Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-b...
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's Channel with the button above!
If your ex is in a rebound relationship you are panicking, but I'm going to show you how a rebound relationship can send your ex back into your arms and is likely a good thing for you.
We often see our ex entering a new relationship soon after breaking up with us as the worst thing that could happen, but I'm here to tell you that a rebound relationship can be helpful.
Here's why:
If your ex has started dating someone new after leaving a serious, committed relationship with you, it's likely that you will come up in conversation.
How is that good?
Because it gives the newbie something to think about and often times they will respond with jealousy. The rebound will often ask a lot of questions and one of those questions is often, "When is the last time you have spoken?"
That's right, the new person will want to know when your ex last spoke with you.
That will cause your ex to think about that. Now it's most likely that your ex already knew how long it had been. If you have been in no contact, like you should be, (watch Coach Lee's video on No Contact at • No Contact Rule After ... ) then your ex, even if they have entered into a rebound relationship, is feeling some of the effects. So their new relationship is asking how long it's been which serves to highlight it even more for your ex.
Rather than telling this new person that you are chasing and calling all the time, which they both might get a good laugh from, your ex will explain that it's been a while since he/she has heard from you.
Ouch.
That tells the new person that you are strong. Which anyone knows is an attractive trait. So the newbie realizes that your ex could still feel attraction toward you.
That's a lot better than the two of them getting a good laugh at your expense!
This will also, likely, do two things:
First, it will likely cause your ex to think about you more and be curious about you (that is in addition to the curiosity that almost always comes from no contact). This is very important!
Second, it will likely result in the rebound relationship to ask your ex if they have heard from you fairly often (if not constantly).
This can send that person down the road of paranoia, neediness, clinginess, jealousy, and over pursuit (meaning they contact your ex too much and overwhelm him/her with their presence).
Since you won't be contacting your ex because you know better after having watched Coach Lee's video about it at • No Contact Rule After ... , you will be the one who is mysterious and not easily accessible whereas the rebound person is easily available and likely overwhelming your ex with calls, texts, visits, gifts, and boring conversation because they are worried that your ex might get back together with you.
This will serve to push your ex toward you. And as the new person (the rebound) begins to feel some distance from your ex (because the newbie is pushing him/her away by over-communicating and by jealousy, neediness, etc.), he/she will begin to push harder and harder in desperation only exacerbating the distance.
Your ex will realize the distance from the new person as well which will cause more thought and romanticizing of the time that they were with you.
These things can add up to a perfect storm as the rebound relationship unravels and sends your ex back into your arms.
To read the article that accompanies this video, go to myexbackcoach.com/ex-in-a-new...
SUBSCRIBE to Coach Lee's channel at / @realcoachlee
Schedule a Coaching Call with Coach Lee at myexbackcoach.com/private-coa...
26 июл 2024
