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You Need to Rest (I'm sick of this TikTok trend reaction) 

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REFERENCES 📚
Reaction to the first EEG - www.semel.ucla.edu/ishn/ab24-...
Default mode network - www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
Younger generations are burnt out - greatergood.berkeley.edu/arti...
ASMR for stress management - ieeexplore.ieee.org/document/...
Relaxing music for stress - www.semanticscholar.org/paper...
Physical relaxation techniques - www.semanticscholar.org/paper...
Self compassion benefits - www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/1...
Self-compassion and sleep quality - www.mdpi.com/2076-328X/10/3/64
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@MorriganJade
@MorriganJade 11 месяцев назад
Another ADHD "rest" tip I found: let your brain go to autopilot. Walk around in your apartment, and do whatever your brain feels like it. Be it chores, something productive, something creative, or nothing at all. The moment you go "auto-pilot", you recover the lack of energy of needing to focus on something, and just let your mind and body naturally drift into things.
@sirtra
@sirtra 11 месяцев назад
Yep i 2nd this and highly recommend trying it if you have ADHD. I only learnt/figured out recently that this is actually being beneficial rather than detrimental for my brain. Previously if i was stressed or whatever and had something looming i needed to do but couldn't, i would find myself pacing around, wanting to do other stuff but actively trying to avoid those shiney things grabbing my attention out of fear i'd be wasting time/energy and subsequent guilt etc. Little did i know that this has the complete opposite effect for the ADHD brain, making me more stressed and that looming thing even more of a challenge to tackle. Since embracing the shiney distractions rather than avoiding them, it's had a measurable improvement both mentally and physically... rather than an entire day going by with little to no progress on looming thing, letting myself do whatever catches my interest for a few hours in say the morning it actually sort of recharges or builds up the energy/focus i need to then easily tackle looming thing in the afternoon.. end result is a day of not only getting looming thing done, which in itself is a good thing, but also a heap of other stuff i wanted to do in the morning... it's amazing! Counterintuitive but works!
@redflamesundur
@redflamesundur 11 месяцев назад
I do some work in neuro-psychology, and it's becoming the concensus that it's so important to let your brain go into this 'default mode' cirquit, which is basically autopilot/daydreaming. A lot of emotional processing, attuning to your bodies wants and needs, etc. Not only do we now tell ourselves to work a lot, we also turn a lot of what used to be downtime into focussed attention-time (for example by listening to podcasts while driving or cleaning). Of course this has massive benefits as well - people can learn much more, and are much more productive - but it is very easy to lose sight of the function of downtime. It's important, and eliminating it completely will harm your ability to learn and be productive in the long term.
@tgypoi
@tgypoi 11 месяцев назад
That's really insightful. I haven't done that in a while and I've been feeling way more nervous than useful. I'm gonna start doing that more often.
@Myladyinred999
@Myladyinred999 11 месяцев назад
@@redflamesundur I have ADHD and I know a lot of others with ADHD that can also more easily slip into automode when there is audio stimulation going on. For example I can more easily fall asleep when there is a podcast or music in the background. Sometimes actively listening helps relaxing but also just the noice can oftentimes help to stop concentrating on anything 😊
@Respectable_Username
@Respectable_Username 11 месяцев назад
When the mood strikes on a weekend, it's amazing how relaxing cleaning my apartment can be! But it has to be _my_ choice, pursued in _my_ order (or lack thereof) for _my_ benefit. If there's an expectation that I clean at a certain time or in a certain way, it's no longer relaxing. Edit: This is re going on autopilot. I just realised I didn't make that clear originally. But yeah, when the mood strikes and can just wander from one thing to another, cleaning can be very relaxing, especially the dopamine rush from seeing results from actions in only a few mins! But as soon as it's no longer autopilot but now a demand, it's no longer relaxing and it sucks
@jamesholland7268
@jamesholland7268 11 месяцев назад
I find this to be quite interesting. I deal with severe chronic migraines, fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. It can be frustrating trying to explain to friends and family that one of the ways that helps me to manage my pain and such is to essentially do nothing. I don't go out of the house a lot. Yet, well meaning loved ones insist that if I just get out of house more, if I just do this or that, then I will miraculously feel better. They don't seem to grasp or understand that this is what is helping me to deal with the constant pain and exhaustion. It would be nice if society stopped with the incessant chant of "stay busy, always be doing something". There are those such as myself, who are dealing with chronic health problems that are unable to do that. In fact, doing so could be potentially fatal for some.
@kaitiemarie9572
@kaitiemarie9572 11 месяцев назад
Glad I am not the only one. My family just doesn't get it.
@aejlindvall
@aejlindvall 11 месяцев назад
Was going to write a very similar comment. I was getting just worse and worse before, now thanks to finding coming mechanisms that kinda helped my whole life, it has slowed down. A less restful activity for me now is watering my plants (carrying heavy wateringcan, stretching etc), but more restful is sitting outside I watcing what I planted, the insects buzzing around. And it's impossible to be ill when not only society around you don't understand that it's breaking you down, but as you said, family as well.
@spursstarwarssupernova
@spursstarwarssupernova 11 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for your comment, I also deal with chronic conditions like yours. And I wish that we weren’t always made to feel as though we are worthless for “not doing enough” or as though our illnesses (or the fact that we still have them) are our fault❤️‍🩹
@DeLaSoul246
@DeLaSoul246 11 месяцев назад
I also must rest often due to chronic conditions. It is hard enough on its own without other people judging out of ignorance, or worse, becoming hostile over it. Smh.
@safaiaryu12
@safaiaryu12 11 месяцев назад
Same - I was planning a similar comment! Before fibromyalgia, I was super into hustle culture. I was going to school full time, working multiple jobs, volunteering, and managed to have a social life as well. (Yeah, I didn't really sleep much.) Then fibromyalgia hit me like a freight train and 12 years on, I still get down on myself for not managing to do much outside of working enough to pay my bills. Even THAT is too much sometimes - I had to take medical leave for three weeks earlier this year and returned to work only part-time. This totally wrecked my mental health because I STILL judge myself on my productivity. Gotta love American worship of work! There are a lot of times where all I can handle is laying in bed and watching RU-vid on my phone, but like y'all, I'm constantly being told by people who are NOT healthcare professionals that I just need to sleep less and do more. No matter that sleeping less has me breaking down in a matter of days, if not hours! It's also fun when people tell me that this is all just because I'm depressed. Like, yeah, actually, I AM depressed, but it's BECAUSE of all this, not the source of it! You try being constantly exhausted and in pain for literal decades and tell me your mental health doesn't suffer...
@lw8882
@lw8882 11 месяцев назад
One of the most common habits among highly successful, and also highly well adjusted people, is meditation. Literally learning to do nothing.
@blindedbliss
@blindedbliss 10 месяцев назад
Learning contemplation, learning to observe thoughs and emotions without having them run you.
@JaniceT-Poet
@JaniceT-Poet 11 месяцев назад
Following a week of intense emotional stress I spent over a week "bed rotting" ... after which I felt rejuvenated and everything reset to a new low normal. It was wonderful!!!
@rethabiletaole2081
@rethabiletaole2081 10 месяцев назад
Why am I so nervous to do this
@karl2480
@karl2480 8 месяцев назад
​@@rethabiletaole2081 blame society (lmaoo)
@agelessorca
@agelessorca 11 месяцев назад
I'm glad you mentioned how those with ADHD find it difficult to relax in the "traditional" ways. I heard this from Jessica on her channel "How To ADHD", and was thinking about it as I watched the video.
@madnessintomagic
@madnessintomagic 11 месяцев назад
I was reading in Psychology Today just this morning about mental energy and it just reinforced how I’ve been feeling about my job. Treating patients used to be easier (for lack of a better word) for me, and I had an assistant. I could mentally check out or be distracted periodically, which my brain needs (add, aspergers maybe, and introversion). But in my current job I have to be **on** all day. There’s no breaks. I have to be hands on and mentally engaged with the patient for the entire treatment time. And when it’s done, there’s another one. And another one. And another one. I’m physically and mentally DONE half way through my second work day. It also makes me angry, because now my free time - and I have more days off now - isn’t MINE. It’s mental exhaustion and depression and apathy. If I spend my weekend bed rotting, then I resent the week even more, because its never about me or what I want to do. Which is deeply unhealthy. So this morning I was thinking maybe no books, no devices…. just sleep or baths. Going to try that this weekend.
@TheHjalmur
@TheHjalmur 11 месяцев назад
Even professionals are being expected to perform as though they were machines -- to improve the profit margin, of course (for others' benefit). All the best to you in finding your own best way through it all.
@madnessintomagic
@madnessintomagic 11 месяцев назад
@@TheHjalmur Thank you :) Funny that a week later is when someone comments. I’d forgotten all about my comment on this. I did actually take that day and *no devices*. I took a full gummy (which I never do) and got in a lukewarm bath. Shamanic drumming on my phone, and changed the smart light to pale green at 5% illumination. The eventually-cold water worked wonders. Fell asleep and 2 hours later felt great. The next day was the FIRST TIME in months, if not years, that my brain (and my urges) wanted to do something besides rotting on the couch streaming something. I cleaned up my craft/projects room, dusted - spent the whole day in there NOT on a screen. It was wonderful. I tried to replicate it this weekend, but couldn’t seem to put my ipad down. Trying though, now that I know it works so quickly.
11 месяцев назад
JOMO - joy of missing out.
@drali
@drali 11 месяцев назад
Thanks for sparking this conversation and having me on!
@PastelOddity
@PastelOddity 11 месяцев назад
I’m an AuDHD disabled mom with ankylosing spondylitis to an autistic toddler. I work from home, and a lot of my job is waiting. It allows me to essentially be a full time mom at the same time, which is great because I’m single. But it’s awful because it means that I count any time not working as “resting”, even when I’m driving my son to and from school, making meals, cleaning the house, etc. And so I feel disgustingly guilty at the end of the day when I’m tired and feel like I’ve done nothing. But I haven’t done nothing, I’ve been taking care of a toddler all day; and it’s really hard to accept that and actually realize that I deserve rest. I have to actively fight “you’re a lazy good-for-nothing” 24/7, and it’s exhausting on its own. My parents’ favorite catchphrase is/was “to do something productive” whenever we were bird or “lying around”. It’s a hard cycle to break.
@hadensnodgrass3472
@hadensnodgrass3472 11 месяцев назад
I learned nothing in this video, and it feels good.
@braincraft
@braincraft 11 месяцев назад
Love to hear it 😃
@vigilantcosmicpenguin8721
@vigilantcosmicpenguin8721 11 месяцев назад
Yeah. It's okay to learn nothing sometimes.
@Friendship1nmillion
@Friendship1nmillion 10 месяцев назад
​@braincraft I think that maybe " Bed Rotting " 🛌 is meant to be 💯% my life for happiness and contentment IF i could get away with it . ♑️✍️🇳🇴🇦🇺
@Friendship1nmillion
@Friendship1nmillion 10 месяцев назад
​@@braincraft👆
@Twargan
@Twargan 11 месяцев назад
Calling it "bed rot" seems like the same thing those influencers call stuff like rage applying and quiet quitting. Trying to make people feel bad about not just "sucking it up" and dealing with shitty situations.
@LeoAngora
@LeoAngora 11 месяцев назад
To me finding this videos is not equivalent to doing nothing. I learn, I reflect, I share and I enjoy. To me, doing nothing goes beyond not working.
@AryaPDipa
@AryaPDipa 11 месяцев назад
Agree with finding balance. Resting is cool and all but after a prolonged period of inactivity, I begin to feel groggy and restless (ironically.) Always remember not to be too sedentary
@christianhorner001
@christianhorner001 11 месяцев назад
I suffer with migraines and the best treatment I've found is sleep and "bed rot" . At least 1 day per week I need to have 12 hours of sleep and very little external stimulus and stress. Too much of it leads to grogginess, too little and I'll get hit with a savage migraine.
@dan_youtube
@dan_youtube 11 месяцев назад
There's nothing like going on a long drive and going into autopilot mode where you do nothing and think about nothing
@AndrewWorkshop
@AndrewWorkshop 11 месяцев назад
Some of my best ideas come to me when i am trying to fall asleep or when i wake up.
@webx135
@webx135 11 месяцев назад
I have trouble with where my balance is. I have ADHD+Depression, for reference. But I had a few years of heavy depression. I got into the habit of "laying in bed" being my default position. The depression has gotten better, but I still feel bed-ridden. I feel like my brain doesn't start until I get out of bed, but if I don't have a specific reason to get out of bed, I could stay in bed indefinitely. At the worst of my depression, I could go about 3 days of never leaving my bed until it would drive me insane and I would go for a walk, but nothing felt "worth doing" so back to bed it is. It is one of 3 traits that grew during that period: Weight gain, Always in bed, brain fog. I'm not sure which caused what, or if it's because I went from an active college life to a sedentary job. But my brain feels less lively and engaged. One of the most notable changes is that anxiety is being replaced with apathy. Instead of freaking out that I might be late for a meeting, I'll just blow by the meeting and be like "eh....whatever". It's a weird effect. I think I'm coming out of it. Especially now that I have a partner. But it felt less like "relaxing" and more like "atrophy of the mind and body".
@theyxaj
@theyxaj 11 месяцев назад
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@Andrew-qw1kq
@Andrew-qw1kq 11 месяцев назад
I sleep so much better when I don't set an alarm.
@shogun2215
@shogun2215 11 месяцев назад
I wonder how this fits in with those of us who suffer from ADHD, because when I haven't taken my medication my brain feels like it's a) completely unfocused and b) operating at beyond 100% and it becomes easy to be overwhelmed.
@veryde_3356
@veryde_3356 11 месяцев назад
Yeah this is why my idle habits always involve doodling or video games. Doing nothing either kicks my intrusive thoughts into overdrive or bores me to death.
@Munchausenification
@Munchausenification 11 месяцев назад
She mentions ADHD from around 5:35 . my mom has ADHD and she goes for walks almost every day, which is one of the things Braincraft also mentions.
@darkangelprincess101
@darkangelprincess101 11 месяцев назад
I don't know if this will help you any, but when my brain starts acting like that and I don't have to worry about anyone else communicating with me, I will put on a RU-vid video but I don't have to focus too much on and start a task that I've been dreading and in my brain zones out and I have done four times as much cleaning as I have planned. And oddly enough I feel rested afterwards
@M4TCH3SM4L0N3
@M4TCH3SM4L0N3 11 месяцев назад
It's interesting to me, especially because I have recently noticed that when my son watches videos on his tablet on car rides, his breathing pattern mimics that of light sleep: he takes short, slightly shallow breaths, punctuated with long pauses in-between. On the other hand, I have noticed that I can sometimes get stuck in a rut of just listening to content all of the time and just sort of shutting out the world even when I am doing something. I think that this temptation is exacerbated by my having ADHD, and my propensity to seek easy stimulation instead of allowing myself to experience the movement of time and the world around me. It's very isolating when I allow it to get out of hand, and I even end up isolated from my own being at times.
@FireBlazeX
@FireBlazeX 11 месяцев назад
I have adhd and all i do is stay in my default mode network and have difficulty getting anything done. I don't stress enough and am always relaxed which is an issue since theres no pressure to get anything done. So I have like the exact opposite problem. I need a lot more structure and a lot less bed rot.
@rocketRobScott
@rocketRobScott 11 месяцев назад
That dude is doing a fantastic John Green impression. 👏
@farouq7107
@farouq7107 11 месяцев назад
For me, relaxing and doing nothing is studying languages and music. As Ali said, it should make you feel relaxed. It is heavy work, but there is no exams; money; due dates to stress me out while doing it
@Wyatt97
@Wyatt97 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for this! Our obsession with hyper productivity, growth, climbing up the ladder, etc (examples of a lexicon that increasingly seems to be weaponized against our psyche) has estranged us from our ability to simply BE. Our attention/focus has been drawn and quartered, leaving us with a fractured sense of self. It serves the interests of the employers, companies, governments, elites (whatever you wish to call those groups/people who seek to maximize their profit and control ) to keep us busy DOING, because when one is always caught up in doing, they have little time and energy to consider what they’re thinking. While we need our own individual balance of both Doing and Thinking, this myopic regard for maximum doing at the expense of thinking dulls our overall awareness of our Being. Could be wrong, just a thought. Great video!!
@tcesarmarcelo
@tcesarmarcelo 11 месяцев назад
Agreed!
@Pingwn
@Pingwn 11 месяцев назад
Sometimes, just lying in bed and staring at the ceiling, letting my thoughts run with no focus or aim for an hour or two can make me feel much better. For me productivity means to be better at managing my goals, and my maim goals are to be happy and to be healthy. Resting is more productive than working 12 hours shifts from 5 am to me, because living happy and healthy life is more important than having more money
@WhatIsSanity
@WhatIsSanity 11 месяцев назад
For some people there is no reprieve from stress. Achieving rest can be extremely difficult even with a lot or all of ones time available to do nothing, the causes for which are many and some people have multiple. For me a awful slurry of ADHD, ASD, major depression and PTSD make rest rare for me, and even if I achieve a restful state I often don't get to experience the benefits because being conscious at all is exhausting. Various sources of chronic pain only exacerbate this. Sometimes the phrase "I'll rest when I'm dead" rings so true it is quite frightening.
@TreesPlease42
@TreesPlease42 9 месяцев назад
There's a reason they say that the dead look peaceful. It's because the todo list is finally empty, everything's done, and you can let go.
@TreesPlease42
@TreesPlease42 9 месяцев назад
I feel the trauma fatigue. I find downtime exhausting because I have to protect myself from intrusive thoughts. Especially difficult on stressful days. I feel a lot of pressure to cope because I know my life would collapse without it.
@b4theend260
@b4theend260 11 месяцев назад
I’m a seasonal worker. I live in my car and travel between seasons. To me, rest is a month or 2 National park hopping, writing poetry, and learning something new. I’ve learned snowboarding, worked on my rollerblading, learned ukulele, studied meditation, and in the upcoming shoulder season, I’ll be in a city so I plan to master the surf skate. I work hard when I’m on a contract but I don’t believe in spending my life at work
@kaspersergej
@kaspersergej 11 месяцев назад
I started relaxing, like a lot and thought man am I lazy. Turns out I just was in mood for nothing, bordering on burnout or depression, who knows.
@DoctorX17
@DoctorX17 11 месяцев назад
I like going for walks for my "nothing" time. Sometimes I just let myself be in bed for a while in the morning, but that can be dangerous with my depression [especially on the weekends when I know I don't have to be somewhere at a particular time]. Walks are nice because I can just look around and not really focus on anything in particular... mind just wanders... and usually away from the usual depression stuff, more about what's going on around me, or maybe story ideas
@xjmg007
@xjmg007 11 месяцев назад
I find that separating myself from frustrating problems I'm trying to solve typically results in solving them. The thing that weirds me out is how much thinking is happening without my will in the background of my mind.
@JohnWinquist
@JohnWinquist 11 месяцев назад
I was stuck on some code for a program I was working on. I actually dreamt the solution that worked.
@AllTheArtsy
@AllTheArtsy 11 месяцев назад
Rest and sleep is good. Loitering around in bed, scrolling through social media apps, or online shopping, maybe not so much? Idk I still think less people have a doing-too-much problem...
@Dismythed
@Dismythed 11 месяцев назад
I developed the habit of resting any time I feel tension and then developed the habit of getting up when, and only when, I feel completely rested. Any time I feel down emotionally, I either do not rest (except at bed time) or keep my anxiousness to act revved (if resting during the day when down). This assures that I will not end up falling into depression by too much rest or resting at the wrong time. I spent most of my life in depression until I was 39. Now I carefully monitor my emotional state and my habits to make sure I never fall back into it. Be vigilant in regard to your emotions. Do whatever healthy thing you can do to keep them in balance. Your quality of life goes down when your emotions are not in check.
@aellalee4767
@aellalee4767 11 месяцев назад
I love spending time doing nothing, and separately meditating in different ways, and cloud watching where I half pay attention. Reminds me of the song for a show Corner Gas "There's not a lot going on, baby you're so wrong. That's why we can stay so long, because there's not a lot going on."
@Jaredvic
@Jaredvic 11 месяцев назад
Bed rotting is what happens when I’m depressed and I hate it. I don’t know why anyone would want to do it intentionally
@WakingDreamer01
@WakingDreamer01 11 месяцев назад
Amazing. It seems I was a natural striver...of nothingness - and I didn't even know it! Watching YT videos or watching video games, listening to lofi music, and then bed rotting are some of my favourite personal pastimes. So while I do get stressed at work like everyone else, my workmates always see me as the calm and collected guy. They see me as one of the most chilled, centred and reliable work collegues - and a big part of that I think is my "do nothing" down time. Now, I can say it's backed up by research so thanks!
@chillsahoy2640
@chillsahoy2640 11 месяцев назад
I've been thoroughly confused by "bed rotting" being a trend and even more confused by the backlash it has received. I've always assumed that peope want to have time off so they can rest, relax and do whatever is fun or relaxing for them? "In my day" we called it having a lazy day or a lie-in. How did we get to the point where people feel a pressure to be productive even on their time off?
@r21167
@r21167 10 месяцев назад
Curling up under soft blankets or even a weighted blanket is soothing to me. Also going for a walk and journalling are great for letting my mind wander. When I know my wandering mind will go to dark places, I put on podcasts, meet friends, play games, watch RU-vid, read.
@Iquey
@Iquey 11 месяцев назад
Bed rotting is just a funny new name. People do need rest. I understand if you're depressed, you shouldn't last in bed all day. Or if you're a new mom or just poor and work a lot, you likely can't either. But we can rest from a lot of other things, that steal our peace, including social media.
@THETRIVIALTHINGS
@THETRIVIALTHINGS 11 месяцев назад
I'm all for it. Plus, my own experience has been that the more I rest, the clearer my mind is.
@leanykakicsi6152
@leanykakicsi6152 10 месяцев назад
When I have downtime I like to make pretty things. Not just because I also struggle with wanting to be productive all the time... even when I don't want to be productive I like to draw, bead, crochet, etc even when I know I won't 'use' the product or even when I'll just look at it, take a photo of it to show my friends then put it away after it's done. Drawing my characters, crocheting a nice flower, making a bracelet I'll never wear or painting a picture just makes me happy. I like to try out new techniques and the feeling of finishing a project (however small) makes me feel satisfied. Crocheting is a great hobby for this in my opinion, after you learned the very basics you can literally make a pretty flower in ten to fifteen minutes.
@rozennrd4802
@rozennrd4802 11 месяцев назад
I've been bed rotting since before it was cool, I always found laying in bed for two or three days helps me reset, now I use more couch potatoing. Now after two burn outs, I have been through a lot of phases. I've tried very hard to gain more energy and be able to do more. I am changing workplace, but these past two years I had a chaotic schedule and that was very stressful and made it hard to find some downtime. Now I'm in holidays before switching to the new workplace and I've been playing video games for three days straight (40h in three days) and that feels amazing, like I'm finally resting for a bit, finally thinking about something else, and I didn't even realize I needed that. My days are usually very structured : wake up early, eat, do some cerebral stuff, eat, do more cerebral stuff, some physical activity (like yoga, to help relax, or cardio when I feel I can't stop myself), some cleaning, eat, shower, some more cleaning, and go to bed. Having unstructured downtime is pretty unusual for me and I know I need it buuut I also want to do all these things and it's hard to find a balance. In uni, I used to plan "Nothing Weekends" to just lie around in bed, but as an adult living with someone else it's harder to do. And I do like the productivity that comes with that structure, the ability to do more stuff. But I need more downtime I think...
@ianv2875
@ianv2875 11 месяцев назад
I like to lay down and look at the ceiling. Eventually i just disappear into my mind and I’ll just let it explore. Sometimes i don’t even remember any thoughts. It’s nice. I have adhd and depression, so balance is usually a bit confusing, but I really enjoy nothingness:)
@Uscreen
@Uscreen 10 месяцев назад
I love that you compared relaxation to a coffee order. It truly is different for everyone and I love that you made a point of this - Jack
@RodrigoBarbosaBR
@RodrigoBarbosaBR 11 месяцев назад
Teaching classes and being with my students is actually resting for me. I'm both a lawyer and a law school teacher. I do have my down times, and I can do several different things. Reading good books, watching something etc.
@karasuchrono
@karasuchrono 11 месяцев назад
As someone with high anxiety issues, this video hit true.
@schmid1.079
@schmid1.079 11 месяцев назад
If feeling comfy and entertained in my bed is wasting my life, then so be it.
@wanderingrandomer
@wanderingrandomer 11 месяцев назад
I could never spend hours in bed. I get mega headaches if I lay down for too long and get too hot under the blankets. I'd much rather get up at 8:30am and play a game for an hour or two.
@bendarel
@bendarel 11 месяцев назад
I feel that most of the ppl that never had something like a burnout doesn't really understand the aspect of "Do nothing" as mean to really allow your mind and body to reset itself. Even taking a vacation and travel isn't the same as stay in bed and just rest or have some light level activity (watching a movie that you know very well, read easy going books,...) Often I am met with raised eyebrows when I tell colleagues that I am taking vacation to do absolutely nothing. No activities, no decision making, no nothing. We are so used to fill out our time to the maximum value that we don't even remember things anymore.
@veganjotaro
@veganjotaro 10 месяцев назад
I thought taking a break and not trying to be too productive was either me being depressed or my self love language.
@TamWam_
@TamWam_ 2 месяца назад
I used to have nothing/bed-rotting days without knowing it was a trend, i js felt like doing nothing at all. i procrastinate a lot, too. but ofc, if youre using it to run away/procrastinate on an assignment, then its prob bad. so sometimes i js tell myself to suck it up and begrudgingly do the work im meant to. the thing is, at first its a daunting task, but its not so bad after you actually work on it, and it can become fun. the hardest step into doing a task is beginning it
@AnotherAnonymousMan
@AnotherAnonymousMan 11 месяцев назад
Just wanted to take a moment to say thank you for making such wonderful videos. This channel makes a positive difference to my life and I'm genuinely grateful. ✌✌✌
@Imperiused
@Imperiused 11 месяцев назад
Well I'll have you know I basically did nothing my last day off! Thanks for making me feel a bit better about it! :D
@mmichaeld80
@mmichaeld80 11 месяцев назад
I find it hard to rest or do nothing and while I had been trying to do nothing by just sitting and watching videos I ended up tidying up the kitchen counter and wiping it down as this video neared the end and FELT SO GUILTY 😌
@Robstar0
@Robstar0 11 месяцев назад
I love how Nessie recorded half this video by talking, and the other half of the time by resting on the couch. And well, there's montage of course.
@ailst
@ailst 11 месяцев назад
Ever since I first heard about the "motivational triad" in a Ted-Talk by Dr. Doug Lisle, I try to categorize the things I do into "Pleasure seeking", "pain avoidance" and "energy perservation". If an activity doesn't fit in their, I'd say it's highly questionable of whether it should be done at all. I eventually started working part-time because the earnings would still be enough for "pain avoidance" and I much rather invest my time into "pleasure seeking" and "energy preservation."
@darkangelprincess101
@darkangelprincess101 11 месяцев назад
For me to be able to relax enough and focus enough to read, I found laying a hammock while pushing myself with my feet keeps my brain occupied enough to actually focus on my book. And even though my feet are moving to keep me moving I don't feel like I'm using any energy at all I am completely relaxed
@crackers0413
@crackers0413 11 месяцев назад
Lately I’ve been finding myself practicing nothingness by looking at a fixed point on a wall (dristi) and being mindful of keeping my eyes open (while still remembering to blink!!) 😂 I find that it slows my heart rate while still keeping me alert enough to keep tabs on what’s going on upstairs
@Nukelover
@Nukelover 11 месяцев назад
Dr. Ali is John Green's brother from another mother. The resemblance is uncanny.
@solidazoriginal
@solidazoriginal 11 месяцев назад
Going to one of my favourite cafes, getting a coffee and a snack, vibing with the soundscape of the environment and letting my mind wander
@braincraft
@braincraft 11 месяцев назад
Love this!
@solidazoriginal
@solidazoriginal 11 месяцев назад
Literal deer-in-headlights shocked moment when Braincraft likes my comment and replies
@HYPERC666
@HYPERC666 11 месяцев назад
studying French on Duo Lingo is my current 'doing nothing'
@Na5iR11
@Na5iR11 11 месяцев назад
Mindfulness meditation and sprinting 5:25
@leelarson1952
@leelarson1952 11 месяцев назад
Classic BrainCraft content, Vanessa, and worth the wait--not that I am biased in any way. "Sick of the rest shaming" indeed!!! Although "Bed Rotting" doesn't sound very positive, as terms go. Loved the "bowler hat Bros" line regarding Dr. Berger's early research with EEG. When you cracked yourself up with the "I feel so lazy, right now" line, I laughed right along with you. And nice to see Dr. Ali again, btw.
@jamesgrover2005
@jamesgrover2005 7 месяцев назад
So In a secluded sunny corner of the garden I have this thai style hut, but it's in the Netherlands.. a short gently babbling Brooke comes from under the hut and there's a hammock. You swing and everything falls away, only problem is.. autumn/winter 😅
@T1Oracle
@T1Oracle 11 месяцев назад
My wife rest shames me. To be honest, I am under stress and have faced a lot of fear and self doubt since some recent major life changes. Regardless, outdoor exercise and a diet rich in fresh fruit and veggies does wonders for my health and energy levels.
@williamsurname4669
@williamsurname4669 11 месяцев назад
I always enjoy these videos. Here is a little snack for the algorithm.
@JRusk56
@JRusk56 11 месяцев назад
I agree with you. Don't feel guilty about resting. I read an article recently, and it stated all of the great geniuses named, except one, Mozart, (I knew you'd be disappointed if I didn't tell you which one), got 7-9 hours of sleep a night. And you are right about all these improvement videos on RU-vid. Another trend, which has nothing to do with your subject, but I'm tired of are all these videos by both men and women blaming women for why men aren't dating anymore. I'm really tired of that one. It's putting women down. I confess to watching ASMRs not for the tingly effect but for the relaxing effect, so feel free to watch them. And no, you aren't lazy. You are not a lazy person. You just need your rest sometimes, and you might be going through a period when you need even more. I've gone through a period where I was worried about the outcome of COVID and am still concerned about the future of democracy in America. I'm tired of all the shouting and name-calling. And I want the US to remain a stable and functual democracy. I just have to get away from it all sometimes. Hopefully, it will resolve itself soon. There's still the Ukrainian crisis. We've all had a lot to worry about. So get some rest and don't feel bad about it.
@noytelinu
@noytelinu 11 месяцев назад
When I was smol, I was constantly stressed and exhausted. I had so much to do that was forced upon me and I was terrified of how little time I had befoee I had to do the next thing. Being dragged around to see and do things that you don't care about and meet people you don't know and all these time filling activities sucked. I was happiest at home, doing nothing but stare at the ceiling. Now that I'm an adult I am way less stressed. I don't have people taking me to see my 2nd cousin once removed or anything like that. I can do what I want when I have my free time and that has been nothing. I get that parents want their kids to be sucsessful in life and that the best athletes and musicians and so on have practiced all the time every day since they could stand but if you want your kids to actually be happy allow them to be able to do nothing. Also, time to lean, time to clean is stupid and malicious.
@alexwixom4599
@alexwixom4599 11 месяцев назад
I guess I do that because of my depression. I would like to get up and do something but nothing aside from actual obligations like work, can really get me out of bed. The lack of motivation doesn't reduce the desire to want to do something, so it's an easy depression loop to slip into.
@Mr_Sunshine094
@Mr_Sunshine094 11 месяцев назад
Life can be funny. One moment you are busy with social life, work, responsibilities and whatnot. Your life is hectic, chaotic but fun and engaging if draining. And then when you finally have downtime you start to miss it all. That's the case with me at least. I'm itching to go back into all of it, for it feels like I've taken an unreasonably long "break". To anyone who's read this: rest... or don't. Do things at your own pace. Listen to those worth listening to and ignore the "noise". Balance is key and for everyone life balancing act can be difficult and different.
@stephenmaher4690
@stephenmaher4690 11 месяцев назад
NPR Life Kit: Why rest is an act of resistance!
@denisesiddon7241
@denisesiddon7241 11 месяцев назад
As a hsp it is helpful for me to rest even sleep after work before I do my first task at home
@Paul_ABC
@Paul_ABC 11 месяцев назад
"By watching this video, you've already begun" Really? Does it count if I'm cooking lunch and replying to emails on my phone while I watch? 😅
@AndreAlforque
@AndreAlforque 11 месяцев назад
As an autistic person, I struggle with all of this, but especially finding something that allows my mind to truly rest.
@theyxaj
@theyxaj 11 месяцев назад
Special interests can be restorative for autistic brains! Besides that, I like stimming (vibing to music is my favorite), satisfying my sensory needs (for me, it is quiet, deep pressure, darkness), and guided meditation.
@CatsT.M
@CatsT.M 11 месяцев назад
3:17 Of course it is still true, as the saying I constantly quote says: "plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose" or, as it goes in English: "the more things change, the more they stay the same". ...but what if my unproductive activies are learning and working? Like, I will try to gather as much information as I can while I am not doing anything...perhaps I am just one deviating from the mean, and the people in the mean do not like learning when they want to relax. I do not know, I like doing things because I get to learn how the world operates. Also, also, sounds when I am trying to work are _SO_ distracting, like when I used to put on music as an attempt to work I would focus on how the music itself was working instead of doing the actual work. Like I would put down my pencil or stop writing something just to focus on how something was played or composed. If it is a bowed instrument instead of listening to the actual music I more of pay attention to how the bow's mechanics would work for the sound being produced but, that is because I play cello soooo...yeah. 'ey! I have ADHD and, yeah, I do not really relax, and I enjoy that because relaxing is distracting when I want to write a random thought that just appeared in my head that I know I will forget in like a minute so I have to get quickly to my computer and the...oh, I already forgot it never mind. SPEAKING OF THAT! I already forgot what this comment was supposed to be about, Cheers!.........not the show, a way of showing one is leaving Speaking of not realising you brain is always working what this comment was originally going to be about: since I have ADHD I do notice the fact that it is always working in the background. I seem to only hear snippets of the rambling and waffling that goes on when I am doing nothing, quite interesting to see how the human mind works if I do say so myself.
@empathytrail4758
@empathytrail4758 11 месяцев назад
Scientifically speaking if we do nothing the universe lives longer because of the decrease of entropy released in the universe
@nojn1490
@nojn1490 11 месяцев назад
Doing nothing for me is just going blank
@cynsen
@cynsen 11 месяцев назад
NOTHINGNESS! I love it. I finally found the word to describe my down time. I’ve been a bed rotter my whole life!
@KaliTragus
@KaliTragus 11 месяцев назад
Even though it's still work, my favourite rest from my computer work at work is doing repetitive packaging tasks. Not much thought beyond counting to four or six, and I can either listen to a podcast, music, or nothing and zone out for a few hours.
@JonnyHuman
@JonnyHuman 11 месяцев назад
Doing nothing for me is noodling on the guitar or laying flat on the ground
@TheGirlWhoExists
@TheGirlWhoExists 11 месяцев назад
Funny to run across this after a bed-only day 😊
@alexwixom4599
@alexwixom4599 11 месяцев назад
Can you talk about Neuro-plasticity? I find it hard to change how I think. I can notice and try to stop my negative self-talk or understand that my depression is a chemical imbalance. But when it comes to changing the patterns of thoughts to avoid that, I get stumped.
@Shiralkian
@Shiralkian 11 месяцев назад
I've always liked staying in bed a couple hours after waking up, giving some time to myself before getting on with the day. The time I was most miserable was when I had to wake up at 5:30 every day, which was too early to set a snooze alarm, so I couldn't even enjoy 5 minutes of resting before getting up, I'd fall back into sleep immediatly and the important thing for me while snoozing is to be awake but in bed for a bit.
@cayreet5992
@cayreet5992 11 месяцев назад
For me, resting is either watching videos just for fun, reading, listening to music, or just lying in bed and doing nothing. I do make sure to keep enough time for all of this, because I've had a burn-out several years ago and I don't want to go back to that ever again. Rest is really, really important, being lazy is far more important than all of hustle culture together.
@feldinho
@feldinho 11 месяцев назад
watching this from the bed at 12:52 PM.
@BigGroupHug
@BigGroupHug 11 месяцев назад
if your dopaminergic system is being stimulated by your phone scrolling, it isn't true bed rotting . Getting closer to nothing has been helpful.
@SirAU
@SirAU 11 месяцев назад
Thanks for the advice. I may be late but... thanks!
@maxximumb
@maxximumb 11 месяцев назад
You only have to look to our close relatives, the great apes, who along with us have evolved to look for food, eat food then rest and conserve energy and do the social bonding stuff. If downtime and resting is wrong, why does our brain and body reward us for doing it? Why do we have to sleep? The body and brain need time to repair and do daily maintenance. This is why we sleep and need to rest. Giving 100% all the time is unhealthy and I'm guessing profit and having 'more stuff' is at the root of this. Employers want more, so demand more from their employees, making them feel shame or fear for not giving their all. Another employee is always waiting to replace the ones that burn out. Especially as healthcare in the US is locked behind a paywall, where this culture is rife. You have to look after yourself first, then the other stuff.
@braincraft
@braincraft 11 месяцев назад
But imagine how much more productive Chimpanzees could be if they set a 5 a.m. alarm and used Notion?
@SnakeAndTurtleQigong
@SnakeAndTurtleQigong 11 месяцев назад
Sending gratitude from a Daoist monastery near Seattle (USA)!
@Kayclau
@Kayclau 11 месяцев назад
I would do everything from bed if I could. But after a while my body demands me to do something physical. And it is a vicious cycle, the more I stay in bed, the harder it is to get out of it. I need to find my balance.
@Mindseas
@Mindseas 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for a thought provoking video! Resting is important for sure, and I'm glad you brought this up, and equally appreciate the research and quoting. My mental health has required me to rediscover my own proclivities and finding a balance between doing and not doing. I appreciate that I need to rest, and it's taken me years to start to see what works for me. And because of that experience I think - similar to what Dr Ali was saying about listening to what works for you personally when it comes to "bed rotting", the "resting is the hardest thing to do" quote is a pretty gross generalization. In our hectic western/global civilization, is it difficult to just be, and not even think about it? yes, and it's called meditation. Is it difficult not feel guilty about "doing nothing"? Absolutely. Again, meditation. I jest, but I do feel these two are related. Is it the hardest thing anyone can do? I don't think so. In my experience the hardest thing is to overcome your own resistance for growth and development - be it physically, mentally, or even professionally. I suppose for me being still is not difficult because I've literally had to learn to do it to remain functional - and wanted to as well, as it suits me better. I'm well aware however that everyone is different. For me, the hardest thing to do is doing things which are difficult, where I'm not comfortable at. But that's where the most growth is. Oh, and this video was definitely not sponsored by that cafe house which shall remain unnamed ;)
@PHDiaz-vv7yo
@PHDiaz-vv7yo 11 месяцев назад
Totally - although I’m not a great example. As a GP, a 13 hr day and subsequent burnout is frequent- add in 3 boys - one severely autistic and I live for idle time. That’s usually 5.30-6.30am weekdays and right now on weekends when I can. Like watching this video
@angeladunnangiedraws
@angeladunnangiedraws 11 месяцев назад
Watching people play video games is my go-to. I have ADHD and actually being able to relax is surprisingly difficult..... I'll be watching/listening to someone else play a game while I play another game, buuuut that's not really relaxing anymore.
@azyfloof
@azyfloof 11 месяцев назад
I feel like I'm cheating by not watching this in bed :P Thank you for validating the need to rest! Sometimes people place too much importance of "doing" things. Do the important stuff of course; eat, stay hydrated, have your meds. But you don't have to fill every waking moment with doing stuff 🥰🥰
@alittlebindi25
@alittlebindi25 10 месяцев назад
Lying down and enjoying a quiet moment and just being alive is not wrong. Animals also take their time to rest, meditate and nap.
@MArgusChopinGyver
@MArgusChopinGyver 11 месяцев назад
Well, I love to watch some RU-vid randomly. Also I love to cycling on the weekend. Felt really fresh to go out in the morning
@ajplays-gamesandmusic4568
@ajplays-gamesandmusic4568 11 месяцев назад
I legit bedrotted for most of yesterday. It was a work day too.
@sewerface
@sewerface 11 месяцев назад
Just do nothing. Nothing is better than Luton Larry
@MrTheGadfly
@MrTheGadfly 11 месяцев назад
Great video. Thanks. BTW - your Doctor Ali link does not work.
@maryvandermolen8345
@maryvandermolen8345 10 месяцев назад
Rest, recuperation, recovery, sleep, recharging, downtime... All excellent, necessary, rejuventating things. I just hate the term "bed rotting". It conjures up images of decay, of necrosis, of unhealthily stewing in your own sweat for days on end. I can't understand why anyone would latch onto such a negative term for the positive practice of rest. I'm not surprised there's a backlash. What we call things matters.
@essysworld398
@essysworld398 10 месяцев назад
Napping, scrolling Instagram, or watching short form videos
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