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Why Some Women Are “Too Nice” And Why It’s Not Attractive

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Being too nice is deeply rooted in insecurities and fear of being rejected and ending up alone.
When a woman is being unconditionally nice, she is doing it out of her own need to be validated and accepted by the other person and to see herself as worthy.
She is not her own source of security so she is always looking for an external source of validation…and the highest form of validation comes from a romantic partner for insecure women.
No woman feels good and happy doing things for a man when she does not get the same treatment in return, but nice women keep doing it because they fear deep down that if they stop, they will lose the man.
Some women also believe that doing things for a man will make him fall in love even more with them and marry them.
The truth is, men do not fall in love with or marry a woman because she does things for them unless they have a hidden agenda.
Instead, being a nice girl causes men to see a woman as less attractive and less valuable and sometimes as an opportunity to take advantage of.
Because you see, not being assertive, not stating what you want, always catering for a man’s needs, putting them first,
These are not attractive behaviors, because they are all an expression of fear, which translates into a lack of value.
Now, In this video, I am going to break down the 4 reasons why being a nice girl does not get you anywhere in life and will not help you get the man you want and live the life you deserve.
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@80sprincess52 2 года назад

05:28 is sooo true. I've had way too many men who ghosted me when they got their promotions, made money and started successful businesses for the women they REALLY wanted yet the minute they get dumped by the women they really wanted who don't tolerate them during their struggle they would come running back to me to help stroke their egos. Yet the minute their egos were stroked they would ghost again until I got to a point where it forced me to realise that I myself was going through my own loser phase (I was 285lbs, lacked focus on my own goals and was wayy too accommodating) and it wasn't an ideal time to be dating as I was attracting other losers and rejects who weren't afraid to use me when I let them. Let a man walk on his own when struggling and let him get his shit together as it helps to feed into his masculinity. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself and don't compromise on your standards and requirements. Once you become the best version of yourself, you'llattract the right man who sees you as his first place woman.

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Very well said. And I am glad to see that other women with experience identify with what I say and confirm what I also learned first hand from my own experience. Thanks for sharing your experience ❤️❤️❤️

@onm9128 2 года назад

Very succinctly put. Thanks to y'all for helping us out with your own experience

@judithdavis-lloyd4768 2 года назад

YES sister you said it RIGHT!

@dorcaslegacycollection6961 2 года назад

You are so right 👍👍👍🥰✅💯

@vennela2142 2 года назад

A lesson that i have gone through past 6 months NGL i feel so much better right now cause i got my power back 😊🍀

@alunalalune8691 2 года назад

"Those years of being nice to a man did not matter at all when he wanted out" Never, ever, forget this ladies...

@winning3329 Год назад

Ever notice that men either marry or are happy in a relationship when the woman treats them badly.

@CS-bu7lo Год назад

@@winning3329 I noticed and I find it sick. Also, their hypocrisy saying they want good women but mistreating them when they have them and saying bad things about sugar girls, but chasing them. As soon as I notice these above in a man, I run, not walk, he's a hypocrite masochist !

@vikki8699 2 года назад

As soon as a man said "You're a nice girl but..." I knew I had some inner work to do. That when I was 20. I stopped being "nice" and started putting myself first, setting healthy boundaries and enforcing them. Best thing I did for myself and this video is gold!

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thank you ❤️

@ivyaquila9136 Год назад

How did you do this please?

@Olga8888 2 года назад

I believe, when a woman sets bars for a man, challenges him, it helps him to manifest his best qualities and grow. Instead of pleasing him with help (which is not respectful, as a man is strong), she tells him about her wishes and sees how he fulfills them. She shows him her appreciation and gratitude for his actions and sets next bar. Thus, she is practicing receiving, and he is growing providing and protecting her, receiving inspiration from her for his great actions.

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

💯 right

@uzougwu1511 2 года назад

Wow. I didn't see it so . Thanks for this

@rainflower9774 2 года назад

So would u say its okay to Tell a man u want date invitation, flowers etc?

@shbolormaa9750 2 года назад

WELL SAID!!! ♥️💯♥️

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

@@rainflower9774 In my view you should not tell him what you want upfront...wait and see what he does and react accordingly. If you don't like it you pull away and when he asks why then you say because you want ' flowers and nice treatment'

@agaltoto8506 2 года назад

No problem being a nice person. Just be smart, pragmatic, know who to be nice to and retract when you don’t get reciprocity. Someone out there is looking for someone exactly like you. You mustn’t be a dork or a jerk to make it in life. If you’re nice you’re nice. Again, don’t give men(read boyfriend) money and if you choose to support men financially,emotionally and all, do it like a friend never like a lover. Never fall for the people you apparently save.

@brianvincent7398 2 года назад

Totally agree thanks for your comment.😉

@biggurl8876 2 года назад

❤️❤️❤️

@haliza86111 2 года назад

I agree with you. Be nice and smart!

@Poodle_Gun Год назад

I needed an older woman to say this to me and confirm I'm on the right path. I was starting to get jaded.

@maceyr.6583 Год назад

This comment is so good!

@smores8982 2 года назад

Very true. I was too nice to my last ex and he ended up taking advantage of it and losing respect for me. I finally stood my ground and, like I already suspected, never heard from him again. Being too nice (in this context) simply means you continuously let your needs go unmet while meeting all his needs and it’s important to not twist it to mean anything else. Don’t be too pushy but don’t be too soft. If you stand your ground and he decides to vanish, he was never really too invested then. You live and learn.

@vennela2142 2 года назад

Thank you so much for this comment actually it makes me feel good and reminds me to be grounded NGL for being too nice i got ghosted and now I'm better off anyone as i realised my power and yes your story is similar to mine but the message you gave impacted me to realise better things about me and how much i should be focused on myself 😊❤️🍀

@rubyemerald2187 Год назад

Thank you so much for this I lam literally going thru this now u needed this

@EarthlyEmpress 2 года назад

Omg - this is me! I just came out of a 3 yr relationship with a man that took advantage of me. I was always there for him and loved him unconditionally. Hmmm I did everything for free. Listening to this makes me feel sad that I did this to myself. My ex didn’t really invest in me. He took me for granted then left me to see what else was out there. I never want to be this woman ever again

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Use your sadness to work on yourself and ger a better man than him. And next time you know what to look for 😉

@Jazmine.x 2 года назад

Everything you said is correct. To all men i used to be nice ends up playing me but the mens i wasn't nice and was rude dying to talk to me, they used to say i m the most smart and good girl they have ever seen but the men whom i was nice to used to talk trash about me. And when i changed the mindset of being only nice to those who are nice to me, everyone who played me even my EXs keep begging me to come back in their life but i m not making the same mistake again 💗

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing your experience...and I absolutely agree with you...good to see people changing their mindsets and bettering themselves ❤️❤️❤️

@RT-nv4pn 2 года назад

Till they were nice u were nice. Still they left taking advantages

@sayeedharem4673 2 года назад

Men will always find a use for harlots and shrinking violets .

@RT-nv4pn 2 года назад

@@sayeedharem4673 plz explain

@sensimania 2 года назад

I'm surprised your exes still have enough access to be able to still contact you. For me, as soon as they become an ex, they get blocked from all platforms and/or my number gets changed.

@palesamalodi 2 года назад

This is completely true, I also have noticed that when I don't care much for a man, they tend to go out of the way to cater for me, but when I am too nice and too available for a man , then they take advantage of me and take me for granted. But as soon as I lose interest and I stop being all that nice and available, and walk away from the them. They now want me to come back. But fortunately for me I don't go back to nobody ,I walked away from , because I know better than that. I may have the tendency of being too nice but I'm not stupid.

@-_Somebody_ Год назад

I have experienced the same thing 😅 funny how that works. I am too nice but as I’ve gotten older, I have learned to let me be myself and give people the middle finger some days. I can’t be everything to everybody.

@esthermwangi5532 2 года назад

This video is all about boundaries. Have standards and boundaries and dont allow people to walk all over you. Know your value and worth in rlsps and friendships. Don't settle for people who cant give you the bare minimum.

@englishwithmilene2810 2 года назад

“A man leaves a woman after achieving success.” That resonates with me!!! Very much!!!OMG!

@amazynga8868 Год назад

Strong women become stepping ladders for men... When they achieve success they leave the ladder...

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

Nah there's men who don't do that.

@marthas.4456 2 года назад

Agree 100%. It's true not only in romantic relationships but in any kind of social connections. I was brought up as a 'nice girl', my self confidence was at rock bottom because of my parents constant criticism and I thought I have to be a nice girl to win others' appreciation, love and friendship. What I ended up with was often exploitation and belittling. NEVER EVER GIVE THE OTHER PERSON MORE THAN THEY ARE GIVING YOU - the only exception is our children.

@-_Somebody_ Год назад

SAME 🤚

@anonymouse6703 Год назад

Yessss. I suffered from nice girl syndrome all my life. Then in my 40's I had enough of being a doormat, and wanted nothing more to do with men. Because of that, I accidentally discovered the power of not being nice. A man came into my life and I've had very little patience. I recently insulted his manhood and thought I had crossed the line. But he keeps chasing me and it's been two years. Trust me, not only can men take it, they thrive off of it because it's a primal instinct to need that challenge. I just wish I had learned this in my 20's.

@Deleted_account007 2 года назад

It's me😂😂😂people thinking that I'm acting # being too nice.... But the truth is I don't like to hurt or treat people in a disrespectful manner. I don't need others validation... It's my true side.. I'm too nice, so many people betrayed me cos of this I knew that... But i can't change my nature 😅😅😅anyway I try my best to stop being nice to everyone Thanks for your video 🥰😍

@user-bl5nn1zd6j 2 года назад

The most beautiful woman are nice woman.god will reward them.

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

What you can do instead of changing your nature is to reserve your nice side to a few people who you know deserve it

@robinsteendam1311 2 года назад

You should be nice only to your husband. Stay away from men prior to marriage. Wait for your husband and pray to God that He sends you someone. If a man rejects you for being nice, it is because of his insecurities. Nice women give bad men a guilty conscience.

@amazynga8868 Год назад

@@robinsteendam1311 kindly explain the insecurities of men .... Thanks Why he rejects good women???

@robinsteendam1311 Год назад

@@amazynga8868 Well. A good woman is like a witness of man's errors. Her goodness points out to the faults of the man. It gives a (bad) man, a guilty conscience. Her love burns him, in stead that it comforts him. Do you understand this? A good woman gives a bad man the feeling that he is lost and that he is evil. Therefore such a man avoids a good woman, because he knows that he is not worth her love. Conclusion, when a man rejects a good woman, he does this because of his insecurities, because he knows that he does not deserve her! A good woman is too beautifully, too lovely for him.

@AmySue280 2 года назад

I am guilty of being too nice to men... and everybody, really. I have been taken advantage of by men, and I know there are some men who wanted to take advantage of me. By this time, I saw these people for who they were and did not allow it.

@archanagopal5935 2 года назад

Very true 💯 don't be nice to wrong men

@robinsteendam1311 2 года назад

Never judge a man at first sight. Some man appear arrogant or dominant, but they are in fact good people. I am such a man. I appear strict and have a dominant frame. Unfortunately most women think, that I am bad or aggressive. Why?

@amazynga8868 Год назад

@@robinsteendam1311 Nice women if u r too nice to not nice guys... U will end up in chaos... But if there is a nice guy , he will appreciate you being nice to him. But unfortunately nice guys hardly exist...

@ladyantronette8111 2 года назад

Yep I was once that woman till I met that damn narcissist and he turned my life upside down for no reason. I'm a new woman now because now I Don't Give A Flying F*** about S***! Another good girl gone bad...oh well deal with it.

@amyitis 2 года назад

Yup, the narcissist ruined me...they've ruined a lot of us.

@privateprivate8366 2 года назад

This happens within genders also. I have a neighbor who wanted me to become her caregiver. Thing is, I’m a professional woman, working a professional job. I’d become a low value woman, with a shortened life. Because I felt narcissism was at play, I definitely rejected it. I felt she had the need to control me and for me to be in her charge. I actually did her a favor, by telling her no. Because she’d have later found I wasn’t so nice and she wasn’t in charge, even living just beneath me.

@s.s4656 2 года назад

Totally.

@yogigoyi 2 года назад

Lol i wish I had your attitude! Can I just ask though,do you think teaching jobs leads women to becoming low value since it's in the "career giving" type of profession.

@privateprivate8366 2 года назад

@@yogigoyi not necessarily. I work as a professional creative. But, that is not considered high value. Perhaps, it is more dictated by how you think of yourself and whether or not you have choices and are able to make good ones for yourself, rather than to be at the whim of those who don’t care about you.

@SoulCareOver50 Год назад

I wished I'd learnt about this years ago. I was brought up being told to be a 'nice girl' and I was. But now I've learnt my lesson!

@fi6795 2 года назад

I really, really like this channel. No fluff, just straightalking.

@maria.1313 2 года назад

Thank you for this! It's like it's been ingrained in me to be this nice girl and over give. I feel fear of not being loved otherwise. But I know this is an old pattern that has reached its completion. 🙏❤️‍🔥

@robinsteendam1311 2 года назад

I as a man can give you advice. Trust me. We men want nice girls. No man wants to marry a rude, perverted and dominated woman. If a man rejects you for being too nice, he is insecure and knows that he does not deserve you. Nice girls give bad men a guilty conscience. Never stop being nice!

@loislane7958 2 года назад

Unfortunately it's all true.i learned it the hard way. It was a terrible experience. I too thought the man would love me and desire me more because of my kind actions and financial support. But I found the nicer I was towards him, the worse he treated me. It was a crazy making experience and at first I couldn't see the logic in it. But now my eyes are opened...

@raniyuna2930 2 года назад

If woman need to be validated by others and accepted and she is nice because because fear...that's not unconditional love. And I will be rather 1000x nice and choose good behavior than being cunning. And being kind and nice doesn't mean to be stupid, naive or behave from own insecurities. I know that you mean it good this video but it's totally wrong. Being nice is about own image and kindness. Not letting people use us... it's big misunderstanding between people who think that being nice and kind is weakness. No it isn't. People are using only wrong interpretation for different type of behavior. They think that being nice and kind is needy, weakness, naivity etc. People should finally recognise difference between being nice from fear or from inner power. 👌🏻❤️

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

In this video I am exclusively speaking about being nice out of fear. Thank for your comment that is very true ❤️.

@marthas.4456 2 года назад

This video is about being too nice, giving too much to a man who doesn't give back. Usually women when investing too much in love they believe they do it from pure love.... Years later when the man is gone and they left alone they realise they wasted too much time on a person who simply didn't appreciate and didn't deserve it. You are an idealist, I was same when I was young. Now as an older woman I realised unconditional love doesn't exists,( only exception is the unconditional love for our children). If you are giving and giving and get paltry returns, you will be bitter - that's human character.

@daniellediaz2516 2 года назад

I think being the nice girl or nice guy has a lot to do with attachment styles. Meaning they ALL have the attachment of the "Anxious Preoccupied". You NEVER EVER have nice girl/nice guy syndrome with the avoidant attachment styles, ESPECIALLY not with the dismissive avoidant. They're the complete and total opposite of the nice girl/guy.

@SA-ey6nt 2 года назад

I was an avoidant nice girl.. Like not so much with men exactly, but friends family and eventually one guy

@vennela2142 2 года назад

6:06 my story NGL in my past relationship i got ghosted for being too nice and had the relationship hanging only cause of me . For me it was the nice i was the more I would be seen kinda way , but the more I kept being nice , i paced way to disrespect from third parties and himself too, he would call my goals useless which made me question my relationship and as well as i just stopped being nice to everyone and now I'm just loving my life , it's peaceful and perfect i get to focus on my goals and everything i want to do ❤️😎🍀

@lmusima3275 2 года назад

Unfortunately i used to be like this in my youth, twenties and early thirties. I was lied to by others telling me i should be nice to get the ideal man. Wrong it never worked. I ended up going out if my way trying impress guys i met. I'd go out of my way to do favours as a way to get close. I wanted to be loved and appreciated. One by one all these guys slipped away, eventually distancing themselves from me, ghosting. Then id see them get engaged to other women. I look back in embarrassing.

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

Being kind, is how to get kind men, simple. If he doesn't like you because you treat him well, that's not your problem, that's his, don't change yourself.

@m3llytan Год назад

In addition to healthy boundaries, get you a man/person who legit is attracted to and appreciates you being nice, and is a good person who won't intentionally take advantage of your good nature.

@cheekymonkeygirl3378 2 года назад

Wow, you are awesome. Every word is true. My dad is a 67-year-old man and once, one of his old fart friends came over to our place, and I have always been respectful to him, presenting him with sweet and stuff, engaging in a friendly conversation whenever I was out and about, and this old fart loser took my naiveness to his advantage, and once, said to me, “Take me out to dinner.” I was so furious and told my dad that just because I’m in my mid 30s, that doesn’t mean I’m age appropriate for him, and told my dad to tell him that many highly sophisticated well-educated good-looking men are interested in me, and to tell him that if he ever initiate anything like this, things can get drastically ugly for him. His old fart friend ignored me since then, and I no longer treat men nicely and respectfully unless they are fully in compliance with my wishes. Never treat men nicely or do anything for them because we are the prize. 😤

@judyperri9496 2 года назад

Call this man names, no matter his behavior, shows what kind of person you are, and it’s not good

@sash8099 2 года назад

Treating men too nicely often makes them think you are attracted to them. They think you are flirting. So maintain a polite distance. Don't be extra.

@marthas.4456 2 года назад

Lol, some men are just sooo deluded. 😂 I also met men towards whom I was polite & nice, but these idiots explained my attitude as I'm interested. That time I just brushed it aside, however now only thinking about it makes me annoyed.

@thesevenkingswelove9554 Год назад

Same. I was kind to a guy and he suddenly confessed to me after two days of just talking.. I feel so disgusted showing any empathy to people, seeing how I get exploited by both men and women. Also by talking I mean we were like classmates and I was asking what happened in class and why he was absent and stuff.. Nothing related to dating or love.

@pandawan4 4 месяца назад

That's not the kind of nice this video is talking about jeez

@cindysayavong8513 2 года назад

My girl supported her ex-boy with his degrees and when he’s done he disappeared with another woman when she found out years later.

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Only people with similar experiences know really how it feels like. My ex disappeared as well after I helped him complete a professional qualification that got his salary to the next level, only for someone else to profit from it....so I learned my lesson now, if someone wants to build, they have to first build by themselves, and them we ll see.

@cheekymonkeygirl3378 2 года назад

@@Theblackswan55 It’s okay for a guy to help a girl build but not the other way around because men are providers.

@YOUROLDFRIEND666 2 года назад

Thank you. Speaks to me. So true. The good thing is: I've changed and learn to set boundaries for myself and others.

@carolynj6144 2 года назад

Love the video. I learned this the hard way by going through a 3 year relationship with an emotionally abusive man. Now I’m determined to live a fulfilled life on my own, and meet my own needs first. If love comes, then it comes, but it is never worth giving up your freedom and peace for a man.

@ninafrederick6048 2 года назад

Yeah, ive learned that people are very manipulative. I cant help having a big heart and helping others. I let my good chracteristics become my biggest downfall everytime. Its hard really but now im done with men. Its all games. And love is really really really really rare. So when i sag im done with men,not bitterness but just knowing itll take a while before meeting a genuinue person on the same page as you. Let's live our life instead becoming puppets for people

@constance6761 2 года назад

Relatable, being done is powerful. Its our instinct telling us enough is enough, no more. Acces denied for selfish types who don't really care about us in return.

@ninafrederick6048 2 года назад

@@constance6761 i felt this on a deep level, cause exactly. I'm done done. Trusting people with something so important is scary,especially these days. Not me🚮

@sash8099 2 года назад

Charity is for the needy and the poor not for grown ass mature men.

@ivy6179 2 года назад

"Life is too short." 🙏🏼 I'm gonna enjoy being alone in this life LOL

@amazynga8868 Год назад

;)

@ushashibandyopadhyay9105 2 года назад

I wish every NICE girl in the world goes through this video n STOP BEING SO... thanks fr the guidance... 😊

@neveragain9683 2 года назад

When relationship gurus are telling both sides to stop being nice to each other so you won’t be taken advantage of, you know how messed up the dating scene and relationships are. And it makes people wonder, when both genders are actively encouraged to behave badly, how do good relationships even form? Lol

@lindagithaiga1974 2 года назад

Exactly 💯 I would give the world to find a person who is nice

@cookiethomas8069 2 года назад

💯 CoRRecT

@henningbackhaus6268 2 года назад

Thanks! Had the same thought.

@noonereally4798 2 года назад

The only reason relationships could function before with ease, is because your parents picked someone for you, than you were forced together legally before sex, and now you couldn’t leave, and the modern world shows why this wasn’t horrible, but necessary, it’s because men don’t care about the harm their selfishness causes women and children, their complete disregard for them, is made obvious in every video of a man complaining about child support.

@SA-ey6nt 2 года назад

It's a big difference between this video and manosphere, don't you think?

@asmashaikh3030 2 года назад

You are absolutely right ma'am. Please keep posting

@constance6761 2 года назад

Am I wrong for believing that not all men will mistreat or reject when you are nice. When I put my feet doen im labelled as having a temper. Even when I express my opinion im a civil way. I can't be anything but myself. The man who will see and appreciate my heart and character won't take advantage. Meanwhile I'm trying to react properly and let the man initiate but I don't want to become an actor or playing a game. :(

@henningbackhaus6268 2 года назад

The problem with such videos is that they offer a general solution to a world full of individuals who are diverse and ambiguous in their needs. One should not ideologically lump a whole gender together. It's more about develop an individual feeling for one's counterpart. And that begins, of course, with having a feeling for yourself. Basically, we all know that. Just because there's a bunch of assholes running around out there doesn't mean we should flood the world with more assholes.

@sarahwales6276 6 месяцев назад

@@henningbackhaus6268These are general rules. If you behave like a door mat people will generally walk all over you even if you insist it shouldn't apply to everyone and it doesn't address the nuance etc etc.

@quinnsgumbite2247 2 года назад

Men love challenge too This is legit. They chased the woman who is rare.

@schneewittchen5144 2 года назад

But really nice women are rare!

@robinsteendam1311 2 года назад

Not true. I am a man and this video is crap. I want such a girl as described in this video. For me a feminine, shy and nice girl is gorgeous. Do you really think that I want a dominant, crazy and difficult woman who is not submissive?

@quinnsgumbite2247 Год назад

@@robinsteendam1311 oh really? Nope you can't stop us Men are logic thinkers they prefer What they can't have. Study shows. 🧐🧐🧐

@robinsteendam1311 Год назад

@@quinnsgumbite2247 That is nonsense and you know it. When I want a girl and she is not interested in me, then my desire for her decreases. A man's desire for a woman is like a flame. You have to keep it warm by adding wood to the flame. If you do not add wood to the flame, then my interest, my flame, will disappear. Just continue with your "logic" and you will end up alone.

@quinnsgumbite2247 Год назад

@@robinsteendam1311 Tesla died alone that's when ideas born. Periodt

@alaiaadam5767 4 месяца назад

✨🏆🍻🏆✨🏆🍻 JV sagg *3:50** Great words of wisdom A-Z* *5:30** New unique thing I heard..*

@habib-vq9fl 8 месяцев назад

I really like your rationale- I know I'm being nice by saying this but I truly mean it. It's so on point. I'm kind to everyone. And if a guy misinterprets my kindness as interest and then abuses that kindness it speaks more about his ego misinterpreting my behavior. I believe you should always be yourself- to be kind to people because it's your natural flow in the universe. That's part of authenticity. It's how others respond that says more about the recipient rather than the giver. I like cheering people up because it's a humane thing to do in a world so cold. It's about mutuality and respect. Once that line is crossed, time to shut that door and lock it permanently - bc ppl who take advantage of kindness are usually narcissistic/psychopathic.

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

Facts!!

@Xianne027 2 года назад

Ya know, it makes sense. A "nice guy" who fawns over me and lets himself be trampled on doesn't interest me, so of course that kind of subservience wouldn't interest a man either.

@angelaschnettler5013 3 месяца назад

You have explained that sad dynamic so truthfully and clearly. Thank you ! Never, ever be too nice to a man. Don't ever force yourself to do things you to truly don't want to do just to please him. He will take that for granted, is if that were his right ! in the first place. He will take from you gladly but won't respect you. Never, ever fall for it 💪

@soulsearching794 2 года назад

Such an insightful video. This could be applied to friendships as well.

@pa1154 2 года назад

Too. Nice means no any challenge for men. They hate when there's no challenge

@grazielaalmeida8438 2 года назад

It's impossible to set challenges in a lifetime marriage, when the mundane day to day life settles between the couple, and it's a headache for women, even more after the arrival of children. There's a time on a relationship that the couple need to learn being nice with each other, these internet's guru are screwing people's romantic life by saying that women and also men have to be emotionally detached and playing games for the rest of the life, but it become tiresome. Sorry for the english mistakes.

@s.s4656 2 года назад

@@grazielaalmeida8438 yeah I totally agree with you. Seeing this video it seems people make everything complicated even a relationship. If I have to play this game it's better off being single it's better to put my mind in making more money rather than in these stupid games.

@pa1154 2 года назад

@@grazielaalmeida8438 you're right here. But the least you can do on marriage is not to be submissive and setting boundary. If a man is good enough, he will respect your boundary. If he isn't, he'll get triggered. From that you can know

@grazielaalmeida8438 2 года назад

@@pa1154 But submissive women also set boundaries.

@pa1154 2 года назад

@@grazielaalmeida8438 yeah. Just don't let him take you for granted

@nadinenyangii5151 2 года назад

I waisted 20 years of my life giving it all to mens And then at the end i find myself homeless with no Men ! 😭

@nehaverma9210 2 года назад

OMG ...this is so true and relatable to me...I really know this feeling... I am going to save this video and I will watch once a week ..just to make myself alert from being nice....

@robinsteendam1311 2 года назад

Let me give you advice from a male perspective. I am a man and I can tell you, that a normal man would never leave you for being too nice, or nice. You must know that a bad man who spend his life messing around with women and cheating on them, feels himself threatened by a nice lady. He knows deep in his hart that he does not deserve such a lady. So it is not your fault that you are nice. Never give in to bad women or men.

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

So, you're going to be an asshole? That's what you're saying? You can't be kind whatsoever?

@MariaV0071 2 года назад

I am also too nice, that's why I am single. Men don't like nice women, they want a little crazy, a little mean, but mostly someone who will drive them a bit nuts.

@christianaffirmations5639 2 года назад

This is insane why on earth would you want that. People are unhealthy.

@MariaV0071 2 года назад

@@christianaffirmations5639 I have been used so many times by men, taken advantage of my kindness many times. I lost hope and decided that I want to stay single for the rest of my life.

@christianaffirmations5639 2 года назад

@@MariaV0071 I know it hurts to be used especially when you have a good heart and good intentions but do not allow evil to win. I believe all this that happened was planted by the enemy to discourage you and to steal from you the true love you have and deserve in marriage. Seek professional counseling if you have too all intelligence is from God. Develop a relationship with the Lord he is our first husband after all. All will fall into place.

@martal662 2 года назад

@@MariaV0071 Forgive me asking have you been involved sexually will all of them?

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

Good men do. You are what you attract. If you want to attract a nice, kind man, be a nice kind woman. Don't change yourself because of a bad experience, not all men are the same good men do want good women. If you're not nice and kind, then don't expect to attract that.

@dian277 Год назад

it's so easy for men to be in it for the benefit, they can stay with someone they don't love for benefit, and they can leave someone they don't love for other benefits. For starters, one can try give once early in the relationship and see if he reciprocates, if he doesn't, then stop giving, and if he continues not giving, then leave. Like people would say, relationships should be balanced and there should be equity.

@honest3506 2 года назад

Thank you so much to making this content for women... I'm really grateful.. :)

@rbguerreiro2466 Год назад

When my ex had covid I stayed at home with him and catered to his every need. Fed him homemade food, helped him with his medication, entertained him, and eventually he got better and I got covid from him. Guess what he did as soon as he tested negative and I tested positive? Did he take care of me? No. Fucker went climbing with his friends while I was laying down with fever. That pretty much sums up the whole relationship, and why I stopped being the nice girl.

@vlondmaggie24 2 года назад

Amazing content 🥺🥺🥺 why I found your channel so late, could have saved myself ☀️

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thank you ❤️❤️

@Addease 2 года назад

You did save yourself, you aren’t burdened with what ever man didn’t show up 110%

@ichrakmahmoudi5131 2 года назад

It's so hurtful to watch your videos knowing that I've been that poor girl who thinks she's being generous by giving n that she doesn't need anything back to her for the sake of love OMG , but guess what! I've been energetically burnt out n thought he was a badass but in reality i did made him so. I feel so bad for myself n I'm not able to forgive myself for the faults i made even if i was naive but idk where n how to start the journey of self forgiveness.

@elaineanderson4966 2 года назад

Not EVERYBODY is the SAME!

@elaineanderson4966 2 года назад

The only men who think women are too nice are players bcos they know they are bastards. LOL!

@martareitmajer Год назад

Moral of the story is… treat everybody like shit. They love it!

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

If you want to be treated like shit as well, then go ahead!

@noonereally4798 2 года назад

You can be emotionally supportive when your man is struggling, but the support needs to end at the wallet, never financially help a man with anything under any circumstances ever, you’ll end with no money, no love, and no respect, and eventually no man, it’s man’s job to help you, so how low he will think of you, when you’re willing to do a man’s job just to keep him.

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

No, if you're not willing to support your partner in hard times, then you're the problem, not him. Don't even bother dating. Also, your experience doesn't mean every man is like this.

@VocalGymnast 2 года назад

Where some of this channel had good points (I have been a pleaser before) there are a lot of tips that are fear based that still give way more control over to the man and develops a certain rhetoric around men in general. To be more empowered, work on your energy, get a good therapist to change your own dating narrative, to attract what you want; quantum physics like attracts like. You go into dating with this mindset, you will attract those low value men. If you want to attract something different, change yourself. If you go into things expecting people to take advantage of you or whatever, you will continually attract people that will take advantage of you. If you feel compelled to give - it’s a gift or if it is not reciprocal or he doesn’t see it as a gift - walk. If you feel taken advantage of that’s your work; you were expecting something in return and that’s what burns you. Perception is everything, own your triggers be empowered. Why not be the catalyst to something better in his life? That just shows you the power and influence you have on someone and you’ll attract someone better for you.😊

@illusionplayground2236 2 года назад

Perhaps u don’t know… but your videos can save my life.. I am always the nice girl, I did a lot for guys, but they didnt appreciate in the end, and our time is very limited. so I am listening to your videos like everyday to brainwash myself. and from my mum’s generation, she also grows up in a guy dominate society, so she also has a low self-esteem as a women. I need change. full moon is coming, like for change :) haha

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

I am glad that you find my videos helpful. Your comment is a motivation for me to continue posting videos. Thank you ❤️

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

No, you should always be kind, just don't be kind to those who don't deserve it.

@ProyectFenix Год назад

As a men i'm totaly agree

@Marie-pr1ss 2 года назад

I can agree with this. 👍

@LoveLife-ho3rg 2 года назад

Wow!! I’m so happy that I’ve found this channel!! I’ve been binge watching all your videos over and over! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thank you 💖

@danyardila_ Год назад

you are truly changing my life for the better, thank you

@piyabiswas9475 2 года назад

Superb..I trully appreciate your message.. I have learned a good lesson..my life went through this journey .. I have understood it very well in these few days..God is marvelous He is my Father and He will give me the best . Thanks

@preethum17 2 года назад

Aaahhh. I wish I found your channel earlier. Absolutely true and wise words. God bless you dear lady. I wish every woman becomes strong and cares about herself first and then look after others.

@ItsELE3 2 года назад

i needed to hear this 🙏🏾💛

@sarika7727 2 года назад

Your videos and also comments beneath are really eye openers. 🙏❤🤗

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thank you ❤️❤️

@Brians_World81 Год назад

Male perspective here. Yes, being too nice and too needy is a huge turn off. But being a selfish jackass is a turn off as well, especially to men like myself who has high self esteem. Although if you are a selfish asshole, if you are good looking enough, you can still attract low confident simps. The key is balance. Balance between your need as well as the other person's need. Think of win/win mindset. How can BOTH you and the other person win.

@gloriafutrell3754 2 года назад

Thanks 4 truth

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

You'r welcome ❤️❤️❤️

@Elizabeth-mf3dn 2 года назад

Those men better not complain then. I swear, we practically have to raise them

@henningbackhaus6268 2 года назад

I like nice women. There are so many assholes out there, nice people really stand out. Of course, no one should make themselves small or deny themselves. But compulsively showing toughness or playing hard-to-get, I don't think that works. That's more likely to attract idiots.

@Greekhistoryyy 2 года назад

I have been that nice girl. If you ask way to much. I literally worshipped and may attachment love and respect grew for him more and more everyday but that was not the case with him. I knew that he will marry me someday and i have to take care of our relationship for both of us. I feel somehow validated with him. But it turned out that he did not wanted to marry me.

@HenrySimmons1225 4 месяца назад

I'm a man, and if a woman helped me level up financially, I would stay with them forever.

@anabuana871 Год назад

Every word from this video so motivated

@peterpisspotty3052 2 года назад

Wonderful channel 👏 ❤ 😀 🙌 💖 😊 👏

@claudiasbarra1882 2 года назад

Thank you for this Video

@terraiznajem105 Год назад

I gave my husband every thing He did not appreciate He gave me the worth thing that a person can give

@kali5587 Год назад

Thank you soo much for your video!

@invincible0911 2 года назад

I am guilty of being extremely nice and just plain and naive with these men. Hence i take my power back. If u invest i invest if not it's a bye bye.

@ngindratt Год назад

This is the painful truth.

@grazielaalmeida8438 2 года назад

Stop to saying that nice women finish last, not all men like "bad girls", and the bad girls at the end of the day are nice too, becouse they pander to men all the time, that archtype is a male fantasy.

@jackiehall__7275 2 года назад

Ty for sharing this 💓 ❤ 💗

@talori5417 10 месяцев назад

There’s no such thing as last so long as you finish 🤗

@trueepicmusic4086 2 года назад

You know, it is very funny 🤣 because this is exactly the same what men are told, not to be nice because women don't like nice guys... and here I see the exact same advice for women.... this is a little ridiculous .

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Not really...the advice works on both sides...

@sahilflamboyant007 2 года назад

In which case both genders will not be nice to each other. And then its a mess

@grazielaalmeida8438 2 года назад

Finally someone that thinks like me. I believe that these internet's gurus are fucking up couples lives with stupid advices, we are living in an era where men and women are getting more and more emotionally detached, instead of being lovely and available for each other, of course there are difficult moments on a relationship, but it gets more easy when both have the commitment to be kind.

@sahilflamboyant007 2 года назад

@@grazielaalmeida8438 very true

@ashleykathryn9038 2 года назад

@@grazielaalmeida8438 I think it's because everyone is so focused on pleasing themselves and what feels good in the moment. We've lost a generation of emotionally mature adults. The outcome is pain and loneliness

@sandhyasunil1116 2 года назад

great message !!!🙏

@namawuadam9527 2 года назад

Infact,you are exactly on point

@sheilasamaniego4379 2 года назад

I am this nice woman and I think I should start changing for the better. Leave him and don't expect anything in return.

@Noraa893 2 года назад

This is exactly the stuff we need. Thank you Dear💕

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

❤️

@Noraa893 2 года назад

@@Theblackswan55 I would love to do an interview with you one day to spread the message. Would you be interested perhaps?

@angelikaorlowski2258 2 года назад

Oof, this hurt but I needed to hear this.

@BreadAndWaterSurvivor 2 года назад

This is completely false. A woman with a great attitude is virtuous. You just don't know how to pick the right mate

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

The video does not say otherwise. The vieeo says 'too nice' unconditionally is not good. Virtuous does not mean stupid...I know that I am one of them.

@MsSoumya95 2 года назад

It's all about the balance. This video is for those who are on the side of being too nice. I can completely relate. You gotta set boundaries for your own self and mostly your own mental health and survival

@canesugar911 2 года назад

"You just don't know how to pick a mate". This sentence is exactly why this video is true.

@lisettecamejo4243 2 года назад

this is true in jobs

@jrj4911 2 года назад

About me I'm showing my true personality, be me in my true self. You leave me or take me, I don't care as long as I live with my true self with my true character and personality. I show my bad side first because I want to see how this man deal with it? Because it easy to appreciate and accept my good side personality. But my bad side personality, you accept it or not I don't care as long as I live who really I am. Why pleasing a man that it wasn't real You? I will not faking myself being too nice to a man but the truth deep down I'm not that really nice, I'm just normal and a balance woman..

@emmaa4595 2 года назад

I wish this was not true, but it is.

@shammithamariswamy204 2 года назад

This is point on.....💯

@tamaratzarina7183 7 месяцев назад

True. Thanks

@irinen5217 2 года назад

This hit a spot 😓

@cheekymonkeygirl3378 2 года назад

G spot. 🤔☺️

@vibebliss1515 2 года назад

Narcissist invest then leave

@lees.9597 5 месяцев назад

I asked my narcissistic ex, what do you even like about me? Why not go for one of the sides permanently? Why come home and hate me? - He had to think really hard to come up with: it's 6:26 enough that you are a 'nice girl ' I literally gave him everything. Enough cus he can take it all and have his cake too. He lives off cake now, the scum bucket.

@durgaalankaram8282 Год назад

U r goddess met me in the right time in life...!!! Thank u so much

@ashcablee7669 2 года назад

Very true,l remember my last breakup the man told me that,l am too nice and he don't want the kind of woman who is so nice, I got the points now thank alot 🙏

@gloriafutrell3754 2 года назад

Thanks