I've never been treated so poorly for helping someone out. I sheltered her, I fed her, I married her, I gave her a beautiful child, and after all that she got a restraining order against me and had me arrested for violating it, even though I didn't know it existed.
Narcissistic person is always being attacked by their own super ego, the only way they can get any relief is to direct this super ego onto someone else, this is why they can't stand being alone.
So basically narcissists make you responsible for all their feelings even pain. And it’s your fault because you’ve brought them fleeting happiness at one point in time so now you’re responsible when that goes away.
Good explanation. It explains why at one point he said he was "addicted" to me. As you said, narcissists see love as a fix, exactly like a heroin addict. Yes, they use love as a drug to mask their pain. I'm sure he never changed, and kept using people as drugs to make him feel better. He'll do it til the day he dies. What a shit life.
They also don't have the ego strength to be introspective. One reason they look for new supply is they become bored easily. They're always looking for new fresh supply. One reason people leave is they keep raising the bar. When life deals them a blow (which doesn't take much for their fragile egos) they pull out all the stops to get supply from you in some toxic way (devalue, discard).
Our joy/contentment is their pain. Our pain/disomfort/suffering is their joy/pleasure See that spark in their eye’s when we tell them of a minor pain or a trauma. Thats their true self!
Thank you for your beautiful videos. They popped up in my RU-vid feed today and are exactly what I am needing. Just the right words and pretty things to look at, too. Ahhhhh. 🙏💜🙂
I saved my narc’s ass sooooo many times: helped him get a good job via my friend, lent him money, did dog sitting for him and omfg you name it. And apparently for the narc that wasn’t enough and he kept saying that he doesn’t feel loved by me as I woundnt go see him at a snap of his fingers. And he always acted like the victim and I was the bad person. 😢
It is simple you don´t want to be a servant or a slave forever. Once you realize you are nothing but like that to them you leave. It is better sooner than later because those people get worse and worse. Narcissists give you only breadcrumbs to hold you on the line - nothing more. In fact I know I am better of (100 percent better of) without him. The worst was I was treated like a baby - I always hated that and I seldom did what the narcissist wanted (we had great fights). I always said my opinion and I am not sorry about that (I am only sorry about my bad words - but that is my temper and I learned that from my mum).
Clear wise words and explanations of narc abuse and how and why they are who they are. Empty with no empathy, just pain and sufferring to the bitter end. They never ever evolve or change. Stuck in nasty cycle that repeats to eternity. Let it go and choose yourself over them and inso doing find peace and heal with time.
🙏.. Joe.. Brother.. Everything you Talk about, you have gone into detail... it never ending Details... the Humbleness of it all, OR Humiliation of it All.. .. .. within or without🙏🤠!
Excellent summation of the emotional issues that underlie narcissistic behavior. So sad that you can’t help a poor wounded soul in that condition. They need help, but their disorder causes them to cause significant harm to anyone that loves or wants to help them. It’s an emotional and hellish nightmare to become intertwined with a true narcissist .
Damm this this hard. She used to blame me for every problem occuring with her, sounds like i am making this up.. but no. Headache my fault.. because something i did / said Pimples my fault Because i made her feel stressed And more.... She blamed me for her stomach ache which was caused my intestine stone. She broke off the relationship because she didn't want my care and love fearing that she would be dependent on me Na .. I felt that even if i would give her a whole word it wouldn't be enough for her. No amount of patience, love, care is enough. At the end i got blamed for very things she was doing/ did to me
I left him six months ago, no contact. He never thought I would, and didn’t see it coming. I did some therapy to work through the worst parts, and now I am free🤍🪽
Please do not be there victim, be your own hero, please be strong , they are the weak ones , they have drained you of your own strength, take it easy on yourself , love yourself you will get there x☘️
I wish you healing & peace. I was brutally discarded in May after 12 years married, I know the pain. Please take one moment at a time as I'm also trying to do🙏
Why would HIS response dictate whether or not YOU comment . Is this wonderful information not enough ? The comment section is also a place for us to discuss amongst ourselves the information presented , along with testimonials of our trials and tribulations with the narcissist. Your comment is more harmful than him not responding. Sounds like you may have some issues that need tending too. How about a thank you. Thank you Joe, it’s ok if you can’t respond to us needy individuals. The reason we’re in this damned place any how.
