Why Nice Guys Lose In Relationships 

People don’t make it easy. They play a lot of games

It's too exhausting.

Gdeve. @@UniquelyVickie I agree with U all. Whew! I just finished talk'n 2 my male cousin abt some of the same exact things: Bad relationships & bad, failed marriage. He's 7 yrs younger than me. I👂🏾how he feels abt women he's dated & past wife & he👂🏾my feeln's about some men.

People make things complicated when it's really not unfortunately.

There's a lot of toxicity going around. These men are too prideful to get help.

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You can find the same toxic people in the church don't sugar coat this. I see many spiritual men on their purpose but they still can't attract the right woman into their lives. And some of these men are now attracting virgin women out of the blue..my question is why hasn't the emotional connection clicked for them yet? It's because they think seek God according to Mathew 6:33 is going to draw out all problems in your life. No it's not, no matter how much faith I have in God rather he sends the right women my way or not (usually not true) love is not going to somehow just zap you and you find the one. There's over 8 billion people in this world life is based on chance and opportunity just like applying for a job. Not every job you applied for you got or you wanted. Men and women in the church need to wake up. GOD is not going to do all the work for you. You still have to go out and pick and choose choices rather the holy spirit leads you to the right one or not. If you are on your purpose you can still delay or miss the promises God has for you in his divine will. Just like Zacherious if you don't believe in What God told you, you can dismiss the promise of relationships or anything.. and for some people they didn't pay close attention to salvation because they thought they had plenty of time to self improve. Some lived single or selfish but some slipped out of here faster than they thought

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It is essential and the only way to be. Everything else is too high risk.

Im so sorry you had to go through that. Good women get hurt the same way. I didnt have strong boundaries for a long time. But with a good woman who is trustworthy she should be allowed to have friends and go out. My thing is if i am in a relationship i have strong boundaries with male friends, the friendship changes when i am taken, i dont hang out with them alone or go anywhere overnight, also if it is an ex or someone ive been intimate with in the past i cut off contact with that person if i am in a relationship, and i expect the same from my partner. I dont want someone who is best buddies with their ex. But if it has always been platonic, no reason to have to cut off good friends. Personally i have 2 good male friends that i dont cut off. 1 was married to my best friend for 13 years and we have been friends since highschool. The other i have been good friends with for 7 years and our boys are best friends.

All u so called good people never find each other weird standards maybee😊

​@@rockfresh5359 that is so true . I guess the good all attract the opposite

Boundaries are important no matter what because we set ourselves up if we never take a stand

You missed the point of the video. You’re not a victim, you used zero discernment in who you choose to love. And then you stayed and wasted your own time! You’ll be fine. Just be your best happiest self and find a kind woman with similar traits!! Therapy is a necessity as well.. Wishing you self awareness and joy.

I appreciate that

Amen @gloriamathews6452.

The devil comes disguised has an angel of the light. Put God first and shall direct your path. He has only good things planned for those who love Him. Amen

narcissistic trait of covert narcissist they lovebomb and withdraw love as tactic of abuse

That's manipulation. Act right or I'll switch up. Stand your ground!

Thank you

Amen! Thank God he got you through that. You are wonderfully and fearfully made with a purpose. God bless you sister.

@KingdomWoman333 Amen thank you 😊 🙏🏽

You’re welcome

What you wrote, every word is my current marriage. I am preparing to file for divorce for spiritual, emotional, and financial abandonment, distress, and abuse

@ladyshenna967 sorry you are going through this. The Almighty will help you through it all. 🙏🏽

That’s why he just said … what exactly do you disagree with? 🤔

I tell my nephew all the time ,you can't pick a broken bird and expect to fix her .

@@MrsBrittanyGold did you read the title of his video? I disagree that nice guys lose in relationships and I went into my explanation. Also for ya information since you want to be on my body. I just commented on cause the title was self explanatory and not watch the video.

@@loribelle-dp1kj I would watch the video before commenting bc that’s what he said in the first 2 min 😂

So you didn’t watch one second of the video huh? 🤔🤔

Yeah, like Jerry Flowers says from redefined tv, a kingdom man is different than a good man. A good man is usually of this world and a kingdom man follows God. Bible says who is good? Not one but God. And a kingdom man or Godly man is lead by God. You will know them by their fruit.

You're ready to divorce because he didnt understand those 5 verses? Give him the same grace he gives you.

There is a difference between a "nice" guy and a "good/kind" man. Nice is conditional, whereas Good is based on character and definitive. This video correctly defines what to look for in someone who's good. If you are finding this to be true, take heed and do what's best for you.

Amen!!! 🥰but God has already done it we’re just waiting in time while he sees that it’s already happened in eternity

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Thank you, I will

Thank you

Do you also agree that most of these males ain't no good either?

Like shumake said they are probably attracted to the instagram model type females who are horrible on the inside. My brother said the same thing. But the funny part about it is that he dogged about 80% of the females he has been with. And he would admit he did. If u constantly being a dog you gone attract a hound eventually and it’s unfair dudes will label “girls no good” no more than likely I can almost bet your sons are ignoring the good women.

​@@dalagamble3164the good women be ugly just like the good men. That's why good men and women are not attracted to each other

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@@dennisg7709this is the truth and I’m still working on my superficial ways. However, I just can’t see myself being with someone I’m not attracted to physically. So I’ll just remain single

The frontal lobe is fully developed at age 25. No one should marry before that, because that person does not know who they are….when they switch up on you, you’ll act surprised. Men should also marry from 30 upwards.

The problem is some people just don't attain maturity before 30

​@moe_ramz there's no clear cut solution to this. You have men and women in their 40's and 30's that's 10x worse than someone in thier 20's. I used to think like you do but I remember when my wife and I went to counseling for marriage. We were in our 40's and the I remember the comment "yall kind of old" came up. We both were taken aback at it but years in between has taught me how true that statement is. The older you get the more set in your ways you and the other person are. At least at a younger age your both of you have the ability to grow together. We tend to highlight the failures of marriage but not look at the long term successes. Many of those successful unions started when these people were young. The ability to take on challenges and grow together. But this also goes back to something this brother is stating. You have to have a moral guidance and Godly principles at your core beliefs in order for any unions to survive in a world that always attacks it. I don't believe there's any hard and fast rules other than being submissive to your Godly principles. And that my friend, don't come with an age limit unless we're speaking of children.

@@moe_ramz yeah we didn’t get married until 29/30 but we dated from age 20 onward

Please don't settle or lower your standards... redefine ur viewpoint, stand by STANDards, and open up ur options.