But its hard to expose themselves into the world like that. I admire Kalyn so much for that, the transparency! It really helps a lot to not feel alone with our feelings!
Yes. So glad that I'm not the only person that wishes they could be themselves more. I want positive people in my life more than anything, but whenever someone reaches out to me my anxiety makes me curl into myself because I feel like I'm not good enough.
Naomi Hynes No ones perfect and a lot of us feel that we're not good enough, try not to push those people that go out of their way or reach out, away. There's a good chance they feel the same way, or they understand because everyone has their own flaws. I really hope in the future you feel more comfortable being yourself and let those people in 💕♥️ ps I love your name it's so unique 💝
+Darby Quakenbush you are so kind thank you, I definitely will take your advice:) little by little, the positive changes are gonna pay off! Lovee you're name too girl, you're amazing.
I always imagine how awesome the night is gonna be and the time arrives, I don't open my mouth to talk, I start feeling really unconfortable that I just wanna leave and go back to my safe space, home. What I am trying to do is to start with people that are working and you don't know them, for example, you go to a different place in your city, take the bus and ask if you are in the right one and if so, in what stop should you leave. Or even at a coffee shop, trying different things and ask the employees for advices. What is the next step? I don't know,I am in this one, when I accomplish this one, then I think about the next one. Another thing that I do is: I'm such an anti-social, but I always want to be surrounded by people. I got the the point where I didn't even left my house to go to the groceries alone ! Slowly, I am trying to change this, but It is a strugle to push myself in to different situations, but everything is going to start being ok,slowly!
The anxiety you describe is really accurate to what I'm feeling all the time. The panic when someone is texting or calling, the need to figure out what I should be doing, the want to be myself in public but just not being able to for some reason. And the ridiculous thing is: it's all just in our heads.
I like how you can go through a rough patch and then see it as a lesson and are able to reflect upon it after. I go through these rough patches too where I can't function and then I'll get myself out of them or it will pass and I'm in a completely different mindset. I think it's great you exercise.. I find it makes me feel better or even keeping my mind busy I find helps by trying to get out as much as possible, signing up for random classes like sewing or dancing or art :)
I found this saying while googling long time ago, "I saw that you were perfect and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more." I think that's how I exactly feel about you and this channel. You are already freakin amazing!! :) ❤️
I relate SOOO MUCH! When I have anxiety i listen to positive audio books like "You are a Badass". Surrounding myself with positive vibes makes the biggest difference.
Kalyn the reason you have such a huge following (among many other great qualities) is that you're so candid with us! You totally didn't have to upload this, but you did anyways. Because you wanted to include us. THANK YOU. I love your videos, your artistic side, your creative side, your health and fitness side, your ambitious side, your travel side, everything and anything! I have to agree, I get in a weird headspace too, heck, everyone does. And it's okay! Take a deep breath and do not be too hard on yourself (don't even worry about explaining yourself in a future situation unless you feel the need too)! And just know that you are enough, always enough I tell ya! At the end of the day everything works out and girlll you are going places (you already have accomplished so much!). Enjoy life and keep accomplishing your goals! We are always here for ya even if you do decide to share with us or do not share with us. Much support xoxo!!:)
I 100% feel you girl. You are not the only one that has these moments/feelings and I am beyond appreciative of you being honest and talking to us about these things because social media does tend to portray the highlight reels and makes it seem like distressing moments are nonexistent. Love you girl 🤓 keep being your beautiful self!
Kalyn, I am a mom of twin girls. I see them going through what you are talking about. Thank you for being open and honest. Your generation is so different from mine. We did not have social media. We had to talk face to face. Now it is so different. Being face to face seems odd to your generation. It is good you are eating healthy and working out and doing yoga. All these things will benefit you. I believe it must be stressful trying to work on videos and finding different topics to talk about. You are doing wonderfully. Cherish yourself. Take some time off. Breathe. If I was your mother I would tell you these things. I would also say you are an inspiration (even to my old generation). You take care of your mind, body and soul. Breathe and Be. Namaste. Lori
Kayla Ann Same!! Kalyn is so helpful & truthful about emotions & goals & how to get through things, and not many youtubers have videos dedicated to that!
You're so motivating to me! And so many others, girl you are such an inspiration! I hope that you have another dance party with yourself again soon love! 🤗
This video came just in time for me. The past couple of days have been pretty rough for me. I'm finding out about what colleges I'm getting into and it's very discouraging. What I wanted isn't necessarily working out for me and I feel stuck. The people around me know where they're going to college already. I definitely don't feel ok, but I'm accepting that it's ok to not be ok. Thanks Kalyn for the video! :) I wish the best for you and love you so much!
Sweet girl, I just wanted to give you a hug throughout this whole video. You're doing your best. Please don't ever feel like you need to do something just for your viewers. You are enough.
Aww that lady was adorable. But honestly you got this girl! We all care about and love you! You're an inspiration to many people and we all appreciate your candidness. Thank you so much for being so real💕
Oh my god I feel/think that too!! I will be sitting around doing something and then all of a sudden anxiety just hits me an I start questioning why I'm doing what I'm doing and trying to pinpoint what makes me feel that way but coming up blank. And when people text me it just makes me feel so overwhelmed that I don't reply for days because I just deal with thinking of what to say because I am just so in my head. Listening to you talk makes me feel so much less alone and makes me feel normal so thank you! And the OC is my go to show when I feel like that too. Thanks for the inspo!! xx
I love you so much Kalyn!!! Don't ever worry or stress out about uploading when you're not in the best mindset, we get it 😊 And we're also here for you whenever you're feeling anxious or stressed out!! We're only a tweet away 💜
Kayla Lacaille I'm on the pill and a lot of people are on the pill and are single. It has sooo many benefits. You know exactly when you'll be on your period at any point in time. I know in 3 years which week I'll be on my period lol. And it clears your skin. I have very little acne now. It also makes your cramps hurt less. Insurance often will pay for birth control pills because of the side effect that cramps will be suppressed. It also sometimes balances hormones and makes your mood better. But for Kalyn, it sounded like her hormones were pretty balanced and the pill is trying to balance something that doesn't need help and it's making them unbalance and causing her emotional pain. That happened with my sister. But I totally recommended the pill to any girl! Sexually active or now because it definitely has a ton of positives
This video really resonated with me! This week I had one of the worst days I have had in awhile. I woke up feeling 'off'. I knew something was out of whack. But I pushed through the day and things that normally would not effect my emotions or the way I feel hit me so HARD. I was a WRECk cried and felt so many different emotions. I know 100% it was my hormones. They can affect your mood and thought processes dramatically. I hope to have them balanced soon. Life is not fun with a foggy, difficult mind. Thanks Kalyn for helping me feel not alone 💕
Hormones are rough and very real. The pill can definitely makes things more intense. I'm pregnant and it's a whole new levellll.😜I know this is a lot for you now but it's going to get better. Hang in there, girl, and take the space you need.💕Always love how open you are.😘 you got this.
I am feeling the same way right now. My anxiety is going off the charts and I'm really messing up school. I think this time of year between spring and winter for me is extremely hard emotionally.
I NEEDED this video right now. I've been in such a rut that I haven't been able to kick. Now I have some tips to get my butt in gear and keep going. Thank you so much Kalyn! Love you! ❤❤
I love how real you are Kalyn! So many people on social media pretend like their lives are perfect but you are always so genuine. I love all of your videos and I hope you start feeling more like yourself again
Girl I needed this. I've been killing my self full time in school and it's making me so anxious and I'm trying to balance all my thoughts and stay on track with what I wanna be doing with my time. Sometimes I find myself in head spaces where I become my own worst critic and it's so hard to get out of. I'm glad I'm not alone in this haha and I think I'm gonna start keeping a journal too just to vent to myself and clear my head. Thankyou for this Kalyn. I love you and your coffee talks 😘❤️
love the fact that you said "I'm willing to feel uncomfortable to push myself where I wanna be" SO damn true girl. do you and take time. love you girl and you gave me positive thoughts ! thanks Chica.
"need to let myself sink so I can swim back to the top" literally found this video at the best time. the universe somehow brought this to me at the most RIGHT time. "just let yourself feel that way," and "its okay to be confused and anxious."
Don't worry! Milions of people are dealing with same thing, we all can get through this. Try app 7 cups but think about your safety by talking with anonymous people. Kalyn's tips are awesome too.
Never knew people felt/suffered through the same things that I did until I found your channel Kalyn! Thank you so much for being a constant reminder that I am not alone in the struggles I face, and how I can overcome them! Love you!
I really love this video, thank you for being so strong to make and post it. Anxiety is never easy, and I think it's one of the worst things to always have to deal with. Being confused, feeling lost, and stuck is something I've struggled with lately and trying to fix it more and work harder just makes anxiety worse. So, thank you for this video and the message it contained. It was nice to be reminded that it's ok to not be ok sometimes, and things will clear up. I hope you're feeling better Kalyn! and know so many people love, care and support you no matter what
Kalyn, you're such a sweetheart. Your videos ALWAYS make me feel better. You never fail to make us all motivated and excited about life. Don't feel pressured to upload if you're not feeling your best at that moment. We all get it. I'm glad you're being real with us and remember your subscribers are here to listen. Love you!
I feel you on the anxiety attacks! Meditation and working out is the healthiest thing I have found! I love the quote, "fall down seven times stand up eight", it helps me know that I will always be stronger.
I'm so glad you're feeling better! ! and you are absolutely right, we have to stop telling us what is wrong and right to feel. you can't rationalize emotions, sometimes there is nothing you can do to change them. I really believe in embracing whatever I'm feeling, thinking: "tomorrow is a new day, this too shall pass".
Kalyn, girl, my first 7 months of being on the pill were hell and even now I still feel so different than before but if you're on it for the reason of not getting pregnant than it's worth all the trouble. listen to your body girl and don't let other people drag you down. You're strong and you have such a huge following because you do things that are good for you and inspire others. Everyone needs a break sometimes so don't beat yourself up! I still love you and was sooo excited to see this video(:
Well thank you both for making me feel bad about commenting for the first time on one of her videos. I only commented that because I relate to her in how she is feeling. I personally have never been told enough about other options to be able to tell whether they would be more effective or beneficial for me. I was not telling her that she should stick it out I was telling her listen to her body.
girl dont try to make us feel bad for commenting our opinion either. We werent hating on you whatsoever, just educating. clearly her body is reacting negatively. The way you said your comment made it sound like you said stick it out regardless.
Piinkstar17 the first month is an adjustment period to ANY type of contraception. Why does no one know this? What she is going through is shitty, but normal.
Thank you for making this video, it made me feel less alone and better about my anxiety, too. I have really bad anxiety and do the same things... get mad at myself for being anxious and negative, wonder why I think everything is going wrong. This was helpful! I'm sorry you're going through some anxiety yourself Kalyn, it's not fun, but just know you're not alone and we can get through this!
I relate to this so much. I took a step back and realized that no one knows what they're doing & that's okay, and it helped so much. Thank you for videos like this!!
Totally know the feeling of wanting to be yourself so bad but anxiety kicks in. "It's ok to feel the way you feel" So relatable. LOVE your channel, don't listen to those that want to drag you down or see you fail. Keep your head up and be yourself. Love you!!!
I'd hate to be the bear of bad news.. but when I went on the pill a few years back, I had the WOOORST experience. I stuck it out for about 5 months but it never got better. I know there's a bunch of different types but now I'm way too scared to go back on or try any other method :/
Mjean Usher pills with low doses of hormones are best, I think. I have depression and anxiety and im on the pill. It doesn't bring out any of my symptoms whatsoever because of the super low dose of hormones.
Mjean Usher I would HIGHLY recommend the implant. I have been on it for about a month, and save a short bout of vomiting the evening I got it, I've had NO side effects. It lasts 4 years and you don't have to remember to take it :) it's wonderful!
I relate to your words SO MUCH. I struggle with anxiety myself, and I've found that it really just helps when an attack is coming on or happening to just accept it, sometimes I'll even say it outloud like "this is happening." Or I'll look around, I often get it in my head that everyone can tell that I'm having an anxiety attack and are staring at me, and when I look around, guess what, no one knows or cares what I'm doing! Nothing's worse than having to fake how you feel in any situation, so I'm learning to just state what is actually happening and actually letting family/friends know that this is something I struggle with. And always remember that this too shall pass! Getting some fresh air is also a great remedy :) I love your videos girl, keep on being a rock star! xx
I understand you girl! It's been happening the same to me, sometimes I get so anxious and its really annoying. And it's great to be reminded that we're not alone on this, and to feel understood. I feel ya♥
geez the tips help are going to help heaps, im struggling with my family quite a lot and yes im being negative but everything that comes out of my mouth is negative, it 1am( holy moly) but when i wake up from a sleep in I'm going to write things down and go for a walk with my dog. thank you, you feeling shitty recently and sharing has helped me. love you heaps xx
the pill is the devil. I honestly suggest you get off it. It's the absolute worst if you have anxiety >< hoping you feel better and sending positive vibes your way
the pill has been the same struggle for me that it is for kal. i've been on it a couple months now, trying to manage my hormones since it does help me skin. but maaaah god. this bitch (me) is cray.
Wow...thank you so much for posting this. I've also been anxious and have had panic attacks recently (yesterday actually) and I feel like a lot of it is due to the birth control shot that I got a few weeks ago. I totally understand what you're going through and I love the fact that you're so honest about it. I put pressure on myself too as a single mom and I work full time so watching your videos and listening to your coffee talks helps me relax at the end of the day and I realize that I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Do you believe in god? because I'm Christian and I've found peace and joy in him by spending time with myself, the bible and thoughts. I write everything down, worries and thankful words.. :)
I feel you on every level. Anxiety and Depression have been overstaying their welcome past few months. Keep up the good work. Keep taking care of yourself. You are not alone.
Definitely understand, I just recently came back from being MIA with friends, family & social media. I just ignored everything and everyone needed time for me. Didn't see no need to bring others down, just needed to get back on track.
I feel the same way except whenever i'm in a bad mindset (which seems to be allot lately) I don't know how to get out of it. I really appreciated your tips at the end. You're so inspirational, love ya!
Girl, could not relate more to this! From the pill to always trying to be positive and putting pressure on yourself! Ugh it's nice when you see other people deal with the same issues and knowing you aren't the only one! ✌🏼
I literally lived my life feeling that anxiousness for a whole year. I was with a great guy and had a beautiful home with 2 dogs and a beautiful life. I was so fogged for so long i lost who i was completely. So i left all of that to start over brand new and alone. It was the hardest thing i have ever done but i felt he deserved time just like i did. I needed to find who i was again and be independent to find that value in the work it takes to stand alone. Your videos honestly and whole heartedly inspire me. Thank you for that. Seeing that independence and the strength you have sometimes is so refreshing and just real. It is so hard to find that now a days. Thank you for being you
I'm literally going through the same anxiety attacks. It's like I'm so excited to be better and happy but then I get overwhelmed and then crash so low. Organizing and planning and writing things down makes me feel so much better. I'm just taking things slow and using this weird moment to figure myself out. Know that you are loved and there is more to life than what we are made to believe is everything.
I feel you. I get anxious and over react to my own feelings, usually happens at night. Then I wake up in the morning and feel ridiculous. I feel like I hear "stop being so hard on yourself" so often from the people I love. So please, stop being so hard on yourself. 💕
I relate to this so much and I love how you can talk about these issues candidly. late!y I haven't been in the right headspace I tend to get in these moods like you said where you can't newer texts/calls and turn your phone off. I live with a negative parent and I just been feeling anxious with trying to have good grades in uni & being a mom at 22. I just feel lost. I have been crying a lot lately as well. I am trying to see the good in things and I took a week off from social media. This comment is all over the place but that's how I have been feeling. Thank you Kalyn for being you and sharing your advice with us 💕
This is why I'm inspired by your videos. Other RU-vidrs downplay bad days and slumps but you show it all and its soooo relatable! Thanks for always showing people they're not alone!
Wow! You our words my thoughts...Understood every word and more....My daughter is the same as well. Just wanna be like everyone else and figure shit out. Years ago I told her something that to this day just makes the most sense...There's No such thing as "Normal"!...She's doing well right now thankfully...I've been stuck for a very long time...Your words have made me feel not so alone. Thank you so much for putting this out there. It's being truthful about your own feelings and sharing them with so many that help ppl, that reach the "unreachable". So TY 😊 I'm gonna dance in my rode today😚
this is literally me omg 😪 I've been loosing energy so easily and my motivation to do the things I love has gone out the window (except working out, eating healthy, and sleeping lol) due to my insecurities and fears which have caused me to become so anxious about my current life and future plans. SO thank you for making this video because it makes me feel like I'm not the only one who feels burnt out and crazy hormonal 🤷🏻♀️😅 Your videos are the best and I'm sorry if anyone of us keeps pressuring you to put out content, great things take time to create!
This was so honest. Its ok to feel whatever you are feeling. Most people are like that, and it is just society and especially social media influencing self-image in the wrong way, making it feel wrong to have those feelings.
You inspire me so much, Kalyn! The past weeks/month have been rough... I set myself goals that I don't follow for a long time! I'm mad about myself and I feel so lonely! I'm so grateful for your videos because they make me feel at least more motivated! Love
Whew girl.... I swear at the end you were talking directly to me.. I need to do these things in my life. I let so many situations that I cannot control weigh heavily on me. I like the idea of writing it all down. Hope you know how much these videos help people! Keep moving forward :)
You help me a lot. I'm dealing with anxiety since I was 15 (I'm 18) and I just can't talk about it with anyone beacuse I feel like I'm going to annoy them and I really hate to ask for help. But you make me feel comfortable with everything I have around me and you're like that person that I need to calm me down. So thank you so so so so much! You don't even realise what you do for many people here!
so glad I'm not the only one who doesnt ring friends or family when your feeling crap and anxious, I get so worked about stuff but I can't ring my folks because I know they'll worry =( ,stay strong lovely, you'll be fine ❤ xx
I feel ya girl. Is anybody else super stressed about getting into college? I've been waiting to hear back and it's making me so stressed because there is nothing I can do now to get myself into a school
Girl I am so sorry, panic attacks are terrifying. I had one the other day on my break at work for the first time in 3 months, my poor coworker was terrified with no idea what to do! They are such scary things 😔 I started a new job 2 months ago that keeps me at work until midnight so my sleep schedule has gone to hell and i'm feeling it so much lately since i'm full time in uni too!
Honestly, i feel the same way as you! Thank you for sharing... sometimes we all just need to share our thoughts or to hear that we're not the only ones feeling this way. ❤
if this doesn't hit the nail on the head of how I'm feeling, then idk what will. i have felt so not myself for literally over a year or so now. its frustrating and i have so many desires but i cant follow them and its driving me up a wall. thanks for making me feel not alone!!
Even this explanation video is inspirational. I have had many occasions where I would cry for no reason at all. I have anxiety & depression, and I feel it needs o be talked about more. Love you to the moon & back 💕
The same thing happened to me on birth control. My old BC gave me monthly panic attacks that were so terrible- I finally found one that has made me feel a lot more in control of my emotions. You just gotta find what fits for you.
This video seriously made me cry. I definitely do that thing where you don't answer the phone because you're too busy being anxious about not doing anything. I thought I was the only one who did that. I am going to work on not get worried or anxious about things like that. Thank you so much for this video. Love you!!!
I can very much relate to the not-picking-up the phone and not responding to text messages/facebook messages because I'm either to down or tired. Which is kinda of the same?? I LOVE this coffee talk, I can relate to so much to what your saying.
Thank you for sharing this and talking about anxiety. I have felt so many of the things you talked about in this video, and it helps me so much to know that I'm not alone. The idea of writing down your problems and figuring out what you can sacrifice to get what you want is such a good one, I'll definitely try it. You are so inspirational and you help so many people. Thank you Kalyn, you're wonderful :)
Ok I totally feel you on the pill emotion and craziness! I started the pill like three months ago and cried everyday that first month too! I also would feel kind of sick if I had one glass of wine. But all of the crazy emotions and sickness is gone now! So ride it out and that stuff will get better:) Love you! I'm glad you posted this!
This was one of the best stress releasers for me, i so badly wanted someone to tell me to calm down, be myself and it'll be alright. You did that and i thank you for being this honest person that you are. And girl we love you just the way you love us 💖💖
Thank you for another great and aptly timed video. I need to submit my PhD thesis next month and have been a complete mess. This was the pep talk I needed today. *hugs* You got this. I think I can speak for most of your fans in saying that we love your videos because you are real and authentic. Don't ever worry about living up to some sort of expectations.
I just cried the entire time during this video 🙄 Everything you said was spot on about how i've been feeling lately. I have SO much time on my hands lately and I worry way too much and get anxious about everything I can possibly think of. It's awful and lately I've had panic attacks and I've never experienced them before and they're so intense. This video sorta helped me though. Thanks for being real with us 💕
honestly, i needed this. I have been in those same head spaces where i just dont want to talk to anyone or text or anything and this video is so on spot on how ive been feeling and i have no idea whats been going on.
So so strong, it's crazy how much we are alike and after meeting you, you realize someone is a real person besides just a public figure and it's amazing how far you've come and I'm so glad!
Thank you for being brave enough to share these things! I have been feeling super anxious lately and it helped me to know that other people feel the same way sometimes. Love you & your videos!!!
I know exactly how you feel about being anxious. I have anxiety and panic attacks so bad that I had to be put on medicine. Im there with you girl. It sucks, but you can do it! Your strong and you can pull through it. I wish I could be your best friend and talk to you everyday. I love you Kalyn!
This video really hit home for me and I want to thank you. I watch all of you coffee talks and you talk about anxiety and depression a lot but this one for some reason related more than the others. I am going threw made up stuff in my head that I can't shake and can't stop thinking about and I feel like your tips will help me in the long run. Especially writing down how I'm feeling. Hoping If I see it in paper it won't feel so real and will get it out of my head. So once again, thank you Kalyn. 😗
