I totally understand this. I've been a victim of feeling sorry for a man and end up being used and discarded. It won't happen again. This is how women become bitter.
@@seabreeze4559yup! A man I started knowing last year came back after a 3month no contact from me. We had just met and he already wanted to put his financial issues on me, I said nope! Told him it’s not my burden to carry, he must go fix himself first and leave me alone!(came at him really hard!)He reached out a few days ago & yesterday we went on a nice picnic date followed by arcade games. He opened doors for me every single time and treated me like a literal princess. Literally called me princess and affirmed that I’m a price and I’m that special (not gonna let his words fool me though-we looking at the actions!)He also made sure to mention in a not so obvious way that he’s at a better financial position than he was, he apologised and mentioned he respects me more for never letting up and having strong boundaries. He said the 3 month distance was important because it solidified his feelings for me and made him reflect on where he went wrong. I’m so proud of my self lol -but i still have my guard up, he’s gonna have to put a ring on me before I fully trust him. I’m also not giving him the coochie for the whole year.(the intention is to wait till marriage) wanna see what really is his deal
You're very right about them stealing your seat! I've noticed an awful lot of grown men have developed a thing for being mothered and coddled. Do not fall into that trap.
Men want to look strong to their ideal woman. So if I a man tells you about him having a hard time the only solution. It’s to say “ I’ll pray for you” before you turn into the prey for doing too damn much.
@@RustyGun111 you can definitely be a soft place for your man to land, whilst not solving the problem for him. It’s not necessary to deprive him of solving his own concerns. It strips him of his manhood. Especially if you’re his woman and not his mother.
When I gave into someone I wasn't interested in, he was relentless. I ended up spending ten years of seriously wasting my time with him. If you're not interested in someone, your body is telling you the truth even if you don't know why. Listen to it. Do not pity or allow relentlessness, or boredom or lack of options to persuade you to betray how you know you feel.
💀💀💀 frrr the guy that i was in a situationship with, he couldn't drive so i drove him and he said he didn't wanna get his licence anytime soon. Manz was literally ok with being passenger princess
Women are NOT no sort of "prize" these days though.. they expect perfection .. that alone cancels you out ... Your grandma's all stood by their men because they had sense in them.. they understood it's about the challenge.. if it's toxic of course leave but everyone is just throwing good things away especially women considering they file for 50 percent of divorce. Men have already walked away .
Lol they are the prize but want a man who is better than them in every way, financially, physically, mentally, leadership. I just think we'd be telling ourselves that for our self-esteem
Wow I wish I knew this 8 years ago ! I pitied my ex he had nothing , lived with his mom. Ended up being 7 years of wasted time. Your dad gave you great advice. Just shows how having a dad can really help a woman in life
I needed this so much. I just broke off a 4 month ordeal with a man I’d been pitying for the last few weeks. Exhausting. So relieved to hear this validating message.
｡✧*.｡A life lesson｡✧*.｡: I've stopped listening to music that have toxic context; which have improved my life fr. Ppl don't really think about how much things we see and watch actually impact our thoughts and mood. Majority of the lyrics are negative and toxic (same goes with many TV-series/shows and movies). I hope this helps someone who’s stuck with toxic content. Toxic contents are good in the way that it can open our eyes and ears about what actually is toxic/bad/wrong - so we therefore can distance ourselves from toxicity. So observe, learn and act. Toxic things/people are just distractions... toxicity prevents us from being productive and growing as persons, so we need to replace these toxic patterns with healthy patterns: We need to respond and act the opposite of toxic (we need to respond and act with KINDNESS). Our purpose in life is to live and learn from our mistakes and therefore make this world better and SAFER. Instead of thinking "Why is this happening to me?" -> think "What can I learn from this?" Peace and love.
Sooo true. I use to listen to a lot of really sexual music but now I listen to mostly instrumental music like lofi hip hop beats or jazz. Consuming the wrong content can absolutely poison your mind
“Transgender in the spirit” Lol i love that. 😂 My father, uncle and brothers are all narcissists. I used to feel sorry and hurt for them. But I don’t care anymore. He tried to use me as a maid but i blocked him and i am 15 years no contact. God i feel so good. He is sick and my mom had cancer because of all the stress. God have mercy. These bas*ards aren’t worth all the emotional damage. Live and be happy. Only the mentally sane can see you and your beauty without filters.
@@valdangoy i will. Protecting my peace is my all time priority. It is the only mental load i do and the only way i use my masculine energy in a healthy manner so i can lay back in my feminine. 🦋🪻💜
@@seabreeze4559 my narcissist father after my mom’s death used to call me and tell me to take care of my siblings. They were only a few years younger than me. I was young too and i was the oldest who actually CRIED about my mom. They turned up to be narcissists because they never had a good relationship with mom. And the father is a neglectful narcissist who has other homes ,wives and children. He never cared about asking me about myself. I BLOCKED him for more than 15 years straight and I wouldn’t remove it till the day of judgement. He traumatised me in my life and would choose a male from his close network to be my man. And i refused yet he would go to my uncle acting like a b*tch. It is none of your business whom i choose to sleep with and share myself with!!!
Be honest and straightforward with a man because that is how we understand & communicate. If you ain't feeling him just say it straight. it will hurt but be better for us in the long run - You will be doing us a favor because we have been taught overtime that women like men who are go-getters so you acting unsure could potentially be misinterpreted as wanting to see him do more too.
Thank you thank you thank you. I literally am experiencing the same thing , feeling bad for a guy that i know likes me and is trying to pursue me but I don’t like him back. But when u said “losing is part of the game” WOWWW!!! That clicked and made so much sense for me.
Yup even if they say they don't know how to do dates, don't really call but you can always call... they are setting up the dynamic so you carry it and if you ever bring it up.... you are the problem and have a problem with everything lol
I subscribed as soon as she said"he will become transgendered in the spirit" hallelujah. Dating is already hard without this compliication, I don't think the alphabetmafiapeople realize the harm they are causing by forcing women strangers into playing a masculin role to be accepting of their "identity" under the threat of the law or losing your job..and then they expect that the same people need to find them attractive as a dating partner-no way Hosei!
If you have such mommy instincts then why aren't you a mother? Why did you abort the children you conceived- if you have such strong mommy instincts. You don't have those instincts for a man you're sleeping with 🤮 that don't match.
Yes the scripture says women are the weaker vessel. However, this was tough to listen to 🤦🏽♀️ you can and will at many points in this life love and pity a man… or you indeed will not have or keep one🙏❤️
Usually the woman is dependent on the man, he improves the woman's life style and she adds nothing to his life but puszy, which is quite freely available these days. I see no prize there.
What prize do you know works for the winner ? Do gold medals forge themselves into hammers to help you build ? No they exist in their beauty and shine . They are there to be admired and bring status just by existing . You work for the prize -not the other way around. So no to be a prize a woman does not have to do ANYTHING for you . If you can’t get a prize just say that .
@@Felipe-zl1rj Every Olympian sacrifices everything they have for gold medals . Their bodies , their youth , their mental health , their time…. You saying people don’t sacrifice for prizes makes me genuinely think you haven’t won anything in your life . Not surprised to be frank .
@@lalaland7961 you must know I mean supporting financially the "prize" after getting it, obviously not before. What kind of prize maskes you work for it after getting it. That's no prize at all, just a burden really. But good women, that don't consider themselves the prize, exist, women that actually want to contribute instead of being a selfish leech, like your highness.
Although I agree with the point of not pitying a man that likes you and you don’t reciprocate with, the rest of the video was just barbaric. Firstly it’s a new trend of everybody being a dating guru and putting a never/always clause for something as subjective and fluid as relationships. Something as fun and spontaneous as dating has now become some sort of monopoly with rules and how this leads to that and so on. I do not think giving advice is bad, but just claiming a princess seat and whatever and assumption of “I need to be protected” because I am a woman and have/want kids is quite stupid. Not every woman wants kids. Women are physically less capable than men that is a fact but claiming that as a card for I do not need to do care for people or just for namesake encourage them, this particularly is so superficial and downright pathetic. Men/Women, we are all humans at the end of the day and propagating such backward views was the reason women were discouraged from achieving high grounds back in the day , the whole “you’re a woman, you do not need to do anything” is absolutely trash. The whole society is moving backwards. To all Young girls do not project such ideas, you should absolutely focus on being a kind human to others and a warm loving place or a cold loving place doesn’t matter, date cautiously but on your own accord, with experience you will learn what’s right and what isn’t, don’t treat boys as a game, human relationships are beautiful please leave it at that.
Her message will prevail.. most will follow these bs.. because doing nothing while claiming everything is the easiest thing to do.. because of this backward mentality of modern ones, men are opting out of the game
This is kind of crazy. A man wont just become the female in the relationship if you show pity when he needs it. And if he does then just leave him. God damn, there is no need to play 4 dimensional chess like this, and if you do you deserve a man who plays games like this with you too. It sounds like this lady got burned by a lazy man, and she didnt leave him as soon as it happened like she should have
Hm yeah. There’s a subtle difference between pity and compassion though. I’d say pity in general isn’t great but in the m/f Dynamic it can cause problems in its own way
I agree, the video has a very sour taste to it. Relationships have become sort of a board game for the influencers these days, capitalising on tomfoolery!
Guys masculine and feminine energy is a made up thing xx don't be afraid to love people and communicate in a healthy way(but obviously don't force yourself to love someone if you pity him, that's not being feminine that's just common sense) This video is a terrible reference for young girls, you're not a prize because you're not an object, you're a human who is capable of taking decisions, pursue people and of course, be pursued. If you ever want a meaningful and deep relationship you're going to have to work for it, put in effort. The best part of relationships is caring, providing and protecting each other, mutually. Please don't be scared to show the world that you love a man (or woman!) with your whole heart, the right person will love you back the same way. There's nothing wrong in providing, protecting or taking care of a man, and I'm saying this from years of experience in a loving relationship.
Ideas and beliefs differ so everyone’s will live out diff experience! Ego would be manifested as my way abd what works for me should and must be for everyone! Dont we all wish we are that great! And I agree with part of what this lady taught but never will life be what one person or group of people wants for themselves or others! To each their own! I’m not gonna pump my self up to teach men because of what I am saying here.
No it’s true, ended up pitying a man, his mom before he started talking to me kept asking if I was ok with him not finishing college because I did, he was a mechanic, turned out it was a lie after breaking it off that he wasn’t even a mechanic he worked a in car dealership selling parts that the people needed. That was one of many things that was wrong in the attempted relationship. Never ever settle ladies. Especially when you know your value. I’ll never do it again it only ends up hurting yourself
Nope don’t do it. Yes, show empathy and show compassion. Yet by all means do not switch positions! Do not lead! Lead yourself but don’t lead him! He has to figure life out for himself because that’s not your job. Don’t lose focus on your dreams, your goals and your ambition. Listen but do not takeover. Men are made different. They become great through overcoming their challenges. That’s how men become men so don’t get in the way of that.
And definitely don't marry that man you pity. You will feel trapped and you will force a smile in front of family and friends. Unattractive, broke with a plan, pushover amongst males, but nice and sweet to you is a trap indeed. You feel you are making the right choice to compensate for previous bad choices but it is better to remain single forever and believe for your prince charming one day (even if society feels that's delusional) rather than settle. Do not settle if you are wondering if you should. Marriage is forever. Don't set yourself up for a life of misery or an easily avoidable foreseeable divorce. Pray and the decisions you make will give you peace if it's God.
@@valdangoy lts not a joke. You come across as really immature and lacking in critical thinking skills. I am sorry for being so harsh, but trust me your mentally won't get you far in life.
As a man..i agree alot with what this catlady is saying..perosnally i could NEVER be confortable sitting in my womans sit just waiting to be provider for..i fully embrace my musculinity and i enjoy being the Bread winner if the family...i wouldn't even wish for one second to be a woman or to be in that position..thank God i was born a Man
As a fellow biracial/Mulatto these kinds of complaints seem to be more common in the black community. I don't hear women say this in the white community. "Don't have pay for a man " is probably not the best wording.
Oh it is slowly seeping into other communities as well. As red pill and toxic male content takes over and incels, it is indeed become an issue with other races of men. I was just thinking about this last night. As a half Latina and half white woman that just left a 5.5yr relationship with a white man like this. I was thinking how black women were already aware of weak males because black males have always been weak. No one understood why black women were so burned out and frustrated. Now other males are becoming weak and women are getting sick of their shit in high numbers. It all made sense
