i’ve been showing up for myself for ~3.5 years by making my bed everyday, doing my skincare routine everyday; and for 39 days, i’ve been moving my body for at least 5 minutes per day. the first 3 weeks i exercised 5 minutes, and i’m on my second 3 weeks where i’m exercising for 10 minutes. this monday or tuesday i am exercising for 5 more minutes than how long i already am (so the next 3 week cycle is for 15 minutes per day :)) Update: I had made it to 84 days, and then I changed my system so I now exercise around 3-5 times per week (even if exercise means a short walk or a dance workout on RU-vid). I also am eating more vegetables now and really feel like I'm improving a little bit every week .sending love to all of you as you have sent love to me ❤
Non-negotiable:Spending quiet time with God and reading His Word daily. I noticed when that failed, confusion and anxiety skyrocketed and it suddenly felt like I couldn’t hear God, when really I never gave myself time to listen. Useful video!
The inner child line is what struck my chord two months ago, when I started reading a book called "The Artist's Way" to heal my burnout, but the author talked about the 'inner artist' as one would talk about an inner child - and that was the moment I could really put into perspective just how harsh I was being with myself because no way in heck would I tell a child the things I tell myself. That singular revelation literally made me get up and decide to stop my 20-year long history of self-hate and start caring for myself. Now I'm doing art again regularly and enjoying it, and slowly learning to eat better and work out a little as well - self-perception is really important! And for anyone who might think its too late to start or make a change, all you should ask is why not? Why not expect things can change for the better, as soon as tomorrow, or a week, or a month? As long as you keep trying your best (and your best can look different on different days) things WILL get better, it's inevitable, we just need to get used to the idea and keep an open mind.
So for this past year, I’ve been trying to take better care of myself. That includes working out more (I have a very sedentary job), eating healthier, following up on things like regular Drs appointments and regular dentist appointments. I think the biggest thing for me is that I have a tendency to avoid things and procrastinate. So speaking to myself in a matter-of-fact way and keeping my toddler son in mind helps. My son will get older and see the things I do and it will determine how he looks at himself. So I when I remind myself of these things, it helps motivate me to show up, even if it wasn’t for long.
This is facts. I had to take some steps back from other people to focus on my self care and pouring into myself first cause we aren’t good for others if we ain’t good to us! That nutrition during pregnancy piece was a HIT! I’m currently healing my body from fibroids to prepare for pregnancy and I’ve had to COMPLETELY change my diet! & I always think about, wanting to be a better self care example for my future daughter so she doesn’t battle with the same things! I fell off so bad with my routine planning my wedding and went backwards and have been beating myself up & Bria you have NO IDEA how helpful this video was today!
@@tryingoutgravity more Whole Foods, less sugar, dairy, soy and meat, taking vitamin d3 w k2, vitamin b complex, liquid iron, herbal teas. I’ve been vlogging my experiences on my channel to show everybody the changes too! Update coming soon 🥰🙏🏽
I respect this video because I have come to learn that social media has drained my energy and mental clarity. I have had to change a lot about my diet. This video is a sign that I needed to change and commit to myself. Thank you, Bria. ❤
Compromising my routine hits deep. Journaling keeps my mind sane and if I don't do it at least every other day, I go crazy. The exercise also is a big one that I compromised on. I'm praying that I can get back to a routine. Demotivated and drained definitely hits also. I stopped showing up for myself when it came to my personal goals for career and monetizing my passions. I ended up investing in a course for my career so that allows me to have inspiration to do the work, try to break even (at least) and recoup that cost. The pace is slow but it's all about being consistent.
This tea was hot and needed 😩. I'm so guilty of not showing up for me like I should. Honestly I needed this kick in the butt. Spirituality and Fitness! I'm on it friend! 😊
Periodddddd, the slipping on taking care of yourself is a huge factor for me too. It’s not always gonna feel good to do what needs to be done for your health but I never regret doing it in the end.
I’ve been showing up for myself by working out 4 times a week since the start of October. I haven’t had a regular workout schedule for years before this and I am feeling great! This video has affirmed me that I am doing great and motivated me to carry on. Thank you
16 mins in.. me just 2 weeks into weight training after learning I was pregnant. Why I couldn’t do it for myself BEFORE the little human? Good question Bria. So true! 😅
Girl thats why i had to take a whole sabbatical from social media and work. i had to figure out what i wanted again refocus. lately its just been go go go, now its stop and smell the roses. im happy to be getting back on track and being stronger and better than ever.
Absolutely, commitment to oneself is the foundation of all commitments. It's like building a strong and reliable base upon which you can construct the life you desire. When you're committed to your own growth, well-being, and goals, it becomes easier to commit to other things and people in your life.
I’m going to show up for myself in my daily habits of putting myself first and completing task that my future self is going to benefit from. Regardless of fear and not trusting myself.
Love this! I went from going to the gym at least 3 days a week and low sugar diet. To just completely falling off the wagon. Feeling tired, sluggish, depressed and congested. Which overlapped into my finances and everything else and I'm post menopause. Thank you so much!
I am a routine girlie to a certain extent so when I'm thrown off I get really inconsistent. Definitely believe that, if i don’t workout during that time frame, it’s over with. I paid a gym membership for 3 months and only went once. I missed the cutoff time and they charged me an annual fee. Now I put it on my calendar to go twice a week, because I hate wasting money. OH my goodness I say it all the time: SLEEP is the reason I’m not rich. We are just as worth it as Beyonce yessss. Non-negotiable: workout in the mornings on the days where I don’t work in the morning. Wake up 30 minutes early each week until I get to my desired wake up time.
Bria you just earned a new Subscriber OMG I was having one of the worst days. I was so unmotivated and scared and stuck in life so I looked up how to commit in life. Your video popped up, amd thank the lord it did. I have been slipping and saying "oh this is self care being lenient with myself", no Its not. For me It was like jenga slwly taking away blocks until tou realize it all fell down and you dont have healthy habbits anymore. I am struggling with College as well and this gave me the boost I needed to kick my butt in to gear. Ladies and Men please Commit 👏 To 👏 Your 👏 Self 👏💓
you are so real for this. i stopped showing up for myself recently and this has made it so clear to me why it’s been feeling like it’s been going downhill. now i know what i have to do
I completely understand, when you fall out of integrity with yourself every thing else just falls apart . When you show up for yourself everything else falls into place!
Sissssss! I am a bestie for life after this one! This video made me feel so seen. Thank you so much Bria. I could never articulate why I slowly spiraled into a depression starting almost 2 years ago. This explained the process so perfectly on how it’s a slippery slope down when getting away from our mood boosting habits. Thank you!
This is what I need. Thank you Bria like seriously 🙏🏾❤️. It’s time for me to step up and be there for myself. Because for one, I feel guilty when I’m not being there for me and that’s gonna affect me in many ways and I need to change that and I know it’s gonna take some time to get back on my feet but it’s part of growth and change to become better version of myself.
Dang I really needed this 😅 I’m going to show up for myself by prioritising moving my body 3 times per week cos it makes me feel good and helps me focus on my tasks / work throughout the day, but also for my kids so I can be fit enough to run around with them.
Funny that you said put up a picture of your inner self. I changed my profile pic to a childhood pic on one of my social medias and captioned it “doing it for her”. I recently committed to actually putting effort in my appearance when I leave the house. When I look better I feel better. Versus just throwing on whatever sweats and the same tshirt.
Giiiiiirl!!! Wow! I LITERALLY was just journaling this morning about me wanting to re-commit to myself and here you come 😭 this was perfect! Thank you so much
My goals are to get back to my old ways and be healthy/ fit. So when I do get pregnant , it’s not such an uphill battle and after pregnancy I can bounce back quicker
It's funny how this video came at the exact time I've been going through the same thing. Was super consistent with my workouts for months and one trip took me off my schedule. Which lead to the same thing that happened with you having to sleep in, reliance on take out, etc. Thanks for the inspiration to get my a** up! Haha
i love watching (listening) to ur videos at work so i can remind myself that i have a bigger purpose outside of my computer job & I can implement changes even tho I have this computer job doesn’t mean I can’t still plan to do things in the present that will help me achieve my dreams ❤️❤️
Also, this is a tip that may help somebody: if you want to create a new routine and you have a to-do-list, do the hardets one firts. For me is going to the gym. Everymorning I wake up, have breakfast and I go to the gym. Also, have time to relax and take a break.
I absolutely enjoyed this whole video. You are so real and raw. I also need to get serious about eating healthier and moving my body, also working more consistently on my business.
This video really resonated! The fact of letting myself go has definitely happened too in the last few months and as you I'm quite sensitive to getting anxious/depressed and I need that routine to feel like myself and show up for myself. Something that has been very helpful for me has been thinking "my mind is going to throw tantrums along the way and that's part of the process" to not take my negative thoughts seriously.
love this video!! I’m a freshman in college right now and i’m working on prioritizing myself. It’s a new environment for me bc I’m really here alone with so many distractions.. Consistency definitely plays a major part in seeing progress and I know I’ve fell off some of my self care routines since I’ve been here. It shows in my behavior and other places but I am committed to taking back control over my life. I’m done sitting in the passenger seat. 😊
I feel like I’ve made so many excuses due to my distractions and I’m so over it lol im committing to a routine and I AM NOT letting anyone get in the way of it not even myself 💕
bless u for sharing ur honest experiences, perspectives & tools for building up yourself/ going thru daily life. ur videos are somehow what i need to hear everytime they come up 🖤
I regularly tell myself 'effort will never betray you' and it helps keep me on the right path towards progress and remind me that I'VE got to show up for ME. Even if results aren't showing right now, I trust that the effort and energy will lead me to where I want to be. 👏
this was so helpful! you mentioned Dallas and I have been in the Fort Worth area and I swear I know you from somewhere!? (maybe a twin/doppleganger - whatever they call it) but just listening to you talk about the steps you took first in terms of working out was so helpful because for me too I HAVE to work out for my mental!
Bria can you discuss with us a little more in depth how your beginning days (the 6 months to a year or so) of content creation was for you? I feel like this time is so critical to get serious and stay accountable would love some advice or tips 🤎
Damn girl, how can you always give me the message exactly what I need EVERYTIME?! It started to be a bit creepy XD BUt srsly, nice one as usual and I'm very grateful for you to share all these content
