Hi Christian is it normal for lie ins and different bed times to bring insomnia back? I was doing so well on sticking with consistent wake time and similar bed time every night. Recently I've tried letting go of the strict window but it seems to be slowly making my sleep worse again. I miss being able to go to bed early and just sleep how I did before insomnia.
I can't immagine truly looking forward to a speedbump. I think at the beggining it's hard to look at speedbumps in a positive way becasue you don't really know yet if there is a progress at all.
I had a completely sleepless night last night. Usually since starting bedtyme, I was at least able to get 1-2 hours on a speed bump night. I feel a bit discouraged but I also feel less anxious about what happened. I just don’t get why. I didn’t really feel hyper aroused or anxious or anything. I just couldn’t drift off.
There can be many different reasons but the good thing is that u don’t really have to figure them out. Truth is, that if Ure tired there is no way, the passive process of sleeping doesn’t happen, if Ure not efforting or (subconsciously) trying to prevent it. So in some way or the other you have to be either stressed, problem solving or somewhat aroused (some form of resistance). The only confusion is that now ur brain thinks it has to solve something or figure something out. But the reality is that u can’t solve the problem of problem solving by problem solving. So just be with whatever happens as best u can and sleep happens by itself. It’s not that u can’t sleep or that u unlearned it somehow. No one is unable to sleep. At the same time no one really is able to sleep. Cuz it’s not something we do or learned to do, it’s the ultimate absence of doing something (not even trying to not do something). This whole thing is just a huge paradox because there is nothing to prevent in the first place. In the same way that u are not able to hold ur breath until u have some health issues u can’t hold ur self from sleeping until that happens. Sleeping same as breathing happens on its own. You can hold ur breath just the same as holding ureself awake at night but u never will be able to do that long enough so u have some severe health issues caused by that. Ur subconscious brain takes over at some point. So the only thing that happens from not sleeping is u being tired and that the chance of u sleeping increases
My speed bumps have changed they used to be bad nights of a few hours of choppy sleep. Now they are just taking 2 hours to sleep but still getting a good amount of sleep. response is the key it's all how we react to the situation.
Cristian,thank you so much for doing this video. I think I have lost touch with how stress feels to me. I might be anxious and not know it! I didn't think I was stressed out at the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, but it became all too obvious to me that the adaptation to this major global life event was not good for anybody's immune system. In my case, I didn't get COVID, but I did get shingles. Classic sign of lowered immunity! Maybe there were other people who started having sleeping problems during COVID. As I have been in a speed bump after many months of sleeping well, I am starting to evaluate what might be the less obvious stressors in my life. Just the knowing and taking small steps to deal with the things that are under my control will be key, at least I hope so. My experience looked like this: I read This is Natto. After several months, I settled into a wonderful pattern of sleeping well for seven months or so, then I had a two-week bout with bad sleep, which resolved. After still another very nice stretch of sleep lasting about eight months, here I find myself writing this as I experience a longer speed bump.
The issue I still have is my husband and I wake up 5-5:30 everyday for his work, and go to bed at the same time usually every night. On weekends or vacations if I want to stay out later like till 10 or 11 and sleep in until 8, my body will not allow me. I automatically wake up at the same time as usual. I know some of it has to do with hyperarousal because I feel like I have to be up because I have ocd and that’s how my usual schedule goes, but I have read some others saying the same thing. Can you elaborate on this and explain what I could do or some tips on this? It does limit myself. Thank you xoxo
This is definitely me atm. Currently in a month or so of sleeplessness. My anxiety has improved since the education and i am able to sleep at least 6 hrs when i have a good night, but the speedbumps are happening quite often, maybe caz im still in the early stage of recovery, not sure.. Its just when i sometimes still wake up unrefreshed, and with headaches, i get nervous and wonder if my brain developed an issue, my anxiety returns and i have a bit of a speedbump. Will these additional symptoms disappear over time? I cant wait for the moment i feel refreshed again lol. But i wont be downhearted if i hav nights wakefulness. When we have speedbumps, do you recommend doing passive things that we enjoy or just anything?
@@naqvir90 I had headaches the day after a not so perfect night of sleep for a long time (months). Those stopped eventually. Then I started with dry, uncomfortable eyes. That has largely faded but I do still experience eye issues occasionally with nights of less than 5 hours of sleep. I just use extra applications of soothing eye drops on those days. And maybe get in a nice relaxing nap. I feel especially at ease and get a second wind after a 20 or 30 minute nap.
I'm going through speed bumps now and I hope it'll eventually be a struggle of the past. Knowing that speed bumps are part of the recovery process is very comforting. Like I'm on the right track here
I was having a stretch of decent sleep but seem to have fallen into a pattern of sleeping well one night only to barely sleep the night. This has happened three times in a row and it is becoming harder to befriend the wakefulness on the “non-sleeping” nights. It’s as if my brain judges that after having a full night of sleep it’s okay to make me stay awake the next night. I’ve never read or heard about others having the same problem.
I joined Sleep Coach School in May 2023. It's been about 1 year and 3 months. I am still in recovery....and doing pretty good. BUT - get this - My sleep is far, far from perfect. I have stretches of nights that are 6 to 7 hours of sleep. Sometimes choppy, sometimes not. I have nights of not being able to fall asleep until 4 - 5 in the morning...and then wake up a few hours later. Although, nights with very little sleep are becoming farther and fewer in between. It' can be a wild ride and it's ALL TOTALLY NORMAL!!! It takes time - and most importantly - letting go. I mean really letting go (of the notion of control), and learning/practicing to accept what comes. That is a path to peace. Believe me. I know what you are going through. I was in an awful, awful place mentally, emotionally, and physically when I started this journey.
@@susanashley8454 I can totally relate. My experience is very similar. My sleep issues started suddenly 2 years ago after being a “perfect” sleeper. Still not sure what happened but related to burnout & hormone imbalance. Still sorting things out. I’ve been following Daniel’s videos for quite some time now. Very helpful to know others have been through it, gives hope and encouragement. Every night is a process of surrender & letting go isn’t it?
@@carolmorehead5507 Yes. Absolutely. Surrender and then... accepting whatever comes...and most importantly, not freaking out or getting upset or being hard on yourself if whatever comes isn't what you've hoped for.
Dear Christian, thank you so much. You give one hope. Have been on a long speed bump with one good night in-between now and then . Feeling very tired. Rosalie
It can certainly understand you feeling tired, implement patience and kindness. When you see that this is the way through it can give you hope. Practice NATTO and keep moving forward
Thank you Rosalie, remember nothing stays the same so all things pass with time even speed bumps. Implement befriending wakefulness to show your brain that you are safe and practice "NATTO" regardless of "good" or "bad" nights.
If I get rid of hyperarousal, fear of insomnia, and anxiety.....the timeless sleep window is supposed to help me sleep and wake up without feeling tired and exhausted??
Hi Christian, have just listened to your Speed Bump comments again. So encouraging and helpful. I'm on my 2nd bout of 3 nights sleep in a row. Big gap in-between. Looking forward to the Speed Bump now after your comments.
Wow, that’s fantastic explanation for speed bump, it definitely change how I think about speed bumps , thank you so much Cristen for the great advice !
@@TomTom-nj8dr I've started mentally challenging them for the first time and trying welcome them. Not sure if this is natural progression or I'm doing it because I think it will "work". But the speedbumps are annoying and I'm fed up.
