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How To Stop Being Desperate And Needy With Men 

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Being desperate is probably the number one turn-off for men when it comes to women.
The most attractive woman can lose her charm and attractiveness in a split of a second if she gives off the desperate vibe.
And this is because being desperate is a state of mind of someone who is in constant need of love and who is in pain without love.
And this pain causes you to do doing things that you would not do normally in order to feel something in return as opposed to doing things organically because that’s what you do.
When you are desperate, you are in a constant chase of a reaction from a man that validates you which ultimately eases up your pain and make you feel better about yourself
For example, you feel the need to talk about yourself not because you are very proud and comfortable with yourself but because you want to impress a guy and prove to him that you are worthy of love.
And even when you try to hide your desperation or suppress it, when you are doing things so that you can ease your anxiety and your worries, it literally infects the energy that is carried in your words and actions and so affects the way people and men, in particular, perceive you.
They can literally sense that you are coming from a place of neediness and insecurity and that you have low confidence in yourself.
So in short, being desperate is no good for attracting men.
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@amberjaftha346
@amberjaftha346 2 года назад
1. Work on yourself and develop a abundance mindset 2. Don't go out there with a hidden agenda 3. Don't be too available 4. Don't be clingy and want to talk all the time 5. Don't double text 6. Don't pursue him and let him pursue you 7. Don't be too impatient 8. Don't ask for relationship status update all the time 9. Keep high standards 10. Don't try to get his attention by posting on social media And lastly value yourself above the relationship
@thea3710
@thea3710 2 месяца назад
the gist would be: 1. be patient 2. keep high standards 3. let him pursue you
@Jamhael1
@Jamhael1 12 дней назад
In other words: Be so unaproachable that no one will even try.
@zeny7288
@zeny7288 2 года назад
You need to have this mindset: “if I don’t find someone that gives me love, so what? Is that the end of the world? No! You can have everything you want by working hard on yourself and build your confidence. You are lovable by yourself! By the world! The world is in your hands if you are confident!”
@deemanga324
@deemanga324 Год назад
🎉🎉🎉
@Jamhael1
@Jamhael1 12 дней назад
Confidence do not hug, nor make love to you.
@winning3329
@winning3329 Год назад
No one ever told me that men take advantage of women who show too much intrest in a man. Im so greatful for these channels because i never had a positive male role model in my life that taught me these things and also growing up with an abusive mother made me seek love with men who didn't have my best intrest.
@zenitsu1909
@zenitsu1909 Год назад
seriously? i remember all elder women always taught to not serve men
@user-yc7jr7of9y
@user-yc7jr7of9y Год назад
I had the same mother, she was very abusive, I was constantly seeking love from outside 😢
@eleniglymenaki5977
@eleniglymenaki5977 2 года назад
"Value yourself above the relationship"! Well said 👏👌☺️
@curtistinemiller4646
@curtistinemiller4646 Год назад
Never allow yourself to be so desperate that you end up settling for far less than what you deserve.....💕
@contagiousintelligence5007
@contagiousintelligence5007 6 месяцев назад
We don’t always get what we deserve in this life
@smores8982
@smores8982 2 года назад
This is very true. Dated a man who was painfully insecure and lacked self esteem. Rather than outwardly complimenting himself (cause that would be too obvious) he would always say things such as “my friends say I’m a good guy” or “my friend says I have a nice body and I should show it off by wearing tighter fitting clothes” or “my FRIENDS say [insert something complimentary] about me” and it was a complete turn off as it comes across not only insecure but very self-serving. He was a decent looking fellow but I couldn’t get over the desperation vibes he was putting forth.
@halcyondays8945
@halcyondays8945 2 года назад
Oh Ew. Yikes that’s so obvious.
@kamilkarnale3585
@kamilkarnale3585 2 года назад
Desperation only shows how weak n foolish one is!! Seeking validation from ANYONE N ANYWHERE is a sign of low self esteem !!👍
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Exactly
@angieatvegas
@angieatvegas 2 года назад
I love myself, and I feel proud of the human being I have evolved, every disappointment has to impulse myself to get better and better in general !!
@ana.maria..3
@ana.maria..3 Год назад
LADIES ALSO REMBER EMOTION IS THE FIRST MANIFESTATION (how you feel will manifest on a situation example: if you are feeling sad,scared,depressed,clingy to find a bf you will not find him or you will attract wrong men,if u feel happy,thankful,worthy u will attract right men)
@hybridangel3403
@hybridangel3403 2 года назад
Correction control in reacting to emotions. Emotions cannot be controlled they are an indicator to us. Control of how we react to emotions These are really good points though.
@elaineanderson4966
@elaineanderson4966 2 года назад
Some people bcos of developmental delays are born with low self-esteem think yourselves lucky and stop judging what you OBVIOUSLY don't understand.
@aimforlifenow
@aimforlifenow 2 года назад
Thank you!!! Why is it hard for people to understand that people who are neurodivergent (people who developed, or were born with a mental disorder/illness/disability) have a harder time getting over these issues is because their brain is WIRED to react like this. 🙄🙄🙄
@elaineanderson4966
@elaineanderson4966 2 года назад
Yes it is hard enough for people to buoy their self-esteem bcos they are wired differently but to be judged for it is not o.k. There are alot of people especially young men who really struggle with a sense of worthlessness and is possibly a reason for high suicide amongst them. Come on people try to be kinder you never know what someone else is dealing with. ❤
@AwakenedSoul101
@AwakenedSoul101 2 года назад
She’s understanding which is why she’s giving you tips to help. I found this very helpful so my goal now is to Incorporate these things as I continue to work on my self. Also those things you ladies are mentioning are ok however, now that you’re aware why you/we do these things you now have the power and knowledge to change for the better to help you attract the right person for you. 💓💓
@sheenataskeen9700
@sheenataskeen9700 2 года назад
Listening to you, I feel that my inner self is confronting me for all the mistakes that I have done. I am jocund that I have found this RU-vid channel, thank you for guiding many woman like me through your existence.
@kati4521
@kati4521 2 года назад
Gosh, why did I come across this just now? I did all these mistakes and lost the man who really loved me in the beginning.... He was love of my life and I never wanted to lose him so I tried too hard not to lose him and did all these mistakes. Of course he left me at the end. :(
@user-oo7fu3qg7y
@user-oo7fu3qg7y Месяц назад
If he really did love you, he'd never have left you dr
@priyamadhoo7266
@priyamadhoo7266 2 года назад
thank you very much.....I needed to hear this. I need to put myself first and love myself....being desperate is a big turn off.......
@pa1154
@pa1154 2 года назад
If you start being desperate around him, he'll lose his interest. Man like challenge.
@rohi7597
@rohi7597 2 года назад
As a man i like woman making a warm intial moves like smile and fidgeting her hair 👍. Let the man chase ,if he's interested in u
@valentinataneva2283
@valentinataneva2283 2 года назад
I do all the right things and still can't fine true love actually there is no formula for it if it happens it will if not it won't.
@martal662
@martal662 2 года назад
Totally agree,best of luck to you 😊
@dee7847
@dee7847 2 года назад
In other words don’t be a “pick me”
@angelathomas8680
@angelathomas8680 Год назад
All of these u just said was my mistake in my previous relationship I feel so ashamed of myself
@user-kx4fw3df6n
@user-kx4fw3df6n 2 года назад
I did everything opposite 😂but I just realised I don't want him ...I was just lonely
@mimomango4617
@mimomango4617 2 года назад
Really needed this; I need to work on myself Thank you so much ❤️
@sarika7727
@sarika7727 2 года назад
I have seen some videos made by male coaches on man psychology or to say on dating tips. But i find your videos are more interesting, more to the point, more practical and more informative. I am just not finding appropriate words to compare your videos with others on similar topics. Thanks for making such videos. 👌❤🙏
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Thank you ❤️❤️
@loveispatientloveiskind2205
Yes, there's a male coach advising men to be treating women really badly, to cheat constantly etc., how horrible! Teaching the men to constantly be rude and try to make women insecure, so that the men can make her under control. It's abusive, he's telling them to constantly add nastiness to their chat. He calls it 'game'... he teaches 'how to 'shit test' women, really horrible, manipulative, sneaky tactics,,,, .... just making men more horrible... They really believe women like it
@alaiaadam5767
@alaiaadam5767 3 месяца назад
🍻🏆🍻🏆🍻 IceSpice *2:20** Self love - marriage and kids* *4:24* *5:50* *7:04** They will test you early on*
@cheekymonkeygirl3378
@cheekymonkeygirl3378 2 года назад
I’m so privileged to accidentally come across your Chanel although I learned all these tips from Greta the ladies relationship coach on RU-vid . ❤️
@intrepid_solutions09
@intrepid_solutions09 2 года назад
Much needed advice ❤️. God bless you for this 😘
@mumtazbegum663
@mumtazbegum663 2 года назад
If u have a guy u love ...just lead a normal life as u do it always...waiting for guys texts call will make u more uncomfortable and also give negative vibes....so let them contact u
@vanessaandrearomanova6052
@vanessaandrearomanova6052 2 года назад
This is Timely ! Thank You so much, Bless your heart💕
@priyankavasam07
@priyankavasam07 Год назад
Just got introduced to this channel, and I'm just loving the content on this channel. I understood that I can get the exact information I'm looking for on this channel. And watching the videos on this channel is definitely worth my time. Keep posting amazing content. Thankyou @Dark Femininity for such an amazing content
@durgaalankaram8282
@durgaalankaram8282 11 месяцев назад
This video is so much helpful and healing... Thank u so much...
@peterpisspotty3052
@peterpisspotty3052 2 года назад
Great video - thank you so much
@aastharathore00
@aastharathore00 2 года назад
Tysm for the video...this is the bestest channel for self growth, please keep making videos, it motivates a lot...also this is the only channel where i found videos on exactly what i wanted , tysm once again🌟💎
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️❤️❤️
@nerizarivera5254
@nerizarivera5254 2 года назад
Its a wonderful message to anyone thank you.
@nourhanebn69
@nourhanebn69 2 года назад
thank you !!
@jayamgnana4424
@jayamgnana4424 2 года назад
Good job 👍 keep up good work. Wonderful tips for young ones to value & love themselves. Their own Soul will bless them abundantly what they want🙏. Keep up ur self respect ladies😊
@wildviolet9510
@wildviolet9510 2 года назад
Thank you so much for creating value contents. I am such a big fan of your channel. ❤️
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
❤️❤️❤️ This goes straight to my heart. Thank you for being a supporter.
@darkpearl348
@darkpearl348 Год назад
Really nice I really like ur concept and Ur voice and advices !
@marah65marih
@marah65marih 2 года назад
thank you so much for making this words so that we can understand what is right and wrong💞
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
❤️❤️❤️
@sheetalpanwar3740
@sheetalpanwar3740 2 года назад
Thank you so much
@PriyaSingh-sg6xq
@PriyaSingh-sg6xq 2 года назад
AWESOME inputs.... ❤️
@s.s4656
@s.s4656 2 года назад
No need to date I will opt for arrange marriage 🙊 it's too much
@femininebritaneyburnett8904
@femininebritaneyburnett8904 2 года назад
Thanks very much ☺️😊
@Patricia-uz2xx
@Patricia-uz2xx 2 года назад
Love this channel. Trueee. Btw, where is your accent from? Love your voice
@meghanashenoy7943
@meghanashenoy7943 2 года назад
Thank you :)
@ladyantronette8111
@ladyantronette8111 2 года назад
You better get over it if your gonna date. It's called catch and release now days. They will chew you up and spit you out then move on to the next.
@yogigoyi
@yogigoyi 2 года назад
And thats why you need to get as much out of them before they move onto the next.Nothing is forever but when I start dating I will have this approach,not giving my time away and ending up the same as before.
@thesiblingsuniverse
@thesiblingsuniverse 5 месяцев назад
Well explained.... Thanks ❤
@fhaubaridji01
@fhaubaridji01 2 года назад
thank you for advice 😃🙂
@mariamel9172
@mariamel9172 2 года назад
Well i have been doing all those mistakes
@knpreram1719
@knpreram1719 Год назад
👍👍👍excellent video
@anishasarkar8967
@anishasarkar8967 2 года назад
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
@loveispatientloveiskind2205
I wish many more 'better options ' would help with this situation. I did used to completely give commitment. But yes, they abused it. Found it hard to not talk all the time to him, when he didn't respond. Yes, so much gave him my views, when he didn't bother to reply. Did that a lot because I loved him more than loving myself. Learned the hard way. Other men showed me, he's not the only one who I should care about! Especially as he hardly does anything for me. Always surprised that so many men care. To think I was prepared to give my life to him, but he offered nearly nothing! I am open to finding a happier future with better people, treating me nicer now... my love for him, has not proven to 'inspire him, to hardly do anything for me '.... I hope someone wants me, even more than I want & fancy him, this time.... I don't know... it's hard to understand all this emotional stuff xx
@AmberActs109
@AmberActs109 2 года назад
I really like this channel x
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Thank you ❤️❤️
@RitaSharmaFitpors
@RitaSharmaFitpors 2 года назад
Whatever u said is true, but buddy, when u love, when u put your everything into it.. you expect buddy, that's human nature.. these are mind games buddy, i advice when u love u just love 💗
@rohi7597
@rohi7597 2 года назад
As man do not like woman making direct 1st move in long term relation...
@chiamakaokpala3617
@chiamakaokpala3617 2 года назад
Since yesterday I came across your videos.. I just feel so blessed. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful piece with us.. I just wish for a communication with you.. With love from Nigeria.
@primaprimavera357
@primaprimavera357 Год назад
My psychiatrist said that we are social animals and we need love from others, unfortunately, it’s just pure biology. I can not cuddle with myself. I just need to pretend that I don’t need anyone 😂 Fake or till you make it…
@priancatamta9108
@priancatamta9108 Год назад
Wanting it or needing it desperately are two different things
@lilyomr9572
@lilyomr9572 2 года назад
Thanks
@juliayee869
@juliayee869 2 года назад
Good video
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
@honest3506
@honest3506 2 года назад
thank you for this, and what is the meaning high standards? Like luxury
@ruchaaaa
@ruchaaaa 2 года назад
Have done all these mistakes
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Sorry to hear that. You can learn now to avoid them and create better relationships in the future ❤️❤️
@mariamel9172
@mariamel9172 2 года назад
Same !
@biggusdickus7089
@biggusdickus7089 2 года назад
I am a guy and I can tell you that most of this is true for the opposite as well. However it would not hurt if a woman is interested in me too come up and make innocuous conversation that's how I know
@ifkanoloshuwaaallah.2341
@ifkanoloshuwaaallah.2341 Год назад
I have the opposite problem 😂they’re really hard to love
@sane_njomi
@sane_njomi 11 месяцев назад
Got damnit, I've broken a good majority of these rules 🙆🏾‍♀️
@ahmeddib7470
@ahmeddib7470 2 года назад
I Think 100% that she guides all the ladies same stuff that other so cold dating Coaches told to another man in very very strange situation because if both (Ladies & men) gets too serious about small things then every relationship will end up in losing their partner So Ladies Don't be too serious about each and everything!
@joynobkhanam550
@joynobkhanam550 Год назад
But what I'll do if he is cheating me?i Won't check on?
@joansheekey476
@joansheekey476 2 года назад
Well iv done all the wrong things I’m so sorry iv been so needie for 14 years iv been needie I don’t hav two be I’m a good woman just needie god I’m not going two be now no more I’m done thank yu
@varshajaiswar4343
@varshajaiswar4343 Год назад
Try to give more importance to things like your carrier and stuff it will ease your mind
@clarissacantu8518
@clarissacantu8518 2 года назад
Ughhh wish I had seen this before
@MissPinkapples
@MissPinkapples Год назад
Omg this a lot 😢.. I give up
@evangelcheah7401
@evangelcheah7401 9 месяцев назад
What's the diff if u have lots of men who want me? But I'm u single minded in love when I meet someone I love... Why is it known as desperate and needy?
@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
@clarissacantu8518
@clarissacantu8518 2 года назад
What if you already made this mistake? How can you fix it?
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Sometimes it's too late to fix it if the damage is beyond repair ( the person has a clair idea about how desperate you were ) but you can still start working on yourself and go no contact and months down the line maybe you will meet the person again and they will see you completely differently if you changed.
@valentinataneva2283
@valentinataneva2283 2 года назад
Relationship has become business now days because is quite convenient to go on dating apps ,so many people profit from the attempt people trying to find love that if we do all of you who makes content, dating couches, data brokes will go out of business!
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 2 года назад
Another person with a broken mindset
@rohi7597
@rohi7597 2 года назад
As a man i recommend woman to give some initial flirtatious signs to the man u like..let the man to chase u...👍 If he's interested... If woman is too clingy..then man are more likely not interested in that woman for long term relation..i mean they prefer short term relation.you know what i mean 👍
@ArubaAysha
@ArubaAysha Год назад
Can I ask you a question? Will a man come back for you if he's really interested even if he disrespected you and you told him to then leave you alone ?
@tffnyc1033
@tffnyc1033 10 месяцев назад
Yep olde: Drop the handkerchief
@universalsubliminals1174
@universalsubliminals1174 Год назад
so you say don’t post on social media for his attention, does this include just like life updates? like posting a picture when i’m with my friends or something
@Theblackswan55
@Theblackswan55 Год назад
It all depends on your intention, if it's a post you would have put on social media anyway and it's organic life update, it is okay...but even in this case don't overdo it. One picture is enough for a life update every now and then.
@ArubaAysha
@ArubaAysha Год назад
@@Theblackswan55 what if you broke things off with the guy and then he left you alone and then you went chasing after him and then he didn't want anything to do with you after sexual intimacy and then you try your best ro make it work and then later out of anger you tell him to leave you alone or else you'll involve authorities will he come back even then or no?
@ArubaAysha
@ArubaAysha Год назад
@@Theblackswan55 and it's been a month I haven't reached out nor has he. In the beginning I felt like he was being fake love bombing me so I would break it off often and then when he actually left me alone I used sex to get him back and he just mechanically used me and literally kicked me out of his house and after that I kept chasing for closure and he just wanted to remain friends and I tried my best to communicate and work things but he was blaming everything on me and in my last message to him I told him if he messages me again I will involve police and after that he never messaged me again
@maurajanekeating3315
@maurajanekeating3315 Год назад
@MysterlBlackPhoenix
@MysterlBlackPhoenix Год назад
💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
@Katrica670
@Katrica670 2 года назад
@00:57 either way it seems like trying to impress the male! 👀🧐🤔
@evalisseblooms
@evalisseblooms 3 месяца назад
i dont get it are we playing mind games or falling in love
@martareitmajer
@martareitmajer Год назад
What’s the point of playing these games anyway…
@tffnyc1033
@tffnyc1033 10 месяцев назад
Oh yeah, this girl definitely used to watch Greta 😅
@Jamhael1
@Jamhael1 12 дней назад
Ma'am, with all due respect, your approach is simply wrong...
@terraiznajem105
@terraiznajem105 Год назад
@HavInspires
@HavInspires Год назад
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