starting a business, pursuing your passion, learning new things or skill or whatever that is self improving, just have it your way and never give a f*#~ just in case other people may criticize you.

He stated this in the video you must’ve been quick trying to comment. It’s healthy to a degree to care what people think we all do, but it is not arrogant be your authentic self and true to who you are despite who you offend

I get you want people to be humble, but you are confusing people who’re watching this. A lot of people who this message resonates with don’t need to learn to have more empathy, they need less of it.

Godamnit, u r right

Yeah, sometimes tho it’s better to stop listening to all that noise and sit back, relax and do what you wanna do as long as it doesn’t harm others. It seems like a lot of people just say stuff to make others happy and shit, they don’t wanna be alone and do their own thing always following other people to fit in, I find that being alone or with one other person is probably the best way to take a break from everything and enjoy your time while you have some left.

Agreed, i find people disgusting

@@chrissouthwell8806 Well said.

try to find a community on the internet with people you feel closer to. Most of my best friends live on different continents and we have never met in person. if youre not average then youre probably never going to get that kind of connection with average people aka normies. it doesnt matter how good you get at making smalltalk, theyll still think youre weird the instant you try to bring up anything that actually interests you because its not reality tv and then ostracize you from their social group. in my experience at least 97% of humanity is like this. try to find the other 3%.

@@TheSuperappelflap sure hope to. Thank you

I know I feel like society's getting bubble wrapped

Same :/