Why your SELF-CARE isn't working.

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EP 44 - Not for Overachieving + The Truth About Self Care
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Caroline's therapist is hot and Jess doesn't get why that's relevant. Personal style is overrated anyway. What's not overrated is Caroline greeting her boyfriend after not seeing him since...yesterday. Very highly rated, based on Jess's observation.
Going to the gym in the morning makes you better than everyone else and that's a scientific fact. Sometimes it's the only way to make time for yourself - that, and saying "no" often, maybe even as a default. Otherwise you end up in a situation that Jess's dad would advise against, and you wouldn't want to set that precedent.
There's a special kind of embarrassment that comes with "White Noise for Sleep 3 Hours" being your most recently played Spotify track. Better or worse than your sex playlist? It depends who you ask. Plus, running a marathon is like going to war and we choose the comedy war instead.
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Contents of this Video
00:00 - Intro
00:30 - Hot therapist.
04:29 - public humiliation
08:00 - we all wear a costume
11:57 - defining your personal style
20:00 - PDA
24:45 - a fun way to feel superior
30:30 - the SELF-CARE struggle
36:00 - Default to NO
39:30 - setting the wrong precedent at work
49:30 - Jess is embarassed
52:30 - homemade porn
55:20 - sex playlists
1:03:20 - if you want to have BLAST, do this.
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All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or mental health professionals, or really professional of any kind. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA
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@jamie6980 8 месяцев назад

Basically the only thing I look forward to every week now... your videos. No pressure.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

we thrive under pressure. and by thrive i mean flail, but sometimes that's good content so ty

@wildeevolution 8 месяцев назад

It’s been my lifelong goal to never run a marathon. I’m killing it so far.

@kellikakes81 8 месяцев назад

😄

@jugua 8 месяцев назад

Oh gosh, Jess your hair is stunning!!

@mx.olivia 8 месяцев назад

I’m home with a broken foot and missing hanging out with my friends, so your podcast has been especially sweet and hilarious dinner company, thank you!

@RedPandaNinja6886 8 месяцев назад

laying in bed with covid rn, thank u both for providing me with entertainment during this trying time

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

doh bb. i hope you feel better soon :)

@lapooh 8 месяцев назад

Awwww Justin’s lil kiss on the head and Caroline’s giddiness after 😍🫠

@brittannylarevitzear1869 8 месяцев назад

I know someone says this every episode, but my goodness you both have the best hair! Also, appreciate the default 'no' because I am absolutely a default 'yes' person and I needed this perspective/tip!

@ephemera... 8 месяцев назад

I think Caroline may be experiencing some degree of positive transference. I could be wrong. Don't flame me please. Having vulnerable day. I do love Caroline for so many reasons.

@ephemera... 8 месяцев назад

Annnnnd I made this comment very early in the video. It's a bad habit. I'm not going to beat myself about it. : ) : ) : )

@AntimonyxAngel 7 месяцев назад

If I saw Jess I'd assume she was either a flight attendant, in the US army, or a college professor. Caroline gives yoga teacher, dog walker, or dietitian vibes 😅

@ginajacobson2123 8 месяцев назад

Caroline and Jess, Love your podcast so so much! I look forward to listening to you guys, it's so comforting and feels like girl time! What microphones and recording software are you using? Thank you!

@amandaroo8797 8 месяцев назад

You guys are my one bright spot in a very dark day. Thank you for being unapologetically you!

@lapooh 8 месяцев назад

Caroline, I know it’s not your usual content, but could you pleeaaase make a video on how you do your hair??

@kellikakes81 8 месяцев назад

I really need to work more on my self care, and also remember what gives me joy that makes me feel a "calm energy" (like listening to podcasts, while driving around Chicagoland area -- i know weird lol). I am definitely going to default to "No," which is going to be really hard.. . My house (not tidy) and body (I'm sick now) is indicative of me not saying "no"/let me get back to you" enough.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

it's very very tough. and i'm not doing it too well. all easier said than done, but the reminders are helpful, at least to me!

@sanne5412 5 месяцев назад

As soon as you gotta think about it, its not a hell yes. So whenever youre thinking about a decision, its not a hell yes anyway. So yea, what Caroline says: default to saying I gotta think about it

@irmgardkoloska9826 8 месяцев назад

There's a difference between "Let 'er rip." and "Let it rip/let one rip."

@saram3156 8 месяцев назад

Yes, if you're doing too much at your job you need to teach other people and get them interested! The "ugh, they NEED me at work" is usually a humblebrag, but if you're actually having trouble with that, it's no different than a parent who saves time by always cooking and cleaning as fast as possible, and acvidentally raises helpless kids. It sucks if you're short on time, but you don't want to be paying for it even more later.

@katerinatreskova1495 8 месяцев назад

Listening to the podcast getting ready to going to bed and realizing after the Jess little girl sorry that my cleaning air mashing is off and turning it back on, because it's a perfect white noise for me 😂 a loving myself moment 💗

@kisikisikisi 8 месяцев назад

I think I get the hot therapist thing. My therapist is this beautiful Finnish woman who looks like what you think a stylish, blonde 40-something year-old Finnish therapist would look like. She reminds me of my dentist who I'm also obsessed with. I want to be their friend so bad.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

haha i dont think i articulated it very well. i'm mostly just think the dynamics of beauty are fascinating. it's crazy how we respond to beauty, in many ways that beauty does not deserve. and so seeing beauty in such an intimate vulnerable setting really gets my psychology-fascinated brain going

@chanuppuluri8726 8 месяцев назад

😂 Great opening segment, ladies.

@dakine4238 3 месяца назад

I need friends like this IRL

@sanne5412 5 месяцев назад

I think you have a lovely calming voice Jess 😊 And Caroline, I dont feel the description of your therapist was long at all, like seriously tell me more 😂

@anyaroz8619 8 месяцев назад

Hot therapist sounds like transference to me. But also could be a motherly figure with the characteristics you like in a person and would like to have to yourself.

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

oh damn good call ive been seen hah

@AntimonyxAngel 7 месяцев назад

As a young woman, I would be comforted by a gracefully sexy older woman as my therapist. I often worry too much about what I'll look like at that age then the body dysmorphia kicks in.

@yalazha 8 месяцев назад

Foul mouthed Samantha doll 😂😂 You definitely look like her!

@graedewey4864 8 месяцев назад

The bear! That’s what I was thinking about before you explained it

@jolewis9919 8 месяцев назад

Thanks for the A.P recommendation...v.nice❤

@chelsiebainter1090 Месяц назад

I want your workout and nutrition routine, please and thank you :)

@laurag352 8 месяцев назад

Nice haircut, Jess ❤️

@veselinagerova3952 8 месяцев назад

On the topic of staring, as a women how do you deal with random guys staring and/or making you feel unsafe in a public setting? I don't see much that I can do about it to be honest. I think a lot of good-looking women are struggling with that. Something particular can make you feel unsafe even if it is not an obvious physical or mental abuse. Thanks!

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

yeah i hear you. i think staring from anyone just feels intrusive (my bad, subway girl). but i also personally dont like to cause a scene over it. if a guy stares, it's often unpleasant. but i think personally i resign myself to "sometimes public space interactions are unpleasant"? Maybe a braver woman would do something

@wildeevolution 8 месяцев назад

Women of a certain class at certain times and places were protected and had male escorts everywhere they went. I think we need to bring that tradition back.

@jolewis9919 8 месяцев назад

Just stare back..

@raesantos9439 8 месяцев назад

This is the first time I've viewed the podcast through RU-vid after listening to audio only, and it turned out to be a mistake because I'm too distracted by how exquisitely hot both Jess and Caroline look wtf

@Suboptimalconditions 8 месяцев назад

RnB Anderson Paak every time yes!!! I totally relate.

@Suboptimalconditions 8 месяцев назад

Im living the fluff life and I’m ready for war too…😅

@wildeevolution 8 месяцев назад

Women of a certain class at certain times and places were protected and had male escorts everywhere they went. I think we need to bring that tradition back.

@ashleymcgee3536 8 месяцев назад

The corporate world defines the over achiever, the ultra reliable, an “impact player”, but where do you draw the line between an impact level mindset and a “don’t exploit me” mindset? How do you be a reliable impact player without getting exploited? Do you think managers and finance has anything to do with how you get used and abused? Because we just got done with like an impact player module at work and I just don’t see manager supporting impact players. I see other teams just exploiting them to do the work of more people for less money.

@saram3156 8 месяцев назад

Sounds like a "how to take advantage of people by making them hungry" module. Climbing = more stress 99/100. Isn't it usually better to just spend less? I'd rather keep my freedom than be a stressed-out overachiever.

@dakine4238 3 месяца назад

Are you worried your job will hear this?

@tiffytattoo2450 8 месяцев назад

Just doing 31yo stuff, making a stupid diamond painting of cats and listening to the podcast. Still wondering about Beyoncé though, just saying...

@kisikisikisi 8 месяцев назад

Ok so I have to know this so now Jess also has to... I dated a guy who knew a guy who knew Anderson .paak and apparently he cheats on his wife a lot. I was devastated

@Not4EveryonePod 8 месяцев назад

WHAT. wow cant trust a beautiful smile these days