Why Many Successful Black Men are Low-Key 

Being flashy brings all the wrong attention and once the cat is out of the bag your problems multiply. Being low key keeps your stress level to a minimum and also from being a target.

Ice Cube stayed in the hood after he became successful, because he wanted to prove how "real" he was to the community by not selling out... i.e., "Be True to the Game." After he got robbed a few too many times, he bailed and moved to the snow... and I don't blame him. You can love your people from a distance.

I had this white dude in my physics class who use to joke with me by saying I got in on affirmative action. I didn't sweat him because I know who I am and how I got here. We use to talk everyday in class until he happened to see my test score. I had 100% in red on my test, he took one look at, then looked at me. I said jokingly," how bout that affirmative action". He never spoke to me again even though I had him in at least one class every semester for the next 3 years.

" Everytime a nigga get a lil' sumthin, he gotta tell everybody he GOT it."- Words of Wisdom from my uncle.

Don't confuse being flashy with enjoying the fruits of your labor. You don't see people calling rich white people flashy. Work hard play hard. 🤷🏾‍♂️

the main reason to stay a successful, low-key black man is because you will have all types of people coming up to you with their hand out feeling you owe them something even after moments in which those same people dogged you out & shamed you in your endeavors to be successful. Another reason is being flashy and a show off will earn you the attention of someone wanting to take advantage of you, so it's wise to be low-key and unassuming. I hate to say this, but if you're a black man that doesn't fit the stereotype then a lot of people including black people will look at you as if you have issues.

I really despise the stereotype that because a black man is successful that we MUST drive and wear our money. Doing that gives us too much unwanted attention. It also shows a level of insecurity, to think or feel that you have to look a certain way to be recognized or the desire of regonition. For what? I don't have to impress anyone.

I'm worth over 6 figures and just sold my 95 Camry this year.I have a few cars but this was day to day car.Women actually judge your success based on appearance.In the black community people really believe the guy with the biggest car note(nicest car)is the most successful

I just love it when I go to networking events and tell women I'm a construction worker and a car washer just to get ignored or face an arrogant reaction. But when women find out that I develop commercial space and own a detailing service they break their necks trying to holla lol. Lol, I get a kick every time!!!

Lowkey is always the best way to be, on the dating aspect. Too many people out here are dating for help, versus a quality relationship.

There is nothing sexier than a low-key prosperous man. If I am building something with you, the less interference from haters and coat tail riders... the better. I'm not showing off my curves, assets, attributes etc because I'd rather utilize and exercise those things with the one I'm with to aid in propelling us to new heights.

IRS, JEALOUS MEN and MANIPULATIVE WOMEN is alot of what comes with BLACK MEN being flamboyant. SOLID VIDEO ROM!!!

I play loud music in a small car. Criticised. I play loud music in a Lamborghini. Show off. I walk with confidence without money. Loser. I walk with confidence with money. Arrogant. If you know you like expensive cars because you've always liked to have it, go ahead, your conscience is clear. The issue is they don't want to see other people shining unless they are too. That's not your problem.

When I was growing up, successful Black men were often quite flashy and showy. That was OK then, because people were different. Today, that kind of behavior can get you harassed or killed. It is best to hold your cards close to the vest.

My dad makes 6 figures as a truck driver. He intentionally lives below his means so no gold diggers come to him wanting a come up. Also, some women think men who do trades are beneath them when in reality most trades make good money nd job security.

Family and friends are the worst with the mooching. Sometimes people don't have even have to be six figure successful just the potential people will mooch.

I love being low-key. The Less people know me the fewer problems I have. Besides, why would I want everyone knowing me and everything I do

Some white men have an issue with black men who have their stuff together. They usually stop talking to you all of a sudden.

Definitely better to be low key unless you are some kind of teacher or inspirational speaker. No need to bring unwanted attention to oneself.

It's hard to get your Mufassa on when you're hanging with a bunch of Scars. It seems like most black people hate success, and think god or Jesus is going to drop off success on their door step like a UPS package. Any type of success leaves you trapped. If you talk about it, you're bragging. If you don't talk about it and people find out, people feel entitled to your success and try to leach off of you. I'd rather be quiet and successful. No Instagram, no Facebook, No Twitter. Just get money and enjoy life.

Good message Rom. I got my first 6 figure job at 28 and after some years of flashy/wasteful spending, being a target for women with their hands out and other lessons learned it took me til about age 32/33 to realize alright let me go the lowkey route. Wish I had been lowkey from the jump, woulda saved myself alot of BS (and money)

MAN this is real. I peeped Game a long time ago & learned that "peacocking" (showing off) will get the tax man on yo ass, or get you set up to 'get got' in the hood, or cause you to lose business (because sometimes *white folks* would rather do business with *a black man* if they think you're struggling vs successful). There was a rap lyric back in the day "The strong move quiet, the weak start riots". But My favorite quote of almost 20 yrs is by Tupac - *"Once a muh' fugga gets an understanding of the Game, and what the Levels and the Rules of the Game is... the world ain't a trick no 'mo, THE WORLD IS A GAME TO BE PLAYED"* -2pac Staring at the world thru My rear view

I think this applies to successful men period. There are millionaires and even billionaires riding the trains (in NYC) and dressing down. Whether you're rich or poor, I think people need to focus more on developing their character especially if they are looking for a long-term relationship.

i went to this bar/lounge once for the first time, just to have a drink. and i kept noticing this guy sitting at a table by himself. he had on jeans, a tee shirt, and tennis shoes. dingy almost. wasn’t really talking to anybody. but, i just thought his quiet, loner demeanor was so sexy. he had such a mystery about him that i asked the bartender about him. she went and spoke to him. all of a sudden he came and sat beside me at the bar. after talking for a moment he told me that he was the owner, lol. (as a side business). he grabbed my check and balled it up. we started dating after that. he drove a ford truck and always dressed like that even on dates. he owned foreign vehicles and his home was enormous and elegant. and on the flip side their was a regular who would always come in that same bar with layers and layers of chains and always throwing money in the air, buying up the bar. my boyfriend at the time shared with me that the money he was throwing in the air was like all the money he had. lol. real wealth is sooo quiet.

I drive my Bentley in LA and my M6 in Miami. In brooklyn all my friends think I drive for Lyft. I own about 12 rental properties and 6 beauty bars.. I would never let niggaz no I'm getting it like that.. no jewelry nothing.. keep it simp don't stand out and only shine when needed

You better keep a low profile. Its too easy to become a target, especially in urban areas. Not just men, but women will wanna get you caught up. Too many jealous people out there. With today's economy, even just doing alright is enough.

I Agree with this Video 100%..... As a Blackman who's now in his early 30's was always taught by my father and other father figures that showing off and being overly flamboyant can lead you to a early grave....I've hung around people that are liquid to the point where being concerned about not having money is a afterthought....the problem with some of our brothers when comes to money is that alot of us come from nothing and we're not used to having exorbitant amounts of money...that means we're susceptible to being preyed upon by people in and outside the blk community.....

Because of hate, envy or some people who weren't there when you were making it, and all of a sudden they want a piece of the pie.

Solitude is a prerequisite for happiness for successful men. Notice how many videos and pics of male lions show them by themselves.

Here’s the thing. Being flashy with your money is a sign of insecurity. There are opportunistic people EVERYWHERE. There are haters EVERYWHERE. No matter the race. No matter the gender. Just be low key and make your moves quietly. You will attract like minded people. Like attracts like. It’s as simple as that.

I learned from watching my father when I was a child. Family, women, and supposed friends are the worse. If anyone isn't competent, accountable, and willing to put in the sweat and tears with you. NO! MFers will go out of their way to sabotage you even when you're minding your business and/or helping them. I'm strictly on a need to know bases. And I give everyone 1 chance! Why hate when WE can thrive? Get a dog... Anyway...

Being low key is adviced. There are many forces trying to destroy successful black men. So, I have to tell others what I am studying versus what I am doing. Never tell the volume of business you do.

I make 200K plus writing code. I don't associate with very many of the bruthas I grew up with etc. because I had to change the people that I hung around in order to change my life and to be able to get this 200K coming in. So I don't feel like I've lost any friends because they've all been gone for awhile now.

If non-Black people aren't competing with you as a Black person you must not be doing much.

IT'S HARD TO TRUST MOST PEOPLE.

I can speak on this all too well. It boils down to our people in general are "Opportunistic Consumer" minded people. The orderly "Productive" minded black man has to lay low because they don't see you as someone who can improve the community, they see you as an Opportunity to GET SOMETHING. They don't value the process in producing fruit, just the fruit and the shortcuts to get it. If you are successful as a black man, Protection is a must, and blending in with the rest keeps the wolves off.

Because we can. If you are the best you don't need to say it people will see it eventually. I'm not rich but don't get it twisted i will always have money and those are facts. Being successful is not really about the money it's about how you present yourself to people that has nothing. They will see it in your eyes if you understand what i mean.

It amazes me how your videos cosign everything I've been saying for years. Keep up the good work.

I'm successful and young I don't show off hell I don't have social media but I do buy the finest things because that's wat I really like

I'm glad that there are more videos like this. In the age of the internet, black men should be able to penetrate the false, ratchet, ideologies shoved down our throats using hip hop and media. RU-vid channels like this are VITAL. I love it. Keep it up brother.

move fast & slow,wen making dow "but stay low",then you can grow( BLK Man)

Nothing but truth Unc! I just started doing real good for myself this year and the way people treat me now compared to when I was broke is crazy.

I ain't misrepresenting anyone. Since when do black men have to apologize for making doe or being flashy it's my brand. It makes me money. I don't necessarily like being flashy, but no man can make something look hot as much as a wealthy lookin black man can. Never apologize for anything. save some for your kids and beyond try to contribute to society

Black successful men just don't post on facebook anymore

I can relate to you 1000 uncle rom.the best way for successfull blkmen to go is low key.it removes a lot of unwanted problems.

I remember Biv from New edition saying that there was a time period where alot of other artists were publicising how much they got thru their label deals, & although he was making the same large deals, he was quiet & humble enough that he could walk in the streets & not get stalked or jealous of.. Wise advice

Thank you. great video. Low key brother here and making moves. Agree 1000% with what you posted in this video. Told a neighbor about only a glimpse of what I'm doing and the entire relationship shifted. Not tryna go there anymore with our people. Sometimes we are just tryna live one day at a time without all of the hoopla. Because we make moves and get to a good place doesn't mean that we're void of the need for love, respect and appreciation just like everybody else. So sad but we will never be able to advance as a people but one day at a time, maybe as individuals we can there. Thanks Man! I'm Out! :)

I'm not rich or own a business, i retired from the military with 2 houses, a bank account,a separate 401k, and other investments, women overlook me for clothes and pretty cars,i couldn't understand why,then i began to see how it was a good thing to be low key, it cuts down on the gold digging,white women use submissive sex, black women said i was gay or couldn't handle a real woman, so brothers stay low key, listen to what comes out of their, don't be surprised

True wealth comes from inner peace. Peace of mind gives strength and conviction to reject the TRAPpings of materialism..... commas and zeros in one's back account are very calming

Yup. Fellas stay low key, and you will attract the right people who are their for you. Avoid the need to promote what youre doing.

Man this channel has real knowledge keep it up Rom you are the father that some of these brothers never had. Some real wisdom here.

Don’t floss cuz money looks better when it’s invisible - Dj Quik

Watching this video again in 2024…

Awesome video brother I needed to hear this perfect production of audio inspiration so I can further show or tell my girlfriend why I live the lifestyle that I live very low key, but she enjoys the trips the shopping and the fine dining.

Facts bro Lowkey is the Best way to Live more peace & Relaxation so if your successful stay low so you can see the snakes out even in your own circle facts👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿❤

Thoroughly enjoyed the video. Thank you Mr Wills.

Never ever let others know how big your bank account is.

Good message, insightful. Thanks.

"Low-key" is the way to go for any sensible and successful black man.

I always come back to these videos to remember why I should stay low-key and not try to impress people I don`t even know. Thanks uncle Rom 👑. I was thinking about going to Miami next month, rent a big penthouse, a wraith for a few days and buy some designer b.s just to post it on the gram for my birthday... Thanks God I have self-discipline.

Listen, as a female the competition is real!! Especially at work! My new job with the airlines . it's 3 months and already last week my dominican coworker im real cool with told me the 2 older black women were talking sit about me!! Mind you i don't even know their names! i never spoke to them except for 1 because i needed help with something and then 2 hours after u help me u talking shit about me with the next black chick!? I don't talk to back women at work because of shit like this !

Sir I just discover your channel. I must say, excellent videos touching on the good subjects. I salute!!!

My parents are wealthy and this explains why i only met a few family members. My parents always kept me sheltered but i did have a culture shock when I visited one of my family members.

Gotta really be secure and in complete control of ego to stay lo key. People are quick to disrespect and speculate when you move silently.

I knew exactly what you were going to say just by reading the title. Its 100 percent true!

I watch a good bit of different content on RU-vid and never felt the urge to subscribe to any. After listening to you, i can't not subscribe. Nice insights!

the whale with the largest spout gets harpoon.

I think it's absolutely important to be humble about our accomplishments and economic class in society. Too many young men think they have to flash their wealth and riches to the public. When I was young I fell into that trap set by the mainstream media, especially depicting young African-American men. The military taught me different.

Real wealth moves in silence.

Lovely video Uncle Rom. Watch this video to remind me why i should stay humble, lowkey and outta harms way. Actually the first video of yours i watched and been hooked ever since. Thanks a lot👌🏾

Everything is not for everybody to know, plain and simple.

Brother Wills : I have always said that "WEALTH SHOULD BE INVISIBLE". I see way too many brothers in Charm City that are riding around in Fancy New BIG Luxury cars that have no networth and look good but are BROKE!

This is the first video I watched of yours and it it got me to listen to your advice. That’s how I knew that you had something to say. Classic Rom! Classic till this day!!!

Now, this video of yours is a good. Very informative. Thank you.

Just had a woman I used to date try to clown me like I'm a bum. I have almost triple her savings/investments and make around 3 times what she does hourly. I work for myself and make my own hours while she's still on the plantation. We met during a difficult time in my life. She let the issues I was struggling with and my humble, messy apartment fool her into thinking that was all there is to me. Small minded thinking.

Imma subscribe because u preaching some real spill. Keep making good content my brother

This video & narrative ❤❤❤❤❤❤ My type of man especially as I've gotten older 🤗

Exactly! A successful man is a intelligent and gets noticed whenever he speaks. A dumb person needs to force you to pay attention to him because they have nothing else to offer.

I've been looking for this video again for a whole year

Fly content 👊🏾👊🏾

You are right. I went into a trucking business with my ex. We got back together 35 years later and starting the trucking business. I put up the capital he had his CDL with endorsements. I made a BIG mistake. He knew what kind of person when he was with me the first time. He was still greedy and selfish and ran off with my truck. I had to fire him again. I am still recuperating from the financial loss from this. I will make it.

Great game Mr. Wills. I love your work

This video is PEACE .. I can relate to this join 100! Dig it!

I like the way you speak brother, subscribed!

Good game right here, I finding that the less said the better! Good look Rom

I don’t keep my money in the bank no one knows how much I earn I get paid and my money disappears somewhere. Folks I work with roll in 70 k mustangs but I’m like nah I’m cool. The key to be rich is pretending to be broke ahaha trust me. I don’t want these girls to think I’m a baller.

"Have more than thou showest, Speak less than thou knowest." Just found your page and I am quoting Shakespeare. Great video, and even though I am not at six figures (yet), I figured out the truth you have here a while back. I hope more men figure this shit out. And my family is from the Virgin Islands... Nice women? You bet! And be careful...

Rom. I've recently started listening to your channel. Great work man! Great work indeed! I don't make 6 figures, but I hold my own, and the pocket watching is real brotha! I stay out in a rural area with no neighbors now because of it. Out of their sight. Out of their mind.

I find this very relatable even though I'm Indian. I agree, people need to stop going out of their way for attention. I see people working minimum wage pulling up in german cars they can barely pay monthly. I'm making good money and don't even have a car. Might have to get one soon but as of now it's not needed

"Mmmh who the fuck is Jr?" 😂😂 My grandfather, who owned an oil rig, is the definition of this video. He owns a farm currently, about 40 miles out of Chicago, and literally moves discretely in the shadows. Owns about 4 cars from the 60's, never drives them however, and dresses like a "bum". However, little do people realize, he paid my brother and I's school tuition with his income of this year alone.

Ok thumbs up for the intro music alone and that thumbnail....i like that King's style. Bruthas use your 💰 smartly.

knowledge is power!!!💈

Great video you have to be low key too much jealous or envy from family,friends, or just regular associates you deal with .

I'm flashy and I'm black man.my family flex and that just the way it is.God is Good.

Unc definitely learned this, I’m an engineer but most people think i work construction. Can’t have everyone knowing everything, also it adds a layer of mystery. Often times when it comes to the ladies they lowkey like it cause it allows them to work to get more information. Then when they really see what’s going on even tho you never completely show your hands it’s more respected and they seem to be attracted to it. Good stuff 💯

Bravo. Brother, you must be in my age range and from the East Coast. I'm from Richmond, VA. I try to tell theses ATL folks about this very subject. They don't get it, they think the flashy dude is balling.

I prefer low key people. They tend to be down to earth and reasonable.

Hey Rom good to see you on point!

Knowledge,wisdom and understanding.

You have to remember how people treated you when you were at the bottom because that's them showing true colors. Leave them alone when you make. Blacks at my job all act like they are too good to speak to each other. They think by disrespecting other blacks it makes them a higher class or some dumb shit like that. I still say hello to any of my folks I see and they enjoy ignoring as if they don't see me. Everyday I go home and read self teaching. Once things change they start to take notice and I'll just watch them pretend and let them think they are getting somewhere and just waste their time.