Dude listening to Alex's struggles with his own self esteem, him perceiving himself on a lower pedestal, being timid around women, and not catching onto those cues is very relatable to me. And seeing all the pain and shit he went through, and all the unresolved things he still has yet to sort through and come to peace with. Reminds me that I'm really not ready for to be in a relationship yet emotionally, mentally, and physically. As I too still need to learn how to love myself, build up my own confidence, and practice more self compassion and gratitude, before I'm even ready to begin to take that step towards building something with someone.
@@cquan63 I believe so too. Geniusbrain and Joe and Bart from jk had a large influence on me and my personal growth. Ever since I started watching them back when I was 13 in 2012.
This episode with Alex really helped me realize a few things. My last relationship ended badly. Many of my friends told me it was abusive and toxic. I 100% denied it thinking it was all my fault. Until recently with the quarantine I’ve had time to think. Just hearing Alex about his experience and David clarifying things helped me realize I was %100 in an abusive relationship. Thank you I really appreciate it.
Man, my heart was breaking listening to Alex's story :( I never went through his situation, but the little details about someone hiding you from everyone when you're obviously together, being called jealous when you say something, and especially having low self esteem and not believing that this person is actually with you was so relatable. I'm glad he's in a better place now, I know someone great will come his way in the right time 💛
Dude Thank you So much David for having your friends talk about this, I actually relate to Alex's mindset so much. It was comforting to know that I'm not the only who thinks like this. Again l LOVE these podcasts, much Support!!!✌🏿👍🏿
Honestly can we just say that David is that best friend everyone needs cuz he help you see your flaws -- not just point it out -- and correct you like DAMN DAVID YOU A GOOD MAN
It sucks because David and the other dude don't understand how bad this problem really is for some people. Its not something you can really talk us out of, you have to give us bits and pieces that will build our confidence to stop thinking the way we do.
One time this guy that was hanging out with my friends and I ordered a drink and then went to use the bathroom. Long story short, I ended up paying for the drink because he was still in the bathroom and a line was forming. Not only did he not thank me, he turned his lip at me. Later that night, told me that he enjoyed the date. It wasn't even a date, we didn't even invite each other we were invited by different friends. However, instead of telling him off and throwing the drink in his face or something, I was just like haha me too... he would also constantly guilt trip me and make up crazy accusations. I didn't realize he was manipulative and abusive until about 2 months later when my brain did a complete 180. One time I had a dream he died and had one of the best sleeps of my life lmao.
Man. That was a grade a shituation. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you take the time to heal from this. That relationship was freaking nuts. I need a drink after listening to this.
This one was one of the best episodes so far! I hope Alex can find that thing he is missing to start loving himself or that right person to help him do that
In Alex’s defense regarding that most toxic relationship he had, I get it. As a man with previously low self-esteem red flags looked so damn green (especially if person with them is so hot) until you are out of the relationship and look back.
Davids face listening to alex is me listening to people talk about their happy relationships. 😂 Good for them and all, I’m just jealous. Ive been single for soooo long but i think its because im more like Alex.😂
Dog hearing alex this episode I honestly thought i was talking lmao. I definitely relate to him and understand him on the whole relationship thing. Shouts lut to Alex man. thanks for this episode David super dope and something I needed to hear
I know how Alex feels, I'm so bad the last time a woman came on to me my first reaction was to look around to see if she was talking to someone else. SHE WAS STAIRING RIGHT AT ME!😂
Damn, I have the same problem. Just dumb to situations; no experience. I grew up a chubby husky kid, so my confidence was low so thinking that anyone like me was impossible to me So later in life, that same confidence is still low. My only confidence comes from me putting my head down and put in work on grades or sports, basically shot I could control. recently I have this weird uninterested in approaching someone cause of that thought of instant denial
Goddamn. I've literally been seeing Alex's story happening in irl in my life but with my ex-roommate. Almost the same thing happening - he started flirting with this "perfect" girl last summer who was in a relationship at his work, came back into his life months later, she was living with her now ex, started dating right after she broke up but still "friends" ex, then moved in together after a month of dating, and now the rest of us waiting to see if a similar end happens lol
Damn soo relatable... I've started to shoot my shot more now and not care what happens, but I was a lot like that before. I wish I had done this sooner so I could have dated more my first 3 years of undergrad :/
at 1:28:30 Nick threw out the thug's height that tried to punk David, saying he needed to get wiped off the earth I was like damn what's wrong with the height
Same thing happened to me. I got played so bad. Lesson that I learn is not to give your trust people entirely. And always think about yourself cuz people take advantage of other for their selfishness. And to add up about Alex's problem with girls. Man! Just have fun and if you like a girl try to ask them out ASAP and if they're in a relationship. Just move on. And tell yourself .. ON TO THE NEXT ONE! And btw I'm an immigrant so I'm having a hard time looking for GF cuz of my communication skills. But I just told myself that even if I'm not born here in the US and talking to people is harder . I I just need to adapt and adjust myself. and be myself. Pretty girls are often have issues about themselves. I HATE THE GIRL THAT PLAYED! But I just need to move on and be happy of what I havfe right now. MYSELF PEACE.
Have same issue like Alex but more Issue Have issue getting super embarrassed.. and blushing super hard like new shade of red that I can’t seem stop blushing and feeling that embarrassed have go hide like a school girl. Can’t read que with men. I’m 27 I’m hopeless. Wish could asked guy out. Only had one relationship.
I'm glad I'm black, we don't blush 😄 Men are a lot easier than you think (except me, I'm terrible). Lip licking, puffed chest, we move closer, we sometimes tilt our head. Something I find that works with men who are on their own that you're interested in is "may I sit next to you?" Or something adjacent. You both can get a bit comfortable that way (unless the dude is me, in which case I'll just be confused).
Yo 100 if guys are reading this coming from a girl!! When girls date you there's no secret what you look like under your shirt so most likely she's into you. There are girls who find guys attractive who aren't super fit or even have some weight on them! Be confident own who you are its attractive af There going to be someone who's into you just be yourself.
Yooooooooo!!!!! Me and that fool Alex are the SAME PERSON!!!! I sent my friends some clips of the convo and they were cracking up because of how similar we are!! It’s funny because the only reason I’m with my lady now is because I told myself to stop being a little bitch and ask her out! Granted, my heart was beating so hard that I’m sure she could see it through my shirt! Lol
This guy is literally the male version of me. Except I think I'm pretty attractive and have had long term relationships but also have put up with a lot of BS because of my inability to communicate my needs. Always worried about how the other person feels (Esp if they leave because of your standards). You may feel like you are communicating but even then it's sugar coated because of that internal fear. It's called fear of abandonment. Where i got it from, idk. But it's that self fulfilling prophecy/negative thinking/not being able to handle the natural phenomenon of rejection. People will treat you how you let them. And if you communicate your needs and they bounce, it's a good thing. It sucks but it's the "rejection" you needed. Why go on being with someone or pursuing someone when it's not good for you, it doesn't necessarily mean the other person is an asshat or that you're needy. You just don't vibe that way. I also got out of a 3yr toxic relationship that I wasn't ready for even at the start..and the lying and criticisms did a number to my self esteem. So even if you want to date other people after a few months of breaking up, you know deep down it's not good for you. No matter how much you try to cover up your insecurities and play it vool, they will show. You really need to work on your shit and forget about that kind of companionship. Anything you try to build at a low point will likely suffer from your own unresolved issues. I hoped that the right person would work with me through it, if someone I liked with relationship potential came around, but you can't expect it, they have needs to. I'm still working on this and writing it out helps. Thx for the upload David lol
Nick and Alex are so fucking funny. 😹 I always look forward to the ep with them in it 🙃. Also I feel for Alex. I used to be a big pushover in relationship's I remember one time me and this guy we're flirting for like a year then when he came to town I was gonna ask him out and he started going out with this other girl we both knew🙃 so yeah long story short im stupid.
lmao im also a filipino-american with the childhood nickname JP, im fluent in English tho and I wanna learn more Tagalog, I can understand it well but it's a bit hard for me to speak it back, I can do Taglish at most lol
I'm not sure what school David went to that girls would only ever did class to meet guys ever into. The school I went to girls would skip class to skip class, hang out with her boyfriend, or hang out with a friend who is either a guy or a girl regardless if they're interested in them or not. So I could definitely see how he can misread that situation.
Let's be honest real quick, and if any ladies out their come up on this comment go ahead and give your personal opinion and whether or not you would agree or disagree with this, BUT what if women were to actually dressed, oh I don't know, use their words and just tell the guy that's interested then maybe it just might be a little bit easier on them? I mean if you want to go for the hint hint first then find go for it, but if you just doesn't get the hint and you really why can't do that how about you just tell him. And you'll probably see is just how much easier it is for you just to get him to notice you that way or to see if he's interested in you at all. Just a suggestion.
If the girl talks to you first, you should def shoot your shot. That means she’s open to a convo at the very least. These stories are so entertaining, but he’s so sweet.
