Omo!!! emotional abuse is traumatic. I currently have a trigger for anything that seems like manipulation, control and gaslighting because i've seen it and its crazy being in that space. no capping, there are gems in this conversation and the topic can never be overemphasized.
OMG this video healed my pains and sorrows. I have never felt this proud of myself before. 99percent of every red flags that you guys talked about in this video were what I was going through with my EX for 1yr and six months that we were married . honestly some of them I didn't know they were red flag until now like that ,him always calling and knowing where you are or what you are doing. Someone that doesn’t allow me to lock our door because he doesn't want me to know when he enters the house so in case I'm on a call with anyone he will catch me. I left the marriage this Feb because he started hitting me😢 sometimes I do feel like I over reacted by leaving the marriage bcos he took my 1yr old from me. But now I'm proud of myself for leaving. It was too Toxic. I miss my son soo much but I'm healing gradually. Knowing now that I did the right thing comforts me.
A mother should stand against all odds to be with her child. Any man who stops that is a devil and she should not hesitate to seek redress. There are lawyers and agencies for such
1. He calls only on WhatsApp- Red Flag 2. Checks on you only when it’s convenient for him - Red Flag 3. Never bother to check up on you when you’re down with sickness -Red Flag. 4. Tells you he’s busy at work and forgot to check on you in times you needed him most - Red Flag 5. Pressing his phone when you’re having a serious discussion with him- Red Flag. 6. Gives money to his siblings and anyone else, but tells you he’s cash trapped always- Red Flag 7. Does not like your body stature and wants you to look in a certain way- Red Flag 8. Always watching your progress behind but never interested in contributing to your progress- Red Flag
Aside from the insults 😅, I totally enjoyed this 👌 thank you amazing duo ❤️ Another red flag that may not be an obvious one is when the partner prefers to and does the cheapest things with you, e.g. calls only on WhatsApp, goes on only free events, avoids spending money on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Every relationship should have a healthy amount of give and take.
@@vickieogb1262it actually has nothing to do with financial capacity, and that's what makes this a very subtle red flag. There are cheapskates amongst both the rich and the poor.
@vickieogb1262 that’s not an excuse, no matter your financial capacity. You can do these things without having to break the bank. A good partner can achieve these things with little budget
They'll now say, I celebrate you everyday.... February 14th is not the only day I'll show you I love you..... Common getat!!!! Taaar!!!!!! Gerrarahere..... Mschew
I have a guy like that, he always call every now and then, when i make calls he always want to know who is calling, to the extent everyone around me knows he is the one that is calling when ever my phone rings, and he was still asking me to date him oo, omo me that don't like disturb i just told him i can't date him, because i already know what i can't take or tolerate in my life
Another red flag someone preaches they love you, yet don't like calls everyday, such a big red flag or says they would do something but end up not even remembering or asking at all, red flag
Thank you so much for highlighting these red flags because somethings we take them for granted. Me chaaa I talk and deal with issues so that my Hubby don't repeat whatever
I so much love this two amazing women ❤️ 💕 always saying what I can't take in relationship or marriage, even if I'm still single, some times i just think ad feel like i am wanting too much ad it will be difficult for me to find my perfect husband, because i know I'm good to go the only problem with me is that, i don't take nonsense ad also get angry when my partner doesn't understand what I'm saying or how I feel over things or issue
Nobody is perfect and marriage will expose your imperfections. So I’d say pray to Jesus to help expose this guy to you and then make sure he is humble enough to admit his wrongs and to improve and do better next time and see the fruits. But always pray. There is power in prayer. It’s very helpful in marriage when your spouse starts being selfish and or inconsiderate
I think with not showing anger it's relative. Some men or women just don't want to deal with your drama. Maybe they are waiting to leave the relationship.
See, if he doesn't like to eat out, it's not a big deal to me o.... Shey he cooks everyday for himself? If he does that, I don't mind, I'll now think properly if I am ready to enter that relationship... I'll not enter.... 😝
Nelo is intelligent, the anal s*x question is on point, we both gave same response co-incidentally, i was like how did he experience it at first? Huge red flag if its not your kind of thing
