WHY THE INFJ INTIMIDATES OTHERS (& HOW TO HARNESS IT) 

What have the reactions been when you have tried to speak and live out your truth as an INFJ?

People are imtimidated when you're your authentic self

I never knew how triggering we are until a covert narcissist tried to love scam me and proceeded to attack me with witchcraft when I refused to play their silly game. I’m glad I’m an INFJ because now this person is very confused and intimidated by me. People find out how truly powerful we are when they try to back us into a corner. Brilliant video. ❤

I know I’m powerful as an INFJ, but it’s so lonely since not many people can match my energy.

With great power comes great responsibility. We are given this power because its known we wont abuse it

I’ve been told my entire life I’m intimidating for various reasons…I see through people. I call it like it is with no filter, especially if I care. I do rather than sit around and discuss 15!different ways to get it done. Can’t isn’t an option. In my 20’s I dumbed myself down. 30’s I began embracing myself. In my 40’s I’m full blown me. People can love me or hate but I’m going to be me. Some hate me at first, then respect me later.

People have long said I look intimidating when I consider myself a kitten, truthfully.

Let’s be real INFJ’s. Let's be real and take off the mask! Let our light shine. People will respect us for standing up for what we truly believe in. If we’re honest, we don’t want to live a fake life, even though we don't want to walk all over others. People may still get offended no matter how respectful we are. But one thing is for sure, we don't want to disrespect ourselves. We need to build up the courage to be disliked because there will always going to be someone who will dislike us. This is not our problem but rather people projecting their own insecurities. The most inspirational people in history were all disliked by some. We should refuse to live under their shadow and be our true authentic self. Now that’s true freedom!🌠

It’s like walking on eggshells with most people once they realize they can’t ‘handle’ you…

When you act weak when you are strong, people wonder why you are acting weak. They think "If this person is acting weak when they are strong, they must think that we're weak, and want to match our energy." And it triggers them. When we act strong, it shows them that we think that they are strong too.

9:40 “If we trigger people enough, people will generally stay away from you.” That had me rolling!! 😂 I love and hate people at the same time. Thank you for this video. I’m in therapy right now. I’m working on being authentic. I have struggled with not wanting to hurt peoples feelings verses telling them the truth. I was raised to be a people pleaser too, so my wants and needs were always being sacrificed. When I started to set boundaries and speak the truth, I was attacked both physically (by one sister) and harassed by two of my other sisters. My parents took the side of the physically abusive sister when I pieced together a family secret that my parents wanted buried. I’ve already been abandoned by my nuclear family. I don’t hesitate now to speak up from the beginning of friendships and relationships. I have strong healthy boundaries that are better for my mental health. I protect my mental health and my daughter’s mental health at all costs.

Trigger is my middle name :) Some people? Most people are running for the hills when I speak my truth. I was told I appear rigid and unthoughtful of other people's feelings, when actually I tell it like I see it and, most importantly, I do this only when asked to. Cheers!

Wenzes saying, "The transition period will be hard for sure..." felt so reassuring

I don’t want to stop intimidating others. If I trigger people that’s their problem. Those that are triggered or intimidated I don’t want in my life anyway. They’re usually evil. I could tell you a life time of people that were lying or evil to the core. I love people or feel people that are just wrong. Thanks Wenzes. 😊

This is the best video you have ever done. I have decided I am done with people who try to cause others to be afraid. Living in fear is not me, and I’m not going to let anyone affect me that way! If they try, they’re out of my life.

The reason why people are triggered by us acting weak when we are strong, is because it's not natural. When we act strong that is natural.

That's very true Wenzes. We being ourselves does trigger people, especially toxic people. Energy vampires. They want us to play a role as if we're in a movie and not as our true authentic self. My true self had been suppressed under layers of childhood trauma which broke through now and my inner child is healing. I'm still suffering Narcissistic abuse at the hands of my mother and I plan to leave. This is a great video, which explains a lot. Never allow people into your space who are not good for your mental health. I'm being more of myself day by day, thanks Wenzes. Sending my hugs to you 🤗.

I am incredibly grateful that one day I saw this channel and started watching videos. I don't remember how long ago it was, but every month I feel a change in myself. For a couple of years I couldn't end a friendship that was too codependent, and now I'm trying to learn to live without it and doing therapy. Thank you for your advice. "Trigger them even more" made me laugh!

This is exactly what's happening to me with my in-laws now that I'm being my authentic self. I'm finding my peace, and it feels so good. The reaction has been to attack me in some way. I mirror it back and / or state my boundaries. I also show my boundries with my actions and laugh if those who are being triggered is absurd.

So true, my Dad literally tells my mum behind closed door, that I terrify him without me even trying. I later get to understand he falls in the spectrum of Covert Malignant Narcissist.

Thank you for sharing this. It gives me the courage to keep being myself and feel less lonely ( at least someone in the world truly understands my struggle and inspires me to be me no matter what. )

Thank you. You nailed it! It's the value system. We would not avoid Truth in order to avoid suffering. Living a lie is the real suffering.

I really needed this video. My manager at work loves to push her negative energy towards me, but codes it as “constructive criticism.” I got promoted recently and am still learning my new role, and I know she might mean well by it, but all it comes across as is negative energy over situations I don’t have control over. Instead of “can I greet this table for you?” she comes over to ask “have you greeted them, because they’ve been waiting 10 minutes without anyone coming over and are like ‘what the fuck?’”

The INFJ emotions are an organized chaos ❤

I am an old INXX this resonates with how I have learned to live my INFJ life. Trigger 'em all. People immediately like me and I have a friend for life or bullies hate me and we're going to war. Wholesome way to live, IMHO.

I think I might intimidate some people because I notice unless I really make an effort to make conversation with people, people tend to avoid me. That can be a good thing sometimes if I'm walking by sketchy people I don't want to talk to, but it sucks when trying to make friends. I'm also an introvert, so it's difficult to put in the effort to make friends.

Your videos are truly a blessing! They’ve helped me so much.

Do you ever feel like people are digging for a reason to not like you? I feel this on a daily basis at work. I’m not sure if it’s jealousy that causes this but it feels like jealousy.

"The less people are able to create their own inner peace, the less they are going to have access to you at a deep psychological level." - This thought is why I needed to see this video today. Thank you Wenzes as usual, your video brings fresh perspectives and needed repetition into my life.

Gratitude Wenzes. This is an excellent video for INFJ s 👏 and we shall have to keep visiting it. People take so long to understand what we are communicating now that by the time they appreciate us , we have moved up to a higher truth.

After the mocking whenever I would share something, and, becoming almost invisible (!!!) I realized I was killing myself for a selfish, ignorant fool who (in hindsight) was unworthy of what I had to offer. Bye, Felicia.

I'm gonna be honest. I think I'm probably an ENFJ, but a lot of what you talk about pertains to me. When I do what you're saying in this video, I end up with sort of weak friends. It annoys me. I also run into problems at work, where I speak truth but then I don't know what to do with that once everyone is triggered because they feel called out, or ineffective..which they are... So I end up just pleasing people in the moment. Which works quite well, until I tire of it..and that don't work so well lol

Good video, was smiling a good amount of times during this video, to the fact how true it is. I kinda wrapped a longer thought threw this video. And thought about some sort of blueprint for ourselves on how we can assists others. One of our biggest desires is to help others become a better version of themselves. If a person gets triggered by something it usually means that whatever triggered them is some sort of topic that the person is not at peace with. (If it’s not a wild accusation or smth like that) So whenever we trigger someone consciously or subconsciously by being authentic, it gives the person the opportunity to face their problems or not. In the best case they are ready to face it. Now the best thing we can do here is to assist the person approaching their triggered topic. One thing we have to be careful about here is not stepping into our „I can’t take confrontations“ trap. What I mean by that is, that it can likely happen that if a person gets triggered, the person gets defensive and starts confronting us with our problems or something similar like projecting, probably to distract the conversation from the triggered situation. (You know what I mean). If we now stay at ease and don’t take the said personal we created an environment where the other person now can talk about the triggered situation and we can start slowly digging to the root of the problem. Right here our empathy can really help us understand the problems of the other person. By understanding we can now also give guidance or forms of support on how to approach the problem in a way the other person could face it since we also understand their fears and struggles. I also think the other person feeling understood can help encourage the person to now take the first steps towards approaching the problem. I hope that makes sense. (Atleast it does in my head xdd) In contrast if we are only being nice we never come to the state of triggering people which will prevent us from helping others. I feel like we have to find a good balance between being nice and triggering people, like I feel if we would only trigger people it would scare them away but if we are only nice we never get the opportunity to truly help them. What do you think about that ?

I have been rocking the boat all my life. I had wondered why it was so hard for me not to. Thanks.

Energy massively up. Studied heavily employee productivity statistics. Utilized MBTI. Now managing other employees. Income went from 30,000 to 90,000 in the last 32 months. Steadily improving incrementally on various business units. Have a crush on a INFJ in Germany. Oh and giving around 1,000 every three months to ophans and abuse victims.

Wow Wenzes your insight is incredible! This is so helpful....just going through the transition now - not through choice but because I have triggered so many recently just by trying to be kind and helpful. It is so hard to stay authentic when you can feel the negative energy but with your support, I am managing to deflect it more than I ever could have imagined - Thank you so much xxx

Negative energy is extremely exhausting to us.

Thank you Wenzes❤

I was always in the shell cool with myself.. loving everyone more than I should’ve.. I used to gave them everything and got nothing in return.. but I was okay with it thought I am the change the world needed… until At time everything I had was taken away.. mom got cancer,love left , finances were cleaned off… and a lot of debt… Funny thing was none of it was my fault.. it was God’s plan… it flipped the switch in me… I embrace the bad I need to be cared about nothing how people view me… and become true to myself and more closer to God as I think I needed that punishment.. coz now I’ve turned my life around and I am more than I ever could be….

This video is brilliant!

Lots of great points as usual.

Great eye opening video ❤

I am fully convinced that Wenzes is an angel sent from heaven specifically to heal me and help me get out of the loop I have been stuck in for years. How can this be soooooooooo accurate???!?!?!?!?

Thank you!

much needed message- thank you!

You are awesome!

I’m living for these videos…

i've been following and appreciating your work for years now, and you've been such an inspiration to me. i really don't know how you're always able to put everything into such accurate words. as i finished watching this yet another wonderful video, i am thinking: if i were wenzes, in my darkest moments when in need of encouragement, i would rewatch my own videos. my gratitude is endless: one day i hope i can be for myself what, from the outside, it feels like you have been able to become for yourself :) thank you thank you thank you for all the heartfelt work you share with us!

As always, thank you, beloved Soul

Fantastic. Very well said Wenzes

I just love this girl! ❤I’m so grateful for the community she has built for us! ❤❤

I so needed this just at this time in my life!

Haha this is so spot on. Love your posts. Thank you.

This is exactly what I needed today.... Thank you 🥰

it is so humbling.

Like what I always say about myself 😊😊😊 they cannot contain me inside a box because I had my own unique personality

Oh, Wenzes, I've oh-so heard it out!

Insightful and reassuring. Thanks for creating and sharing the content!!

Wenzes, i love You! Thank you for another absolute gem 🙏❤❤❤

I love you Wenzes haha, thanks for this massive breakthrough on my journey. I’ve been coming into this state of awareness more.

This video is the answer to a tricky situation I am facing right now - thank you Wenzes!

Thank you so much! I am almost a 100% certain that I am an INFJ... I have been having a lot of issues and i think you amongst other sources (mainly books 📚) are going to help me with "real life..." 👉👈

Thank you - your videos have helped me make sense of my life. I only wish I had learned all this much earlier. Better late than never. Having fun with who I am now...

I don't want people to be intimidated by me. I'm not a monster.

Second time I am watching this video and I will likely watch it again. What a brilliant, brilliant video. This is very edifying. I wish I knew this earlier in life! Thank you so very much!!

Harsh truths I realized over the last six years. Weird feeling to hear a proper analysis over all these. Thank you for the videos.

Woo hoo!

Very good - we have to love and accept people where they are at. The truth is that may not be a good place, but it doesn' t have anything to do with us. We can only help those that actually want help and accept that truth. Most people are just not ready for the truth. Other people are either going to love or hate us for being authentic. That's on them. You are right that everything depends on self love.

I loved my black wolf❤

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Oh I am so glad it is not only me who experience this. It always surprises me that other accuse me of "why are you doing it again ? " meaning why am I triggering them ? I came to conclusion that I must have some super power that triggers/ touches other people's wounds without any effort and of course unconsiously....and of course, I am not happy about it as the last thing on earth is me wanting to hurt others....it kinda hurts me and makes me wanna shut up and do not express myself anymore...it is not def not fun..

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Now that I'm older, I find myself getting along with people a whole lot better. This year especially has been good. But I know that I've triggered people in the past and and most times it's been unintentional. My best thing is to behave in a way that is natural for me and communicate the message that I do things my way because that's what I was given to work with. No matter what their criticism might be, I still have to modify it so that it will fit. Sometimes I can agree with the odds or the principle of what they're saying but still continue to act in a way that is consistent with who I am. I can't say the responses have always been positive, but it sure beats what it was like when I wad afraid of their criticism.

My approach to criticism: If it's true embrace them, thank them, keep them close, like family, and adjust. If partially true shake their hand, thank them, they could be a valued friend, and adjust where needed. If completely untrue, a vindictive attack, thank them for caring enough and taking the time to address you, then ignore them and carry on as per usual. You (veiled sarcastically yet peaceably) thanking them for an attack will confound them completely and they'll avoid you like the plague.

~11.15 into feed. This is a tangent (sorry) but it is also about demonstrating discourse between an INFJ comfortable in their zone and another type playing by the conventions of their game/rules. I posted a comment and they said "that is a stretch". My reply was that it was not a stretch for integrative thinkers, because we see the fractal patterns and are not concerned about size. We see how this game played in this field here, could be replayed the same

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Is this what it would be like to have a healthy INFJ mother? I felt heard seen understood and a strong loving nudge to be who I am and that it's nothing wrong being so - so many goodies here -

You talk to exact point for INFJ's❤, so pinpointed that I'm scared how can you know me so much. 😂 One issue is how to know who I am, I had lost myself somewhere in past may be as a child, now as an adult how am I suppose to get me back?

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Thank you for sharing with us and being a place where we can come to get clarification and encouragement for us INFJ's to be our authentic selves. It has been hard for me to stay with an employer for more than a couple of years. Is it me, but it always feels like I slowly become a target by my supervisor, even if I get aling great with those I work closely with. Do other INFJ's have problems at work? Is it best for us to be self-employed?

You can monetize us for only so long.

Great video Wenzes although I have to disagree about us not being perfect, everyone and everything is perfect as we were created and perfected by God... Maybe use another term, like static?? I.e. "we INFJs are not static"

Why would one wish to be understood by a world who can never understand them in the first place?!

If they can't stand the heat,let them move out of the kitchen

2 of the three little pigs until they hire Rambo

Wait does this mean that if others trigger me I’m actually feeling what they’re feeling about me, triggered?? Cause I feel constantly triggered by others and wonder why I’m so sensitive.

Injf never get constructive criticism most of them are hateful criticisms, all the pososite then infj that is always bringing constructive criticism.

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Your whole thing is telling us we shouldn't be ourselves.

i am in my transition period. I hv realised how much i want to read, but i can not read even a single page. so any suggestions for books like how to be more authentic and accepting ourselves.

Intuitive feeling judgmental you could be codependent or tge flip sidecwhich is npd also codependent or borderline. You could be anything intuitive feeling judgmental really says nothing maybe use a wegy board.

It would be helpful if this video explained what INFJ stands for. I’m over 10 minutes into the video presentation and you have repeatedly used this term explaining its traits yet overlooked to explain what it actually stands for other than that it is a personality type. I’ve checked the description box also and you reference the term INFJ repeatedly but provide no explanation for what those letters represent in order to provide a fundamental understanding of the subject

From a psychologist we really don't use Myers brigs but if it's fun for you to define yourself tgat way have at it. Better to use Rorschach, mmpi, Tat, htp and clinical interview.

“How you feel is 100% about you” no one can make you feel anything, like all things, it’s an inside job. So if you’re angered, offended, hurt, upset, joyful, happy, grateful etc, they are your emotions that you feel, not something that someone else has done to you.

sorry in million year still you cant understand so dont try haha

so many emotions in today's video... 🥹 I love the empowering vibe 💪

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Injf never get constructive criticism most of them are hateful criticisms, all the pososite then infj that is always bringing constructive criticism.

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