So true. But how he has mishandled me and our situation. It WAS hard not to be angry and resentful. Especially when they feed off of it. It was time to change something. So now I have flipped the game. He HAS to come to me. I have done EVERYTHING there is to do except one thing. Now that I am doing it. It may be too late...idk. He may not care anymore. But Allowing him to show me the Man he has always wanted to be for me, is the best I can do. And that is NOTHING. Just Living my Life.
After 3 months of no contact..... Ive lost 50lbs train 7 days a week Put my heart into something else ( sport or hobbies) not someone else Be ok with being alone. Take them off the pedestal the relationship wasn’t as good as you thought and neither were they. I was broken but I have made myself better. No one is coming to save you but yourself. Never rely on anyone for anything again. I’ve learnt a lot in the last 3 months.
You’re right, that happened with my ex i lived with. Current ex only had the goal of getting married as quick as possible instead if building a. relationship. Got dumped several times over a year for moving at a healthy pace, decided its best to be single because that shit is energy draining.
My ex and I have three children together. She met someone during the recent virus, a volunteer shopper. I’m not giving up, finally giving her space and concentrating on the children’s welfare. Obviously, I made all the classic mistakes in the beginning. Wish me luck.
@@jaysonleninenko6221 DEFINITELY -- Peyton Manning -- I agree with you. He & Coach Lee both even have great Southern accents & are wonderful professionals in their respective fields. 💙💙
If they're committed and still flirting with you then don't take them back because if you get back together then they will do you the same way they were doing to the other person.
This is so true, he is in a rebound yet he posts things that are for me on social media and keeps reacting to the stuff I post wtf hahaha, the good thing is, that made me realice I do not want him back, it makes me mad he is not respecting this girl
Im going through something similar. She’s kind of seeing someone but got a bit choked up when I mentioned Im starting to put myself out there. She didn’t wanna hear it. So confusing
@@adamdeveau6311 Not really confusing. The person still loves you but they were unhappy somehow in the relationship and didn't see a way to make it better. That's why change from you and a lot of energy are really needed to get your ex back.
Mine remarried..27 years together.. no matter who you're with it gets boring no matter who you're with you have problems no matter who you're with you have fights no matter who you're with it's very difficult no matter who you're with you have to make it work..
Yvonne Errend Spot on, mine was 23yrs + he left by text and hooked up with a colleague straight away. I told him when he left that any relationship can be dull after 20 odd years. Feel so angry .
San Law so sorry to hear this because it is so painful and it has taken me two years to recover.. blessings to you and I pray that one day somebody can come into your life and it will change your life in a way that you will have a miracle..
All true. My ex would date and always return to me to ask me out on dates. Unfortunately it was too late and I wasn’t interested anymore. He discovered too late that I was “the one” for them.
I’ve just heard from a friend that My ex’s rebound just epically failed ! In 1 month of leaving me , 3 months of him meeting her , moving in , and the engaging her he f’d it up and she threw him out . Im just meeting the point of being over him , letting go and feeling great about the breakup . It will happen , just trust in the process .I feel vindicated for some reason .
I don’t want to go back but I keep watching videos like this 😂 I do miss her though which is natural. She may already in a rebound. I hope she has a happy life.
Going No Contact helps us to be clear minded. I broke off things for many reasons and finding the longer I go, the more I see it was for the best. Love the time you have on your own....you'll be SO glad you did.
I am struggling with this. I feel as if I put so much into a relationship for someone that went back to his ex that treated him like scum. She cheated on him and made a fool out of him. And the no contact rule is killing because I feel as if he finally wanted me gone and now I stepped back and he won. He won is hurting me. However promised myself to never ever reach out again. I wish that I can be as positive as you are again
@@an247 how long was she with the rebound ? and how long did it take for her to ask to reconcile after the rebound breakup please respond 👏🏽👏🏽 thank you
Bob Hope We’ve also been together for 4 years and she left me for someone else while we were still together and when I found out he then ended our relationship. During this pandemic, they are currently together in one house and on lockdown.
@@cathleenalabarriento same, theyre live together and work together. But im moving on, i realised that she cheated on me and that the worst fucking thing you can do in a relation.
Lol left me, in bed with 8 people within 3 weeks of the breakup and then dating someone 2.5 months after. Together for 6.5 years. Incredible how they leave you like you're nothing. Worst part, I'm being strung along (I love you, you're just not what I want right now). Lmao!!!
Mine moved on in a month! I truly expected it to be honest!He was so cold and mean to me!! We were planning a wedding a whole wedding wow!! We were together for 8yrs yes I'm pissed and hurt at the same time!! We have a whole baby together!!
Here is my story me and my ex fiance/ childs father met 4 years ago right before our year anniversary we found out that I was pregnant which we planned in December after the gender reveal he proposed to me but in march I had our daughter at 6 months it was really hard for both of us but she survived I struggled with ptsd and post partum depression by December he broke up with me it was really hard and I was heartbroken for 2 months we fought a lot by april he went off to work in texas we got into a big argument and I blocked him and I completely forgot we didnt have communication for 2 months by june we talked everything out and started getting along then out of nowhere he met this female and they was engaged within a month I was crushed thats when I turned to RU-vid and it helped out I started seeing a counselor and I had my family met up with him so I didnt have to see him I was in no contact for 47 days and the first time we saw each other face to face was on our cancelled wedding date in those 47 days I watched susan winter why they cant come back when you're waiting everyday I saved all my energy so on that day when we met up I was silent I handed him the baby and the bag then walked off he was so tore up by me not showing him any emotion he broke up with that girl a couple of days later how I got over the hurt was by eventually forgiving him even when he didnt apologize first I seeked help and surrounded myself with positive people did a lot of activity with my kids and started cooking again I'm sorry that your going through this I know it is soul crushing just take it one day at a time create a schedule with you and your little one work on yourself inside and out get keep growing and improving
@@monteciajones6034 I am going through this right now literally a week ago i caught her cheating having sex with another man and we was engaged with 2 kids 7 and 3... All this happen a week ago.. Man this shit hurt... How are you doing this process
I’ve been relapsing with the NC rule. Today, I dropped off my ex’s belongings and said my peace. I am now officially back in NC. TOMORROW at 8:23 AM will be the first 24 hours. I am beautiful, I am independent, I have self respect, and I am strong. ♥️ We got this y’all. 🙏🏾
@@frostbyte9770 I will continue to update from this post on my situation. On Day 5 my ex contacted me. Asking how I was doing? The night before was AWFUL. I was literally weeping. I felt relief knowing he thought of me. I kept the contact simple, and I ended the conversation. Thats what’s important, do not allow him/her to have the upperhand in conversations. Today, he messaged me again. We sent voicememos back & forth. It was pleasant. I balled crying because he still wants a life with me. I say this to give you guys hope. Its going to work.
@@theory2314 I will continue to update from this post on my situation. On Day 5 my ex contacted me. Asking how I was doing? The night before was AWFUL. I was literally weeping. I felt relief knowing he thought of me. I kept the contact simple, and I ended the conversation. Thats what’s important, do not allow him/her to have the upperhand in conversations. Today, he messaged me again. We sent voicememos back & forth. It was pleasant. I balled crying because he still wants a life with me. I say this to give you guys hope. Its going to work.
@@lordsith952mine is also dating her coworker (which is uncharacteristic of her cus she hates having to see people she’s close with every single day, and she’s a very private person but I’ve learned that she’s had no problem with parading him around the workplace). She responds to most of my texts quickly as well and has texted me at 1am 3 times smh.
My ex left me after a serious relationship of one year being together, after only 2 weeks I discovered that he moved on and started seeing a new girl. I was so hurt that he could replace me that quickly and i was very jealous and i showed him that obviously (which was not attractive at all) he told me to seek help to move on from him and that he loves her after only one date. Lol. I was just confused how can someone move on that quickly. I don't want him back but I keep watching your videos because they make me understand many things.
I’m on the same exact boat with you. Been with my ex for 2+ years and she left me for her coworker after 2 weeks of our break up. It killed me. I begged her to stay, I showed jealousy, and went ape shit crazy, but I’m starting the no contact and I hope it works!
@@jeminiimusic4219 we never got back together and he still with that girl I think I have a new boyfriend and i moved on from him after a long healing process but im proud of myself ✌
Everything coach Lee resonates with me , I've broken up with my partner for the 2nd time and for the second time hes went back to his ex .....this time it was very acrimonious and I know now he had no respect for me which Lee has highlighted.....watching and rewatching Lee's videos as everything he says holds truth ....just hope I've the strength to resist him if he ever does decide to come back into my life.....I'm too good for him , I see that now , just hope he is happy with his decisions that he has made , breaking my heart in the process....... Finally I wish I could get one to one sessions with lee to make sense of all this !
Hi there. I know you don't know me from Adam, but know this you aren't alone out there with this problem. I knew that I finally found my soulmate last year and we were even engaged but, some problems came about and we split up. Do I still love her yes very much so. Now she has a new relationship going on probably I'm guessing just to ease her internal pain. Today I finally broke down and called her and not to harp on the negative past but, just to see how she is doing. Also you must keep in mind that I never spoke of her new relationship. All we spoke of was just her sick mother in which I told her that I would keep praying for her recovery and of my wishes for my ex to be happy and safe and low and behold what do I see but, a Facebook friend request back from her. So with that I know deep down I know she still loves me. The moral of the story is to do your best and stick to your guns someone out there will love and appreciate you for who you are right now!
Success!...He called and wondered why I hadn't called because he cares about me, he will do anything for me, he is there for me...we talked and laughed like nothing happened....But, if I call him he doesn't answer unless I'm returning his call..he has been calling me every day...
@@kcsmackman2361 yeah, I know eventually we will. Me personally I don't think we ever really get over any of them. We basically have to lie to ourselves that we don't care about then anymore. It's hard as hell when you really find that one and you can't even put into words how you feel about them even if your life depended on. I guess I just love to hard. It's hard not to when you really love them so much.
Bro I’m going through the same My ex broke up with me last October after 5 years of living together and she’s been giving me mixed signals right up till the last day of the year or 2019 she called me early morning to say she’s seeing one else And she doesn’t want me to think it’s ok to call or txt her ever again after this And I don’t deserve an other chance And I use be her world and now im nothing to her anymore She said she likes guy and doesn’t want to ruin it with him And she said She will block me on everything also I learned the hard way mixed signals mean a No and inside I knew this rejection was coming but a small little part of me had hope she’d come back And unfortunately for my case while i stuck to the no contact rule and worked on my goal and worked out like crazy she was shopping around for other guys It hurts to know those 5 years didn’t mean anything and she would through it my face how much happier she is I lie to myself everyday that I’m since the break I was ok but hearing that from her fucked me up and I finally cried it out
@@TheCHILDRENofTV I never got mixed signals thankfully. It fucking sucks bro. Like you said, I was her whole world too and she was mine. We lived together for 5 years and had a beautiful daughter together. Now I have to see them with this new douchbag she's with. Sadly she's been with him for 5 months now. I don't know if but I still hope she'll come back :(
We dated 2 years. She started with the new guy 2 weeks later. Introduced to the parents, posted all over Facebook (which we never did). All within that first week together. Seems like a classic rebound, but she doesn't date casually. She goes all in and will only break up with someone if they REALLY screw up like I did.
@@nbagametime3295 yeah suprisingly they went the distance. They fight often, but she only ever spied on me and never reached out. I got over it I guess. Would run if I got the call, but I don't wait for it anymore.
@@Fivehe damn man,exactly the same situation. She is with this dude now for like 2 months,and she ready to meet her parents with him,and she her mom is like,she hasnt seen her so happy with someone lmao(we were on a 2 year LDR).
Oh man, this breakup shit is heavy. My ex who was the first woman that i was actually going to propose to broke up with me suddenly. We didnt talk for nearly 3 weeks then i came across these videos and realized that i wasnt supposed to block her on social media so i unblocked. She ended up messaging me asking if i didnt love her anymore which made absolutely no sense because she broke up with me with almost no good reason, i suspected another male involved and BINGO! found out she has been talking to this one guy but *allegedly* she only started talking to him AFTER we broke up, the funny part is that i saw a comment that he left on her page and she responded with a heart 🤔🤨 the EXACT day of our breakup, something tells me this has been going on a lot longer than what she claims 😂. Sad to say, i told her off and told her to lose my number, I don't like to socialize with liars and i didnt tell her about the comment i saw but she moved on pretty quickly to be seeing some guy after us being together a few years and working through her horrible mental health issues. I could have handled certain things much differently in the relationship in retrospect but I always treated her with love and respect it just sucks that after everything i still fucking love this girl even though I feel as she doesn't deserve it. I can't take her back unfortunately since this tells me that she's probably going to do this again and continue to lie so I guess I'm just glad this happened before marriage the hard part is moving on and finding something better SUCKS that i invested so much time and effort for it to end this way but we live and we learn. Good luck out there guys and my advice is don't get taken advantage of but also be more patient with your loved one.
Tarantula Fangs you are still talking about her. She is still winning mate. What r you good at? Focus on your ability. She is not worth it. You should be glad she is weak n you r strong hats why she didn’t have guts to tell you. Guess what. That guy will dump her soon. Move on. There r so many beautiful people in this world. Travel around. You will Be surprised.
@@prazad001 You're absolutely right, brother. Here's a bit of an update, been finding ways of improving my life and have been seeing a therapist, turns out i am an emotionally dependent man and the shocking part is my ex has a narcissist personality disorder, wow everything became sooo much clearer once I understood what she is, it explains our relationship right down to the T. Ive lost nearly 40lbs since the break up and I have been hitting the gym and even signed up for martial arts, it feels awesome and I wish I would have started this a long time ago for myself. Oh well, fuck it but now is the time for me to put in that extra work for myself. Anyway, last thing i saw was my ex narc is indeed with someone else who is providing her with her new supply, poor kid, i wish him the best of luck lol but I expect her to get pregnant soon and married because thats who she is but I know that he will be subjected to the same abuse I was, hopefully he can get out of it before anything serious happens. Anyway, thanks for the great adivice bro.
Tarantula Fangs I’m in a very very similar situation my girlfriend of 2 years left me out the blue and didn’t even wait till I moved out before getting her new “man” over who was one of my “friends” didn’t even take her 48 hrs to move on, but if you ask her she didn’t cheat (she did in my eyes) That was a month ago and as much as I still love her I know it’s for the better and I can’t be with someone like that
Wew have almost the same experience, but the difference is that I slapped her when I happened to know that shes only using me for her comfort...it goes like this; no one likes to feel like they're only being nice to you just because they want something from you!
My ex girlfriend of 6 1/2 years did this to me in November 2022. She broke up with me November 15th and called me a week later to tell me she was seeing someone else. Apparently after they were dating for less than a month, she loves him to the moon and back and he is her soulmate. She’s acting like a 44 year old child.
@@wachaushenzi Mt ex did the same! 1 month after we broke up. She shows her new partner on social media. How come a person shows love for another less than a month of relationship. We had a 5 year relationship. That's horrible.
@@wachaushenzi It won't last. Give it TIME! She has a long history with you, and someday she'll miss you. In the meantime, Coach Lee would recommend his Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent! It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
He seems to be recreating these routine with the new girl .He's posting her all over FB saying how in love and happy they are 🤣 in a few weeks. What a joke he was reaching out but now he stopped i think she keeps a grip on his phone .
Mine even told his girl or the girl do it for herself, she dyed her hair black as me 🤣🤣her natural hair is blonde,and she was wearing blue🤣🤣poor girl,the main girl,his boyfriend is with her thinking about the no loved girl...
10 year relationship with the girl of my dreams. She left me for another guy (who she happened to date and text while still being with me of course). Cheated on me many times and ultimately dumped me in the worst violent way. I made sure to make things right; Didn't beg and just accept her decision. Started No Contact, Never texted her or chased after that. After 7 weeks she sent me a whatsapp message with a photo of our cat telling me the cat was missing me and if I could go visit him. I got to her apartment she hugged me as soon as she opened the door. She told me she didn't want to get back together but after a couple of hours of talking and laugh ing we made love. Next morning she told me if there was a chance for us to get back together in the near future. I told her that she deserves someone better than me. I said good bye to her and left.
You are a very very strong man and I’m jealous of that. I hope to grow into someone has healthy as you I’m 22 and just devastated by this I was with her for 4 years.
Not too long ago I found out my ex is in a rebound relationship with a guy four years younger than her and who she swore she'd never date 🙄 and also heard through the grapevine that she's spreading lies about me saying I cheated on her with multiple women, even going as far as making up fake names. This video let me know that I'm above her and I will not be toppled by that. Stay strong y'all! 💪
I have seen both sides. My wife left 7 months ago. We have spoken 4 times. Otherwise doing the no contact. I have dated a few women but always compare them to her. The ex always wins out over them. This has been a painful road and hear she is dating some jackass. I wonder if she compares me to him or them ? Knowing her he is getting the love bombing. Makes me sad that I am not. Coach Lee always brings new ideas and makes me feel hopeful this will turn around in the near future. Lee keep up the great work for us .
Best coach i have ever subscribed. Please make a video about “is it too late to do no contact” specially when you broke NC rule and wants to try it again. I really want to hear it from you. Thanks
Even if there’s a picture of your ex on Instagram hugging another guy tight on the neck and someone calls it a “cute couple” in the comments section, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s actually dating him. She can still be single, especially if the picture has disappeared. We don’t know if it’s archived or deleted.
thank you coach lee, your videos have helped me through every stage of my breakup. There is a video for every problem i had. This was the last one i expected to watch but here i am.
My story. We were together 4 years. I caught her out at 4am with another guy. A lot of things got said. Anyways, I loved her anyways and I was committed to make it work but she wasn't. She then dated our neighbor. We terminated our lease and she moved in with him. I went NC and 131 days later, she contacted me. Apologized and wanted to see me. So I did. I was upbeat and cool and agreed to meet her. She stayed over that night (no sex). My biggest mistake that I made was I made myself available and talked about my feelings 🙄. However, after that, she began to breadcrumb me for about a month and I respectfully called her out on what was actually going on here? She apologized for messaging me at all and said she had no intentions of getting back together and only offered friendship and had feelings for my old neighbor she couldn't shake. I was cool about it but I told her not to contact me again and I blocked her and I went back into NC. A couple months later, she began to message my sister and trust me, they aren't friends lol. Simple acquaintances at best. My ex referred to the neighbor as her ex and talked to her about how he mistreats her and all these problems. She talked to my sister for about a week but nothing about me though. Well, somehow it went from that to official FB status that they are in a relationship. Here's all I know. My ex is a mess and no matter how long it last with him, that relationship will fail. It's no longer my problem. She already has more issues with this guy than we did in our first 2 years. I think the only reason she likes him so much is because he does mistreat her. For whatever reason, women love that.
Well, what I thought was a rebound for my ex..he just got engaged to her and they’ve only been together for 2 months. We’ve been broken up for not even 4 months. I’m DEVESTATED BEYOND belief. Been balling my eyes out.
Sarah Boyd my ex cheated on me because I didn't want to have kids yet. She told me after two weeks of dating him she's pushing him for a kid and it's gonna happen soon. I feel your pain.
Engagement means nothing. Often people use things like marriage and children as false affirmations to themselves that life is ok. Like band aids. They become tools. My Dad is a vicar and we chat about this. He’s seen - a lot. He’s actually very anti the whole big day, dress and ring thing. They’re tiny objects and nothing more than empty materialistic trinkets that whilst seem big at the times can get forgotten in a second when life gets hard. The reality of marriage is that it’s hard and sometimes works at odds with natural instincts found elsewhere in nature. There’s a reason why pre wedding marriage counselling is essentially a series of warnings and guidance aimed to allow people to consider their foundation. Often the beaming couple nod and smile in agreement, completely fixated and entranced by the white heat of the emotions that come with leading up to the day. That day is soon gone. The human mind always reacts with slight panic if it ever feels trapped, or locked into a contract. That’s why the foundations need to be built on very strong understandings of reality. In many ways it’s why marriages where people have been together years and years, warts and all stand a better chance. It’s so common to see marriages fail in short succession. Superficiality such as a ring and a ceremony on a single day, spoken words, do not change the way the immensely complex mind works with fulfilment. Humans can lie to everyone fairly successfully except one person - themselves. It’s not guaranteed of course, but I’d say given he’s only known this person 2 months the engagement is built on flimsy emotional structures. A person who’s been single a long time would raise eyebrows after marrying a stranger of two months, let alone someone straight out of a relationship. If I were a betting man I’d lay money on this one not lasting. They’ll not even be out of the honey moon period. Tough way to face the reality of who you’re with when the “new car” gloss has worn off if you’ve already married someone.
airindiana I hope you’re right. I believe he’s using her only for survival. He used me so I feel he’s doing the same. You should see her rap sheet! She’s had 4 batteries. 2 from this year alone. Her last boyfriend she hit over the head with her E Cigarette and bled profusely. Cops arrested her. 6 weeks after that she got arrested again for beating some girl up at the pool of her apt complex and then got evicted. She’s a terrible alcoholic. She had to wear a cam monitor on her ankle and has a breathalyzer in her car. He may put up with a lot because he has to use her. How long do you give it?
Sarah Boyd blimey she sounds bloody delightful ha. I give it about 45 seconds. Seriously speaking, given the foundations (cough, if you can call it that) that situation will be burning in a white heat. That is one combustible dynamic. Often times things like this are very passionate, last a few months featuring as many dramas as quieter relationships see in a lifetime. In between be prepped for many false, over the top and superficial displays of public bliss that belie the real toxic truth. He sounds a twat as well, you actually want this guy back?? Put it this way, leopards do not change spots. She doesn’t sound like she’s reformed, had a spiritual awakening or come out of rehab. So. Given her form she might be able to keep a lid on it and her mouth shut for a while until she gets the March down the aisle, but she’ll show blow it very soon. Probably before the wedding. Unless your ex is astonishingly impervious or a complete sucker for putting pins in his eyes. he’ll want out quickly. Dousing his hands with oil and setting light to them will seem preferable than a lifetime featuring as the centrepiece of a person like that girl. So you haven’t got to do much if you do want him back (if you did??). You’ll seem like the best most caring ship he ever abandoned. No wedding ceremony will cover up that mess. I bet you money it tanks. Probably in spectacular fashion.
airindiana Na, ill never take him back after the way he left and then jumped into the relationship with her. It just hurts terribly. As if I meant nothing to him at all. She was her last ex for a year and she was violent with him 6-7 times until her arrest. BUT, the only difference is they don’t live together yet. My ex lives on his bosses couch and I believe she lives at her parents. So it’s possible he hasn’t seen her grand display of alcoholic trashiness with him yet. He had it all with me. I’m also a classier broad who did say too much for that loser and got taken advantage of. Was out of his league completely. I highly doubt her parents will help pay for a wedding and I KNOW FOR A FACT his parents can’t help. So, if she thinks he’s gonna pay for it, she’s sadly mistaken.
I caught my exes rebound looking at my IG story- she doesn’t follow me and we’ve never met but we know of each other. She’s obviously been creeping on me so I’m hoping that’s a good sign 🤞
This is an awesome video, however.... her new guy becoming her confidant is how he stole her to begin with.... that might make some people mistakenly think that being someone she can vent to on the side will bring her back.... whereas in reality it will just help their relationship go more smoothly.
@@RenskeLogie I think it really depends on how the break up ended, and how long you guys were together for mine took months and I lost all hope then all the sudden I was talking to one of my friends about it she told me I needed to reach out and I basically said it was no use because it's always the same thing. Not even a minute later she messaged me saying she needed to see me. Just give it time I wish you luck as well. If you have any questions feel free to reach out.
It seems like my ex is doing so many things EXACTLY like he did with me, in his rebound/grass is greener relationship. Down to specific songs that were our songs, and words and phrases he used with me. Unreal. Is he just a liar??? Did he not even love me and now hes just using the same things on this woman?
@@RealCoachLee dude. Me and my boy were in a relationship for over a year and then about 1 month later he was in a relationship. He was looking for a girl the day he broke up with me. He got a tinder account as well. Do u think he is in a rebound relationship. He said maybe we could have something in the future but we still have not been talking. Is he in a rebound relationship?
My ex girlfriend who dumped me 3 weeks ago, is now dating and sleeping with my ( ex ) best friend! And to top it all off, my ex best pal is a diagnosed sociopath. You couldn’t ask for more of a mess than this 😢
Stacey Brownlee -SDAT- 4 months later he made a new facebook and he blocked me there but on his old one he dint. Now hes living and dating his co worker and her son💔
I will never take her back just listening this vid because wanted to see her new relation getting broken ,cheater is always a cheater ,ex is always a ex .
My ex just changed her relationship status to no relationship info. She told me a week ago she can tell I found my self-worth. I was always too soft too emotional but I have spent the last 2 years 100% focused on myself recreating myself. I took 2 new jobs where I'm happy, I bought my first real camera and am taking beautiful pictures I post. I imagine she looks at them wishing she was with me when I'm out in the parks and forest taking pictures. I rarely initiate communication I stay no contact until she messages. Our conversations are great our relationship was great I was just not grown enough even at 40 we see each other here and there we dated on and off for a couple years. I have only felt this love once. And it was with her. The others just were to fill the void of the tragic loss of my mom at 15. I still delt with this and now I have overcome that horrific time as well. I have basically rebounded 180 degrees from where I was and purely on my own. I have always waited for her but I always kept a distance as I grew. I felt that if I rebuild myself I will either win her back or if not, I finally found that love I needed for myself and she sees that too. I was in 2 long-term relationships with 2 children but they were empty relationships. I hope that she was to come back to me but if not I guess I will be fine on my own altho I am lacking someone to share my love and p[assions with and help make them stronger too. Either way, I will be fine.
You gave the example of 3 months and start seeing someone else 1 week later. Damn. Mine was 3 years and she started seeing someone else 1 week later. Smh
My ex reached out after 4 months of no contact telling me I look amazing in my latest social media photos. He's been in a rebound relationship for 5 months so by contacting me, he's disrespecting her....not a good sign they will last 😕
Yeah dont worry about that! Same happened with me, started with a small reach out of a social media photo how great I am looking and proud of me blablabla. That was 6 month ago, after exactly of 5 month of NC. They broke up 2 weeks ago. The road sometimes is long. Now she is taking the time to heal. And contacting me, and going out with me.
@@kispumel I'm so glad you're connecting again whilst she heals, that's such good news! May I ask how long she was with the other person in total? So 5 months into nc she reached out but then not again for another 6 months?
@@lisaofthelodge In total they was together ~8-9 month. He is one of her previous ex (of 4 years). It was more like a monkeybranch-rebound. So, after she broke up with me, there was a bit back-and forth, bit she chose him. about 5month NC I got the first message. After that, all over the place, sometimes weekly, sometimes bi-weekly, and there was even 1.5 month silence. Nowadays as they broke up, it is almost daily/every 2nd day.
@@kispumel thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm so grateful and can't help be excited by your ex reaching out to you although you must have been through so much pain at times. My ex and I split and he monkey branched to a rebound within 2 weeks but did say on our final call that he'd always love me and that he was worried he'd wake up one day and regret leaving me. He chose her and 4 months in has reached out to see how I am. I have no idea if he's happy with her and literally did just contact me to see how I was....I guess I'll know if the contact re-ocurrs! Have you been working on yourself during nc and hoping your ex would reach out? I'm doing so much self development but am trying not to "wait on him" but he has no idea about attachment styles so without any tools and the fact he rebounded gives me hope we have a chance!
@@lisaofthelodge Yeah I am preatty good handling pain. I was a very bad place in my life with depression. Way too much issue to handle (family, authorities, illness, job, stress, own company, etc). Being broken up with is a stab in my back at this state. Telling me she feels not in love with me, and telling face-value the reasons for breakup is even worse (fat,neglecting her, complacency, depression, etc). And telling me she leaving me for someone else, she wants to try with him is like woooaaaa. spitting on your grave. At least honest. First 2 month was like hell. Though I immediately started to sort out my issues one-by-one, and then working on myself. Therapy, coaching session, new hobbies, socializing, weight loss (~50pound), gym, dancing classes, meditation, even more self-development (mentally, spiritually, emotionally), like a 180 degree turn. She was shocked. I did not wait on her though. I was dating after 3-4 month with a lot of woman. Nothing serious though, usually just 1-2 night stands. I stopped it though, I just simply do not enjoy it anymore.
my relationship was 12 years and i was the one to breakup and he got in a rebound within 3 weeks. When they say painful they mean brutal :( but we got kids together so i cannot just go no-contact. It evident he is only filling a void. seeing him tears open those wounds and its hard.
3days after he moved into the new appartment there was a new girl and the worst part is he tried keeping it secret so eventually if he'd fail he'd come back to me like nothing happened? I never did expect this kind of behavior. Totally switched 180° within a week. 2 weeks prior he was loving and intimate and even wanted to sleep with me and even if I said no, he said its fine and its understandable because I get confused because at this time we were seperated since summer and I told him not to play with my emotions after the breakuo happened...he said he had no intention and it wasn't just spending time with me to have sex..and he had no intention of committing at the time so I didn't...all was cool. And now? Its a joke, hes telling all this but its all bullsh"t. He jumps onto rebound and stared at me angrily like a was nuisance, even speaking arrogant when I found out. "Yes I met someone"; "it has nothing to do with you". Wow and he jumped in bed with her within two days? Arguably not a lot of time to know someone. He felt so powerful then crushing my heart once again. He just replaced me with someone else to feel wanted and important/have sex and it gives me belly aches that he is playing around with someone and spending his warmth while he knew I was hopeful, since we haven't been seperated the bad way. And now I doubt he hadn't planned it for a while...and now I doubt every thing he said to me before. He only wants to quiet his conscience and thinks the lie would not hurt me. He even said after telling me: "Well, when I was still fighting for you, it didn't matter to you." He exactly knows that its not true and he said that more to himself to justify his actions. I was crying and felt like shit and tried my best to help him always - because I didn't care? Are you nuts or just blind or simply now even lieing to urself? I'm so shocked and mad that he was this kind of manipulative person. He propably didn't want anyone to know about his rebound either since he was testing other girls in bed and keeping me warm at the side afraid he'll lose my love, although I specifically told him not to do that, give me false hope and if he's going to move on, he should tell me at least and not act as if he still loves me. That bastard. I hope his karma will get him and they leave him in this snakey ways he did to me so fast like they jumped in bed with him. I'm super sure its a rebound to feed his ego and right now its so boosted I get sick!! But thanks to finding out instead of never knowing I can better cope. He treated me like my feelings didn't matter or he was afraid of confrontation so he wanted me to be quiet and peaceful since we still have to cooperate and communicate about the old apartment. Could he not at least find the decency to keep his dick to himself until that was over and done with?? Following his agenda was the most important to him and he tried to act like all innocently. I really fought a loong time but I probably the only one. I can just learn from my mistakes, but I could never trust him at this point when he is such an coward actor huding things. And slept with someone else so easily and FAST after moving in his new home. I know he is young but he lost me there forever. And it hurts he willingly did burn all bridges but on the otherhand I know better now. I really was naive to think I meant more to him. I gave a lot to him and I did it willingly because I saw the worth of our relationship. Time to say goodbye. Can't wait to see him regret his actions one day... I still get bellyaches but it's okay. He's not worth my energy. (sry longest rant of my life) Coach Lee helped me so much after the breakup and even in the situation now with only his videos. It made me get out of my emotional state and think more clearly witg my head. I never felt this of a harsh breakup time ever. Its was hell. And when I thought things were getting better he went and stamped me right back into it. It was unbearable. I broke down. But enough is enough. Listen guys, you are not alone in your pain. We have been cast aside, abandoned, ignored, treated like unworthy. But its our own answer to go past that. I don't hate my ex, even now. But I dispise his latest course of action. And what kind of person he is becoming. Manipulative, negative, materialistic. And now its time for No Contact so I can heal and he can feel loss. Good luck!
I don't think he will ever come back to me. He left me after 8 great years. He is already with someone else. She even met his parents. What I don't understand is why he keeps watching my WhatsApp stories! He even did it on valentines day when he was supposed to be happy spending the day with her!!!! I don't understand. I am so heartbroken.😭
Ale L.. Let him go! He looks bcse he's probably curious how you're doing. It really doesn't mean anything romantic. Move on, and go out and have fun. Also, let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It really helps you. It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Found out my X whom I was with in September....to work on us....we broke up again and found out he was cheating on me for over a year and I just found out they got married 11th of this month. I feel beyond betrayed. But I also feel like I was saved. Ugh this sucks!
17 days into No Contact - Yesterday she texted me how she was and that she loves me with a heart emoji? I am so confused. She is still with the rebound, and this hurts so much.
@Daniel Martinez around couple of years. she has now broken up with the rebound but hasn’t told me that she wants to get back with me. she told me she loved me 3 weeks ago 🤷🏽♂️
i found out today that my ex is in a rebound relationship. it fucking hurts but i just know he’s in it for the wrong reasons. you can’t heal unless you take time to reflect on your previous relationship instead of jumping in a brand new one. stay strong
@@rayray2752 update: she got into a rebound. it fucking hurts but im still in love with her so i understand now. there apparently is no quit in me with this girl lol.
Miles Westmoreland I’m so sorry. I totally understand. Just know it’ll most likely fail, but move on for your own good. I thought my ex was completely over me but just last night he contacted me crying and saying he still loves and thinks about me all the time. Then his rebound messaged me and said “I’m not going to be with someone who’s still stuck on their ex. You can have him.” REBOUNDS NEVER WORK
She was out in public with a new guy a week after she broke up with me. She constantly takes him to the same places we went. I’m in no contact for almost 2 months she’s never coming back
It happened friends after 5 months with someone else with ring 💍 and everything cold and hot hurt he left her 3 times and he even blocked her perfect young rebound and came back but he is coming slowly but strong, this weekend going to walk and grill toguether. He did all this ! But you have to hurt without them to see you but be strong and moving forward and accept!
We have been together for 11 months, he broke up with me and just a few days later... His moved on, I think she was in the picture, while we were dating
It's been a week for me. I just found out she's dating a guy that was in jail, lives in a halfway house, has a suspended license and his ex wife has a restraining order against him. Help me make this male sense
I broke up with my boyfriend for a month...he dumped me when he was angry saying “lets break up!” because I shared my opinion disagreeing with his. I did 30 days NC then he texted me to ask if i told my parents and sent my stuff by a messenger driver. He called me and he cried but saying that doesnt mean he wants me back and ended the conversation that he couldn’t be friends with me now just yet...he even told me not to look at his IG stories....and asked me if i ever felt hurt! He now starts dating like around the 3rd or 4th week during NC. We’ve been together for 4ish years and we planned to get married. Our parents met to talk about the plan.... Now i just planned and continued my own life alone, I am going to vacay alone :) Coach Lee, I wish you’d reply my text.
my ex would probably fail all his relationships. LOL! sleazy like his parents. cheating bloodlines. like father like son like mother like daughter like all the members of their family tree. not even wanting to get my ex back. come on guys. move on now. ypu can do it. better things are all around you. just take time to stop looking in the tunnel vision to your ex. your ex is ex forever. you deserve better life guys.
Inner Core what were you doing with such person in the first place? Be nice n don’t say anything bad about anyone. They have their own standards. Difference is their standards r lower than yours. Find someone else better n worthy wasting your time n energy.
I've done everything wrong when my ex-girlfriend broke up with me. I chased after her for 5 months, made an ass out of myself, and have been absolutely devastated in the process. I miss her so much. God when can I start healing
Here is the issue I see. My ex dumped me after 3 years. She somewhat blind sighted me but when I think about it, she did the exact same thing to the previous guy. She dumped him 1 month before we started dating in the exact same way. I think she just has commitment issues and it would be arrogant for me to think that I am worthy of her coming back to me. She is probably moved on since. No contact for almost 4 weeks and I did tell her I blocked her. The only contact has been from her sister a week ago asking me if I wanted to have dinner with my ex son who I adore but I declined. I am talking to other women now.
@@johnwick2338to be honest, I just moved on and never thought about this ever again. The answer is in moving on and never looking back. Only then will you find happiness.
My ex don't tell me all now it over but I found he has a girlfriend I told him that I no about it he was shock I no he was hiding it from me we were living together and most of his stuff is still here he's staying away because I think he's a shame
I don't have an ex, nor am I in a relationship. A girl from work had broken up with her boyfriend to which she only found out after doing so he cheated on her the prick. Now she's recently been more interested in me as last Saturday we went out and got drunk, sat at the train tracks till 2am then proceeded to give me a peck on the cheek. I don't know what to make of this, then Tuesday night happened we repeated this however I was an hour late so I told her to go on home as it's winter over here. She stayed a full hour in the cold waiting for me in a short skirt dress. There was no quiet parts of conversation just running our mouths all night have great laugh. She hugged me that night quite tightly then made me pinky promise I'd call her when I get home. She called me 3 times on Wednesday. Now keep in mind that I've never been with a girl and I am really into this one. What do I do
@Hannah Agadah we're together for 4 months now love, moved in my place an all, contact "SCORE!" Her ex tried talking to her in the city a month ago btw, she looked distressed a little as I was getting us coffee, walked over and busted his nose
Is it the same if you are married and your husband moves on days later after telling you he wanted a separation? 15 years together. 3 months separated, just started no contact, but we also have 4 kids so it’s hard.
Nearly 6 years together, we share a toddler and he moved on so quickly.. it’s been 11 months since we separated from our engagement and I’m still struggling 😢
Don't march backwards brothers you gonna left behind and eat the leftovers. Don't take an ex back, I let her reap her arrogance and being disrespectful. She regrets and attempted twice to rekindle our relationshit but I refused,now she's married. I dodged a bullet, feel sorry for her rebound.
What if your ex rebound tells your ex they get upset when she hangs out or talks to me and she's listening to her rebound and staying away? We were in a 14 yr relationship with children, lived together for 12 yrs, it's been 2 an a half months since the break up. It's still hard to deal with.
@@remyd1984how did ur situation turn out? Im going through it now was together for 12 years had a son together and she couldnt forigve me for a mistake i made and got with another man while she was kicking me out the house, its been 7 weeks now and their still together and supposedly in love.. fucking kills me everyday but trying to move on.. are u over her
@@alicaylan6471 she’s still with this desperate Dan! It’s hard but just in 3-4 weeks no contact. (Hard with a 7yo boy with her) each time I go 2-3 weeks without seeing her she puts herself in my orbit to relieve her anxiety! It puts me back to square 1 but this last time literally last night hasn’t bothered me! Tables are turning and I’m happy being not on her hook! Soon enough I think everything will hit her and she’ll start admitting things to herself, she’s probably starting already now
My ex moved in with the woman within three months of their relationship and has even taken her to a family vacation to Florida. He has blocked me on phone a month after he moved in with the new girl but I can contact me on Messenger. He told me to move on and I asked him to collect his stuff from my house. He gives excuses to avoid picking up his stuff and recently called me up saying “he is happily single”...lol he is so confusing.