Why Men Feel a DEEP Emotional Connection with Women Who Create Space 

…unless he's a cheater or she's a hoe; but then again, the whole charade wouldn't qualify as "healthy" from the get-go.

Yeah, we women teach men to relate with others, men teach women have their own space, relationships are for growth

@@Marianismacias Wonderful words

I need a man that can accept that i am clingy. If he complains, then i will.not hesitate to walk away. I have a lot to offer as a woman. All or nothing if he can't provide or satisfy my clinginess then go find someone else or be alone. That's my piece.

😊Amen!

I agree strongly

Most of this is subconcious so most aren't aware or they don't know how a woman feels from her perspective because they aren't women and don't have anything to compare it to as they have always delt with things that way. Understanding how both genders work really helps. But both partners need to have the knowledge to make it work and communicate with each other and sadly a lot don't. It does get better with age and experience I feel though. Some men never grow up 😂

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Same here

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Me too although my space and friends were frowned on.

Yeah but if you clock out the ONE time I come to you and I never dump then you might be a little avoidant or just don’t like me.

You can’t use your girlfriends or female family members to discuss *him* or your relationship, though. If you are sitting around complaining about him to other people, it’s time to end things.

Men are the ones that do that. Women have all that already... _well, the ones that don't dump their single friends & relatives once they're coupled..._ They're expecting to be confided in & treated like they're in a relationship by their man.

You shouldn't talk about your relationship issues to other people! First rule of marriage!!

Then why need a man if he is not the rock that provides time and attention? Sure he will not be there 24/7. But when you need him, he has to be there. Just dont over do it. But a loving man knows how to provide attention when the woman needs it.

I feel the same way. And I don't get why women are so obsessed with relationships. Women who are financially independent and don't need a man to survive at that.

There are, but the algorithm will show those more to men on here than women lol. Also women outnumber men by a LOT so especially since we “expire” at a certain age while they look better, (I’m assuming you’re both also western women) men are leaving the North America in droves to marry eastern women that are traditional and men are now considered the prize -_-

Men do not care. Women do. That’s why.

This!!!!!

THIS should be the top comment. THANK YOU. 🔥🔥🔥

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Nice! Great share. Thank you.

No. Space is essential for everyone. So are communication and relationship skills. I'm a woman and if I don't have space I'm out of the relationship, it's like air to me and to many other people.

Dump him and move on , he will come back when he feel this

@@mundoomundoo1371 agreed. and when he comes back....don't take him back

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Right? Love this!

Perhaps his maturity and standards haven't developed quality enough to join you on the High Road, where Love.Honor.Cherish thrives. Continue to Enjoy seeing that which assures your spirit ~ and honoring who you choose to be for yourself and others.

You're writing about boys as written by you. That's the difference. Brian is talking about man and a healthy distance what is something totally different. I'm happy married because my husband is a man, not a boy. He's by my side in good and bad times. And he discusses also the things that bother him. But he needs space for his hobbies aswell as I need space for myself. First thing is to sorted out all boys and get a real man. Personally I need to heal first and stop running after the wrong guys. Have boundaries and keep them.

@@ireefree2024 Congratulations on your satisfactorily-yoked match. ❤ Yes, I know what Brian was talking about. I was utilizing comic relief tongue-in-cheek humor, while telling a blunt truth about a common reason “space” becomes an issue if ‘reasonable passion’ was never mutual, or was lost

Its completely normal to have an anxious attachment style. Im the same way a lot of people experience this. The best piece of advice i can give is to find things to do without him before he has to ask for space. It is a game changer. I love him actually texting me and trying to figure out what i’m doing instead of texting him and blowing up his phone. It helps keep the spark alive in a relationship for sure. I hang with friends, family, get my nails done, workout, etc and its perfect for giving him space to strengthen the relationship.

@@AudreyLuerdinglove this!

I struggle with this in realtionships too! I found focusing on hobbys, health or meeting up with other friends really distracts me from those feelings and before I knew it they would be showering me with love and affection. Make your life not all about them! If a man made their life all about me I'd be kinda freaked out tbh and not be attracted to them (I've had a few male friends give me the ick by doing this) Knowing what that's like has also helped!

HE NEEDS TO COMMUNICATE THAT WITH YOU INSTEAD OF KEEPING YOU GUESSING.

@@AudreyLuerding its not normal, but it is common. its a result of lack of healthy upbringing. Best thing to do is heal and become more secure attachment.

He will probally say the same damn thing when you want space from him lmao

I feel like you know the answer already but every one is different… if you know the person you are talking to then … that’s all I can say :)

1 week of no contact is ghosting. If a guy does that to me, i call him out on it. Or not responding anymore hahaha 😂

They come back?

@@musical1innm They did haha

When an avoidant needs space he is allready gone. Oh and busy with others.

Run😂😂😂

They need an unhealthy kinda space. Space is puahing you away and the beginning of the end or a horrible situationship that will leave you mentally drained. Good luck.😂

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I'm built the same way. I need to pull away to recharge!

Yes, leave him alone. Go radio silence on his ass. He WILL come back. This is hard to do but act like you don't care, it works in a way for him to realize he misses you and loves you. Plus, he will think you are making memories with another man. He won't like that and will come to you. Don't stress girl. He will come back to you. A girlfriend doesn't need to be doing a wife's work on a girlfriend pay.

Yes, I agree definitely do the opposite. Focus on yourself and do your own thing. Don't even mention any of those issues. Just carry on as normal, like you don't really care about it. He will come back around. Don't push it. It will make him run further away from you.

I wouldn't be able to put up with that behaviour. Props to you for being able to handle it, but I do think he needs to deal with his problems in a way that doesn't hurt you. You sound like a loving and caring partner who tends to his needs, and you deserve to have your needs met too. Just my two cents

I have the same attachment style you do it sounds like (anxious), from childhood neglect... not intentional neglect however there was just certain situations going on around me and certain people that took higher priority that my own needs. Despite all of that, and knowing what caused my childhood issues the anxious stuff is something I still deal with. It all goes back to childhood, and what you were exposed to and how your parents and/or caregivers responded to and met (or in our cases did not meet) your needs and how you were treated as a child. The urge to cling stems from your parents not being at all available to meet your needs, to maybe being available and not being available to meet your needs and its deeply wounding to us as children and the trauma from that becomes deeply ingrained within us. There is no easy fix to that, in fact its something we will deal with for the rest of our lives. With therapy and/or self-help you can do a lot though, but it will take time and willpower to face what you went through as a child, and learn healthy ways to cope and manage your anxious attachment style. I didn't ever go to the therapist but I've done a lot of self work over the last 10 years. As I said, its something we will deal with for the rest of our lives. The urge to cling is the worst to deal with, because it comes from the abandonment we felt as children and the fact we could never trust our parents and/or caregivers to be there when we needed them to be so we formed this need to cling to them to show them that we were there in a bid for attention, love, and care. There is a lot of stuff you can do to help manage your anxious attachment style as you might learn, and it may include learning about inner child work and re-parenting techniques. When you feel the urge to cling, that's a trauma response coming from your inner child and it's your inner child screaming for the attention that our parents/caregivers didn't give us, so now its up to us as adults to deal with the mess through self help and/or therapy, which may include learning about our inner child and finding ways to soothe them through re-parenting techniques. I know you can work through it, and find ways to manage your anxious attachment style just like I have. What effected us in childhood wounded us deeply, it's unfortunately something you and your brain cannot forget and it became basically wired into our brains to react in certain ways and one of those ways is "the urge to cling".

Match what he’s doing and also give the love to yourself and your life ❤

He doesn't sound invested or single 😮

Just leave him alone

There's no definite time, each couple needs to work that out. If he needs so much space that you disconnect, you might be incompatible, or he may be playing the field and not really available for a 1:1 relationship. If he feels suffocated, he has gone past the recharge point and there may be harsh words. You can always ask him. I'm the one who needs space in my relationships.

I'm guessing you don't have a relationship anymore then. Space to text other women is not what Brian is talking about, that only happens when he doesn't want to commit to you or anyone else. Better off without him.