It’s exhausting and unnecessary. I’ve spent 47 years worrying about what other people think because I didn’t wanna hurt their feelings and I don’t want them to be uncomfortable. Not anymore.
@@LeahIsHereNowit's a genuinely toxic mindset that stems from prioritizing social optics over all else, which is already a stupid thing to do that's worth pity(if not apathy) towards those who genuinely do prioritize social optics over all else
Watch the people who make you the butt of the joke. Pay attention to the content of the joke, don't let them convince you that it's "Just a joke". There's always a bit of truth in every joke.
True. In my experience, weak people, who follow the latest trends, fail to take responsibility for their own lives, and try to bring down anybody who is trying to build their own lives, really do hate the truth and anyone who tells the truth, because it exposes all their failures.
Its crazy that you said people will leave when your truth triggers them. They will leave then pretend like you are the issue, try to guilt trip and gaslight!
I discovered your channel a few weeks ago and it truly has awakened me. You are right the narcissists are the ones that try to to make you feel small and when you confront them they show their true colors. Those true colors show how empty these people are and decided to cut off the wrong people in my life. I am a asian male I hope you get more asian male viewers in the future because your messages are truly inspiring.
your perspective on embracing your 'villain era' to reclaim personal power and boundaries is a compelling reminder of the strength in authenticity. It’s important to remember that sometimes, standing firm in our truth may not please everyone, but it fosters genuine respect and self-growth. 💪
I think it is pretty interesting how we perceive villainy, as strength. When it’s really just an over action of people pleasing and bottling up emotions and taking it out on other people. It does feel powerful because you are in your mind and body feel you are now shifting the power back, but I’m realizing it can be done in ways that are less prudent. But maybe it’ll always be needed. Idk
I have been ignored and blocked from people for no reason i never understood what i did to deserve that kind of treatment but you made me understand and you're 100% right about everything you're saying and i appreciate it tysm please keep it up good job ☺️❤
You have so much wisdom for someone so young. I've learned this by being in several toxic, narcissistic relationships but you've put it all together so eloquently. ☺️
Omg! Im so happy I found you today! I resonate wholeheartedly with every single thing you share here. Thank you for your brave and for sharing some harsh realities of what it means to be a human, in this day and age. 💕
They need to hurry up and invent time travel and send your videos back to 1985 in the After School Special timeslot for my whole Gen-X latchkey kid generation to watch while we were sitting at home without any guidance. Your generation of women is going to change the world for the better. Keep doing what you're doing.
I wish I had seen this video sooner. I regret the way I acted before. I went crazy while I had an argument with my ex-friend and she was like oh look you're the bad guy I did nothing. I feel so bad right now but I'm glad that I found you.
I had to tell my truth to my family, and I’m not gonna go deep into it since it’s a very personal matter. But my mother didn’t like it although she understood where I came from, but she kinda made it about herself and what she felt like what was left for her to do. That was actually my first time giving someone in my family the honesty that I wanted to tell them. Let alone giving anyone my honesty that hurts but is looking out for them at the same time. Thank you for uploading this although I was a little iffy about the “villain” concept. 😂
your introduction literally spoke deep down in my soul. My toxic relatives have painted the absolute worst imagery out of me and its not who I am because even god truly knows how pure my intentions are, I just dislike the fact people want to be against me when I did absolutely nothing but stand up for myself when I was being disrespected, and when I did "i became the bad guy"
Everything that you says resonate on me and this is truly helpful. It seems like the universe sent you to me in order to learn more wisdom that I can apply in my life. I wish you all the best in life! You're a smart and pretty woman! I appreciate you and I love youuu❤️❤️❤️
Wow, you are amazing! I really needed this! As I start my senior year of high school, I can't help but think back to my junior year, when I was caught up with someone who turned out to be a manipulative narcissist. They took advantage of my naivety and often humiliated me in front of their friends. I felt like I was tiptoeing around, constantly trying to please everyone. Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, my closest friend revealed herself to be completely insincere. After a being alone in my room that day, feeling like nobody really cared, I made a promise to myself that as we move into 2025, I would focus on manifesting my own dreams and setting my own goals. Now, as I stand in front of the mirror, still working on my physical appearance and proud of what I'm doing, I’m filled with joy reflecting on my mental growth. It’s incredible to see myself achieving things I once thought impossible and reaching goals that others deemed ridiculous. I am so excited about my future. I’m READY to embrace my villain era!
Truth speaking people often labeled as bad people. I totally relate to the confrontation of family members. Despite I love them, as i knew they lived a miserable life that made them to do that. But still it makes me furious that they can't even accept those truth or right confrontations and why they made a choice to make it miserable for me too. I will surely never make a choice to my child. That's true though, why are you letting the past define you?? But as i kid or adult self, I can't help just to make myself small or always hearing voices of them like " a girl should be humbled " or staying untrue to myself to protect me. Idk, if someone on their very young age will see this, but to them i want to share what i used to say to myself, " If i see the worst things happen in my life, i won't die until i live the best life to the fullest." This is new perspective shift to me, "Not everybody deserves the VULNERABLE YOU". I used think differently like it will make masking our own self ,for example, if i can't react to bait then its just like making me people pleaser but now i know they don't even deserve my attention in the first place. But this is so good, Thanks MAE ♥. This is always true, "Assumption is not fact unless its proven to be true". I can also relate to walking away from job opportunities, I can't take a debt for going to therapist everyday just by getting high paid job which isn't meant for me. I also have big respect for people who does things what they want amidst of the societal and family pressure. I also get it like some of the big supporters are total strangers, Not everyone wants best for you , they want best for them, so they don't want you to grow as they can't accept your change in their life. "Convince yourself to be who you are"," You need to stand up for yourself because if you don't then who will?","Make someone angry just by existing is not a problem, its the power","Put your boundaries and self respect first". Love the last affirmation part when the whole video is full of affirmation ♥
19:17 This is so true, I'm 18 years old and when I was a child my mother and I used to keep things that weren't useful to us, in such a way that we accumulated them, so one day I decided to throw them away and since then I always avoid that from happening again
Wow…absolute chicken soup for my soul 😭 I can’t thank you enough, Mae. ❤️ 26 years of being kicked and thrown around by my own people pleasing and fawn response and it’s been a tough path but reminders like this give me such a huge burst of confidence again!
I love this! I feel like all of these advice videos are usually the same but with you it makes me feel like actually sitting down with someone who genuinly wants to help you.
i love your videos so much. your voice is soothing and I like to clean my room while listening to you. i hope you'll make a makeup tutorial too, im curious on what products you use :o pretty girls rise up!
Yessss! Mae I'm new here. However I want to say Thank fir your direct honesty! I need friends like this in my life. I speak truth and alot of times those around me may admire it but in personal relationships it seems I'm not finding someone who can offer it back which I need. I like what you stated about not everyone needs the vulnerable side of me. I'm a big giver. However I find I get hurt because I need to take alot more time, ask more questions, not assume others want the same. I enjoy your videos!!!! ❤
Thankyou for the beautiful insight into strength, wisdom, love. I grew up very difficult and poor and found the hoarding too as something to work on even today. However i seek self help, healing & learning to learn what the dream really can be. Someone i found i want to share who helped was Marissa Peer. She teaches I am Enough. It helped me let go of many things. Yet i still enjoy nice things i relearn that beauty is from within. Im a perfume lover! I dream of having a collection as i watch many reviewers have a life i only dream of having. I appreciate the kindness and nurturing words that are so uplifting in your videos. Thanks!
this is one of very rare chanels where I subrscribe immediately after watvhing not even ONE WHOLE video. like middle of it i'm like yeah i need her in my life then I went to add some of your other videos to watch later and realized I added every single one so.. thanks girlie!!
Brilliant. Can you do a video about repairing a mangled self-image? I just have a hard time getting my mother's critical voice out of my head...Thank you 🤍
@@MaeAliceSuzuki Love your whole vibe and attitude. Scapegoating can make you feel like such a reject - even when you're the one to leave. Mothers like this will slander you to everyone - the exile is real.
I love this video so much! I just found your channel today and I know its going to play such a good role in my healing journey. Thank you for this, please continue to make these videos 🥰🥰🥰🥰
6:50 I totally agree with this! It’s about finding this balance between feeling your emotions and reacting logically, it helps me to deal with situations that hurt me
My ex bestfriend hated my new friend when we were younger (like 20) because she was "too happy" and it "HAD to be fake bc NO ONE was that nice and happy" Ridiculous. He also hated my other new friend because he was too smart and funny.. like... wtf. And we were trauma bonded so i stayed friends with him until this past year (im now 30) when i decided to have real boundaries with people
okay but besides the topic of this video, your voice is so nice to listen to lol i can’t watch videos and stay intrigued if the persons voice is annoying or bland 😭
As someone who was also raised by narcissists, I am so glad I came across your channel. Subscribed instantly. I love hearing your thoughts on this and you’re so pretty btw 🙌🏼
This is honestly such a good video. You covered so many things and provided good examples that everyone needs to hear. You’re a blessing to the platform and world. Keep doing you. ❤️
