You Are A Toxic Perfectionist

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Perfectionism, Procrastination, and Obsession are all related. We might think of Steve Jobs when we think of perfectionism - but the iceberg goes deeper than that.
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@renaigh Год назад

"If I can't do it right, I'll never do it at all" - Me

@Waryfuls Год назад

Could not have said it better.

@yourbroskijack Год назад

WHY!!!!!?!!??!!!?!? Failure is BEUTIFUL!’nnnn!!!!!!

@elizabethwells3043 Год назад

School taught me that lesson. My teacher yelled at the "bad" kid, "You need to get it right the first time!"

@yourbroskijack Год назад

@@elizabethwells3043 THAS NOT RIGHT I don’t like that for you

@elizabethwells3043 Год назад

@@yourbroskijack thanks broski

@Joaquim-nz9vp Год назад

I really liked the difference you set between the idea and the practice of getting better. It's something I've been noticing over time, as in wanting to read books but never actually reading anything at all, for example. Loved the video!

@SarcasticQuokka Год назад

Yeah this really hit. Slowly learning this with my studies. You can sign up for the course and attend classes but if you don't get your work done you won't get the qualification.

@potatopotato5354 Год назад

Something worth mentioning is that perfectionism running up against productivity is actually a conflict between two pretty negative outlooks. There is no obligation to be productive, and nobody should be guilted into producing things they're unhappy with. At the same time, perfectionism is pickiness in another form. You don't starve just because you can't have your favourite meal, and you shouldn't starve your need to create just because you can't make something perfect.

@Fads Год назад

good point! my argument is largely driven by the way perfectionism has stifled me personally, but yours is a good perspective too.

@scary5455 Год назад

There is an obligation to be productive. All animals die without productivity.

@mehenyt 5 месяцев назад

“you don’t starve just because you can’t have your favorite meal” will be my new life quote i love it so much

@Jerry_quesoso Год назад

Amazing vid, there's something that I'd like to say which is that an episode of Courage the cowardly dog named "Perfection" represented how insidious this constant seek for perfectionism can be. You're left with nothing but concerns about yourself.

@Qwerzxcv954 Год назад

I tend to overcomplicate things due to my perfectionism... As a result, I procrastinate a lot, I feel incompetent, worthless, and I am always unsatisfied with my life even when I do better than others. I always feel like "I'm not doing good enough" and that makes me anxious when I have to do thing I'm not used to do... Perfectionism can be very dangerous.

@finderskeepers8 Год назад

"Progress is an action not an outcome." I love it.

@Re9an Год назад

WoW "chase consistency not progress" This is the most valuable thing I so needed to hear. i roll with Cptsd & adhd & am painfully self aware so valuable & helpful. Super glad to have already sub'd Thank you.

@nastyahvatalina4102 Год назад

Your channel should have more subscribers, your videos are so good!

@Fads Год назад

Thank you so much!

@TomInTheSky2001 Год назад

I think working to 80% of your effort is better than 100% if you can be more consistent. The last 20% takes way too long and might not be noticed. Plus the repetition will make your 80% surpass your old 100% quickly. I experienced this with my latest video and I finished it within a deadline instead of searching to create perfect clips. Before it would be take me ages because it 'Needed to be perfect'. But being imperfect is perfect in a way.

@Fads Год назад

Agreed!!

@Jaxan-dq2jy Год назад

Wabi Sabi is perfect imperfection :) It is a beautiful idea

@novalinnhe 9 часов назад

The topic of perfectionism is so often approached from a very critical lens, but I almost teared up from how empathetically and sincerely you approached it here. I have immediately saved this video, and hope to rewatch it regularly to put some of your ideas and suggestions into practice. Especially looking to chase consistency instead of perfection - I really like this idea. Thanks so much!

@let_it_sin_kin Год назад

I'll just leave it here. My insight was that my perfectionism came from PTSD. I always thought you have to go through something really terrible. But you can get PTSD just by the fact your parents didn't do what was needed to raise a healthy child. Maybe it's obvious for some, but definitely not me. Have a great life, everyone that reads this comment! Fads, thank you for your content, I really do like it a lot more than most popular channels that I'm subscribed to, because you put out vids on topics that many filmed about but you always add this uniquenness to the info, you always make me think about things from a different perspective! I value it a lot.

@cooperjohnson5157 Год назад

I am grateful for your videos and the time you put into making them

@jakers5139 Год назад

your videos are always a treat

@Fads Год назад

Glad you think so!

@auraliax1323 Год назад

Thanks for talking about this topic, loved the video♥

@hectormaldonado9241 Год назад

Your channel really is my cup of tea, thanks for putting so much effort in your videos

@garrisondinsmore5808 Год назад

Amazing video, thank you! You explained some concepts I've never thought of before, and your delivery is calm and relaxing.

@NA21184 Год назад

Great work! Thanks for making this!!!

@jktech2117 Год назад

your channel is chill and nice.. +1 sub!.. is hard to see someone talking about serious topics and staying in a good mood and upbeat

@gobble_gang Год назад

Amazing amounts of work went into this. While not even close to the type of videos I usually click on, here on RU-vid, I'm super glad I did. Pretty relevant topic for me since college started today lol. Reshaping how you manage yourself internally and externally seems multiplicities more integral to success now.

@eliogilbert8071 Год назад

You're amazing. Thank You for this video ❤

@dinnerwithlydia Год назад

Just subscribed. Amazing videos! In this one, the idea of chasing consistency rather than chasing an outcome-based idea of "progress" actually blew my mind in the best way! Thank you!

@lucaskretschmann5307 Год назад

Bro your content is great, please keep it up

@yourstrulytk12 Год назад

brother extremely excellent video. loved it. subscribed.

@garrettsgaming8300 Год назад

Perfect question to end the video. Well done!

@Justaz101 5 месяцев назад

Good video! As a perfectionist you addressed some great points that were helpful in my own life.

@smartideas-pedro1690 Год назад

great channel bruv, subbed for the brazil jersey

@cookiemaster537 Год назад

I really like your videos, feels like advice from a caring friend

@EduzReeveM Год назад

I just found your channel and watched some of your videos and I like the way you talk and show off your ideas. plus for a 50k sub channel your content is really hq and I think youll grow quickly. hope you never run out of ideas brother :)

@Kirapsi Год назад

Thank you for this video! Very interesting

@ChickyNYC Год назад

Yet again, great vid

@stevenlomon Год назад

Your videos are slowly becoming some of my favorite to watch on this platform. Wholesome chill vibes but also profound and thoughtful, kudos! :D Also this is the best exploration and reflection on perfection I think I've ever seen

@Fads Год назад

Thanks so much! Glad to hear it and I'm happy to hear you're enjoying em!

@proxicat123 Год назад

"...and ask yourself: what do I think makes a person worthy of being loved and of being valuable?" I'll be thinking for an answer for this for the rest of the year which is precisely the reason as to why I love you and you're channel :D

@martinmena-ospina6980 Год назад

I have a good feeling about this channel's future

@CalumRaasay Год назад

Great video! 👍🏻

@Fads Год назад

Thanks so much!!! Cheers for the superthanks too

@mony1809 Год назад

I gotta say that this thumbnail is AMAZING!

@inderbirsingh3592 Год назад

whoisfads? the goat

@ghaida2349 Год назад

Thank you!

@TomInTheSky2001 Год назад

First of all, Great Thumbnail!

@l30S3UX Год назад

This video stil under 10k views so I just want to make sure you are listened and I love your scripts

@djels6348 Год назад

I just found this yt channel 20 mins ago & u know too much 🤣😂

@potapotapotapotapotapota Год назад

Even the greatest number you can think becomes like nothing when compared to Infinity.

@Th3Gumbo Год назад

This video is perfect

@noobuserlol4266 Год назад

6:22 this actually made me tear up a little.

@eyonfrankston1344 Год назад

im a toxic perfectionist by the book - i get enraged at small trivial and inconsequential problems and throw and smash up or scream abuse at the problematic source (people included) and you can thank my last boss for that as he was like that with me, think gordon ramsay on meth (figuratively) that was him and thats what he moulded me to be even years later and outside of work

@JeanMarceaux Год назад

The thumbnail is misleading: you don't care about perfectly level surfaces until your washing machine skidaddles all the way to Tampa, Florida due to vibrations. While you live on another continent. Jokes aside, this is a pretty good outlook on the problematic perfectionism, and something I need to teach myself to overcome.

@DredFulProductions Год назад

The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried

@aliveslice Год назад

The fact that I cannot stand Kubrick's films and feel of Wes Anderson's films as "serviceable" should help me understand the drawbacks of perfectionism 😅 it really doesn't matter if most people call these creations perfect, I don't feel that way, so why would I bother? But it probably only speaks of a different view on perfection though 😥

@Waryfuls Год назад

For some reason, I think of Gordon Ramsey when I think of "trying to achieve perfection"

@mmdullard Год назад

be a guest on the shoooooooooooow

@aleisterlilywhite1109 Год назад

I haven’t painted in years for this very reason.

@troylater8614 Год назад

This was bars

@scary5455 Год назад

Nice

@sherlockbones3519 Год назад

Hey Fads, I really enjoy your videos. I have one comment though, I find your videos really quiet, even when I raise the volume to the maximum. Could you maybe do something about that? Thanks.

@Fads Год назад

Noted! thanks for the tip!