I love it! "May we all be that one that got away." Because at first you may feel like you're losing something when you let go of the narcissist. The only thing you're losing is a problem.
All I lost was a piece of shit that only wanted what he wanted and if I did not comply I would have to fight to keep him from nearly killing me. Yes I whoop his coward ass more than once until he had to think first before he raised a hand to me. Now his daughter tells me he is looking really bad. Do I care? All his sorry ass gets is what he deserves. And yes I am a child of God and I ask God everyday for forgiveness but there is so much filth and hate this man left in me sometimes I feel like I just want to explode. But I am healing and I thank God.
@@Surayya444 Only because we have been conned by masters of their dark arts! By the time we see the light & wake up to their reality, sadly that can take a very long time. Most of us here sound intelligent people, yet as you & Guiseppe rightly say, we've all spent no doubt far too long with them, giving & forgiving, giving more chances in the hope they'll change, or basically stuck in the horrid hot & cold, on & off cat & mouse mayhem they dish up which only mashes our minds even more. It causes contradictions & confusion. Most of us endure the awful painful addiction to them phase, but just as they realise we're onto them they can change tactics again to lull us into a false sense of security & maybe more love bombing (half heartedly) at least. Just enough to keep us dangling on their strings all over again. It's just so alien to those of us who are nothing like them to even conceive behaving like they do, hence why we live in hope their nicer side will one day remain & we'll be able to awaken from under their evil, selfish spell they've cast upon us....somehow!
We were having a one-sided conversation, and something in my brain just clicked. From that point on, I simply said no when he told me what I needed to do. Then I got the silent treatment for about 8 months, then a text saying, “I love you.” When I didn’t respond, there was another one with the heading, “Things I regret.” At that point, I blocked him. Peace and joy ever since.
@@bekind7913 that took a lot of strength for you to do that. Congratulations on taking your life back. Mine walked out in November. It's been a hard road but getting better
They make you leave them because they ghost you, ignore you in everyway possible by not answering texts or phone calls, breaking plans and doing the opposite of what you want in the relationship. There is no choice but to walk away because they cause you to do so. Nobody have time to keep dealing with this foolishness from a narcissist.
@@ExposingtheNarcissist Looking so much forward to seeing/hearing this, as 'my' Narc has kept me at am arms length of distance from the beginning and through seven years of an on and off-again relationship. He ghosted me regularly until I told him that if it ever happened again, he didn't need to talk to me, greet me when we met or even as much as look at me, ever again. It helped for about a year. ( as in...he chose to just answer in emoticons or single words where he would have ghosted me earlier. ) He was also the one to throw me out several times. I never really understood what this behaviour was about. Looking forward to your video on the topic. 🙂👍
@Linda I experienced something similar. Very distant and cold after a few months and then coming back to make sure i’m still there, never gives compliments only stingy type of communication. Got bored of his games and moved on. Much happier now.
@@lindabringsholdtvang8982 I don't remenber the mame un English (random reinforcement?)...if you offer and give, them offer and denied it, is a brain mechanism they are playing with like gambling. It hooks you.
Emotional detachment isn't very feasible if the narc lives in your home, is your oldest son, and nobody in the home has the balls to back you up, and get in his face! But, God is good. He is going to jail next month. I will be selling my childhood home. Moving my family out of state. He will never find us! I am looking so forward to healing.
“If you don’t control your emotions, the narcissist will control them for you “ Wise words that I wish had been my mantra during my last narc encounter.
Please remember They Never Forgive You ..don’t go Back in the rabbit hole !! Cut them off period !! Love yourself enough to let No One Manipulate you or intimidate you !
Well said…at some point we really should stop being surprised by this behavior and start looking within at our own. WE NEED TO GROW…I need to grow my broken areas. Period. And unfortunately many of us (mostly me) needed someone like this to wreck my life so that I could finally see who and what I am…I NEEDED a narcissist to see my own brokenness. This is a gift
They basically fake their feelings and make your life miserable because they are faking happiness. Smh how pathetic to involve Innocent, genuine, people they want everyone as miserable as they feel.
Mine once texted his sidepiece that I was miserable and needed company for going thru his phone catching then harassing her for it, but he needing companies to match his miserable state of mine 🙄narcissist🤷
My wife got her fangs broken. She can't control me anymore through manipulation, or scare tactics, or guilt, or controlling my time, money, or through my children. Not anymore baby!
Yeah , I was wondering about that ! He put on the empath mask, but still manifested some narc behaviors enough for me to spot him and ask some uncomfortable questions. The 3rd time he said he doesn't want to meet me anymore, he wanted to keep a connection just via mesages and get supply from me just through writing. I refused of course. Sometimes they can be very creative when giving a certain function to the supply.
@@indiahindiah7295 True! He actually asked me by message if I want to have a sexual relationship with him after he gets married and has a family with someone. He was really serious, no joke ! This was a kind of narc who was tired of hiding himself too much.😅
But they are so optimistic that they will try their very last chance just to make sure if there's any further scope of manipulation or not. :-/ Shameless ppl!
I’ve gone no contact. This is very difficult for me to do. I don’t love him I don’t like him but the trauma bond is hard to break.He has molded me into someone I am not. I want myself back I want my soul my spirit back it’s been stolen from me.Thank you for this video.
Listening to Solfeggio frequencies, 7 chacra balance & subliminal videos for self love, positive thoughts, etc. is helping me a lot. Praying and meditation. We must become the masters of our own thoughts and emotions. Elevated, positive vibration keeps us in control. It’s too good to give up... May God bless all of us empaths and keep us out of reach for them, forever.
Pray, work on your self esteem, go no contact, go to therapy, and give yourself some time. You are a child of God, so learn to love yourself. You are a winner. These vampires can be defeated by you taking control of you and your emotion. I did all this, and I have never been happier. You can do it too!
No contact only is not enough, im going 3 years no contact with education on narcissist the more you know about narcissist behavior it helps with healing, go on quora I stayed up late at night reading people questions and answers and I ask a few of my own the more I learn with no contact I feel sorry for who ever he's with, I just happy he's no longer in my life. No more walking on eggshells. Yes the memory come back but just reassure your self that it was never real and remember the disrespect and all the other abuse you endure, that always outweigh the good because they do more harm than good, but we try to hold on to the little good which makes no sense. You will find yourself again just stay no contact don't break it. It feels wonderful with time
My narc husband has left. I feel free and at peace. I will no longer wake up unhappy and afraid. I’m looking forward to new beginnings. I’m already planning a trip just for myself. Thank you Lord ❤️🙏
Better Sooner than later! And, better later than not at all!! Be encouraged. Thank God, for the way out! Escape 😇. If, not yet free, escaped plot your exit! So many testimonies of 30, 40 years on the merry go round and/or in the circus with these clowns ⚓⭐🧸. Not realizing or knowing what to call it💜. I can only imagine 😪
@@Lyrielonwind I've been told how much of an asshole I was by people because I won't do this,that or the other thing for others but they don't realize how much I have done for them to where I'm sorry,but I had to draw the line. I was nearly broke and my vehicle wasn't running right and then I have to burrow from Paul to pay Peter. So if I'm an asshole,I'm sorry folks feel that way.
@Hughes SignCo remember the days when you ran out sugar or butter you would burrow from your Nieghbors and when you later purchased either item you would give your Nieghbors a stick of butter or a bowl of sugar in return? Bring those days back
If you can walk away from a narcissist - you don’t have such a problem. If you can’t, if you are cohabiting, entangled financially and/or with children - your have a massive problem, whatever you do. They’re incurable. They have no limits. Never marry or live with a suspected narcissist.
Got kids? Jist file for joint physical custody n have nothing to do with the narc. Im doing it now she means nothing to me n will never see ir hear my voive again
I think my daughters are 2 of them are narks i think maybe the third one to I'll see that one soon they are using my grand kids and nowthe great ones pawning them so sad
It can switch conveniently. They will play by the emotions to distract n by the facts they will stop you from believing in yourself. That's why they are called the Master Manipulators!
This is the truth. That's all I ever heard from the narc was"I feel this and I feel that. When I told him to produce proof, he would say "don't worry about that".
And they believe their feelings constitute facts… While the facts you present are invalidated because they are really only your feelings, twisted perceptions or your delusional opinions. That’s living life in a psychological blender for you.
What does that make YOU? What you did is a narc trait. I'm a Master Life Coach and was married to a covert narc for 47 years. You can't ever win with them but the greater question is why you try these narc games.....
I showed him major major INDIFFERENCE almost 2 weeks ago .. haven’t heard from him since !!! He was majorly wounded seeing/ hearing me being genuinely happy and doing well WITHOUT him !! Good riddance!
Well done, I showed my ex the same, he hoovered me back for a couple of weeks, but I had changed and he did not know what to do. Now I just don’t care anymore and he has left me alone.
@@awalk5177 Agreed! Great point. Be ready to stand your ground for years … I’m learning to art of Gray Rocking; it’s not easy-I’d rather use violence and intimidation and settle matters quickly and permanently but today’s society doesn’t allow for that. Long live gray rocks!
a man who doesnt feel happy for someone doing well or live happy,is not a human.its his born qualities the way he brought up and living environment and life style.its very strange and total alien to us.we never met any kinds of narcs in our life.never even heard.this is a starnge demonic world.sad to see!
Years and years of cat and mouse abuse , but I finally got OUT ! It was hard because they have full control of your truth , values and reality . I had to convince myself that MY instinct , however suppressed , was actually right ! Although it was liberating and a huge relief to finally escape , I was shocked how much sadness I also felt , I had to mourn the death of the relationship , even though I realise now it was mostly all an illusion . xx
Same here. In my case there was equal enjoyable things about him as verbally and emotionally abusive. My good nature kept thinking he’d realize how good he had it with me. Then it hit me. The constant walking on eggshells was no way to live…and why settle for 50% good?? It’s been a rollercoaster of emotion but I know I’m better for leaving. Good luck to you!
A complete illusion. I use to think "dang I wish it could go back to the way it was in the beginning" but then I thought, that was all false. None of it was real. I was just being mirrored and love bombed with a lot if future faking. Once that mask fell off there was no turning back. I couldn't unsee the evil even though fake tears and fake apologies always followed the rage. (In the beginning and near the end it was the case) I stopped looking up after a while. I'd just watch tv, hop on my laptop, bake some chicken, whatever I could do to NOT give that performance any attention.
This really rings true( your comment). My Sister is 2 years older and we were always close and grew up together. But I am only just seeing the truth now...how ruthless she can be....when no longer needed dropped just like that. It's like Pandora's box is open... What do I do??
I identify with you completely. At the age of 54, I was finally forced to accept the shattering truth in regards to my narcissistic mother. Learning, understanding and accepting the truth about the life long abuse I have suffered and the horrendous toll it has taken on every aspect of my life is definitely a grieving process. Not only do you grieve the loss of a delusional relationship, you also grieve the loss of the precious time you have spent being completely broken by the cruel tactics of someone you so needed to adored. Although my mother is still alive and doing well, I feel the exact same way I have felt when I've lost other loved ones in actual death. I do feel that same sense of devastating loss but at the same time, an incredible relief. Thankfully though, according to all I have been learning about recovery from narcissistic abuse, I feel certain that I am finally on the path to healing. At least now, I have a hope for a happy ending.
Prior to meeting and then embarking upon a relationship with one who has all the traits of a narcissist, I knew so little. I now feel broken. This is possibly the worst hurt I have ever experienced. Beware those who give too much attention at the beginning, it’s all too good to be True. 🙏🏼
Yes demons are a nice word to call them. It's been over a year and a part of me hurts for her. She has completely ruined everything we/she worked so hard for. She lost it all through drugs and people she choose over me. We was a hell of team to the people on the outside. I can honestly say I gave all I had to build her. And after my second heart attack she put on FB page she was tried of being with a loser and had her a real man. Of course she came back. But it's over now. I don't understand why do I feel sorry for her. About 6months ago I pick her up because she had gotten out of jail with no place to go. I got her a room but because she has sex with others it has an affect on me, well she's disgusting to me really. So I don't see her as sexy. The next day I drop her with some guy. Then a month ago she calls and is get out of a mental health place. She asked if I'd pick her up. I didn't want to but again she had nobody. I ended up taking her to some guys house. I know she is probably selling her self. We had come from nothing to the point of actually having a good life, material stuff I mean. I did need her, she needed me. But she treated terrible. Sometimes I wonder what the hell happen to me. It's like my mom told me, she said you don't act kike your father child. I guess I'm venting tonight because I was looking for someone else of FB and her name pops up. I know the rules of moving on and diffinily don't stalk her page but this time I did. What was so weird is she had it locked but that that was unlocked was videos of us and pictures as if we were still a couple. One we did where she was saying united we successful divided we fall apart. I don't understand her reasons for this. I deleted all her picks because I was told to in order to move on.
I never knew that NPD existed till 3 yrs ago when I dated one. The love bombing was awesome. It all fell apart when I didn't give him what he wanted and he went into a rage. When he did that, I walked away. Our relationship lasted exactly 2 months. One of the things I didn't like was a lack of empathy so I researched it and found out I was dealing with a narc. I never went back. He called and when I showed no emotion he started yelling again. I stayed emotionless and ended the call. The next guy I had after, was 2 months ago. We met thru a mutual friend. Things were great until he tried to push my boundaries and I refused to budge. He blocked me. I never slept with him because I decided to move at my own pace and he kept rushing. I never gave in. So he blocked me lol. Then unblocked me and texted me to start a fight. I never gave in. So he said good riddance and I said God bless you. Then blocked him. The key to defeating them is to love and respect yourself and maintain your boundaries. The minute you see someone pushing your boundaries or start putting you down, walk away. It will not get better. Thank God my mom taught me how to respect myself at an early age. Now I can spot them a mile away. We will defeat them through awareness so no one else goes through this.
I gave the narc a second and final chance because I was expecting our 1st child together. Of course he sabatoged the relationship. I left one morning he went to work 5months pregnant. 2 weeks before my baby girl's due date she passed away. I accepted it because it was the will of God. I took that as a sign to get out and never look back!! Im the one who got away. Thank God I didnt have to coparent with that demon. I totally understand what his ex wife went through😳😳✌🏿✌🏿
Hugs! I lost a baby too in 1994 and although it was a painful & depressing experience, I am forever grateful that I did not have to co-parent with a narc. Much love sister.
it's deeply courageous of you to find closure that way, Cre. I didn't get to have children: a serious illness, and then a serious narc, took all other chances away. I didn't sign up to mother a man child. It was no worthy substitute. But we served our time...and now we are free.. Be blessed 🌿💚🌿
I am so sorry for your lost. I lost several babies, and my son at almost 8 months but he didn't die, his life had to be terminated cause he was dieing inside me and killing me at the same time. My daughter almost died and was born early and her twin (before fully developed) died inside me. I know the pain it causes and it is tremendous. Unfortunately my daughter father is a hardcore narc.
Any relationship with a narcissist is a complete waste of time, resources and love. I’m thankful I got away. 2 years of hollowness and it’s all over. Praise God for deliverance and restoration
“You are the boss of your emotions and you only let them see what you want them to see.” (Which is bored, apathetic, distant, and uninterested). Thank you so much.
Absolutely!. I am the one who got away! When the narcissist finally realized she couldn't control me anymore she went wild. I was a very valuable supply because I'm a Jack and master of all trades. The narcissist was always in need of something but went into very fierce rages when she could no longer manipulate me! No more narcissists forever!
YES LAWD!!! THANK YOU GOD FOR DELIVERANCE FROM THAT NARC I WAS WITH. U JUST DESCRIBED MY PAST SITUATION TO THE TEE THIS IS THE EXACT WAY THE NARC I WAS WITH ACTED WHEN I COLD 🦃 THAT ASS AND HE WENT WILD AS WELL 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I SAID TOODLES.....IF HE OR THE SITUATION TRY TO ❌ MY MIND I QUICKLY GO TO PRAISING GOD!
I'm single .....I guess I have been for the last 4 years lol but I'm crying on the inside... Twisted fake fantasy dupers delight party of one!!!! Run and keep on running !!!!
Glad you freed yourself. Hope there is no lingering resentments,bitterness or anger as those toxic aftermath emotions can stifle the rebound which is the case here having been discarded by an only N adult daughter after yrs pandering and trying to appease her. No contact . No U turn. Best wishes to you.
Agreed. Very tempting to retaliate but I know he would swipe back 10 fold. Simply being the one to end it has made me a target for character assassination through fake social media profiles. Such a sad life they live thriving on chaos and misery.
@@matilda1505 Absolutely..Losing is not an option to a narcissist when confronting them..They would rather die than to think someone got the best of them...
It really does frustrate narcissists when you don’t give them supply and they realize they can’t control you anymore. A beautiful thing when we understand the power we truly have to give to ourselves using critical thinking and self-trust, because to do so thwarts the narcissist’s objective which is to try to make us doubt ourselves and accept whatever they want to push on us.
I cried when you said "May we all be the one who got away ". That was my mantra when I realized that the only people my narcissistic boyfriend of 5 yrs seems to value are those whom he cannot have and control. After I entered the relationship I immediately entered devaluation. No more. I am officially "The one who got away". Every single day I say aloud to the universe..... "I would rather be the one who got away and lived than the one who stayed and thought they were living" . As I was dying piece by piece every day of my life. I will listen to this daily. You are a blessing to all of us.
I was discarded once I put my foot down and refused to put up with the mind games, silent treatment and emotional abuse. He blocked me everywhere. It's all about control.
I think this is why my covert narcissist discarded me. I was being too real and genuine with her and it made her very uncomfortable. She wasn't able to control me. Also I believe they are afraid of true intimacy and that scared her too.
100% mine exposed himself with some personal issues and then when I negatively commented and questioned him he discarded. Lol too strong. It hurts but he knows he had been seen
I think same here. I was polite but confident and sincere, they started hissing "respect" out of nowhere & for no plausible reason and soon triangulated and discarded me in a very nasty way, it hurt, as I was sincere and really meant to build a relationship; they started a hoover cycle soon after, I still could not believe that this adult turned out to be full of tricks and lies and manipulations, the primitive senseless meanness of theirs escalated drastically too. It took maybe a year of gradual emotional detachment to fully realize that they are a textbook narc... But what spinned them out of control and forced them to uncover their true self very fast was my authenticity, openness, confidence, they interprered all those qualities as danger and malice, luckily. They still hoover and once in a while send me messages on sm like: "okay, maybe we should break up" - we haven't been in contact for around a year and they still fancy it's them who decides the "status of the relationship".
I went no contact, it was very hard at first then I realized how great I felt being away from his negativity, control and toxicity. I've been healing and working on self-love and self-care ever since the discard. Well, 2 weeks ago after 4 months no contact he decides to return and try to hoover. I've been grey rocking and he's finally stopped texting me. It's people and videos like yours that have made such a difference, thank you!!
In the beginning I thought I was in love with him. But I never really got strong feelings of caring back. Then, slowly, methodically the verbal abuse and criticisms began. I've gone no contact but still cant believe what he did to me over the course of 3 years.
@@lesleybrown1583 Please, take that victim blaming energy somewhere else. No one allows themselves to be abused! Yes, sometimes we allow people and behaviors to remain in our lives. But, your statement provides no context. No words of healing. Therefore it sounds like victim shaming. Go take that crap somewhere else!! It provides nothing of value to survivors. Does it really make you feel good to shame strangers over the internet?! Is that how you feel good about yourself?! Pathetic..
I was friends with the narcissist for 12 years and I realize I was only good for emotional support and to be his friend when he had nobody else around and he has no group of friends, like how I do. When I figured him out and when I was no longer of any use to him, he made good friends with 3 of my friends that I introduced him to over the years, and now he makes plans with them regularly and excludes me from the plans and when I confronted him on this, he accused me of being jealous and now I don't even react and walked away.
How to control your emotions for someone u once loved is hard... but it can happen... you will stop caring after awhile and realize what a dang waste the narcissist really is...
I made a narcissist miserable while still Together. We have three kids together, Sharing everything except toching each other. I had to learn to live my life without his help. We only share what's necessary to be shared especially when it comes to raising kids. I'm a religious empath and he is a religious narssisist. He has his mask under a religious umbrella. Believe me people God Is not a toy to play with. With all his manipulation but cannot beat down God's Queen! Because God is God which no any other power can break down. He turned to be the miserable one and gave me all the blessings I needed to have. The power of silence works my people!
Yes. As the Eagles song goes, "I'm already gone!". Just turn the page on them. Thu drove away the best friend, lover, narcissistic supply they ever had. Let THEM suffer losing you!
@zhuan muhamad Call your local Domestic Shelter for HELP Planning a Safe,* ESCAPE PLAN!! Don't let him know ANYTHING about it! + Keep All research notes & documentation Well HIDDEN. Find/ Search for the several techniques to counter his/her BULL 💩 -> *Show No emotions, whatsoever!!* They Feed off of your discomfort and emotional & mental PAIN and it will* escalate to physical Violence, as their "ABUSE Cycle" speeds* up!!' Don't allow getting 'snared' into Arguments or Fights/ TRAPS, etc. Until you can' go "No Contact"! *"Don't EVER Go back!!"* NOTHING is "more important" than your LIFE & M.H., physical well-being and Future!!! Absolutely, Nothing! GOOD LUCK!!! Try to gain friends & Allies, Now*! (If, possible.) Even Homelessness would be slightly Better. 💫💚🙏 Start* Loving yourself, now, w/ Self-Care while still able*. At least, you're Aware* of 'the' Problem! ... You've Found the beginning paths to the way out of their frK'n *$icK* Maze.💪🎖👍
After 4 years it will be a year the 26th of this month if no contact and man it can get difficult but shoot I love my peace and my energy!! All for me 💯🔥so it's worth it💯🌱
Just discovered someone very close to me is a full on narcissist. I'm blown away, creeped out, and feeling stupid for being a supplier. I'm looking forward to being alive again. But this is going to be tough.
Exactly what I did, I tricked him into believing he was in control, while I counted down the days before what would be his final discard. Its been over a year now and he is still going crazy and realizing, that I was and am, now in control.
It gets more difficult to get supply when a narcisscist gets older.The one I know was never real l y attractive he just wore Polo clothing..It didn't make him a catch it just made him look clean..Since our breakup 3yrs ago he's aged at least 10years..I don't know what happened but he was mistaken to be my Dad when we were out one day. He looks so awful.I guess he thought the new/old supply was gonna be better 🤣🤣🤣🤣 He looks sickly and the sad thing is he trying hold up an image that is quickly falling apart...So Pathetic!!
I'm seeing this with my mother who's 78. I worked with cognitively impaired patients for over 20 years and I've been noticing that little by little, my mother has been repeating things that she said more often and she's also forgetting things. Yes she's always loved to hear herself talk but she's telling the same thing the next day and the following. She also said that, "they're doing the memory test wrong [on her];" in other words, they're not adjusting it so she can pass it. I've seen this test done many times--it's the part where the patient is asked to remember 3 words, the interview continues and then the patient is asked to repeat the 3 words. My mother was blustering that they were supposed to leave her for a few minutes. Though I was sure that there were no drastic changes to this part of the test(for short term memory loss), I called the doctor. I mentioned about my own observations from my work experience and if suddenly there was a change in the short-term part. He'd replied, "Of course not." What I'm getting at is that it gets hard to tell where narcissism ends and dementia begins or if they're meeting at the middle. Yet I have to detach myself because my mother literally puts herself in compromising situations--it's as if she WANTS something to happen to her so that I'm expected to drop everything for her. One of her ways of saying that she doesn't agree with what I'm doing is her calling me up and saying, "I had a nightmare [about what you did]." The last time she pulled that, I said, "No. Not this time. Don't think I didn't expect you to call me and say that because you always do." Dead silence then "You just don't get it, do you?"--the peak of narcissistic reflection.
Was raised by one took me 35 years to finally put an end to this toxic relationship. Unfortunately I married one as well got out after 16 years. My greatest regret was staying so long “for the sake of the kids”. Kids and I all ended up in therapy. The kids still struggle with the relationship they want with their father over the reality. They are both adults and it breaks my heart to see it still affecting their lives.
I was so glad I woke up and went " no contact". It was the best thing I could have done. I advise all, if you realize you're dealing with a narcissist, go no contact period. It will be the best thing for your peace, your sanity, your very soul.
Cut off narc supply, and they will find a new target. However, it may be difficult for them at first, but they will eventually get it. If not, document the harassment and contact police if needed
There's been times when I had called myself being done with my ex and he would convince me to talk to him... The conversation would end up in me losing it and screaming at the top of my lungs because he would have me so frustrated and angry... After I hang up on him...which was usually the way it ended, he would text me and say THANK YOU FOR TALKING TO ME OR I THINK WE HAD A GOOD TALK...wtf is what I use to say to myself... Then I learned from watching these videos on youtube that my anger and emotional outburst is EXACTLY what he wanted and needed to control me.
Thank you for this. I was with a narcissist. It became terrible after I finally opened my eyes to this person. It was like being under a spell with this person. And God forbid should you disagree with him. That's when a narcissist really gets upset.👎🤦♀️. After my eyes were opened, all hell broke lose because I did not let him Manipulate or control me anymore. I literally had to cut ties with this guy. But now I am much more relaxed and now enjoy my in company. It was the best move I have ever made.👌😉 He cannot Use or abuse me, no more. And I was the best that got away. His loss, big time.
Bravo!!! After 4 years.....I finally see everything crystal clear! I was NEVER the only supply. I'm healing. I'll be fine. They won't EVER have fulfillment. I'm at peace with that.
He ghosted me again in March. He called me yesterday out of the blue. I had deleted his number. I answered & I was shocked. He played like he had received a call from me. Before we hung up he ask me to call him back later. I did not & will not. I'm literally afraid of his demons. I just have to keep meditating on 23rd Psalms. I WILL FEAR NO EVIL!
After 3 years of no contact, he left a simple voice message: “I got married.” That was 5 years ago. I have never responded. After 30 years of this crazy relationship, this is a victory for me. I have no doubt that he will call again. Sometime. When I least expect it.
Yes. They are really everywhere. We really have to teach ourselves to spot them quickly and be emotionally neutral to them. Whenever, I spot one, I look for anything else around to focus my attention on. Even if it is a stone. I will instead analyse the shape and size of the stone.
Yes, very good, I'll try that method! Yes I find narcs r everywhere, but now I can seriously spot them n employ the grey rock method and ur shape n size thing, thanks!
Get away from these Demons!!! Run and don’t look back! It took me three years to get away and I went through the trama bond withdrawal but I stood firm and now I’m free 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I know the red flags and will not put myself through this abuse ever again. Thank You for these videos they help tremendously ❤️
Mine left and a judge awarded me an order of protection for the next 4 months. I have 260 lbs off my shoulders and I'm enjoying my home again! I feel so free and people have noticed how much happier I am! Now, divorce process is next!
They will damage your car! Park in garage always. Hide your keys. Change things, hide your valuables. Get a bear bell for your door knobs. The list goes on. I went through it
I just cut off contact with a narcissist I was involved with. I set certain boundaries after the last narcissist I dated that I thought would protect me. This narcissist was different because it was like he was a puppet for his mother. If I tried to be a good influence, his mother and his brothers that she also had control of, would make him choose between me and them. If he wanted them, he had to continue to be self destructive with drugs, alcohol and negativity. Once I realized that she was the one in control I stopped going to her house with him and I only let him come over to my house. When he would spend time with me, she would call him every couple of hours and text him all day. She’d call him to gossip about someone and start drama and poison his mind against me and my daughter. He became so cruel, I couldn’t ignore it anymore and I had to let him go. This video was very encouraging in helping me to let go. I’ve always been an open and outgoing person but these past few years, people have changed to where I’m learning to save the best of me for home and “gray rock” in public.
He sound like the type of Narcissist that comes out of this type of mother son relationship ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-OcjETEmf4xg.html
I finally went no contact after the divorce, when I accepted that there was absolutely no useful conversation I could ever have with her. Free! Free! Do the same.
Once You've walked away from the narcissist not only have you gotten away, but You've successfully deprived the narcissist of empathy supply and regained it for yourself as well as for those who rightfully deserves it. Thank You! And Many Many Wonderful And Blissful Blessings!
Omg Thts the word ‘delusional.’ Never met anyone more delusional as compared to a narc. My h.s narc contacted via fb about a year ago, and he was very confident he could get me to go on a date with him. I could picture him smirking, smiling and grinding thru the text like he’s ‘the man’ who still got it like tht 🤣. He still got game and can play me like a fondle. I never laughed so hard and felt insulted at the same time. I told this narc he was living in la la land and make believe if he thinks I’m remotely attracted to him in the slightest Yikes 😬 🤮🤮🤮
you should have said, I am sorry, who is this? Just tell them you have a memory loss for some medical reason..lol. But be careful. Maybe because you don't remember him anymore, he may just give up on you as that would not be a score to him anymore.
@@florak1087 I love it 🤣😍. Funny enough, I thought about tht after the fact. This has been ongoing for nearly THIRTEEN years! Sometimes he Hoover friends and cry tht his life is a mess then have them call me. It’s unbelievable at this point. More than a decade in the making
@@MegaLadylove2012 sorry you had to go through that. Be happy to be rid of him. Including his friends. Pick the people you want to be in your life and if called by his friends, ask those that call, "how much are you paying me to give you and dude therapy. I can send the bill to your house." 😁
@@Karen-wm8zs they always speak their own truth because they are narcissistic and only focus on themselves....remember that. When they say, "you're delusional" make them say it into a mirror. lol (but they won't get it but you will)
"You need to be on the look out for them, because they are everywhere." I agree with this statement because I feel like the numbers are skewed and they are everywhere, how can they be all over if only 1-2% of the population???
Honestly it's like 50% Epidemic of our time The coverts you can't see without one on one significant time spent around them. Narcopaths are spreading like wild fire because the enemy is getting scared and needs recruits
@@sandrathomas2893 Honestly I think it was one of the best kept secret in human history. The professionals that likely do agree it is 50/50 probably academically look the other way! The reason being, things would be like they are (TODAY) and marriages would start declining leading to civilization being broken down. I've gotten into verbal disagreements with my university and colleges around the country (they are rip off artists)and are some of the most agenda based organizations on earth.
Being an ex-mason I know for fact that over 99% of the members have no clue what masonry is really about. It's a club for them and for some it feeds their need to feel special, better and more informed than mere humans. To be sure it is full of narcissist always seeking their supply from new unsuspecting members. There really is no need to fear them; I would however recommend staying the F#@K away from them. You will never be told any real secrets or information. It's like a carnival where no matter how many dolls you knock down in the game, you NEVER win the big prize.
Interesting. This clown used to be a " free mason" some secret life they live. This creep is completely twisted pathological liar and evil manipulator. Beyond belief
Man, I remember when I lost control of myself made me crazy. She seemed to revel in it. It took longer than it should've to see the light. I look at her and laugh now. I just don't care anymore. It's none of my business what she thinks of me so I let her be. Grey rocking all day, we have kids so we are linked to each other
@@paradisefamilyvlogs3426 actually when you develop the, "I don't give a shit anymore," attitude. They pick up on it. She still plays her games, fake tears n all, I just stopped being part of her audience. There's power in that, you take it back infinding yourself again.
Thank you, this was so helpful because I too have to coparent with a narc. I've been doing good Grey rocking! After 25 years of narcissistic abuse...I'm finally free!!!
@Sandy Shines yeah, that will take some time. I’ve been there. It’ll get better though. Les Brown, Jim Rohn, Wayne Dyer and the like helped me. Maybe they can help you? Good luck!
@Sandy Shines Mel Robbins, was great also. Ramani is great but the commercials were becoming way too much. Romano is a definite also, funny how we all find ourselves here. The mere fact that that happens is because we knew enough to question our sanity. Damn right we ain't crazy. I definitely thought I was also and even thinking worse thoughts of not being here. All these pieces have helped me so much. A friend helped as well, a couple of them, actually. One helped me who I use to be before I met this person. It made me question why I gave up so much of myself? I'm definitely feeling much better these days. Thank you, for the recommendations!
Yes, this was very helpful! Thank you! To quote Simon and Garfunkel "I am a rock and an island".....The narcissist is in a leaky boat that's about to sink.... there is a large gray rock in the middle of my island and it is from there that I will watch her sink....That's "gray rocking" lol!
I was so stupid that I didn't know I was surrounded by narcissists since 1996. Now I am free and I'll beveled and permanently free. I bless these narcissists because I realize what I do not want or to be. Lord, on Jesus’s name keep these narcissists out of my life forever. Make all narcissists be disinterested in me. Make them leave me alone e forever. So it is in the name of Jesus.
Thank you this is very educational for me to stay out of narcissist relationships! I would rather be alone then go through that kind of relationship again God bless you always!
Great advice to not react emotionally with them and be abrupt ! I kind of realised this intuitively and it worked wonders to the narcs I dealt with. Amazing how fast they dissapeared from my life !
I’ve just ended a romantic relationship with someone most definitely on the narcissistic spectrum. After the initial love bombing phase ….and he knew I really loved him…he needed space to do his own thing…I agreed instead of complaining…the times away got progressively longer and still I didn’t complain. So he came back with “ your tone of voice is no longer as loving as before” I felt he wanted a reaction other than my reasonableness. He claimed it was to punish him for his absences . After that it blew up very fast, the mask slipped and he went into a rant of “ the woman born to bend me to her will never be. It could have been good, but yo7 spoilt it” even though it was the exact opposite of what he accused me off. I got out fast and no contact, he too blocked me after initially trying once more to needle by insinuating I never loved h8m. I feel he really hated women due to a chaotic relationship with his mother during childhood and pushed every woman to behave in a way he wanted them to by setting up situations himself. It’s only day 3 and I am still reeling, but I’ll get there. I am sure he sees me as a lost cause now and has already lined up his next supply. We are both quite old actually, but unlike him I have a decent life and loving family, so I consider this a harsh lesson learned and stay content on my own without ever becoming another piece on someone’s mindgame board .
You must first and foremost employ Logical thinking, instead of and certainly before, emotional thinking. Save your emotional thinking for true reciprocal and healthy relationships. Employ Logical thinking for all narclationships. Once you know you go. Get out, stay out.
I am that one that got away! Thank God! I tread very carefully since then. Scary how their intrusion can make you lose all your energy right to the breaking point.
