They show there true colors within a week. You pick up vibes something is wrong. I was with a controlling Narsasist cheater 3 years. Horrible horrible. He cleaned up and everything about 6 months. Then he changed. Started not cleaning up. Wearing the same clothes a week at a time. He cheated with his ex wife behind my back and stayed with her several days before I found out. He burned up a lot of my stuff. He took a hammer 🔨 busted up a lot of my stuff. I felt UNLOVED UNWANTED. A whole lot more stuff he did. Spits in my face. Etc
@@billharden7127 Every game he played on me, I played back. Dirty, filthy scum they are. I shudder to think I loved THAT! To desire a demon! I'm STILL repenting!
The passive aggressive push pull and ghosting that eventually lead to discard to destroy the person who loves them, they are sadistic emotional predators!!!
I think I'm finding out now and I'm been in this situation for 2 years and he walked away I ended up having his baby so yeah it got to far I wish I new this before I'm so stupid for falling for this I'm so hurt mad betrayed used afraid of doing this alone with a 3 month old its in deep and just walked out
@@kaydencegauthier3857 if he is a NARC fr....now.that ibe hone thru similar..i would IMMEDIATELY GET FULL CUSTODY... full physical and legal custody!! NOW... mom trust ur g utt even when you are exhausted..ask GOD to help you with HIS child..children are a BLESSING from the LORD..his blessings are GOOD...give him back his word sis..we with you!!
Without sounding vindictive, I wish there was a way or place to "expose" these *evil people* and their toxic methods before they damage more unsuspecting lives.
There will never be a way. You can only expose them through an ongoing one to one " relationship" over time. They don't operate from 3D where our human bodies live. They operate from the metaphysical realm 4D. My narc mom had 6 kids and I'm the only one who sees her for what she is. The spirit transfered into 1 brother and 1 sister now narcopaths too. It gets stronger each generation to stay in the bloodline.
@@seasun2846 Narcissism or Cluster B personality disorders are NOT curable. Google it to get info and confirmation from reliable sources. This has nothing to do with "spirits". I'm a Master Life Coach who spent 54 years with a covert narc and I have a degree in psychology.
@@judyscheiber3661 Thanks 4 your response.l didn t say that NPD is curable... I know that is not..i spent my life with 2 of them. Both parents narcs. I have an idea about. This is one Part Or fact. The other side is spiritual, like it is written in the bible, how People Will be like in the last Times. It is a perfect description of narcisissm. No one can change a twisted narcopath But God almighty.
The ex covert narc i was married to lived a double life for 15 yrs. I've been 10 yrs out. He had the audacity to try to return several times. Once I knew about narc abuse, never again would I return to being his emotional slave. My life is amazing now. I met a very empathic man who sees and hears me.
Nice to hear you’ve met someone kind… I’m 12 mths out of 20 years living with this breed and have been learning about this personality disorder for 12mths…. I’m 51 and finally free to discover who I am what makes me happy within myself not outside of myself… One day when I’m healed & healthy I’ll meet someone truly honestly kind 🤍🤍🤍 tho no rush for that 🦋🦋🦋
They never forget u either.. at some point they try to get BK to especially vulnerable targets even a yr or yrs after with silly explanations n expect that u have not moved on.
Tyra, you are on to something. Disassociate Disorder took the place of MPD. Great observation. They have a personality (not their own, but one they learned) for every supply. They still suck.
Yep,I saw all through the facade,after their mask fell off after 4 years. Now I exposed him totally to the police for going against me,which will include the law. Fake stupid going all the way down.
Dated 2 and married 1 of these creeps. Horrific trauma. Narcs & psychopaths are becoming more common in our sick society today. The likelihood of meeting one is very high.
Wow!!! Every word you said is so true! Living with a narcissistic man is hell. Everyday is suffering and the children pay a very heavy price. The narcissists belongs to the whole world but never to his family.
Apparently. You haven't meant my recent ex-wife. 19 yrs gone in 15 minutes when she came home with the police in tow. She was even telling my children she wants me broke, homeless or dead. Too bad for her. My 2 sons love me and know the truth.
I am grateful to be living in a time when awareness of narcissism is becoming more prevalent and the resources to educate oneself on the subject are readily available. RU-vid channels like Clarice's help make the education process accessible to almost anyone around the globe. She deserves high praise for her continuing efforts on this channel and her blog. Stay vigilant!
I wish this was available back in 97 when I graduated then met him in 98. Changed my life. Let's say, I survive every day and let's not talk about them whoras who found out he was Married and did not care. Affected my kids lives as well. Karma will serve them one day.
Is it EVER!!!😢 I am going it right now!!! I have lived with him for 2 1/2 years. Just caught him cheating… hey… the discard they tell you about is real!
Their sole focus is on themselves. If you got caught up in the game with a narc is certainly doesn't believe you don't love yourself and are looking for someone to love you because of it.
This is why there's so much power in just walking away from these toxic people that don't serve you nothing at all, block away and go no contact, pull the supply cord, game over. And another thing don't let them stay rent free in your head.
@@tashatalkcredit There are many other channels dealing with surviving narcs. Do a search. It helps to keep in mind that he never loved you - and the relationship you thought you had wasn't real.
Mine was living a double life. I have no idea how he found the time. But, now that I'm out of the marriage and can see things more clearly, all the signs were there.
How did you find out he was living a double life . Did you confront him/ her and the other party ? Or didn’t you just walk away ? I am dealing with this now and don’t know what to do. I loved this man soooo much then found out that he was cheating . We eventually broke up because of it . 3 weeks after the breakup . We spoke and met up and I was drawn back in by the amazing chemistry and passion we shared and we made love . It was unexpected but just happend . Immediately after that Incident he told me he was sorry for what happend and he loved me but he felt God was leading him to Persue that other relationship . I was totally devistated but couldn’t understand how we just shared that amazing moment with love and passion and yet chose someone else . I found that so hard to believe . After that I found out he was getting married . Two weeks after that he told me i forgot something at his place so I went to get it and we attacked each other again. The sad part was he was on the phone with her and he put his finger over his lips and said SHHHHH. Everything inside wanted me to make a sound or Leave something at the house so she can see what she was getting into but was afraid to do so and sadly enough the reason I was there was because I loved him snd misses him so much and hoped he would realize how much he did love me and change his mind about getting with this other woman . I have learned sooooo much being on the other side of the relationship as the side woman . I assumed while I was in the relationship based on what I found or suspected but now I know for sure !!!!!!!! They lie ….they lie …they lie . And they do it so effortlessly. Treats me like he still loves me .. calls me all the time .. we meet up very often .. this video has shown me the the is keeping me close for his narc supply by being everything a woman wants and needs everything except faithful and truthful !!!!! He knows how to make a woman feel so good by his words and he is soooooo sweet and catering . From opening doors to cooking , cleaning , massaging sexing lol. Etc . That’s how he draws you right on in . I have been struggling with trying to find a way to stop first of all but more importantly how to tell his new victim that he is not the person you think you married . I don’t want it to come from me because she will just think I’m lying to get him back . What is your advice ? Would you tell her? Keep in mind she already found my name in his phone twice and he lied his way out of it so now we just use another form of communication other than text . He is so slick and clever and always makes it seem he is going to change but never will
He has lied about his where abouts so many times while with me and it just rolled off his tongue like nothing . Things he said to her while I was laying there with him : The phone is dying , going to be really busy running errands , I love you . I will call you when my phone charges . I’m working late . I didn’t hear my phone etc . I know she doesn’t trust him because she always asks if he is with someone and she believes him when he says no 🙄. How will she ever find out if she believes everything he says
@@Unknown-ws3fh one way she can find out is by you telling the truth. She deserves that much. What you said sounds exactly what I went through. He's using you. He has no love for you... the passion is because he is well versed in your love language and it speaks yo that nature every time your together. It's a skill he's practiced for years like learning to play an instrument. You are trauma bonding. I have ptsd from holding on like you did and was physically, sexually, and emotionally abused and used afterthefact. You need to stop what you're doing and at least give this other poor victim of his a chance to chose what's best for her. Instead of becoming trapped. My ex said what he needed to say to keep me as a supply. When I found out after I told her everything and believed he was changing and getting better for himself and our family, he was still seeing her. I was the side piece at that point because I already was starting to learning who he was and fighting back. Which to this day he is trying to destroy me because of. She still went back to him not knowing he was seeing me still. At this point I chose not to get involved beyond that point. She is just as messed up and will suffer for it later. If you don't think he isn't cheating on the both of you right now with others, you are lying to yourself. I hope you can find strength and compassion for yourself to stop what your doing. Pr he will destroy you one way or another. You are just a pon. He has no love for you because, he simply can't love. Ask him what love means to him and you'll find your truth 🫂💜
@@Unknown-ws3fh he keeps playing games thats what they do , I go by what they do NOT what he tells me , they are cunning (open doors, dinners, shopping, accomodating) con artist, liars, and the SEX was off the chain, but my morals, dignity, body and faith...is not for sale for a snake like the NARC!!
I wish a MF would! After all that he has put me through!? He would want to rethink that. I heard about his past. If he ever tried it I'd be the last person he tried it with. And I told him exactly that!
@@demelbrown3057 I was gonna literally gonna type the same thing then I read your response yess I’m here for it “l wish MF would” that’s exactly how I feel about my ex narc he don’t own me nor did he raise me so hell naw I ain’t letting him put one finger on me! That will be his biggest mistake!!
The Narcissist had me slaving in the kitchen at home with our child whilst he was out in the streets gaining new supply. He is a mess I spoke to the new supply and she was telling me he was single and he could do what he likes. She was willing to fight me over the narcissist 😂 I had to leave her to find out the hard way!!
The thing is he will not have treated his other "suppliers" any differently. One if my ex's suppliers lives in the same area as me. I saw her last week and she looked wretched. So it has caught up with her too. I'm nearly five years apart from my ex. I am doing well. It was a long hard and heart rending journey but with the help of God. I am in a better place. Good Luck to you.
Lol same!!!! The covert I was seeing who lied to me about his marital status, had his wife trying to come at me via his phone while he sat next to her! I just laughed and blocked his number. I know mrs. girl can figure it out. Doubt it was her first time seeing other women on his phone too. Goofy asses.
Hahahahaha girl same glad the nigga gone lmao 🤣 they think they wining when in all reality you just cursed yourself nothing good will come to them at all
The narcissist don't like to feel and taste their own medication. But the narcissist expect their victims. To swollow the doses they give out. Just like the narcissist gets bored. So does the people. The narcissist think. They got one up on.
How to spot a narc: 1. Not dependable 2. Serial ghoster 3.LOVES attention which is why they need multiple women so if one or two not giving it the others will 4. Plays on emotions .. tell you they love you so that they can get you to do whatever they want 5. Lies constantly they are master manipulators Please stay away from these types.. I’m still emotionally & mentally messed up from dealing with one😩
I just allowed myself to get ducked back in..grrr so mad at myself ! It was done because I was wanting my own space..once I went back it was short lived..now no response bcuz I reacted..flip flop onto the other ones..
They all have the same behaviors, even though they may seem different in personality. I have been in 4 relationships in my adult life with these "narcissists ". Two of them are diagnosed and the other few think they are perfectly normal and heroes. They all live double lives sometimes many lives. It devastating when you find out that you were just a piece of meat that was interchangeable with other pieces of meat. I was angry for a really long time but now I actually feel sorry for them. They are constantly looking around the corner for the next thing and are never happy or satisfied with life. Even though my life has been miserable with them I don't need to be with someone to fulfill me inside. These people are empty vessels with only negative emotions and cheating and getting away with things is what makes them thrive. People don't realize it's not a typical sex addiction. this is about power and control and getting attention. They have to feed this Beast that is forever hungry and never satisfied. That would not be a way I would want to feel all the time . They cannot grow as people because they cannot look inward and correct their own life mistakes .They never give a shit about you and they never will. You won't know what's going on because you're like a frog put into cold water and put on boil slowly. When you realize you're an empath and that you have only been with this type of person it is life-changing. I am not a victim. I was supposed to see this to awaken and it is a very painful process, but once you come out of it you can really make a difference. I pray for these people because they are lost in their reprobate minds. Everybody watching this video that is a victim I don't feel sorry for you, but I have empathy for your story. You are the heroes and we are all connected. these people are lost in their own lies and will pay a karmic price. If you are watching this video it's probably because you're being awakened. You have a job to do so pay attention
Gracias for sharing, yes I have realized it, I’m not a Victim! I m with you in praying 🙏🏼painful process indeed, but I decided yesterday that I’m done with this bs of what he done to me, he passed away 9months ago,💝🙏🏼😢it surely was an AWAKENING!~ For ME!!!
You’re are absolutely right… we are not victims. God uses all things to accomplish His purpose for our life. Including narcissistic people to awaken us.
Wow you nailed it! Very few really get this. In the end they were the catapult, the gift, to our purposed ascension while believing they destroyed us. Feeling bad for them is part of their psychic hook. We all choose, within the same inherent measure of free will, good or evil. Don't be fooled! God reveals himself to every man. Narcs choose to sell their souls to the devil. They are reprobates and will have God's judgement.
Krissy Kritter • Absolutely precise & expertly expressed Krissy. Thanks for your accurate insights & eloquence in describing this very painful life experience & process. Once we become truly aware of the horrors that these monsters actually are deep in their core & see the fakery for who they really are something in us snaps & causes a change within us. Depends of course in how hurt, maimed, controlled, manipulated we have allowed ourselves to become in this warped one sided affair. That's NOT a criticism of anyone here & me included. After all the vast majority are not responsible for their own childhood abuses either, but it shapes our very characters, as it does the Narcissistics & other shared or similar mental health or personality disorders these types tend to have (usually) more than one Co-Morbid Condition running alongside it in fact! However we (if abused) in our pasts have chosen a different tact & path, refusing to use our angst to lash out at other's we meet throughout life. We choose REAL LOVE, Empathy & Compassion. Above all we offer our respect & trust as well as make sure we never would abuse another human being, or animal in fact due to the repulsive experience we've already endured & survived. Unfortunately our deep subconscious minds are hard wired to negatives & are attracted & addicted to the familiar chemicals in our systems to pain & traumas in our past. We have LOTS of work to do in order to properly heal & avoid another situation with another narc or psycho abuser in our future. Stay Vigilant & Secure in the knowledge you CAN & WILL beat this & step up into your own power. Once you reclaim it, you will easier recognise these soulless sick abusers & won't even give them the time of day. You will repel them like the opposite side of a magnet. Believe in YOURSELF that you can stand your ground & knowing you can stand alone & be comfortable alone is uplifting and so empowering. You are never alone if you know Yahowah's name & all He offers His children. Only 1 per million will find Him & chose His Narrow & Unpopular Path. Eternal joy for your soul awaits if you just listen & observe His 7 instructions & learn to walk away from the warped ways of man. blessyah.com 💝🌈🦋💞
@@aharowna3539 Beautifully said, reading all this make me feel less alone. I'm just to the point where I've stopped doubting myself because the continued arguments with no self accountability on the other end and my desperate desire to have my love reciprocated. I've been through this to 4 times now throughout my life. My relationship with my half brother growing up was terrible, my own personal bully, it made me accept poor treatment as a norm. I know now that I always tried my best and that there is nothing wrong with me. I'm learning to trust my intuition and love myself as well as project my love but only to those who has actions align with their words. It's messages like yours that help me along my path, thank you.
So glad you brought up the narcissist spread of sexually transmitted diseases. I have brought this up on multiple channels. Yours being truthful enough to add it to the discussion is a tremendous plus... Thank you... Stay safe stay aware and god bless
The malignant narcissist ex I divorced finally gave me stds when I was pregnant. He was sleeping around using no protection. I had to take medication to prevent complications during my pregnancy due to the Std. He would also yell out numerous times during his abusive rages that my children and I are tag a long worthless burdens in his way in his life
This is my ex husband, he compluse liar and cheat and more children outside the time we were married, he thought I would never find out, plus lived double life last few years of the marriage but told his then girlfriend that he was separated but forgot to tell me, low life coward.
When you said, when you give, and pour your time, energy, and attention, to the narcissists, it's all in vain. (Meaning waisted) The light bulb went on!! So true!!!! Thank you Clairice!!
@Veggie Burger 🐮💓 @Veggie Burger, Perfectly, and truly said!!! No one should have to be taken for granted. I think that's why narcs are miserable inside.
I spent 54 total years with a covert narc. There wasn't the info around back then. There also wasn't the prevalence of them dominating society. These days society is broken for many reasons. I do worry that some people don't understand that not everyone who wrongs them is a narc OR that they can diagnose narcissism off of You Tube.
All of you, please wish me good luck this weekend 🙏. I'm planning to get the hill out to save the rest of me and my 2 sons. 20 years of marriage, my wife did all what in the video and more.
5 years ago I found out some ugly truths about my wife of 25 years - went through the divorce process which she made difficult (surprise surprise). So glad she's gone - everything in my life has improved
I wished I had learned of this 32 years ago! So text book , it’s scary that they’re even humans at all . The address part is that nobody could ever believe you when you tell them the truth.
Tell me about it. Couldn't even watch a movie together without her stupid phone going off. Those ladies at work with their "group chats" constantly causing problems.
@@christinewarren8134 oh hel no.. Nope.. This one was her ladie friends she works with. I thought about that and "checked" and it was. Thank God I learned Spanish for 23 years. If not I wouldn't have a clue what would be going on..
@@judyscheiber3661 match energy then. If they have it with you, then u cna have it with them. They don't like it move the hell on. People are too damn afraid to be alone and be happy. That's why the narcs do what they do. They play on that insecurity. You get ur power by having the ability to walk away from them at a moments notice. Don't argue with them, ignore them like they're not there and walk.
Yep got an std from two of my ex narc relationships. One even Said doctors where making things up to cause trouble and they didn’t blink or seemed concerned at the fact that I ended up with it. 😡
When you painfully eventually see them for who-they-are, they blame you for all their behaviours, wrong doings and betrayals. Claiming if ‘only you had done a,b,c or hadn’t done a,b,c, then they wouldn’t have HAD TO do what they did! Often they’ll then U-Turn denying what they’ve done, denying this conversation, and make a bizarre attempt to hoover you back in! This was my experience. Having children with him leaves me deeply concerned to what he may do in the future. (On the outside, he’s the ‘nicest guy’ you’d meet!!!)
Yes. Everything was always my fault..I left and of course I'm the one that leaves she lets me come back, and tolerates all my bad behavior in the meantime using the largest group of flying monkeys I've ever seen to torture and make me suffer
Wow! When you mentioned the part where they pick fights just to have an excuse to leave the home to go and cheat really hit home hard with me. I mean every single thing you said fits her to a T, but the fight picking part really got to me. I wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart for confirming so many things for me. The entire time her putting her spin on everything trying to make it all my fault and saying I was crazy, there were times where I started to believe her and now with your confirmations I feel like a huge weight of doubt has been lifted from me. Thank you so very much once again. You are an amazing person that can help so many hurt and emotionally destroyed people. Please keep up the amazing work.
This was my husband of 41 years to a T. He made me crazy. When he died suddenly, his girlfriend sent a huge floral wreath to the funeral home, just to spite me one more time. But she wasn't the only one he fooled around with over the years. I'm relieved hes gone, sad way to waste ones life but I had kids to think of and take care of. I try not to hate him, but its difficult
Mine made me crazy too. 39 years of narcissistic abuse that none understand unless they have been through it themselves. They are the most charming of people and the awful smearing that has/is been done to me has almost destroyed me and left me virtually friendless. A wonderfully benevolent and generous man, who would believe me. And what they do to your family relationships.. don’t get me started. Still I don’t hate him and I miss what I thought that we had together which on reflection was me pouring myself out relentlessly. I am so broken by this terrible abandonment and betrayal but as a committed Christian I must forgive and keep my heart clean before The Living God. It’s very hard and I don’t always have the victory over my pain but as Paul said..”I press on towards the goal..” the loneliness is sooo painful
@@mariehayes8213 I hear you same for me married for over 30 odd years kept trying to please and keep this man happy but wasn’t enough. He was driving me to a mental house. Was discarded after I started to have a voice and when he knew I was on to him.
I left my narcissistic husband and he has covered his tracks so well. I almost want to believe that he more wanted me to believe that he had a double life than he actually did. It was about crazy making for him…he wanted me following dead ends so I’d look insane especially to our children. But they see him as this kind, giving and devoted father, never taking time for himself. When he’s gone the kids think it’s for work. It’s normal for them…they think he’s out saving the world as he is military. They write about in school. Now that I left, I’m the bad guy. As long as I know my truth about the psychological abuse I endured for years then he doesn’t win.
That was the mo of my ex narc. Most of her triangulations were fake but nearly all the ones that weren't were lesbians. She has had relarionships with women dating back to her boarding school days. My belief is her true self is a lesbian and was rejected by one or both of her parents and her false self is a heterosexual woman for her image. That is most definitely a double life.
Well said, Clarice!....worth remembering this pattern and why narcs like living a double life......bottom line is they do it because it makes them feel powerful and special. I like the fact that you included that while living the double life strokes their ego, it also makes them paranoid and edgy. Thanks for the video!.....😁
The life of the narcissists is mass confusion, envy and unreasonable jealousy, pride, and stubbornness. They are hurting people seeking to entrap others into their misery. The reason paranoia plagues them, which causes mental health problems. Satan has them bound spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. These people live in hell within themselves, their wickedness heightens the idea of suicide. The only way to escape this dysfunctional character within, be healed of such bondage, is salvation in Jesus Christ. (Luke 4:18-19; John 4:1-24) Again, thank you Clarice for your insight on this growing pandemic in America.
@Veggie Burger 🐮💓 I disagree. Some cases aren't reported as narcissistic suicide, but it happens more than anyone realize. People died from alcoholism, drug overdose, or other vile means to end one's life. How can anyone determine the motive why someone would end his or her life? Many famous celebrities have committed suicide from media reports. Did you believe narcissism was the root cause?
01:53 - Narcissists will actually cheat during the love bombing / idealisation phase. Their harem follows them around like a dark cloud from one primary relationship to the next and is completely interdependent, regardless of what phase in the relationship the narcissist is in. Narcissists will have an infatuation with their new primary supply, but will always keep other ‘options’ on the table (wether it’s just for sex or actually seeking your replacement, or both).
He lied about his 3 baby mamas on our first date!! Didn’t find that out until he went to prison! They are con artists, manipulators, and liars!! Him and my mom both!!
My ex years ago slept with my friends,gave me std and just disappeared, 27 years later came looking for me,denied and blamed me,like a fool got love bombed and then the process of lies,abuse,both physical and mental drove me out.it hurts like he'll but I know I am better off without her,even though I loved her
Mine had relationships behind my back from the beginning of our relationship to the end (10 years) I knew it in my mind but was overwhelmed by her gaslighting. On top of cheating, she did many despicable things to me during our marriage. Several times after I divorced her, she would contact me (hoovering) and act as if nothing had ever happened and I should be eager to reengage with her. She contacted me for a few years when her current relationship had failed or was on the rocks. When she finally realized that I was on to her manipulations, she cursed me and never contacted me again.
Is that the REASON ??. WHY THEY BLOCKED AND UNBLOCKED YOU WHENEVER they want. To be with their next victim and, when they feel like it, they return like nothing happens. 🤔.
Yes indeed. Mine blocked me on Facebook and would repeatedly block and unblock me on whatsapp because I was apparently "argumentative" and "troublesome". He would also frequently pack his bags and leave me for short spurts (sometimes longer) of about 2 weeks and then return and always tell me "he hopes I've thought about the mistakes I've made". I'd always wonder where he was during his episodes, now to come to think of it, he was with his other source or sources of supply🤦
@@Zwelethu202 😮 WOW 😮 I’m sorry you had to experience that pain too. But know that you helped me realize a little more how I Am going to make it! My ex of 10 years did the same to me EXACTLY EVERY TWO WEEKS like clockwork from the very beginning... I have felt sooo stupid and blind. Absolutely horrible about myself for so long. He stripped me of my self worth, my self esteem and has made me question my sanity and now I am trying to get fully away from even ever seeing him anywhere in life again. They truly are evil people!!! Thank you 🙏
@@user-te8fk8cz9c these creatures are the devil. In human form . Evil to the core. They have zero empathy and can never love you. Don't believe a word they say. 90 percent of what they say is lies. Get away and never return! If you value your sanity and your physical health (they are serial cheats) run and never look back! And finally always tell youself every day :"there is nothing wrong with me" , "I am a good person". They are the ones who are unstable. They are the problem not you!
@@Zwelethu202 all true guys do unto them as they do to you . block them and ignore them . wot they do its all part of their game to get you 100 percent submissive and usable for wotever they want ive been their till a had a light bulb moment , it said this aint right and it wasnt . get away from them block them get a court order just get these specimens away from you andlet them crawl back under a stone
When I tell people that the Holy spirit reveal things to me, I'm often told that it's nonsense. Before I did a deep research on npd. I did not know what I was dealing with, I just couldn't understand why he was acting stand offish. I remember clearly, it was a Saturday evening when I was so anxious to go and see him because its been a week almost two I haven't seen him. Everything he would say its work as to why he haven't seen me yet and if I could just be patient. I remember I told him, "the way you move, u move like something that's loving a double life". It was a few months after the he discard when his ex wife confirm that he live double, triple, and quadruple lives it made much more sense. I just wish I knew I met a cat with 9 lives😂😂😂😂. I was on to him so much and I told that i WILL CATCH HIM, and the next week he discard Me. No one but God.
God knows... I told him i put us in Gods hand and i trust God with my life...2 weeks later I did the discard, the Narc took off his mask and all I saw was EVIL!!
The Holy Spirit told me to end it with my last narc! Very clearly I got the words 'let go.' A friend had a vision of a man leading me down a very dark path and she knew instantly it was about him. This guy was talking about marriage and children and moving to his native country within 6 days of us officially getting together! Anyway the sweet mask came off once it ended and I saw the other side of him ... Silent treatment, cruelty, manipulation, the whole works... Either way all things work for the good because it is his behaviour that helped me to get over him!!
Narcissists also enjoy having multiple sources of money coming to them via their (supposed) “one and onlys”. It’s typically how they’ll “decide” whether to ghost you for awhile and come back when they know you’ve recovered financially enough for them to either beg, coerce or demand that you “help” them when they, of course, don’t actually “need” the help, they just want to put you through a test to see if you’re still “usable“. One of my favorite sayings about my ex was, “He considered his money to be his money, and my money to be his too.” Frankly, anything and *everything* a target has is fair game as far as the Narcissist is concerned. You don’t even have to be “wealthy”; if you’re the “kind, supportive” type, they’ll latch onto you like you’re a lifeboat and they’ve just jumped off of the Titanic. Once you’ve built their egos back up again, they’ll decide they want to trade you in for a “better” model. So, no. I don’t just trust blindly anymore. None of us in Recovery from that kind of abuse can afford to.
Thanks I had to learn the hard way It’s unbelievable that we weren’t separated 10 minutes and she’s on dating sites and had new supplies already lined up
Lots of women are living with narcissistic in misery because it’s not easy to even get a divorce from them. They continue to torture their so called partners till their last breath. They are basically raised by the narcissistic mothers. Thanks! It was an eye opener
True. Listening to all this Helped me out while i was going thru the ending of a very long relationship with a narcissist.. everything she spoke about on this video was to the T of what my ex did to me. Having multiple children, living double life. Etc
The sad part is I didnt know really what a narrcisst was. until I got out of relationship and started listening to videos like this. I just thought he was a pathological liar and a cheater. Lol.
@@elainelaguna3132 trust me, you’re definitely not alone. I believe many of us that view these videos never knew or truly knew what a narcissist was. I know I never had. I never, ever involved myself with someone so evil. And trying to explain it to others was like speaking another language. No one understood, and many thought I was crazy, even people in my own family. I’ve received better therapy viewing videos like this, than I had with therapists I’ve met with face to face.
@@elainelaguna3132 , neither did I! I really think that’ most people that suffered and suffer with them did/do not know before. We desperately wanted to help and our intuition figured out that something was really wrong. In order to look for answers we found out by searching. With me, I begin searching about addiction symptoms, because I thought all the paranoid thoughts, the way He changed His mood, the violence, the lies, the insecurity, the switching game and the lack of empathy were an addiction problem, so I found out like you, the right answer!
You NAILED it! I LOVE your channel!! I am SO thankful and truly grateful to God to be out of that horrific and toxic relationship. They are TRULY the Devil!
Imagine a Narcissist with PTSD..its like a nightmare..a TRAP. I do not wish that encounter for my worst enemy. It takes serious prayer + support + counseling to heal.
He did that to me and others. His story to me was that they were in love with him but he wasn't. He was very loving and charming but would storm off at the slightest issue and disappear for weeks on end. Gave me the silent treatment, even blocked me. Sometimes said he needed his own space. All along there were scores of others he was chatting to online. He loved telling me how so many women adored him. I wasted so much love and energy on him. Anything that went wrong was down to my behaviour. He was just keeping me till something better came along in the end.
Thank you for this video. My ex is a narcissist, although I didn't realise it when we were together. The main thing I realise is that he carefully set me up at every stage of our life together, so it seemed as if we were making decisions together and I was happy with what was happening. Narcissists don't just ghost so that we notice it, they plan to do it and put everything in place, even using something you do yourself, so that it seems comfortable and you won't question it.
No more supply. Quit weed . I am so smart way too smart for this imposter.he said you smoke again. I said this more motivation. A clown with a crown . I want a conscious King no rush yell them I am celibate that keeps those narcs away lo. At least I am happy now.
@@darlahenderson4734 I know. I slowly walk off and tell him in a bored voice that since he's always mad at everything it's lost effect and I say "but that's just you. It's how you are."
20 years of complete hell. I had it all. On my own since 17. I am almost 40 feel like I’m 80. I have been sober from pain pills took them because I thought it was my fault. Went to rehab. Also on probation because of him ohh I forgot to mention he had an affair with my mom. Who is also a covert narcissist. My soul is broken slowly picking myself back up. Education is key.
I’ve been there and seen it all , but I was more powerful then that demon , and that what makes me a strong woman ... They think by telling you they love you , & things a woman wants to hear will have you digging in your pockets to give to them . I was always on top of my game and ladies those are types of ppl you can basically see throw from their attitudes , personalities and everything else ... Be strong ladies and be careful , remember we as women are POWERFUL...
I believe there are much greater numbers of narcissistic women. The narcissist woman is given cover by multiple excuses such as shes just menopausal or just a bitch or shes just being a woman...
The sadness I feel for abuse sufferers before the internet is profound. Through channels like this we can feel better, we can feel that it wasn't our fault. It makes no difference where you are in the world the cycle of the narc is identical. I left mine 3 years ago, although we were a sort of family for the kids. We run a business, which I'm in the process of separating, and with that tie cut there is just the kids. She's manipulating them, and giving into their every whim, leaving me to do all the discipling. Of course I'm the bad guy and she's the loving one. My hope is that when they mature they'll understand who I am and who she is, and more importantly, who we were. 16 years of unrelenting abuse, drama, narcissistic rage, projection, gaslighting; all the usual suspects. It's only when I started trying to understand who she was did I discover new vocabulary like toxic, covert, NPD, etc. Get out as soon as you see behind the mask. Your joy is a narcissist's misery and your misery is a narcissist's joy. Don't ever give them that joy again. No contact, gray rocking, neutrality. Love yourself, be strong, you will recover. Namaste 🙏☮️☮️💪💪
They are evil cowards & love no one really. Sad, but true.They always want sth new & get bored all the time. Loyalty, integrity, honesty are not to be found in their vocabulary. Small people somehow although they believe they are so great. Leave them alone & move on to deserving people, who do not lie & live double lifes.
You have just described my xhusband, father of my three children, perfectly. His gaslighting of me brought me undone. These people are dangerous and I am amazed I did not get an std from him.
Great job explaining this important subject -- to the point and in only ten minutes. A smart person once told me that the reason toxic people do the things they do to you is because you allow it. So, don't allow it. Get the heck away from them and stay away (no contact). And then, you won't be subjected to their toxicity -- a no brainer.
I have to disagree. I fought my ex boss and the director of my state agency tooth and nail. I even hired one of the best attorneys in the city and it did not stop him. My situation just got worse and you would think his demeanor would quickly change and he would lay off since I had hired an attorney, but it did nothing except make my situation worse. He was a very dangerous man and had features of covert, overt and malignant narcissism along with psychopathic traits. Three weeks after I hired my attorney he bought a rifle into the office and it sat inside his office in a rifle bag against the wall. Everyone could see it as it was put there purposefully to threaten and scare me off, but it did not work. I told no one I worked with about my situation and hiring an attorney. He tried everything in the book to sabotage my career with the state as i had been with the state at that time for 18 years until i was hired by another state agency. I worked under him for 1 1/2 years and during this time my dad was dieing from lung cancer and my grandmother became ill and passed away 3 months later. I suspect he had someone in state office or in the state legislator that enabled him to keep his job. He made nasty and condescending comments about my previous director and father after their death. The one thing I got out of the experience was that since I had hired an attorney it was one more thing he had to deal with and that he had eyes on him.
@@prometheuspredator7971 You say, "I fought my ex boss and the director of my state agency tooth and nail..." Isn't that why the toxicity continued and even got worse? I say, get away from them. But you didn't. We have no one to blame but ourselves if we stay and fight.
@@prometheuspredator7971 Right, I hear you. I can relate to wanting to keep your job. These situations with narcissists are rarely simple. I, too, used to be a "street fighter" with narcissists until I learned they get a lot of supply from conflict.
You are exactly right! They thrive on their crazy-making schemes. "Starving them to death" is the way to go and of course not letting them into our lives in the first place is supreme. The workplace setting has got to be one of the worst places to duke it out with a narcissist ‘cause the narc is usually propped up by the system, and losing our job can throw our lives into a tailspin (to be fair, I have seen some narcissistic managers get fired because of their shenanigans, though it's extremely rare). Let us also keep in mind how difficult it is to prove abuse, unless it's physical. Better than mixing it up with them, at the first sign of trouble, quietly start looking for another job and try to be gone ASAP. That has been a preferred modus operandi on a couple of occasions. In both cases, I found a much better position. And narcissists definitely have plenty of flying monkeys to empower them and oppose us. Seems like it's an epidemic more widespread nowadays than ever in my opinion. Would love to see someone make a new, high quality movie about some of the horror stories of narcissistic abuse in the workplace.
Lord have mercy ! This described my ex husband from beginning to end. Even after we divorced it tried to keep me thinking he wanted to make it work when he had no intention of coming back home . Always knew he was troubled , thanks so much for shedding the light !
One of the best videos on narcissists i have ever seen. And as someone trying to recover and heal from the abuse of my fiancee for six years, I watched a lot of them.
CLARICE YOU ARE SO DETAILED AND OH!!!!!! HOW I ALWAYS APPRECIATE THIS, THE TRUTH GIVES ME JOY!!!!!!! ALL OF THEM ARE THE SAME, I SOMETIMES CANNOT BELIEVE THAT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING COULD BE THIS WAY, THEY HAVE TO BE DEAD ☠️ INSIDE AND MORE THAN JUST A LACK OF EMPATHY, THEY HAVE TO BE A LOVER OF EVIL AND CHAOS, UNREAL TO BE THAT SELFISH, ANIMALS HAVE MORE CARE THAN THAT, SOMETHING HAS TO BE WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!! I AM GLAD I HAVE LEARNED AND IS CONVINCED THEY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING!!!!!!! GOD TRULY HAVE SAVED ME FROM A LOT OF EXTRA HEART BREAK, I DON’T HAVE ANY CHILDREN!!!!!!!!! PEOPLE WHO DO THINGS LIKE THIS IS EXTRA EXTRA SPECIAL SELFISH, UNREAL, YOU GOT TO WANT SATAN TO USE YOU, BECAUSE YOU CANNOT THINK YOU CAN BE APPROVED BY GOD OR ANYONE BEING SO LOW, BECAUSE IF YOU DID YOU WOULD NOT BE COVERT WITH IT. YOU CANNOT POSSIBLY BE HAPPY, IT IS NO WAY!!!!!!!! GOD IS NOT ONE TO BE MOCKED!!!!!!!! YOU REALLY RESEMBLE “SATAN THE DEVIL” CLARISE YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL GEM 💎 AND A GOD SEND MORE THAN YOU REALIZE, IN THE LAST DAYS!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THE WONDERFUL TRUTH THAT YOU DO!!!!! GOD BLESS
Thanks you so much….I’m learning something everyday. Arrogance, judgementalness and vindictiveness were the order of the day. I managed to get out after 33 years of marriage, just difficult at the age of 66. But at least I saw the light. I’m just a slow leaner.🤦♀️😄
Greta it is sad when you think you should be doing things together once the kids are married and off your hands. Was married similar to yourself. Find it very hard to date again at this stage off life.
This video made me realize that I'm a narcissist...and this video and these comments are all so right it's scary! I thought it was just toxic masculinity but it's more than that...I'm filth...I wanted to stop but I can't it's too satisfying. It makes me want to break into tears knowing now what I am...damn. I want to be loved so badly, but I am not well.
As far as I'm convinced I mean it. I honestly believe I truly love this person or these ppl I even make jokes about wanting to be Muslim just so I could marry them all...I dont make arguements to make an excuse to leave one for the next I just say I'm going to meet a friend or something towards that end. Then when I reach the other person I dump the same level of love and interest into them and I genuinely feel I love them too. Most Ppl are awesome and when I make a bond I want everything from them as much love and passion as I can get and I'll give it to them genuinely because I believe they are my friends and I love them...or so I keep telling myself but losing anyone of them or not being able to be there for them is soul crushing...and I wish I could please everyone and give them what they deserve but then I find myself stretched to thin and get depressed but then they pick me back up and that's why I cant let go because I love good people and i want them to love me back.
I just found out I'm a narcissist and the woman I'm with don't want to get away I even tried getting her to watch the videos how do I get help for this disorder?
I dated one that ended up having a miscarriage ( I have had a vasectomy ) and she still would lie about it and said she never cheated !! It’s a crazy disease
Everything you just spoke of ...I already knew because I just lived threw it. I am a Survivor of Narrccisist Abuse. For 30 years I was with one and never knew it until I was of no good anymore due to a health issue that put me out of work for good from....working my butt off to please and provide for my family. Just when I need her the most ... I discovered the " Other person " she was ... Then after the confrontation for adultrey, money issues and many other things... I discovered the " Other Life" after some good Detective work on my end. I was destroyed to find out what I did find. This other person? Was the complete opposite of who I was with all those years. My heart and soul are destroyed. I can't trust anyone. Rhumination . I'll make it though. I have to , or I'll be homeless and dead. 6 kids ,16 grandkids.... A home , a life shattered by this 1 person and she didn't care. I'm so glad I found out before her discard who she really was and how to deal with it. I have CPTSD from the Job in the FD.... She knows this and TRIED to use my triggers against me on her discard.... Nope.I kept my cool and beat her to it . Thank God I did . Not Reacting to her drama was the smartest thing I did , it took me some time to realize that tho. Once I figured it out , I did myself the biggest favor discarding her legally.... It was hard because of the family I love is all hurting over this and I'm supposed to be the strong one , but I just can't right now , I must think of me now... I'm in so much pain physically, mentally I'm washed out. Yup , I miss her , but it was the companionship that I really miss most. I went from a full house to just me in a flash! Now , I'm lonely and in need of some family but nope they all turned away because of her.... Becareful out there Survivors ....
I have been heartbroken.sincr he. Died because I'm now so alone. But after reading irelize he left me alone for over half our relationship. I loved him so. Much and he didn't even. hide in the end howuch he didn't care. I wonder now if he had someone else God now I'm.old and ugly I'll never find someone to care about me again.that break's my heart
45 for me 3 kids 6 grands but realize the person who I married n who is divorcing me does not exist so can't love a ghost .he has been dragging out the divorce 6 yrs a nightmare n using adult children to cause more pain.n tried to destroy my relationships w my kids. I am maintaining carefully with my family but never believed the person i trusted n loved could be so evil n wicked.
Everybody thing you said is so true I experienced a lot of this the betrayal and the verbal abuse was one of the worst thing I ever had to go through never again nothing but heartache and pain😭
I see you as spiritually inspired and I am very thankful for your readings. You help me understand narcissism on the deeper level, not just the surface intellectual level.
I had a married pilot ask me to go for a weekend somewhere. I told him , I would never harm his wife and child to fulfill his need for validation. I would never wanna be responsible for destroying a family. For what? A man? No!
@@dianevillaloboshagen6322 Married men who cheat can only do that with a certain type of human. Small percentage. Desperate and looking for a meal ticket. So painful to see so many men and woman doing this. Gross!
clarice ive had experience of one just like this he has 2 familys and puts it anywhere he can i worked for him but his traits and the way he is i left i couldnt bare it i hated him for it and the way he treated ppl he tried getting me under control il not repeat wot i said he gets ppl to lie for him i hate him but KARMA is a good thing and its catching him up stay safe everybody
You hit the nail on the head girl! A Male narc I know told me it's the thrill of the hunt and his relationships last about a month before he is bored! He leaves women all the time with no regard for they`re feelings! I stay away!
Everything you described in your video is what I went through with the Narcissist I was with...not so much in the beginning, due to I was going through the LOVE bombing phase, but later on down towards the end of this sad relationship I knew something was not right, that is when I saw the text message from another woman on his phone...that is when I left...so glad I did leave...didn't understand why there was someone else, thought our relationship was good, but was advised by a friend that the guy that I was with, I did the right thing to leave...that is when I was advised by my friend to start watching and researching the ways of a Narcissist, so that I know in case it happens again to me down the road...
I listen to you quite often, this had been my first time(&only time) experience with a narcissist. He broke my soul my whole being. Thank goodness for ppl like u,& my 3 friends who noticed the signs of me being isolated, down on myself, they would not let me sink, thank god for them. I was always strong independent, then he had me crying daily for months & months, so cruel. How can somebody enjoy being like that? I will never understand, thanku, Joanne
Mine narcassist would have me crying and sucidal and I would tell her how miserable she made me And she would tell me she jits wanted me to be happy while cheating on me, having double lives ,devaluing me, discarding me, making me feel worthless and ultimately discarding me. Karma will be a bitch for her and I will show as little empathy for them as they showed for me when they are suffering
What amazes me is to realize just how many people are this way I do know some that are exactly as you said I’m a good person I try to be a good friend but I’ve been too easy because of it that’s the way I was raised you have opened my eyes i will be on the look out from now on Who can you trust anymore.
