Why You Should Forgive People Who Hurt You | Vishen Lakhiani 

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@@graphicsbyshubham You hit it on the head, "removing distraction from your life"...even Vishen doesn't quite understand what forgiveness actually does in real terms. Hurt is a form of distraction...consuming ones time and focus without gain. Remove distraction everyday and yes you become MORE focused on what you do or aspire too. Money happiness health love all are valid to focus on but understand what you do the moment you don't focus on your goals - you don't hit the success you were aspiring for. You only have a limited time resources so use them efficiently. All religions preach something similar but buddism Hinduism definitely understand the concept of do not be distracted from moving forward on your journey.

We forgive because we feel the other has wronged. In doing so we forgive consciously however the subconscious retains that the other has wronged. The subconscious is 9 times bigger than the conscious which creates a schizophrenia due to disagreements between the two. To avoid this isn’t it wiser to condemn the act but never the actor. The advantages could be several to separating the act and the actor : - the act is condemned and the actor is aware of it so as not to repeat it. - the actor is not cut off from us and may possibly do good acts in the future. - when we condemn a person (even subconsciously we actually first n foremost condemn ourselves ) - also when we forgive others it is a superior attitude which is inhumane.

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So true! Always act out of love! ❤️

IN ORDER TO FORGIVE YOURSELF, YOU SHOULD FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO HURT YOU FIRST

Maybe he/she was abused or molested? Truth is no healthy loving human being will molest their own child. They must be broken and hurting in some area of their lives that is probably to painful for them to face that they continue the cycle of hurt😔

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Jesus: Bless those who persecute you. Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question. "Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said. "You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus. "But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange." "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him. There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go. The king laughed and said go him: - Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin? The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.

@Vidisha Alwani Yes, yes i did. Like it, yes you would. Its free! Chrck it out!

You really faced bad time in which u had patience and came positively thats y u achieved your success

This is powerful for me! My brother Shay wronged me in the form of sexual perversion & inappropriateness. I would really like to think I can let it go some day & get our friendship back completely.

@Sunny Girl finally someone who says it.

@V A Proof of what?? Does it even matter if THIS particular story is true? Seems like you missed the point of the message completely... Things like this happen all of the time...Forgiveness is VERY powerful..

Jesus: Bless those who persecute you. Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question. "Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said. "You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus. "But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange." "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him. There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go. The king laughed and said go him: - Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin? The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.

@Ithatitastixil ....if you can't forgive then learn to understand. When you understand you will learn to forgive and more. Just looking through all your playlists...I see you collected a large percentage on hate eg Alex Jones, etc. Don't you think the problem appears worse to you when you have no other view points to counter balance the negativity you collect.

@@borntodoit8744 total respect to Alex Jones

Sophia Brown ~Well you shared ur feelings out loud, that u said uve been waiting&wantn to say for a long time. Now im gonna do that too, with u...and i dont even know you but here goes. IF i tried to or IF i even can forgive 1 of the many persons that have really hurt me, this one in paticular that sexually abused me when i was very young&I never told anyone bci was told id get in alot of trouble&my mother would send me away if she found out. So ive lived w/this dark secret &this anger&this shame and all the other darkness that has built up&followed me over the last 40yrs. Thru the yrs Ive been thru hell&I've put so many ppl that have loved&cared about me thru hell. I've never got an apology from the person that hurt me. Unfortunately a couple yrs ago i ran into sum trouble&had absolutely nowhere to go&no options other than to come back to live with the person who put me thru that trauma when i was so young. He makes it known that he doesn't want me here (just as much as i dont wanto be here anyway but i have no other options)&he treats me like im a burden, a hindrance and he constantly complains&bitches about everything&anything that I do & or dont do. How Am I Supposed To Forgive This Negative,Miserable, Spiteful P.O.S That I Have No Respect For At All And Have To See&Deal With On A Daily Basis. He's Never Been Held Accountable For What He Did To Me&He'd Probly Deny It If He Were Confronted About It. SO IF ANYONE CAN THROW ME A LIFELINE WITH ANY SOLUTIONS, IM OPEN TO THEM!?! KEEP IN MIND, NO ONE IN MY FAMILY EVEN KNOWS ABOUT THIS!! SENDN SOO MUCH LOVE ~PEACE ~LIGHT 💙☮🌠 🙏BLESSINGS🙏SOPHIA🙏 #TheStruggleIsReal ☆AND I TRULY DO WISH U ALL THE BEST AND I PRAY U GET THE ANSWERS AND THE PEACE&HAPPINESS THAT U SEEK AND DESERVE☆

To both of you beautiful ladies, Sophia Brown & Lucky Angelpy (I assume you're a woman, if not my apologies), I totally get what you are saying and honor your journeys and what you have been through. I can say from experience that forgiveness really ISN'T about the other person - it really IS about YOU. I have a slightly different spin on forgiveness - forgiveness is not about letting the other person off of the hook, trying to understand why they did what they did, or somehow make it okay that you went through what you went through. Forgiveness is all about allowing YOURSELF to HEAL and be FREE from all the associated pain that comes along with it. Here's what it looks like for me: I can recall some of the most painful moments in my life, moments that just about or did break me, without reliving any of the pain. I can recall those moments, not only without feeling all the feelings again, but actually feeling the opposites of them. Instead of anger and hatred, peace and calm. Instead of hurt and bitterness there's a lightness and joy. I took my own experience and put into a course that a lady is going through right now. She also was sexually assaulted as a kid and lived with that guilt and shame and secrecy for YEARS. She's only halfway through my course and she's been able to have more forward movement in the last 6 WEEKS than she has in over 30 years. She called me the other day and told me she can actually feel the healing beginning to take place. She also said not only would she recommend this course to anyone, she made it very clear that it's been very difficult. Those first 2 weeks had her in a difficult spot. However she said the work Works if you work it, and while she has yet to complete the journey, I can see and she can feel just how far she's come. I really don't say this to promote my course (at all) but to show you it's possible! Forgiveness isn't about letting the other person off the hook - it's about letting YOU off of it. It's giving YOU your life back, your freedom, your peace of mind. Your power. Whichever path you take to forgiveness - make sure it's a good one! - and know that not only is it worth it to not spend another day with the anger, resentment, guilt, shame, frustration, hatred, and fear that you feel ALL the time, it's worth it to know joy, peace, wholeness, healing, and what it's like to finally love yourself. Hope this helps!

@@Aishamber Can I just say everything you said is correct. To recap in my own words as well as yours :-) Recap 1 - remove distractions from your life (hurt is an example of distraction). Vishen and others talk about forgiveness but it literally is saying *forgive someone who hurt you so they no longer are a distraction to you.* 2 - with the free "energy freedom and time" you would have wasted on being hurt, you can now focus on something more productive in your life 3 - in doing so moving forward is about you (not someone else) and how you deal with life's challenges (the lows) or even your aspirations (the highs). 4 - everyone who succeeds learns different ways to move forward in life. If I use the metaphor there is an obstacle in front of you. When you feel hurt you feel limited to only moving "forward and back"(hence the obstacle is everything. But maybe just maybe with the extra time and thinking associated with forgiveness you can consider other movements "forward back, side to side, 360 around or above or below to get around obstacle"... You see the metaphor....the obstacle no longer restricts your life to moving in one way only, with a different view point YOU CAN choose to move in any way you want...the obstacle no longer is an obstacle. If you truly want to learn from the experience, the obstacle which directs your journey down another road in life is but a milestone (if not a signpost) to help you to some place better. Who would have thought this hurt you feel will help you move on, if you can learn from it but not be distracted by it you will move on. Forgive the poetic licence but it is all true....starting with learn to let go, or forgive, remove the distractions so you can actually think where you want to go next.

I agree with you, being afraid of further hurting makes you forget to forgive... I've forgiven many ppl in my life and they kept hurting me so I chose to stay far and not involve them in my circle of life... I just had enough and learned from my mistakes... Some people don't deserve forgiveness!

Dion Anderson yes you reclaim your precious life energy from the people you don’t forgive. You heal yourself. 💪🏼

Of course it does. In another 6 million reincarnations you will be clear, just a bit of luck is needed, so that nobody abuses you again. May Ganesh grant you 6 million times luck

Same here brother. Well done you! 👍✌🤠

Ahmad forgiving them is the only way to free yourself from them otherwise you’re like their prisoner,you keep thinking about them,you will be amazed of how good your life will be and how you will forget about them after you forgive them,also forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did is okay it means letting go of the grudge and resentment freeing yourself,also if you really want KARMA forgive and see how God will intervene on your behalf,you think not forgiving them is punishing them it’s not,it’s punishing yourself,also no need to be their friend after forgiving them,stay fa away from a back stabber like that one .trust me I am speaking from experience

@@nurarich4945 beautifully said..

Jesus: Bless those who persecute you. Let me tell you a story of a wise man who sacrificed himself to change the world. The story of Jesus Christ. Once there was a sinner in the town of Jerusalem. The sinner John was very angry every time he got laughed at a bar or being ashamed of something he would always get furious and blame it on other people. When one day he got out of his house and saw the person who was believed to be the son of God. John came to him and asked to be baptized and baptized he was. When John saw that he had power like no other he asked him to be his disciple. Jesus accepted and they started living together. One night when Jesus was sleeping John woke him up and asked him a question. "Oh lord, how can you be so forgiving to someone that does not deserve it?" - John said. "You must forgive everyone." - replied Jesus. "But how many times? I'm tired of people always making fun of me and I get nothing in exchange." "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future, Let me tell you a story of a peasent and a king." - replied to him. There lived a peasent and a king brighter and more noble than everyone before him. One day the peasent had fallen into a huge debt because he had stolen a golden coin from the kings treasure. The king found about it and asked him to show himself. He showed up and they talked about how he stole the money and the punishment he had to overtake which was life time prison. The peasent begged the king, saying he would change if he let him go. The king laughed and said go him: - Dear peasent, the money does interest me, but what do I get after getting you in prison than letting you live free without sin? The peasent promised to sin no more. And a new king was born a century later.

It's your past karma that brings u in a situation.. its not in anyone's control since its a result of a past deed but whats in ur hand is how u respond coz this will build your future.. forgiveness just helps you to empathise better and moves towards a lighter happier and morefulfilling future

Agreed overtime the person we hate on move on with their lives and many of us dwell on it for months years etc....

It's all about you here. And your soul and your growth. You don't have to educate others. Your realization is that you can be greater than what hurts you. And trust me, everyone has someone to forgive.

Dhyana be strong. Let them be. Love yourself. You are worth. Repeat it while breathing till you calm.

How are you able to wish something good for a person who has hurt you and treated you like shit??

@@aswathydevu2760 just keep trying. You will see. Changed my life

@@tarunesh thank you for replying 🙏..is following the mind valley forgiveness technique enough???

@@aswathydevu2760 I have not tried it. Only the method that I told you.

Kaustubh Pawar but you deserve to move on, dear :)

Tessa Garen I can move on but without forgiving those people ... I will act as if they don't exist ... Simple

Kaustubh Pawar Forgive is for us. Not for them. You do for yourself. You are free from anger. When you let it go. You are magnet to good vibe.

siti nur U r right

Hand on heart Kaustubh how fake, or true to yourself, are you? We are all fake (= dishonest?) in some way or another...so who are we/how can we determine who is not worthy of forgiveness? Maybe a start is to think of how you have been dishonest with someone recently...and forgive yourself for that?! I suppose it all starts with how we like to judge to boost our egos!

Check out Joyce Meyer on Emotional Attacks. Pray and be Watchful!

very true.

Raham Wyndsor It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy

Henry von Ballinger Love it! Thank you!

@@peacegirlusa4761 very true

Ana Cee dont forgive someone who will go it again only forgive someone who truly feels guilty for what they don't and has changed for the better

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For your knowledge bhagwat gita means song of God 5000 thousands yrs back vedas more than 10000yrs ago already taught this which jesus propagated through Bible 2000yrs back after learning this in India in between 10 to 30 yrs of his age which Bible hide

david wilder just forgive but don't forgive