Why Men Can't Find REAL Love... | Neil Strauss 

Neil chnaged my life forever. I read his book The Game back in 2010. That book became a defining moment in my life. I went from no confidence to an amazing social life and happiness. Will always be grateful of Neil, Mystery, Savoy, AFC Adam, Beckster. Legends of The Game.

I’m not saying g social media doesn’t have a part to play, but… too many people believe in movie love like meeting someone on the train or the bar. The older generation married people met in high school or college or at church or community events. And, at those events they were usually set up by friends or family. Expand your circle, show up to stuff, be a nice, well put together person and tell people you are interested in finding someone. If you come recommend by someone else it helps so much. You may not hit it off the first date, most people don’t. But, if you don’t hit off, still be friends. They might know someone else and you’d come highly recommended. I don’t think this generation knows how to network if it’s in person.

When will the entire conversation be uploaded? I would love to hear the rest.

Find true love? How about even finding a date? It’s unbelievably difficult on these apps. You would think someone in their mid 20s who is fit, intelligent, has an interesting lifestyle and travels a lot, and also makes 6 figures would find it easy. Nope. It’s so rare for any of these women to even give me a chance. They are all flooded with options that most of the time they stop responding within a few messages or don’t respond to begin with. I don’t even know what to do at this point

Be self aware, be funny, think about death, and write poetry all have helped me

I remember a small thing that happened a few days ago. I was waiting on a bench outside the main train station in my city when a woman came to sit down next to me, I was hoping she noticed me, she didnt. And then she proceeded to turn her head away, I then heard a message about a cancelled train on the tannoy and a turned to her to ask her if she heard which train service had been cancelled and I didnt get a response, and it was only the second time that she noticed I was actually talking to her and took her earphones out that I hadnt realized were in, and I asked her if she heard which train was cancelled, and she said that she didnt know, I then made a joke about the poor train services in the UK, and midway in introducing myself, she put her earphones in and turned around with complete apathy. It hadnt occurred to her that even being in close proximity that there could be any connection whatsoever. If im honest since my relationship broke up during covid, I have noticed that women give less interest than ever before. I think young men are facing the most loneliness, as women very rarely make an effort to make a connection and most of the time even when men go out of their way to attempt a connection it is usually not reciprocated, but I can see why men go out and try and approach women to improve their confidence especially if they have very few reference experiences with women as women rarely make an effort to talk to me or most guys, as they already usually have an abundance of options especially when they are in their 20s and 30s.

I admire you so much Neil. Happy to see you there!

Wow! Neil has me thinking today..lot of good points!

Neil's awesome. I love that he espouses a mature outlook on relationships.

Wheres the full interview?

Why isn't the full video available anymore?

Ok thank you for your other videos :)

I wish I could listen to the entire conversation, I was in the midst of it yesterday, ten minutes in and it disappeared 😅

I think people in general make less effort with each other. They like idea of being relationship but when comes to it, they don’t want to commit. Dating apps are mess, no one message on there and even if they do, people don’t know how to hold the conversation. And don’t start me about ghosting. It’s happening all the time. We are really in the crisis.

but where is the full episode? there is no more on doac channel

Social media…changed everything

was this video pulled down from YT? i can't find it now. I was listening to it yesterday and it seems to be gone now??

Where’s the full diary of a CEO interview gone???

This was surprisingly good.

The link to the full conversation doesn't work. Will you guys fix it?

Why did you delete the full video ?

why is the full episode removed? how do I watch it?

What happened to the full video?

Why did he remove the full episode

Wow! I was listening your podcast since 4 year ago, I didn't realize that you have a RU-vid channel 😅

I bought and read Neil Strauss' book "The Game" and admired his contributions for years. But I gotta say Neil Strauss is filibustering in this interview. How does addressing the mental health of society help the average guy get a girlfriend?

Where is the full episode?!

WHERE DID THE FULL VIDEO GO OF THIS CONVERSATION?!?!

full video ??

1) looking for love? love yourself 2) sex does not equal love or intimacy. 3) porn is not helping 4) stop treating women as disposable love tanks

Does anyone know the type of shirt Neil Strauss is wearing? Trying to find it online.

What happened with the full lenght interview?

Full video is not available

Where has the full video gone

I am a better cook than any single woman I have ever met - as well as a fairly decent baker - and my repertoire consists entirely of dishes I love to eat. So cooking will never be a requirement for me.

Yeah big ups to Neil, the game changed my life in 2006

Men, STOP USING DATING APPS!

crazy that he name dropped Woman in the Dunes, classic great movie

The problem is people are looking to get, not looking to give. Then they are looking to be deceptive and manipulative to avoid pain, rather than finding courage to be honest and endure it.

The full interview was removed.

I’m about to watch the video and wondering what kind of advice I’m going to receive from a divorced man 🤔

You need to let Neil talk more man

Where is the full video I’ve searched doc /sb it’s not coming up

I love Neil, but the irony of the line "50% of statistics are made up" made me chuckle.

nice

Neil Strauss should know why they can't find love. He taught them how to find superficial relationships and objectify women while acting toxic and narcissistic. This is the opposite of finding true connection.

This is one of the things i dont like about people relying too much on stats when making certain arguments. In stats class, I was taught that there are means, modes, and mediums, and these things aremt necessarily the same. And yet you'll find people using them interchangeably. And thats disingenuous.

Expectations are out of control! - there was a time when if a man had a job, car, house and was kind that would be enough. What does a man need today? Comment below please…

Where's the full video? Are you trying to train me to watch episodes as soon as they come out? Cos this is how you train me to watch episodes as soon as they come out.

People are becoming more conflict avoidant and have impaired social skills due to modern technology. I would suggest joining a club or group if you want to meet friends or partners in a natural way. Unfortunately younger people are not really joiners. Try to talk to your friends and find connections in your peer group.

Nice non answer from Neil there at the end lol

Soooo, who's looking?

The last guy I met seemed like he’d real Neil and Rich Cooper. He said he dropped out of his dream college to move back to an architecture program near his mother bc she couldn’t handle him being away from her. Saw the coverage of Neil’s new thesis on DailyMail and thought of that guy. What a big fake play he made.

Only by living according to the teaching and practice of The Catholic Church, and embracing the traditional community and family life of the West, will you achieve any type of earthly happiness.

Taxi Driver movie warned us about this

True love. No. This is not something to chase. For me…we are still far too aligned with our nature. And I think the answer to this conundrum is exactly that too, nature. You want a lady? Listen to Jordan Peterson and be real with yourself.

Only those who don't play the game wins the game. Even those who are aware of the game have lost

💜Love God, Love Yourself, Love Others Is How To Get And Give Love💜The Internet Has Become Like The Restaurants And IRL Living: Sterile and Thus Is Deadly To Our Soul And Hate Spreads Faster Than "Covid" and Is The Biggest "Cancer" On Society💜Blessings💜

Women have options on dating apps

The other day I was in Barnes & Noble sitting in one of two armchairs that were placed about two feet apart, slightly turned toward the other. A man sat down in the other and immediately (and noisily) shifted the chair so that the angle was less facing and turned away from my chair. Without thinking, the following comment matter-of-factly slipped out of my mouth, "And *that* is why men are single and wonder why it is." I don't know if he heard me, as he didn't react. I usually don't make comments like that, but I'm bothered by the fact that more and more, some men are oblivious to their behavior. Prior to this event, a man put out his cigarette and then spat whatever it was he coughed up, outside of the entrance of a department store where everyone was entering. On another occasion, while engaging in conversation with a male cashier who seemed to be in happy spirits, I asked what he likes best about his job, he went on to say that he likes it, but that he doesn't like having a female boss because she doesn't let him slack (his rant included a few other complaints that I believe all managers expect from their employees) and I'll add, he did not say it in a joking manner. The worst part is he didn't clue in that I'm female or my best friend, who was standing next to me, is one too! 🤪 In my experience, most men are too afraid or don't know how to engage in a simple conversation (online or in person.) Heck, even making eye contact seems to be non-existent these days. Cell phones have become emotional support crutches for most people. With their heads bent down practically shouting they either don't want or don't know how to engage with others. I know there have to be thousands of great, communicative and wonderful men out there. I still hold out hope that maybe someday I'll find one. ☺️ I'm not sure what the answers are, but I absolutely agree there's a problem and it's not only the men. It's women who wear so much makeup you can smell it, false eyelashes that flap in the wind, nails that look like weapons, clothes that don't leave anything to the imagination, and personalities that are beyond disappointing. I see it all and I've probably said too much here, but definitively, there is a problem. Let's keep trying to figure it out and thank you Steven for sharing all your fantastic guests with us! ❤

At 40 I still haven't found the love. Only the se x was good, but now it's getting boring without intimacy

It’s a very sad state of affairs… I would say travel and meet people in other countries! I met my husband travelling

Great point by Strauss about “statistics” and how often they are juiced or twisted or completely made up. I wish more people understood this . I hear stats today and I’m like meh

This dude has no idea what it’s like dating as a young man and just equating therapy to mental health care is bs it doesn’t solve any of the problems and makes people more miserable

The Game was more or less disrespectful to everyone that helped Neil. He went into their world, they helped him a lot, then he trashed them in his book. Neil is a creep.

Women are all truly (and sadly too) 100% sure that there is a 10/10 rich young fit guy somewhere for them. That is the problem of those apps, is that they’ve have risen the women’s standards so high that it leads to disconnect men and women just because of people forgot how to meet someone in your league in the real world.

I remember Neil Strauss and his moon faced woman in the game 👌

The pickier women get, the more they end up sharing the same guys.

Talked a lot and said nothing 😂😂

Maybe why many men are hard to find real love is because many of them in their heads are stuck with their high school crush. They were dating but it failed. Women usually are not stuck with their high school crush because women in general can move on faster than men. Men may have their next girlfriend or even finally marry their last girlfriend, but there will always be that obsession in their head for their high school crush, it's almost like they can't accept that it didn't work out and that they had been cheated on by the crush. Acceptance of reality is important in this life. Without acceptance, you can't be happy with anything that you have now.

Could you do a “Why middle-aged women can’t find love”? Would love to know if there are any tips at all for us old hags…

I wish I care enough about this “problem” to finish watching this conversation. Maybe tomorrow 😂

Sorry dude, therapists are not the answer. Resilience is the answer. Learning to fail and not feeling a failure. Stop crying about it, get on with it.

Very disappointing appearance from Neil here. He’s clearly been on the sidelines for a long time now, doesn’t understand the modern dating marketplace and the new unique challenges - as well he doesn’t understand how women are moving / operating in this new environment, I think he’d be legitimately shocked to know how standard it is for the majority of typical girls to be dating / sleeping with 4-5 men concurrently, and how generally promiscuous women have become. The current dating marketplace could be better described by a famous economic model - for example Brazil. The 10% upper class (the haves) and the 90% lower class (have nots). The middle class has completely ceased to exist. A complete bifurcation in the sexual marketplace.

I'm calling cap on Neil Strauss. Neil Strauss is an incel

Find something funny to say, be genuine and not creepy and go up to a girl on a night out !! Don’t wait for apps.

Neil looks hit

Please return the full podcast. Where is free speech in this? Just because many women ranted about it, doesn't mean it must be deleted. Everyone has an opinion. Well I guess this podcast no longer seeks the truth and freedom anymore. Come on, what is this?!

Why do you think women owe you attention?

I followed Neil Strauss' work since 2008 but his framework is outdated and he is clueless about the current dating market. On top of that, he was filibustering with a lot of his answers in this interview. This was a terrible interview. Don't bring Neil Strauss back.

My friend Marc Lujan has found real love, is he not a man? @lujitime