Why you CAN’T Leave an Abusive Relationship | TRAUMA BONDING (Stephanie Lyn Coaching) 

jenomi72 you’re not alone!!! I feel the exact same way! I’m on day 1 (for the thousandth time) 😣. I just want him to be nice, loving, and caring; but it’s not going to last and I have no idea how to show him I’m serious THIS time. I thought I was serious all the other times. I’m just going to do like she says, and when I want him to be nice to me, Im just going to do my damndest to be nice to me instead or phone a friend. I’m wishing all the strength and encouragement you need to stay away. BLESSINGS TO YOU 😘❤️

Same here

Spot on!!! Get out if you can ladies before he leaves you, it was like drug addiction for me too & i threatened many times to be over, but i just couldnt let go & he knew it!! I desperately clung to that one more beautiful moment, always hoping it would change that he would show me the love i gave him, it drove me literally crazy & in the end he ended it.........over the phone mind you, im still suffering over a year later!!!! Get out!!! You deserve the world not that shit!!!!❤ STANDARDS & BOUNDARIES, I lost them all & myself!!

No more crumbs!!!!!!

@@k4obama day one every single day..and now im stack with the anger..im so mad all the time

So true! This is very eye opening!

@Viva los pepes Took me 39 years to understand. My gut feeling said Enough is Enough and I put it in ACTION. Divorce a PAINFUL process going into my 3rd year, But I'm receiving DAILY STRENGTH from My CREATOR. I'm TRUSTING His outcome for My LIFE. My Battle belongs to Him. My Abuser is is Creation too and He needs to Re-create him Spiritually so that he can Heal & Surrender his Abusive Traits.

Wow!!!

This comment section is comical. Y’all took 30+ years to leave a man that beat the snot out of y’all while there are great men out there, waiting for the chance? Ridiculous man, smh. Women enabling the abuse is extremely underrated.

Sean Smith many reasons why people stay in an abusive relationship. Don’t judge someone who had took that long to move on. You don’t know who they are or what their specific obstacles and hurdles someone has to go through. Don’t judge anyone that is in this situation. It’s no different than slut shaming or how some parents blame their own child for being molested by their spouse. Responses like this isn’t helping anyone by judging anyone you really don’t know about.

It makes sense to me

Makes no sense

This is not true for me Leaving and not feeling the weight lifted but feeling like I’m dying 😢

😢😔

I am in this right now and don't know what to do you are a very strong person

​@@candygirlintxI am right behind you dear don't know what to do 😢😢

That was the biggest statement she made for me as well ❤

Hardest part it’s to accept who they really are.

@@roxanabarrezueta9784 Yes and to know that they really didn't love you. It was all just a manipulative con job to gain access and control over you and your entire life. I don't think we choose them. They have done research on us and then begin to seek us out. Then shower us woth goey compliments. Saying little charming romantic things. Then always there. Like a bad penny, you try to get rid of and its back. Everytime it returns it gets itself mixed deeper into the piggy bank and its harder to root this bad penny out of your life. They either manipulative you into getting married or even sometimes get you pregnant. It's all a game to them in gaining control of your life. So they can bring total chaos, while steeling your self esteem, and totally overtaking your entire being and life. Until you no longer know who you are anymore, and you are unrecognizable to yourself or your family and friends. They think the other person is wonderful and you're just a crazy person. Because you've been living in this alternate reality. This utopian spin zone, gaslighting, madness, living in a house of the twilight zone. You wake up one day realizing you never chose them, they chose you. So you've been trying to keep your vows to them and God. Not wanting to break up your family. And one day you realize you're not even a part of your own family. You're left home alone. While this stranger who you never really knew is enjoying spending time with your family and you don't even exist anymore. Them you are trying to make sense of it all and trying to get your family back. But they look at you like who are you? And this person who's taken over your life is so awesome and they're cold to you because they were told or given the impression you didn't care enough about them to participate in their lives. But the truth is this person pushed you out and gaslighted them, loved bombed them, and just like they entwined and took over your life...did it to your children, grandchildren, and family. They have been manipulated into devaluing you, and casting you aside. So hurt by you thinking you didn't care about them, but everyone was really manipulated, brainwashed into thinking you didn't want to be with them. If it hadn't happened to me I would never believe it myself if you told me.... Now it's trying to get out of the twilight zone ✔️

@@gracewins7318 wow so true I can relate OMG 😲

The person that loved you at first was a FRONT he put on

But the problem still lies in ourselves. If you feel empty and unlovable you will have this craving for love and affection. If you heal your childhood wounds, you don't have the same craving for affection. You like it when its there, but you don't need it in that way.

Linda H. I needed this. Hopefully I can finally let go.

I'm trying every day

i would leave him disabled and go have fun...i know it sounds mean but shit he did it to himself...you are not his maid and you can find either peace or another man who is healthy

I too have a disabled bully I cannot leave, my heart goes out to you.

I’ve been doing this for 10 years I’m still trying to get out. I leave them I get sucked back in with backlash and promises of change how I can’t leave the family that my kids should be my main priority. Get out with the first reg flags don’t spend years ...he has isolated me so well that I do not know one person on this planet anymore. I don’t even talk to my family.

Omgggg exactly

Better to be alone for a while. Work on healing yourself. God will then bring healthy balanced people in your life after working on yourself. 🙏✨🦋

Can we like all help each other. I’m nearly there because they keep you secluded

Ummm no

@@Tatycharmz give it to God, I had to , had a 25 yr addiction / entanglement this man wasnt even my friend !!

Thats Exactly What We Do. Start Standing Up For Yourself Again.

They 💯 test you to see if you'll back up your boundaries. They try to press them at 1st, steamroll them later. It's not your fault. Some folks are cunning, sly, manipulative and tricky. They want you to feel guilty. Read about the F.O.G. of coercive abuse (fear, obligation, and guilt). It keeps you in the guilt / obligation cycle even if they get scary. It's not about blame - does it even matter who's fault it is? Assigning blame is not the same as finding a solution. Look, you are finding solutions. You are already taking responsibility for your future. You have and are making changes in the dynamic by learning and applying what you now know. That is amazing and that is where the real gold is, here. You are using your power for good! Thank you! You are learning so much and will be well armed now against these tricky people. So you'll see it earlier and be better able to manage around them. Some people lack the benefit of insight. They lack the ability to look inward or reflect on how their behavior effects others, as effects the world around them. So they lose the ability to change it for the better. Sometimes it's because they are terrified of the shame that may accompany that. Or they just can't take it. It can feel impenetrable strong in the moment, like a rubber & kevlar vest with the word "you" on it so anything they get accused of or criticized for or corrected about bounces back in blame form aimed at whoever lobbed it their way in the 1st place. But it's an illusion because, over time, this tactic alienates people and isolates us from them. The same people we need and depend on, rely on for whatever reason, for the roles we expect or need them to fill in our lives. Co-worker, teammate, boss, boyfriend, sister...whatever. We have a picture in our minds of what that should look like (in an ideal world, maybe, right?) And when reality hits us in the face with a different picture or image of who they are instead, we get to decide how to take it or put the camera down. Right? But when you can see that and realize, like you have - that oh - this may be an inappropriate choice. This person isn't cut out for this role at this time in their lives. Oops. My bad. One thing learning all this has taught me is to look at where I might be holding expectations of others - like a general expectation that everybody's definition of a decent person matches mine or a reasonable, sane human being matches my picture of what that looks like. Seems standard... But it can get complicated when others disagree. For instance - I've got kids. They're young. It doesn't seem appropriate to me to use swear words in front of them. But to somebody else, words may only have the power you give them, so they might drop F-bombs no matter who's sensitive ears may be in the room. Suddenly Johnny Kindergartener's coming home from the principal's office for trouble over bad language. Oops. It's a habit. It seems harmless at the time... But by the time little Johnny gets in trouble it's so ingrained that it's tough to stop swearing around the children... A go to coping mechanism for daily stresses. Even though it does us no good, even when it is clearly causing harm or damage. Like an addiction - the habit feels entrenched. It's destructive, but some people can't use the word "fudge" or "shniekies" instead. They don't think it's worth it. Or they're too shamed to make the effort so they make it like it's no bog deal... Slippery slope. Better to be strong enough, like you, to see that slope and recognize you're on it and don't want to be and jump off or go climb back towards the stairs by getting out. It took me a while to figure out that boundaries aren't for or against the offending person. They're not an ultimatum against them. You don't even have to verbalize a boundary to them (and I wouldn't recommend telling narcs your boundaries unless you're ready for that test). Even without leaving a relationship, you can tell yourself "I don't like it when X uses bad language around the children, so any time X does that, instead of arguing with him about how damaging that is, I'm going to leave the room, quietly. Or step out of the house for a minute with the kiddo. If X is s going to use bad language, we'll drop everything and simply walk into a separate room where we can't hear it." If you do that enough, the person either gets the hint and changes behavior when their audience disappears immediately and consistently any time they do the bad thing... Or you find yourself changing rooms so often that it gets too disruptive to accomplishing even the simplest goals and it just doesn't even make sense any more to keep pretending even to yourself (I've heard it called "taking hopium) that you and X share the value of raising children in a swesr-less home. That's 1 sort of innocent exemple, but when I realized I could walk out of the room quietly without making a stink or throwing a fit anytime X swore - without starting an argument about whether or not swearing in front of children is " right", "decent", or "acceptable" way to raise them, that could change or effect things for a different outcome. The boundary was for me. The boundary was about me for me - how could I handle things sanely that seem insane to me? It wasn't saying "If you swear again in front of the kids, I'm telling the therapist!" It wasn't a threat against them, which only makes people defensive anyway. If I don't appreciate a behavior, I have choices in how I respond to it, but I don't get to control other people's choices or behavior even by explaining all the valid research that swearing in front of children regularly sets them up for a particular trajectory in life that may not be as positive as we want for them. Because some people are more interested in absolving themselves of their own responsibility or abdicating it to others they can then blame later if things go wrong, so they don't have to do the work of changing. But you are becoming the butterfly, now. Your flower has bloomed. Your life is taking winged flight. You saw where things weren't working and you stopped blaming so you could focus on making change. That is creative and strengthening. You are creative, compassionate toward yourself and whoever you may have been blaming (the "X" person), and you are strengthening by these new choices. Good on you! And congratulations. You are doing the work and you're bound to reap the reward of a life closer to the one you want for your future than the one you are letting go of. Yes!!! 👍 🎉 Thank you for the inspiration! Keep up the great work!

He makes me feel guilty when I break up with him

yes

exactly

I feel so stuck and scared I’m only 23

@@Tatycharmz same and I’m also 23 😭

I'm 23 but I guess it's time to leave

I'm 42 and have wanted to leave for several years... But this guy is a whole different level of narcissist. He has a God complex on top of a Great salesman (makes his love bombing believable) and comes across as someone who is so successful at everything you can think & most of it isn't a lie, but a lot is inflated. I am in the process of meeting with a lawyer.

​@@angelamarie79 I'm in the same situation...how are you doing? I'm 43. from Little Rock, Arkansas.

i feel exacty the same it sucks

@@shannarasnodgrass2922 If i may give you an advice, get out of that relationship as fast as you can. Go no contact and never look back. I once felt like i can’t leave him and now i know it was just the manipulation talking. He used to hurt me and say it was my fault and i belived him. He made me feel ugly, stupid and as soon as i went no contact i saw things more clearly. Now he can’t touch me. He is just a bad dream. I am happy and healthy now as i never been before. Sending you love❤

You wrote something so real... 5 years of my life I spent loving someone who wasn't even real... now seeing him for who he really is.. my heart's crushed like I'm mourning death of my partner... because I don't know this guy.. I have no idea who this man is... which scares me from going back to him even when he pretends to be like the man I loved...

Absolutely!! The dream is fine to have and you can always still have it BUT loving yourself is being able to have it with the right person! 💜

A. N. I keep all the horrible text messages he sent & as a reminder of all the bad times. He called me some pretty shitty names & said the most hurtful things than anyone has ever said to me. Now it has gotten to the point that I forgotten all the good times & that’s what help me continue to stay away. I haven’t been in his presence in 5 months. 3 week ago he tried to Hoover me talking about all the good times we shared. To combat that I read all the nasty text messages he sent to him so I could prove that he was a shitty ass boyfriend. Then I BLOCKED his new number & felt like I’m getting power back. My confidence is definitely being renewed.

Almost40born78 I wish I had saved all the nasty msgs he sent me so I could look back when I'm having a moment of wanting to reach out. I deleted them straight away after every time, I guess I thought at the time if I can't see them I didn't have to face what he was.

Almost40born78 best wishes in your recovery. I'm 7 months out

cj bear thanks for message. I still struggle with cognitive dissonance. There are times where I remember when my ex was so sweet & kind, but then I remember he has at least 5 different personalities & only ONE of them is nice. So yeah I counteract the good memories by remembering the bad ones. And those text messages I saved are a big help....approximately 10,000 text messages of straight bullshit. The good news is that he is the only narc I’ve ever dealt with & when I think of my exes prior to him, I remember how normal & stress free they were. So I’m hopeful for future because I had better in the past. So the only thing I’m focusing on right now is catering to my own needs. I learned a lot from this relationship & I thank God I went through it. I realized I was too trusting & too empathetic but not anymore. Anyway, I hope that you a great journey in your healing process as well. You should keep a journal of all the bad things your ex has ever done to you & whenever you get weak & slip into cognitive dissonance read your journal out loud to yourself! You don’t need saved text messages to remind yourself of the abuse..trust me you don’t.

youtube watcher absolutely!

Its not so much about blaming yourself but acknowledging the truth (which is similar to blaming oneself) and taking responsibility for what you did not do earlier. Once you own up to what you do you can start to UNdo the same behavior patterns. That's the key. Own up to it ! Stop saying I don't wanna blame myself. Thrn you will never admit its your own fault.

Brynel S. That’s exactly how I felt when I was in the process of getting ready for my wedding. I always felt something was off, but would think of the good times we’d had and the promises and words he said, so I pushed through and got married. Two years later, I’m planning my escape. Things just kept getting worse and now I realize that I’ve been getting emotionally and financially abused. Had I actually accepted things for what they were, I wouldn’t have gotten married. I hope you made the right decision for yourself.

@@brynels.9189 Red flag. Run! Take heed. Marriage is a Life long Commitment. Not easy to get out if. You might spend more on a Divorce than your wedding to end ABUSE. It was meant for you to listen to this video

@@alondramontez6982 I Empathise with you. You 2 years down the line. I was 30 years and 7 years separated. Battling a Divorce that's costing me so much MORE Financially than my wedding 🙈

Feel that one man, went through most of my life without realizing how codependent I was/am then spent a few years trying to make it a good thing, now I'm drained and somehow still jonesing for that toxic mess.

why do I always go back? he's vicious, I can't believe I let him treat me this way and then I go back.

Daniel were you able to break free?

@@Candy_Mountain I pray he figured it out if the person he's with is truly has NPD? Or if that person just needed counseling? I've known a few over my lifetime. Some even with counseling just figured out how to use the counseling to manipulate their spouce. The other barely escaped with their life and sanity. Only escaped The violent covert NPD spouse in their battle of cancer. It's truly heartbreaking. I've only just been enlightened about narcissim and the different Personality traits and disorders....that person doesn't even know yet that they were indeed not just in a bad relationship but in one with a sociopath. Even after death are experiencing all these trauma bonded victimization emotions not knowing how to just live and move on. Still alienating themselves from family not knowing how to enteract. Horrible dysfunction. My hope is to inform and help them through sending these ensightful videos to them.

I’m going through this now it’s like when I’m at work it’s not as bad because I stay busy but when I’m bored all I do is think of him.

@@hang-sangitch God/prayer...im doing that now

Blessed Beyond Belief,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narcissist....

Covert narcs are the worst! My "mother" was one. As the "queen" she only barked orders and never listened. She was the Supreme ruler of her castle and thought she owned everything and used anyone to serve her needs. I was a slave to do her bidding. Any attempts to obtain employment and leave were secretly sabotaged to keep me controlled and dependent. Anyone looking from outside the home saw her as a "wonderful person" and I was always made to be the villian. REALLY EVIL PERSON AND HER EXTENDED FAMILY!!!!!😈😈😈😈😈

Lily Lily I knew someone in this situation, give each other a month apart, no phone calls, no texts, no looking at photos of you two together, and no seeing each other, after a month and possibly a few more weeks, the fog of this obsession will dissipate and you’ll start to think more rationally about the situation which will help you make better decisions, in that month just busy yourself as much as possible, occupy your mind on other things and work on your self-esteem by taking care of yourself with exercise, healthy foods and so forth, just be selfish this time, I gave this advice to someone years ago and it worked for her

good question, I feel like I have none.

I “thought” I did...🤷‍♀️

@@Gaypornmama 🤦🏽‍♀️ same here...

I was in the same situation for 32 years I have left and gone back, but this time I have left for good, it’s only been a week, I feel so much better, you need to change your situation only you can do this, otherwise it will NEVER change !

@@lesleyjarbath01 thanks for responding, it's been 8 years for me and since I wrote this comment he actually left me. So the trash took itself out.

I’m so pleased for you :)

God bless you!❤️

Just reading it now and hope you left. Could've been my own message. Thank you for your comment

A little like Stockholm syndrome

Thank you!! I am so glad you found the channel!

Same for me! Thank you so much for this channel 🤗🤗🤗

Me too. Stephanie you really are gifted in the way you explain so much and you always are so positive, caring and supportive. God Bless You always !!!

Me too. Stephanie you really are gifted in the way you explain so much and you always are so positive, caring and supportive. God Bless You always !!!

Thank you. I found your channel at the precise moment I needed it.

I hope you continued to do well. I have healed and returned to who I was prior to the 50 year relationship. I meet my old self and take her forward to who I am now. And I also try hard to not look back. XXOO

❤

I'm a few days out and it's very painful.. Your your words hit hard because I can smell my future,,I blame myself for loving such a person... She took my soul and she keep trying but I know if I go back I will die... So thanks you so for all the info..I know I will never go back to her..SHE IS A USER ,NARCISSIST,,MANIPULATOR, LEACH,PSYCHO,AND CRUEL, MOST DEFINITELY AN ABUSER😢😢😢😢🫶🏿🙏🏿❤️

I hope you've made it out by now ❤ and even if you haven't I hope you find the strength ❤

Did you end up leaving him? I am in the same situation and going through with a divorce. I hope you are doing okay!!

🫶🏿🙏🏿❤️

Keri DiGirolamo thank you so much for watching! If they are helping you throughout your journey I am so grateful! 🙌

I m going thru the samsruggle, am trying to ❤️ myself it hasn't been a week since I broke it off,am 63 , years old so don't feel you,bad we are strong woman,I could do this,anyone can😇

Soccer Moon yes!! Happiness does exist after abuse and depression. Really learning how to love yourself.. learning how to heal from your internal wounds.. learning how to practice mindfulness and having positive and healthy self talk is the key towards your happiness!

Soccer Moon: Much love 💗 !!

I think my biggest fear is “will I ever find someone else and be truly happy? or will I find another toxic relationship? Am I the toxic person like he says I am?” I know it’s not all me, but then I still get stuck. Then I get angry and frustrated with myself, because I don’t deserve this! Thank you for sharing!!! Thank you Stephanie Lyn for helping me so very much with this!!!

Stephanie Lyn Coaching THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!! I’m on my thousandth day one of leaving, but it has to be for good this time. I’m pregnant with my first child, and I don’t want my child in this unhealthy environment. My fears don’t match what I know, but they’re so strong right now. I’m struggling to combat them. I’m going to do like you said, and take the time to love me!!! Thank you so much for this!!!

@ropey bird I’m well, thanks for asking. Loneliness is a problem sometimes but it could be worse...it has been worse. Lol. I’m still learning and growing and trying to figure it out. It’s like sitting at a poker game with a stack of chips. It gets shorter and shorter. All the effort I’ve spent on relationships is like that stack of chips. Keep playing and lose it all or cash out while I can. I’m taking my chips and spending them on me. 😂

you not alone...I've learned so much about narcs on these channels since I discarded last year, I'm wiser, stronger, ..you cant really see yourself until you get out that situation...it wasnt love it was lust, addiction, emotional abuse, and trying to control n manipulate this is spiritual warfare...

I promise you’re not alone. I left my abusive relationship a month ago, but a few months before that, my boyfriend’s stepfather left his mom for the same reason…abuse. I watched how it destroyed him. It’s easy to think it only happens to women, but I watched how much his mother destroyed this man and I am so happy that he got himself away from her. I’m praying for you and I hope you are finding peace and safety….it really is exhausting.

@@carolynj6144 thank you so much for those kind and encouraging words. I sincerely appreciate it. You're right too... its inexplicably exhausting.

I completely understand it's difficult to be alone. I will pray for you.

Angie Eernisse,You deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

@@christianpulisic7784 thank you.

@@ForGoodnesSake You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌹.I am Christian from the States.You?

@@ForGoodnesSake Which country are you from?

You can learn to manage ADHD, speaking from experience. It is easy to be controlled my ex narc controlled everything and I got help and stoped giving her narcissistic supply and she discarded me after 24 years. Left me with my 13 year old daughter. I now had to learn to do everything, hardest year of my life but I’m getting stronger everyday and now have joy and support not from a dating relationship. From healthy support groups, clubs, and church. You have to do the work. I literally cried for a year, 7 months everyday at one point went to the ER thought I was dying of cancer or something b/c of weight loss. ADHD medication was killing me got off it and use practical therapy and modalities. Meditation and exercise and lots of retraining my mind and practices.

Ive just been diagnosed at 51 with ADD, it has helped me see a my past & behaviours a little clearer but so difficult yes with codepencey also in a relationship, i didnt know what was going on with me & having an emotionally detatched partner did not help at all, yes natchnieniO i totally get what u r saying, it is so crippling, i was/am really bad for the memory also & when drinking sometimes blackouts with him & certainly isnt nice when they leave u instead of wanting to help & support u, its not there job to fix u i know but everything takes two EVERYTHING, there is a beginning & an ending & support is everything in a relationship especially when triggered by things they did!! And we are left blaming outselves literally feeling crazy!!!!!!! I am still suffering over a year later & cry also but have decided i must work on me like u bksusmc, i am trying to retrain my mind, watch my thoughts, meditate & exercise, i listen to LOTS of motivational videos on utube eg Trent Sheldon, Stephanie Lynn everyday, i put motivational affirmations everywhere, its really hard & knowing hes just off doing what ever without the suffering i am going through, but i will & am determined to come out the other side a much stronger, wiser, happier, awake women & i wish this for all, we are so much more, worth so much more, we just lost our way to others, reclaim your power as TRENT SHELTON hammers into u!!! Much love ❤

@@bksusmc great advice bksusmc, i also am doing/attempting meditation & trying to get out into nature, walking, beach etc, i hope things are getting better for you & your daughter, i dont like to judge but is really not very nice to dicard you both after 24 years no matter what wow!! I wish you all the best & much happiness, oh just curious what meditations you listen too?

Holy moly, this is me. I literally can’t remember half the stuff that he says to me but when I look back at my journal and see what I’ve wrote I’m like omg why am I still here? I remember the feelings but I forget the words yunno. I thought I was just crazy hahaha

This!! I have ADHD and I’m in an emotional abusive relationship for 2 years. I’m trying to get out of it and I tend to forget what I expected from him, what he did to me and how he did it. I tend to be unconsistent with my ideals the more I forgive, I can’t commit with what I truly want, it changes a lot. When I remember the stuff he did it hurts so bad but then again my moody self is randomly missing the good stuff and he is able to meet that radical change of energy. HELP

You are so strong You as an empath are awakened and are finding your individuality I love this comment You really are so tough Your aligning with your self You are your own person I woke up too He hates it

You feel guilty because it is gaslighting.

You're not the bad guy. He probably told you you are. Also I don't care how disabled he is, get out!!!!

I keep hearing the word face value google the meaning cant find it, what do ppl mean when they say face value ...?

Your awesome. Stay strong

same here, except he is my fiance. It's so interesting how time unravels the truth. It's so scary. This really discourages me to go out there and look for someone.

@@xlx077 Hey, I am currently in the same boat. Do you manage to break free and end the engagement?

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I must be crazy. And I have a son and pregnant with a girl. For the sake of my children I need to think of them and get out of this relationship. I feel.the same as you feel. Its a love and hate thing. I know me and my kids deserve so much better. This man does not love or care about me. Yet he is like a drug and I know once I cut him off again...the withdrawal affects will hurt bad and I will feel depressed and broken.

@@thevegantitian I'm so sorry you are in this situation... but don't think you need to get out just for the sake of your kids! Yes, they also suffer and end up having a really bad image of marriage... but you should also think of yourself. Nobody deserves to be stuck in an abusive relationship.

@dulcespinelli Yes that's true. I deserve better and to be in a healthy relationship.

@@thevegantitian you certainly do!!

You did the right thing. He is the psychotic one for swearing at and spitting on a woman.

Proud of you and God is too!

Omg I have been hit and spit in my face also. I’m on my way out this weekend

I am proud of you for leaving. Don't go back.

Wow congrats to you

Omg! She truly can't see it!

God have mercy

Very relatable Very hurtful Did you end up leaving? I was with him for 10 years and the pain of leaving was way too much I lasted 4 months then came back Not a a thing has changed.hows life for you now????

Elicia Garcia everyONE

Elicia Garcia women can be just as bad trust me

I agree with you

Everyone includes every girl. Like was already said.

Geez how long was it

Hugs, Momma. Keep up the good work.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I Corinthians 13:4‭-‬7 NKJV

How are you doing now?

Well you need to take your medicine(me)

Because it’s feminine nature to love bad boys... boys you know are bad, emotionally unavailable, lying, deceitful. Yet you only go for him. You ignore the nice guy coz he is boring. Everything has a cost benefit ratio. Most women pick the bad boy and get butt hurt. And then come to the channels asking why. Asking to heal.

Mélanie Poitras Believe me when I tell you I completely understand!! That is the unfortunate side effect of being abused is you are left to pick up the pieces because you are a normal healthy capable person and someone who is narcissistic or emotionally abusive is not. They will never move on and live a happy life Regardless of what their life entails because they don’t know what happiness, true happiness is. I think the anger you feel could possibly be sadness that you have had to go through everything that you’ve gone through. Sadness that you have to heal and pick up these pieces. It’s definitely not an easy thing to do and sometimes when we feel anger it’s really just sadness that we feel that we have to go through these tough lessons in life.. but these tough lessons while hard at times does make us smarter and healthier! All the best to you!

Stephanie Lyn Coaching Thank you for taking the time to respond. Your answers/videos are so helpful. So, thank you.

Mélanie Poitras absolutely! thank you for watching!

I am in my forth month away from him. I feel the same. I saw all the warning signs and tried to warn him to save our marriage, but he wouldn't. I was right. now we are divorcing. And he already found someone else while I'm still licking my wounds.

😢😢😢😢move on ...

I believed the same until my psychologist informed me a relationship consists of 2 people, so it's not possible for only 1 of them to be responsible for all that goes wrong. Much Love🕊️🙏🏻

@AbiGail Agguire They need to communicate what their Standards or Boundaries are so You can see if it alligns with YOURS. Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. EQUALLY sharing EVERYTHING. He won't leave coz Your Leaving Boundary is not firm ENOUGH. He knows YOUR behaviour and they manipulate you in falling back into their arms. They feel Good and thrives on your Co-Dependency. Only You Know what You EXPECT from him and ONLY You CAN Demand RESPECT. It works Both ways. Never 2nd guess What you put into your MARRIAGE. Go with Your gut FEELING. Stop the ABUSE by making him aware of Your needs too.

I tell my husband to leave and he won't/ he has filled all the bedrooms up with his stuff and took over our daughter's room, so all 3 kids are in my bedroom. He tells me I am an idiot and a moron. When we married I wanted to stay home with the children and he was all for this, so I always stayed home and not work, but now he resents paying the bills and makes it sound like he is giving me that money (but it is not going to me really-I am paying bills) tells me if I get a job he will quit his and stay home (and drink all day) and if I leave he will take away my house ( I inherited it from my Dad and this is my childhood home)...I am so stuck. I pray God delivers me.

Wow that’s me too. Which shows this is abuse. Get out

I'm learning that's their game. It's cliche emotional abuse from people with this type of mental illness...varying in degrees of severity. (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). We get trapped because obviously we aren't 100% healthy. Thankfully we are here and want to heal. I have a new mantra that is helping me dismiss his abusive words... "He's mentally ill" No more trying to understand, change or reason with him.

Kate Parsons,You look gorgeous,hope you are not with a narcissist....

Raw Lisa it is extremely hard to hear believe me I have been there but knowledge is power to heal!

Sunny C. Thank you so much for watching! I’m so glad that I can help others fully recover and learn how to love themselves!

Vicki Barker,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌹,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

Lindsay Johnson thank you so much for watching!

I've been in my situation for 10 years too and I'm so stuck and feel ashamed. He can be nice one day and within hours it changes. He'll wear that biggest smile outside and so that I won't look like the crazy or mean one I'll smile too and play like I'm happy when I'm so broken inside. Please pray for me because it's bad because know I deserve better.

Summer Solstis thank you!

Katelynne Wenzoski,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!

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hey, I am in the same boat. I feel like I should have heal first instead of jumping into another. I own this to myself.

So true. I'm 43 yo and I haven't worked in years, l've been staying at home as a full-time Carer, looking after 2 people, my 72yo Schziophrenic mother, whom has Arthritis in her arms and legs and can't walk at times, and my 53yo brother whom is also ill and has back pain, because he hurt his back at work years ago. l'm on the Carer Pension and Carer Allowance from Centrelink ( Social security) , so l can't go outside much, l just exercise in my front yard and write in my diary why l'm happy and what l'm grateful for and write down my goals, like l really want to have a place of my own someday, so l'm saving up to buy an apartment or house someday. And l write down my other goals too. Apart from being a Carer l'm doing an Entrepreneur course, and studying French. I'm on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/rose-fernandez-953a6b1a9