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I wash going to start with putting shoes away after getting in, but I think I will start with the habit of concentration first. It'll help with all other habits
These sound like great ideas! Sometimes when thinking through our next habit and even once we have started a habit it can become clear that an underlying habit that is necessary to be successful with the original target needs to be worked on first. It sounds like you have a great plan here! Come back and let us know how it goes and as always please reach out with any questions that you may have as you get started!
This couldnt come at a more perfect time! I was *just* reading and reflecting on the sections in "Home Education" on the habits of attention and obedience! I especially loved Miss Mason's emphasis that a parent's emphasis on these habits must come from a place of wanting to help children do what is right!
This is so helpful! Thank you. After the habit of giving your best effort could you do the habit of obedience? I know a lot of people struggle with it and see questions asked on facebook CM groups regarding obedience quite often.
The habits can be targeted in any order that you feel would best suit your family! Obedience is a challenging one, however it is foundational for so many things! Here are some other posts on helping you establish this habit. Authority and Obedience: Core Values of Charlotte Mason simplycharlottemason.com/blog/authority-and-obedience-core-values-of-charlotte-mason/ 5 Ways to Work on the Habit of Obedience: simplycharlottemason.com/blog/5-ways-to-work-on-the-habit-of-obedience/
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It’s difficult, if not impossible, to give standard consequences that will be appropriate for every child in every situation. So much of that decision depends on the child’s personality, age, background, whether this is an ongoing issue or a single occurrence, attitude, and all of the circumstances involved. Usually, in general terms, taking away something the child likes or adding something the child does not like can be a consequence; for example, taking away privileges, adding extra chores or work, taking away freedom (the child must stay at your side for a set time). Another possibility is removing whatever is causing the distraction; for example, toys or phone or going to bed earlier (if the cause is tiredness). But you will need to carefully and wisely determine what will be best for your unique child in your particular situation. The key is to act from a place of thoughtfulness and firm love, doing what will help that child most.
My 4 year old is struggeling auth obedience lately, however I feel it's due to get lack of a good foundation of attentiveness. I watched this tonight hoping for ideas to help. I think you've given me great ideas to start with. Thank you
Thank you for this awesome video! I was wondering if anyone had ideas for appropriate consequences for a four year old when not listening the first time. Thanks!
Perhaps narrowing down the habit of obedience in small pieces will help expose more natural consequences. This blog post gives ideas on how to do that: simplycharlottemason.com/blog/5-ways-to-work-on-the-habit-of-obedience/
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I have enjoyed learning more about this topic! Could you make suggestions for age appropriate activities for attention and for consequences? It would be helpful to be able to look up a podcast on specific ages and how you would flesh it out for that age, so I could better understand what it looks like. Thank you!
Here is a series on habits with a Q&A as well as ideas for multiple scenarios that may be of interest to you as a starting point, such as, special needs, older children, multiple children, how to break bad habits, and more: simplycharlottemason.com/blog/habits-q-amp-a-consequences/
I’ve been working on my own habit training, you have reminded me to kickstart one of them that I let go for a week while I was sick: keeping my room neat by straightening as I go and ensuing it is done before going to bed. Sigh, room cleaning today it is 😂
This is really helpful. Starting with The Rails this week, and had decided to start with Attention, this is a great help as I plan our work, thank you.
It’s difficult, if not impossible, to give standard consequences that will be appropriate for every child in every situation. So much of that decision depends on the child’s personality, age, background, whether this is an ongoing issue or a single occurrence, attitude, and all of the circumstances involved. Usually, in general terms, taking away something the child likes or adding something the child does not like can be a consequence; for example, taking away privileges, adding extra chores or work, taking away freedom (the child must stay at your side for a set time). Another possibility is removing whatever is causing the distraction; for example, toys or phone or going to bed earlier (if the cause is tiredness). But you will need to carefully and wisely determine what will be best for your unique child in your particular situation. The key is to act from a place of thoughtfulness and firm love, doing what will help that child most.
It’s difficult, if not impossible, to give standard consequences that will be appropriate for every child in every situation. So much of that decision depends on the child’s personality, age, background, whether this is an ongoing issue or a single occurrence, attitude, and all of the circumstances involved. Usually, in general terms, taking away something the child likes or adding something the child does not like can be a consequence; for example, taking away privileges, adding extra chores or work, taking away freedom (the child must stay at your side for a set time). Another possibility is removing whatever is causing the distraction; for example, toys or phone or going to bed earlier (if the cause is tiredness). But you will need to carefully and wisely determine what will be best for your unique child in your particular situation. The key is to act from a place of thoughtfulness and firm love, doing what will help that child most.
What are some consequences that would be considered in line with not listening the first time? I have a tendency to give too hard of a consequence and it kills his motivation.
It’s difficult, if not impossible, to give standard consequences that will be appropriate for every child in every situation. So much of that decision depends on the child’s personality, age, background, whether this is an ongoing issue or a single occurrence, attitude, and all of the circumstances involved. Usually, in general terms, taking away something the child likes or adding something the child does not like can be a consequence; for example, taking away privileges, adding extra chores or work, taking away freedom (the child must stay at your side for a set time). Another possibility is removing whatever is causing the distraction; for example, toys or phone or going to bed earlier (if the cause is tiredness). But you will need to carefully and wisely determine what will be best for your unique child in your particular situation. The key is to act from a place of thoughtfulness and firm love, doing what will help that child most.
That decision is up to you to determine what is best for your family. I'd suggest watching this video we did on screen time: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VzvSJNutPg0.html
I am working on teaching my almost 3 year old the habit of attention. I really need some ideas for gentle consequences for a young child who wont pay attention.
Hi Angela, rather than focus on consequences for not paying attention, focusing on tools and games to help them pay attention is what we strive for in the early years. At 2 and 3, children are just beginning to develop the ability to pay attention. They are beginning to struggle with independence and self-will. Some ideas we utilize are playing games that require short bits of attention, teaching them a task and then after they have shown repeatedly that they can complete the task (setting the table, pick up a book, etc) let them know you that when you say "go" they need to complete the task but you are going to try to distract them. Make sure they know they must complete the task and not stop while you are trying to be distracting, making sure they repeat the request you just made (if they are verbal enough), giving a time limit to try to complete a task ("Let's see how many toys we can pick up during this one song."), etc. If you are playing a fun activity and they do not pay attention to directions ("You can play with play dough but you must not get it on the floor.") then you can tell them that it's time to put the said activity away since they did not carefully follow the directions you gave them.
Yes, the suggestions are applicable for children with autism, but you will want to adjust each one to fit your child individually. For example, you probably won't be able to depend on eye contact as an indicator of whether he is paying attention to you. But become a student of your student, study him, get to know his unique indicators. (A great book that really encouraged me with my daughter who has autism and developmental delays is Uniquely Human by Barry Prizant.) The other thing to keep in mind is that it will most likely take longer to form a good habit than with a neurologically typical child. And you may need to focus on only one application of that habit at a time. For example, rather than focusing on attention 24 hours a day everywhere you go, you might want to start with paying attention in the house (or even in a certain room); then once that one area is showing progress, work on paying attention in the yard or in the car or at the park. Or perhaps you might want to start with attention before breakfast, then expand to all morning, then add bedtime, etc. Our autistic kids sometimes have trouble generalizing, so practicing and focusing on one application of the good habit at a time might be helpful.
I am having a major problem with this in my 13 year old. He'll be standing right by me and not hear all I say. Not complete a task because he wasn't listening all the way. What sort of opportunities do you suggest to work on this? He can tell back a story while reading but in communication he struggles.
Make sure you are not giving him a list of tasks to complete. When you get ready to ask him to complete a task, make sure he is looking at you and you at him. Give him the task and then make sure he knows what it is you asked of him.
@@SimplyCharlotteMason Thank you for your response. I am not sure that will solve the issue completely. But it may help. We will just be talking casually and he'll ask me the same question I answered already or not hear the whole thing I have said. He says he's trying to listen. Lol It's frustrating.
Hi! Thanks for this question! I'd love to direct you to this post by Sonya with Ginger Hubbard and Katy Morgan that gives incredible wisdom and advice on this topic of discipline and how to use consequences: simplycharlottemason.com/blog/6-discipline-mistakes-parents-make/ Let us know what you think and if you have more questions!
How do you accomplish this when you have 4 young kids within 2 years of age that all need someone to walk them through things to get them done. Quickly encourage independence without getting bogged down with a large “blended” family of young ones.
Sounds like you have your hands full! One tip I would give is to focus on the oldest. The youngers usually watch the olders and follow their lead. So if you can get the olders on board, that might make your job easier. Don’t let the littles get away with things, but in those moments when you must choose where you will expend your energy, working with the older ones can be strategic. Eventually, you might be able to then pair an older with a younger to multiply your efforts.
