Why Life has Lost Meaning 

When I was 17 my kidneys failed and I had to go onto dialysis, a year later when I was 18 my dad donated his kidney to me and saved my life. My meaning of life is to make his sacrifice worth it to him by living the best life I can

Great Topic. I really like this quote from C.S. Lewis. “If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.”

Have good relationships with family and friends. Nothing is more important than forming human connections. Having meaning in life doesn't necessarily mean you need to volunteer or help people. I think just being a kind, and caring person can be meaningful. Also, everyone is searching for meaning but infact we already have it. We are living it. Stop searching.

I think relationships, true unconditional love is the meaning of life. Finding a partner in life and raising kids has totally changed my own perspective on life. No matter how much I work, how much money I try to earn + invest, it's all for the sole purpose of buying more time back to spend with my family. Watching our kids learn new things and witnessing the joy on their faces when they do so is amazing. When I think about it, learning new things does the same thing for me too. So I think that self purpose comes from wanting to improve yourself, and the meaning comes from having someone else to share those experiences with.

Just wanted to say I've noticed the extra effort you've been putting into the videos. I love your perspective. Asking the real questions here!

Having a part time job at some point teaches you the importance of how to use your time better on days when you're not working rather than feeling a lack of meaning or over indulging yourself with TV or shopping for example when you're not working.

Don't think we can really know except to be always open to opportunities that open up and going through those doors. Your meaning of life unfolds in that way. Appreciate the video.

I am so glad to hear you talk about this book. It really brings things into perspective! You need to have a what for! Love "Mans search for Meaning". Victor Frankl had a unique perspective from which to tell his truths. I give it as a gift from time to time.

I enjoyed this video, thanks BTB! I am still searching my meaning of life, but I think it would involve having experience taking care of others, such as family, friends, and treating others well....in other words empathy. It's almost like something you did, for example, where you where working at the Amazon warehouse so that you can relate to people who actually work there, both good and bad. It's such a great way to understand how other people live their lives.

Hey BTB, thanks for sharing this video. I'd like to see more content like this in the future.

"Life has no meaning, save the one you give it." - Neale Donald Walsch (from his book "Conversations With God") I get meant from dreams/writing and when I feel moments of emptiness I try to assist someone with something that's important to them.

Probably your best post ever - more in this direction would be appreciated.

My meaning of life is now to be happy & don’t hurt others. Be kind. Even if others are not.

I didn’t know what I wanted to either. Until last year where my brother had a baby. He hired me to be his nanny. So I did I knew it would be a lot of responsibility.Way more than I could’ve imagined. I can’t tell you how gratifying it is to raise a kid. They love you unconditionally. Your family is so thankful to you because they know what it’s like. Just being there for them and knowing you are irreplaceable. That fact really makes you feel welcomed.There is so much to do always. You have to build a schedule/ be diligent. There is purpose in every step you take. Everything I do Is for the betterment of the baby.The baby needs clean clothes, bottles, house and utilities. Everyday I see the baby grow, reach new milestones or witness a first moment that won’t every be replicated. They need attention and care constantly. I love my job right now because I know one day I’ll have my own kid. I am more experienced and confident in myself.

Find someone to love, find something to do, and find something to look forward to.

appreciate your honesty

This video was much needed and I hope you explore the topic further

These are my favorite vidoes buddy the philosophical ones, ty francis

The meaning of life to me means to exist and enjoy every moment because our time here is so minuscule. It doesn’t have to be complicated at all, which is something I realized not too long ago 😎 life is good, and if it’s not, then try to make it better 💓💯

Great vid; very meaningful :-). Thanks so much for sharing!

I’ve been so consumed with making money for the past couple years that I’ve lost any other sense of purpose. I’m trying to find that meaning again this year

the best I can answer the question of meaning is by looking back and reflecting on what gave me meaning until now. These are: 1. relashionships with other people ( no matter of what kind) 2. shared experiences, but also unshared ones 3. learning as much as I can about myself and others, in order to understand, therefore connect properly to others. People will always be grateful if they are seen/understood by someone. Offering undivided attention to someone, in these days, is gold.

My family relationships give life meaning to me. Also I enjoy jobs when I feel like I'm helping someone who appreciates it. I also like learning (outside of school environment) especially reading history or trying to figure out complex systems like climate and finance, trade, etc. I also love just looking at art on book covers and illustrations and things because I feel so in awe of how the artist could have the patience to draw such a detailed work of art. And other animals are amazing too like those bowerbirds that build art galleries to attract females. Or beavers building their home and dam. Huge construction projects humans make are even more shockingly amazing when you think of the group effort required. Or the new series 1883 on Paramount+. Or the series Victoria (Amazon or Netflix?). So beautiful to see the time taken to get the historical aspects as close to reality as possible including the clothing.

I hated my job so my goal was FIRE(achieved at 50). A year later life is sweet finding things to do I otherwise was too busy or tired to do when working

Man's Search for Meaning is a phenomenal book that I read at least once a year just to put things into perspective. Victor Frankl's experiences as a holocaust survivor are both horrific and inspiring. Highly recommended book. Victor Frankl's story is incredible.

My meaning in life is to live happily by spending time doing what I enjoy and spending time with friends and family. My goal in life is to someday have the financial freedom to be able to do whatever I enjoy doing. I know people think that once they retire, it’d be difficult to find things to do, but personally I have a lot of hobbies and things that I want to do.

What I’m finding actually are people who can’t do little enough. They actually find “meaning”, as however they define it, by doing as little as possible. It can even show up in their health, because they’ve been absolutely shiftless, for so long. You mentioned the key phrase my neighbor told me last year, just before she started asking for favors: “I have all the time in the WORLD!” My feeling was, “Use it well, because I have none, so you’re not even in line, for any of it!” I have found that, if you’re a doer and are seen as a doer, you can end up working to get things done, for the non-doing, slothful, lazy and even ignorant, if you’re too nice to them. You can end up losing in life, because the name of the game and some of life’s rewards, are going towards people that are sitting comfortably in a chair, eating themselves to death, not wanting anything, but to be propped up in front of an idiot box. There are people who don’t even know why I pursue anything at all. Just go to work OR sit around waiting to go to work. Then, they wonder why they’re not interesting to you and why you don’t want to sit around, shooting the breeze with them. Well, I have personal goals, although you don’t seem to. Plus, by route of how your live, you’re uninteresting to even know. It used to be that, back in the 90s, the hot word was “entrepreneurship”. Now, if you ask people what their personal goals are, they look like a deer in headlights, because it never occurred to them to have any. I’ve seen people become jealous of me and others - for that which they DON’T EVEN WANT for themselves and don’t want to work for! But you can’t sit around and things just fall out of the sky or, worse, do nothing with your life, then decide you’ll hurl your problems onto someone else to save you from your own decisions or lack thereof - so you can continue watching TV! I, personally, have dumped people for this. We also see this on display in culture and it’s been growing for years, where the way to get ahead, is often to make a bigger clown out of yourself, than the next person. It’s at critical mass that people care less about creating a cure for Corona, than they do about the Kardashians. The reality is that all of this may lead us to what we deserve. One of the things you and many others have said, is to help other people. It’s a beautiful gesture. But, you must learn to discern, when you don’t this, because there are many people out there, who specialize in being helped… The beggar on city streets, that bay earn more than many of the people donating money to him. The neighbor, like mine, who didn’t do anything to mitigate her situation, because she felt no need to, since she could just levy my life, so she can relax into oblivion. That didn’t work out too well for her. But, you can’t find yourself being a helper rescuer and no shortage of people, who are glad to see them, because they know those people don’t have proper boundaries and they can use up their life. Sometimes, you’ll know who they are, when you don’t do what they want, because they become very angry, because they don’t like that you have boundaries they can’t blow through and even manufacture further burden. Yes, that is a reality. So, I find myself heading off and mitigating any damage that these zombies might do to my life. Another issue is technology. From my personal experience, we’ve become so accustomed to it, it’s not really that special anymore. It’s a given to have it. Worse than that is that much of it “almost works”. We’ve become a society where, as long as it worked in the ad and maybe the first week I bought it, well OK. The company that told me to be happy with that half working PoC they hurled onto the market, told me I should be happy and, besides, I want my friends to think I bought the best. Meanwhile, the broken PoC churns through my time, while I try to fix it and/or make due. I’m, personally, going through this now. I was issued a new MB Pro for work. I can’t let go of the old one, because the new one has a hard time functioning, right out of the box, often bringing my work projects to an abrupt halt. One thing is accomplished though. Lots and lots of time is wasted, making life pretty meaningless.

We are the action figure of our own movie. Every moment is the purpose. Whatever you do, do it fully, Let yourself express, and surrender with acceptance whatever comes your way in life. It's the journey, not the destination. Finding out that life has no meaning is the journey itself! Keep going further down the rabbit hole perhaps, and see what's left to discover.

Volunteer work is satisfying. Open doors and opportunities.

For people to find meaning in life, they have to search and discover their strongest meaningful talent (talents) and bring it into a society, which would reword their hard work with positive feedback. If there is no circumstantial encouragement and ones efforts don’t meet a place and get rewarded by the outside world, it is hard to form ambition and perseverance necessary for success. As a consequence so many people don’t know what their life purpose is and / or don’t know what they want to do with their lives. And a step we can take to find our life’s purpose is to take a look at our own value system.

absolutely correct. I am not motivated to do anything, and I really don't know what I truly want to do.

Thank you for the video, it made me think about what I'm doing with my life.. I'm a 23 years old Brazilian, and started my road to financial independence at 17 years old, I'm currently financial independent, because I spend to little a month.. I've worked in a technology company for a while, 10 to 12 hours a day, and massed 550 monthly minimal wages (in Brazilian currency) So I quit the job and now I only play videogames all day (and for my surprise, I have played 964 hours since I quit in December 4th) and wow. What am I doing with my life? Again, thank you for the video

this is a remarkable video. very educative....

The past few years my meaning has been "Summarizing information in an easy-to-digest format and empowering people to pursue their dreams." Mostly I do this through blogs but now I'm getting kind of sick of it. I think I might start a podcast this year. There is a 40+ hour course on finding life purpose I paid for, I've done it multiple times and I always get the same top values and signature strengths. Even still I'm starting to feel like it's kind of lukewarm like you said.

Art, music, nature, love, all that keeps me going.

Live a life of joy and sharing that joy every day. I just want to try to enjoy everyday

When the spirit is so digital, the body acts this way. The internet took all real meaning from peoples lives. Most of them not even aware of it.

Very good points

Relationships, love, & joy are the meaning of life. Not everyone feels love and have a fear of loneliness and feel empty. They are always searching for something.

Drive is so important for us and society :) thriving for a kinder and warmer society is lovely

meaning for everyone is for sure different. based on which country/family you were born in, which schools you attended, and who you grew with. But truly meaning per my understanding now is to free myself. To free myself from what I learned in this world and get my deep understanding of many processes which are going around me. Everyone around is telling how things are or are supposed to be. That's cool, but each of us needs to learn what is the right way. Most of us like little blind babies walking around and not sure what to do. But once you learn, - u'll never steal, lie, or do anything that's against being human. We have plenty of information fed into our brains each second and we are struggling to understand what is right. But when you free yourself, - u'll get deep knowledge of what is right what is not. And then humans would not need to lie anymore, because it will be obvious. But that's the perfect scenario. In the perfect world. But here we are now, and someone can take a thousand lives to make one step forward to become HUMAN.

The meaning of life is to live it! So, you have to find what makes you feel alive. For me, it's mountaineering. Being outside in nature doing something exciting (and a lil dangerous) makes me so happy and joyful. Maybe it's related to what you say, ppl are so spoiled with everything handed to them. On the mountain, I'm mostly alone or a part of a team that has to be self-sufficient cause help is not coming if we F up. We carry everything we need and nothing is handed to us. It's pure suffering. Cold, altitude sickness, possible death or serious injury, crazy physical demands but I wouldn't have it any other way. Maybe u can give backpacking a try! Less suffering... Disconnect for an extended period of time and you'll find what you're looking for.

I assume you've probably made a video about this, but it's definitely very interesting how to be both focused on money enough to ensure meeting your goals, and not so focused, that you become a slave of money. Keeping that balance must be a lifetime endeavor.

I just want to be the master of the universe and live to be 500 yrs.

Meaning or my purpose was to get rich (since I grew up not that well-off) but now that I'm married and have a kid, my purpose is to set my family up for financial independence so my daughter don't have to experience what I did.

There actually isn't a real meaning in life because every thought you have is literally made up. It's a hard pill to swallow but at its core, your thoughts are just that, thoughts. Your thoughts don't actually move objects, exact a change in your surroundings etc. Therefore, the only thing you can hope to achieve is fulfillment. In my opinion, the greatest fulfillment is adding to humanity, followed by assisting nature, i.e. the environment, animals and lastly self fulfillment. Self fulfillment is the most dangerous one as well.

My meaning is to help people every day even in my shitty job. It’s relationships that matter and even if someone deserves no kindness, its beautiful to be kind irregardless.

I’m not sure I’ll be able to condense my meaning of life into a coherent RU-vid comment but I will try. For me it all starts from the premise that I exist and just to exist and be cognizant of that existence is the single most remarkable thing any of us can actually think of. I won’t go into the philosophical arguments or why I believe I both exist and am cognizant of that for sake of space. When I actually started thinking more and more about my own existence in the vastness of the universe that we know so little about I became in awe of it. To me the fact that any of us are even here is a feat of unfathomable beauty that we will never be able to comprehend. So to me at the end of the day it is simple. Just being here is a cosmic act greater than anything and it is on me to do everything I can to embrace it and not take it for granted. Everyday I wake up and tell myself to do the best I can both physically and emotionally for myself and those around me. Sounds simple I know but when you realize how phenomenal just existing is you start to shift your perspective towards doing all you can to better your life and those around you not for some arbitrary goal but for the purpose of not letting this one in a trillion chance go to waste.

I'm at a fork in the road. In one hand, I agree with you. There should be some kind of a meaning or goal that I should work towards...I would say that is the conventional path. On the other hand...why? I feel like the only reason it boils down to is because that's the "right" thing to do. The outside pressure for what is "normal" is so much more than what I actually want to do. Why can't I just go for a walk and do nothing all day? What if I don't want a family or better car or job or whatever. What's with this whole "meaning of life?" I can just...live day to day. Why does there have to be a meaning even?? Just do stuff and enjoy it.

Cognition is one of my strongest passions that drives me to constantly discover something new

Thanks you

my meaning in life is being there for my family, and making them happy in whatever ways I can, make people around me happy by talking to them motivating them, and being a support for others in whatever ways I can. my own goal/aim in life is truly and really find WHY WE ARE HERE? WHO DOES THIS MATTER TO (our existence, why should we procreate, multiply? who cares if we all die? what's the point?)

Helping others is a good way to start.

I think life is a journey of continually striving, learning and growing.

My unc the oldest brother, he just told me my great grandmother had read the Bible all her life over and over. But the one thing she never understood was why we were asked to have such blind faith when horrible things happen to ourselves our loved ones and others. How to have faith in a good god and faith in his love in our life. That he'll never put more than we are able to handle and he will guide us with a good plan for us. Sometimes it's hard to see the good plan. But I believe God will take us wherever we are going and we can change our direction anytime life continues to carry us on. There is His mysterious will and there are all of the cloudy things of the world. I take comfort in being able to see through every illusion if I chase after it long enough to pull back the curtain. I believe that's a gift from god. But unfortunately I cannot know the deep things of God I will never be able to unveil Him in my life on Earth. I'm gonna believe in him and be foolish while I'm here. When I see Him I don't wanna be a fool then.

Great content as always.

I don't think we as people have a set meaning we keep throughout our whole life. I think it changes. But for me, right now I'd say my meaning is to continue to travel(was working remote), create experiences, create great memories and set a good example for my family. All I can really think of. Ive learned from traveling my favorite moments in life wasnt about money, materialism or even women. It was the things I did with people I liked. Even if it was only for a few hours with some random guys in Norway. Or spending evenings with my gaming club back in the States. Now, one of the members has passed away. And the summer we spent together as a club will always be a cherish memory. When it happens you dont grasp how important it may be until you can no longer do it anymore.

As cliche as it sounds the meaning of life for me is enjoying and trying new experiences, improving my health and body, gaining more knowledge in my field, creating new bonds, becoming more sound in my mental health, loving my self more everyday and practicing gratitude everyday. It is a memento mori at the same time, we will all die one day and we need to remember that. Remembering that we all die one day is a motivation in realising to do whatever makes you happy and whatever takes you out of your comfort zone.

Great video 👍

i was medically discharged and retired at age 18. Thank you for this video. I am 21 now, just going to college cuz i have the time. but i am diving deep into philosopy and orginal religion. I definately want to make 1 mill in my 30s, but really, I have no point in it. I grew up in Fremont, so its nice to know there are some people like you out there near by!

Be the best human being you can be. Love, forgive, and make yourself and others happy.

In the past year I found out I had cancer --- and I win! I still have health issues, but now I am fully retired. I have a few more things to do on my bucket list.

2015 to 2018. I worked in Jeffersonvill Indiana which I remember getting off plan at Louisville Kentucky and the rain.. it rained for 6 months…. I realized how beautiful California is. Never do that again.. Downey California

What’s up BTB always enjoy watching your different views on situations. Also really enjoyed your last upload

Meaning to life for me is living in a way where I focus on cherishing the people that matter to me and doing things that positively impact others in my community or wherever I am.

I rarely comment online...much less RU-vid videos. But listening to you speak moved my heart to share something with you. I've watched your journey for meaning over the past couple years. Can I challenge you to do one thing? Specifically this week. Read the book of John (in the Bible). And then read the book of Ecclesiastes. You have time :). Read both of them without any presumptions. Maybe even make a RU-vid video about the process. :) Everything in this world will fade away...yet you were created for a reason and purpose! And everything will try to claim that position of purpose. But only one path with will provide true satisfaction and meaning. Would love to talk through anything if you're searching. No, this isn't religion. It's a personal relationship with Jesus. Not sure if you read every comment, but I think you might. So hopefully this connects with you. Please don't brush it off.

Meaning of life is accepting you’ll lose everything after chasing it. Put you’re running shoes on. It’s a fun jog.

I was depress and didn’t want to live until I have my son. Single mom, best life ever lived. But if I ever loose my son …I will be back to the “I rather be dead” mindset. I guess the meaning is given and can be taken away is what I’m trying to say here. Having a human to love and be love give me the meaning of life.

The book of Ecclesiastes tells of a ruler who searched for the meaning of life through having many wives, having superior wisdom, having authority over his land, and having the most riches. Yet after years of trying to find meaning in all of these material things, he concluded that all of it was "hevel" or meaningless. The book concludes by saying that true joy is not possible apart from He who is greater than yourself and everything under the sun- our Creator.

I think we have frustration when we think that earthly values and pleasures will fill us. They don't. Our lives here are a spiritual journey, and our soul is what is hungry, not our bank account. Well, maybe a little. I am retired and find great satisfaction in reading books or watching videos on life after death, angels, mediums, messages from other dimensions, reincarnation, past lives, our choice to be here now, and the nature of matter. Once we understand that when we break out of our "feet of clay" thinking, the universe and MEANING open up, which makes us want to learn more and more. So my pleasure is learning about out of body travels, our ability to manifest and create our reality, and how to influence what comes into our lives. Things get a lot easier when we take a different perspective.

Good book recommendation. I approve.

To fix families using photography. Something I chose over years of revision since 2003. Takes allot of time. Starting us an issue. And if you're like me then it's momentum. And then there will be work life balance. And now after so much time is bringing in a child. It's never as easy or clear no matter the planning. It will always get ruined if best a revision. So be ready for change. And now COVID ruined my industry but now I see opportunity and I'll revise again. Keep going and happiness might come especially if you choose to be happy with what you're doing .

BTB: Me---Trying to leave my world better than I found it. This touches every aspect of life and gives me purpose (usually). You--making YT videos, but also trying to help people and improve their lives?

great video again......!!

I reached FIRE two years ago. I still work 3 days a week because I still love my job and patients. I guess my meaning of life is to save lives. I also enjoy travelling and food. I drove from Seattle to Vancouver BC last week to see my family and had great Dim Sum together.

i liked the other version like 3 years ago when you were low key hitting your mid life crisis, it was such a weird monologue with surreal editing and cut off so abruptly lol channeling your inner SNEAKO

Life it self is meaningful, just live it

*Viktor Frankl was amazing!*

I live in the sf Bay Area as well. I write novels Prehistoric thrillers trying to get one turned into a movie. Been trying for over a decade

I think, one, of the meaning of life is to prepare a better life for those who come after you.

Hello, I’ve been a fan of yours for years. Appreciate all your candidness in many videos. I hope I can add some help to this quest for meaning of life. The source of all life is God. Without God, all material things/wealth mostly do not satisfy our deeper longings for meaning/purpose, or it’s like chasing after the wind. All of us can continue to set worldly goals, achieve them, and feel a bit of satisfaction for a short while. Then we naturally feel empty again. Then we set more goals. This cycle never ends. Through worldly goals, we never experience true “Joy.” The emptiness is due to a void in our Spirits. Our Spirits were created to seek after God, and have a real relationship with his Son, Jesus Christ.

I am 60 and wonder a lot about my purpose in life. If I look over the jobs that I've had, they always involved helping others. I think that we get our thinking warped by movies thinking we will have one heroic moment when we make a difference in someone's life. But it is the thousands of times that we do the simple things that make an impact on others such as calling someone to encourage them, holding the door open for someone, giving someone a smile, or just being a good example for others to follow. People are hungry to find good in others. You are making a difference in people's lives. You may or may never know the impact that you've made. Occasionally I will have some mentioned something to me and say how what I did helped them. It is easy to get wrapped up in the question of the meaning of life. I heard it said that it can be summed up in one word, "others". Read the book Try giving yourself away.

FX's Legion said it best: "Human beings are the only animal that forms ideas about their world. We perceive it not through our bodies but through our minds. We must agree on what is real. Because of this, we are the only animal on Earth that goes mad."

Hey BtB, thanks for mentioning climate change. It is the greatest crisis/opportunity of our generation. For me, I find meaning in supporting local organic farms, cooking my own food, biking to work, driving an electric car, and going solar. I just sold that solar home and invested almost all of my proceeds into crowdfunded community solar.

you should do some book reviews! :)

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking on this one. To me, I’ve boiled down my life’s mission to: Carpe Diem…maximize potential in myself and others….live authentically….leave the world better than I found it.

I don't know why when I leave comments, they disappear. I left a long one less than an hour ago, and it's gone. I didn't copy it, so cannot reproduce it. It happens a lot to me, and I don't know why. My comments are always nice and no cuss words, no angry verbiage, nothing. I did mention the virus, but only in passing. Does this happen to anyone else?

i love sculpting, i've always been an emotional kid, i notice early on that im very sensitive and i feels every emotion 10x but i cant expess, until i found sculpting, it just flow xD

“We are spiritual beings living a human experience.” Our relationship with the Divine gives us meaning. Learning to surrender and be willing to be directed by the Higher Self.

If you look towards meaning as some goal that has to be achieved, whether it be helping the world or getting rich, you will always be building a tower of babel because you're looking at it in a linear way, with no end in sight. If you look at things in an aesthetic/circular/eastern/wholistic way, you will find beauty and meaning that is intrinsic, without the need of some higher calling or higher being. The blossom of a singular flower will be more meaningful than some grand galactic purpose. Let me phrase it another way; a game that is enjoyable only because it gives you the satisfaction of reaching its goalposts is not a good game. A movie that is only enjoyable the first time around because you're itching to see what happens is not a good movie. A game that is enjoyable upon each playthrough for the sake of the gameplay is a well designed game. A movie that is infinitely rewatchable so you can soak up each moment is a well written movie. It's not the end goal; it's the process.

What was the guys meaning of life in the camps? I can't really imagine myself finding meaning in those circumstances but maybe it arises in opposition to the circumstances, who knows. Anyway might pick up this book

I think it might be time to get back to work Francis. Get back out there and fight the good fight my man!!

I think the true meaning of life is simply pursue that which brings you JOY. (not to be confused with pleasure). It could be helping others, improving your own self worth, or just experiencing what the world has to offer. The social stigmas of "contributing to society" is a construct and should not be a guideline for finding meaning. Our life in this world is so short, and whether you make a mark on the world or not becomes irrelevant after you're dead, so do what brings you joy.

*I've been indoors for over 30 days without ever leaving house. Had everything delivered to me and gained about 20lbs*

my circumstances are difficult . I hope for this channel in order to support my family 🙏.💕.ej

The journey is the goal. Goal oriented life is fleeting. Negative Capability.

The meaning of life is to be of service to others. There are countless ways each of us can do that.

My life is a boat floating above a Sea of Meaningless Discontent, and there are a bunch of holes in the bottom of my boat. Money can plug up some of those holes. Art can plug up other holes. Family and friendships can plug up other holes. But it doesn't matter how much money or friends I have if I'm not doing anything about the other holes in my boat. I'm still going to sink into the Sea of Meaningless Discontent. So whenever I have a lot of free time and a feeling of discontent, I think about the holes in my boat and make a move.

Good vid

My meaning is to do all I can to show love and support to my (adult) kids. It's also my greatest pleasure, for sure. I'm extremely lucky. You're absolutely right though -- having kids is not for everyone, and I think it's great that young people don't fall into the trap of "you should have kids" that was so prevalent when I was young.