Assalamu alaykum brother! We need your help to raise awareness about the hijab ban in Tajikistan 🇹🇯. The government has banned wearing the hijab, and they are fining and arresting women who wear it on the streets. They have been trying for a long time to secularize the public and make them less religious. Men under 18 are not allowed to go to the mosque, teaching Tajweed is illegal, and men are not allowed to have beards. They imprison anyone who speaks out, and we don’t know what to do. Please pray for us and help spread the word!
May Allah Azzawajal help you all in Tajikistan and grant you a righteous government that is independent of outside influence . Ameen . Sister pray Qunoot Nazilah during Isha and Tahajud prayers. Also do same in last 10 days of Ramadan. In laylatul Qadr and during night of Shaban.
Most women would rather be in polygyny with a successful man that is a good provider and give her a great lifestyle than monogamy with average guy. If I could have a great lifestyle, nice house and generous allowance then I'd have no issues being in polygyny
The thing is men have to treat all their wives equally...The reality is that men can't even treat their friends equally. A man is always going to like and prefer the younger and more beautiful wife. As a result the children of the other wives that aren't his favorite will suffer and have less resources. I urge people to go look at the experience of children that grew up in homes that practiced Polygyny. Having a stable relationship with your father can already be difficult adding more wives and women to the mix only complicates things. Realistically theres probably only 0.0001% men who could do Polygyny right. Romantic love is already such an overpowering emotion and many people lack maturity to even succeed in normal romantic relationships Polygyny will only further problems. If you have ever been in a long-term romantic relationship you know that there is a lot of time you have to spend together in order to learn how to live with each other. I feel like Polygyny is going to block you from having a truly deep soul connection that is present in the best relationships.
Being just is not that difficult for a good man who fear allah. If a man is not just in a polygynus relationship then its legitimate reason to divorce him. However the real issue with polygyny today is that women find it more unacceptable. They see it as betrayal instead of seeing it as something permissible. The women at the time of the prophet also had jealousy but they didn't view it as the husband betraying them. They didn't act upon their jealousy to best of their ability. I don't blame muslim women for being like this today. The modern world shaped their mindset like that.
@@Fareeh. Actually it’s not easy. If you’re more attracted to one wife vs the other you’re naturally going to have a bias and favor her. It’s inevitably going to cause issues. There’s really not an ethical way to do it. It’s not jealousy it’s reality. We are humans and we’re always going to have favorites. It’s how we are. Women today don’t need to rely on men for resources the same way they used to hence they don’t want to be polygamous marriages anymore.
@@Fareeh. It’s also not about betrayal or jealousy, you just can’t have as deep of a connection with 4 people as you can have with 1. Polygyny is not ideal for a marriage or relationship. Also children will suffer. They’re not going to get enough love and attention from both parents.
@@sanacantsleep9457 yes the man could favour and be attracted to one of the wives more but the man must keep it in his heart and not act upon it by taking away the rights and time of other wives.
@@sanacantsleep9457 After looking at successful polygynous relationships on the internet I don't think that the man has less connection with each wife because of polygyny. You can certainly love and care for more than person. I agree polygyny is not ideal for women but that doesn't make it immoral or unacceptable. And children suffering is. Even children in monogamous relationship also could suffer from lack of attention of father. A good father tries to give attention to all his children. Even if there are 10-16 of them. I know that Mormons have 20-30 children but it's rare in muslim polygynous relationship. In that case maybe.
My personal best advice is that marriage is so problematic, you have no idea how much of a high chance you have of getting a divorce or a child with birth defects. My personal best advice well actually first and foremost everybody’s replaceable including you and me so don’t get too hung up on a single person, but I was gonna say the true advice don’t you dare have children for at least two or three years because after that if you decide you cannot get along with this person woe to you
Even if I am financially able I will be still deprived of my right to have 4 wives. People in past were great husbands than today . Unfortunately the propaganda reached so deep against expansion of family. We no longer have the conditions that facilitates polygamy . Women in past had no problem with polygamy and they were friendly to husband. Most of women today will not support it it's not sure the next wife will be friendly and kind towards the previous one . She may plan to remove the previous wife in some ways. Obviously there are exceptions but they can't be counted for possibilities.
bro in the past the ummah was not splitted in 50 different countries, zina and riba was not normalized, Not praying was not seen normal, we had a leader, we had Qudus.. A lot has changed, it's not surprising we adopted the west. I would be happy if you can find 1 pious woman in these days...
Even Prophet wives were not happy to share him with others, they tried to resist, it depends your wife, If she Is traditional woman and its not that kind who will run with your kids and demand divorce, if no then dont,but if Religious wife will never disobey Allah in your case then Do it. She doesnt need to know you have another wives, even though its gud to know, As long as your own family is aware,you are gud to go. No woman is enough for A man, some wives will tolerate cheating with haraam women than having a legal wife. Thats is why you marry for her religosity
@@servantofthemerciful3511 Middle East. Saudi Arabia. Despite its recent developments a good portion of its men and women are some of the most conservative and shy you'll ever meet.
Women who is supposed to stay home don't need a car!! They are commanded by Allah to not leave their homes unnecessarily. So why would they need a car? As the man, you should be able to take care of her needs so that she wouldn't be obliged to leave the house unnecessarily. Besides, not many men can afford having and maintaining at least 3 cars (1 for him, 1 for the first wife and 1 for the second wife)
Would you be 24/7 in your home? What if she will have medical emergency and no one is there? Do you not care about his wife's health? Bad things happen all the time.
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 I’m a man, not a woman. Im not commanded to stay home like woman are. Men are supposed to spend their time earning a sustenance to feed his family. Are you saying that if you dont have a car, you will not be able to survive?? Dont play the what if game. There are “what ifs” for every situation. For example, what if your wife has an accident while driving and badly injures herself, which happens often due to the woman’s inability to respond to an emergency situation on the road. Dont you care about the safety of your wife?? What if a thug harrases her when she stops at the gas station? Will you leave your wife without protection???
@@AbuUsamaSunnah SubhanAllah, Your views are very extreme. Not sure what women can’t respond quick in an emergency situation, but even when in the house the cooker can explode and will She respond or not? So is she safer in the kitchen with all that fire and gas? women are not commanded to stay in their homes 24/7. She needs fresh air. She needs to socialise with sisters, attend varied Islamic classes. She can also work or have her business in female only environment. She can be veiled in niqab and not free mix. According to your belief, the man should do everything? even when he’s busy with work he should pick the kids from their clubs or go food shopping? What if she wants to visit her family , etc? So she can’t drive herself anywhere? You seem Very possessive and stingy to buy her a car. B I’m a woman and I drive. I spend most times at home but when I need to go out I drive because it makes life easier and i don’t free mix this way. I don’t have to walk to the bus stop and wait in cold weather or scorching heat. many sisters around me drive as it makes our lives easier. Especially with small children. Some have sch runs, madrasa, food shopping, kids clubs , relatives and much more that requires leaving the house. This doesn’t mean she’s going out without a reason. Marriage is a team work. The husband should go out and work hard and bring money and the wife can help with little errands. So the husband doesn’t burn out! Maybe in some countries there’s thugs waiting at the petrol station. Never seen any here in in London, U.K. it’s not considered the most unsafe place, alhamdulillah. Just get the petrol and go. You can even pay there and then in most places. Alhamdulillah there’s always CCTV
@@Zazezoo women are not supposed to leave their houses unnecessarily. Men are supposed to do everything possible to prevent their women from having to leave home. A woman like yourself whose been brought up in the West and brainwashed by feminism may not understand what I’m saying, nor do I expect your kind to understand. Anyway, the husband can fulfull most of his wives needs by taking her out and taking her to see her relatives. Also, many women have fathers, brothers, and sons that can help fulfill the womans needs when the husband is busy
@@servantofthemerciful3511 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 sooo you are so sure about we entering jannah!!!!! If we enter there by the mercy of ALLAH SUBHANU TAWALA, then we will see what happens there...till then, keep doing things which will give you jannah....
