When I was insecure men were constantly approaching me. The moment I started realizing my potential most men started ignoring me. Most of these xy are looking for their next victim . . .
Same experience and it disgusts me. As a gawky 12 yr old, I was followed and flirted with by grown men. Once I matured and became attractive, crickets. Thank goodness, but I'm disgusted.
I stopped the video to see what other people were saying because I thought the same thing: she’s BEAUTIFUL! Like who did she grow up around and who were the guys around her? Because almost anywhere else in the world besides where she grew up, she would be considered gorgeous. I’m having a hard time believing guys weren’t interested because she is even pretty while crying with no make-up on and her head covered by a stocking cap. Sheesh. Ok. Back to the video.
Seriously! Beautiful eyes and beautiful full lips! I consider her prettier than me and I'm always stopped by men. The time I wasn't stopped was when I was insecure. She needs to carry herself better because men can tell a confident woman from an insecure one from a mile away.
Stop it with the struggle love ladies these dusty bandits are never worth it and they will never appreciate you. Don’t waste your time entertaining bums. Life has beautiful things in store for you, don’t block your blessings by entertaining demons.
She’s young. I got married at 19 and still to the same man at 40. I didn’t have this problem, But I do believe with age and time she will be a wise woman. As for me, I had amazing examples in my life as a child so I was wise before my time lol….
This is heartbreaking. Young ladies, young people, as a 41-year-old woman, let me put you on some game. There is so much life to live. Before you think about finding someone else, find yourself. Before you think about loving someone else, love yourself. Focus on YOU. It's better to be alone than to be in bad company.
Men do not respect you when you’re there for them while they’re broke, especially if you help them pay for things. They will resent you for being the provider in the relationship when they couldn’t be.
Being alone is a blessing sometimes. And most of these women who “ aren’t single”- are the main ones actually hating on real single women. They have to spend years and years struggling with a woman, simply to gain a little bit of respect and some worthless “ s3x”.
Bring back writing in diaries. The internet is not your personal diary. She's letting the next men know everything they can get away with. They can smell low self esteem a mile away
I agree but black women have been doing this for decades. Nobody taught us to choose better meanwhile non black women got the good men in our community. Even if they just wanted the money they got that too. We are learning to choose better and knowing it's okay to want better.
Listen they take advantage EVERY TIME! And they will be with you for years ! YEARS! and some women truly believe that those years matter, but they DONT!
Coming from a Trans woman, let me put in my two cents if I may. Never pour your all into a man. Never build a man up. Use him for all his resources. Most importantly, never let him get too comfortable.
They use them because society doesn’t believe they’re being used when they tell them they’re being used and then turn around and blame them for beginning use as if they can read minds
She sounds like my sister used to sound. She's a beast now and has so much self esteem and confidence now. We all go thru this...I hope she never lets a man put her thru anything like this again.
That man was insecure too!! He probably needed her more than she needed him. I’m glad she shared her story, because these stories are the ones that helped me get out of a 15 year relationship that was no longer serving me. We all learn from each other! She is just trying to vent. Holding things in hurts worst than any embarrassment.
Blessings to you sister. Often time when women of all ages have been what they deem to be real relationships or marriages for years and years on end- they don’t want to hear from other women. They don’t want advice, reassurance or anything. I’m glad you sought out better for yourself and may many rich blessings lie ahead for you.
I feel for her. She was just a convenience for him. Been there done that. Men will use you for whatever and however long you let him. As women we have to enforce boundaries. It’s hard when you get a taste of something you’ve always wanted, it’s hard to let it go. But if you keep going out of your way for him without requiring him to reciprocate, you are losing all of your leverage and you are losing his respect. Take your power back, let him go. It’s better to cry because you broke it off then to cry because he did. Preserve yourself. ❤
They told you if you build with them they leave you They dont respect you When they level up They leave HE SAW THAT SHE DIDN’T LOVE HERSELF SO HE DIDN’T FEEL THE NEED TO LOVE HER LADIES LEVEL UP SHOW THEM YOUR STANDARDS THEY WILL THEN FOLLOW
@@downbad2874 I think you meant helping somebody and no helping somebody doesn’t mean you don’t love yourself you need to complete the sentence you need to finish the situation in her case and in many cases of women like ressa Tessa they believe they are deficient in something it makes them luck loving themselves and then they allow other people to mistreat them and I love them they don’t feel worthy of that love in the first place I like what you did there but I didn’t work.
@@blossom1290 now supporting your man’s feelings and building him and investing in him in ways that he should be investing in you are not the same I’m sorry I don’t agree with not supporting men’s feelings now we’re taking it too far. If your man loves you love and nurture your man pour into him the same level that he pours into you
@@Khadiyah01 I'm talking about horrible men not men who are decent, I would support men who are decent and actually care about supporting you in return, I agree with you, I'm going to fix my comment
I'm recently out of an abusive relationship. For the life of me I never understood what satisfaction he got out of torturing me. All I know is once you start loving YOU, you'll NEVER give him or any other guy that has traits a chance again. Your heart will get so much joy when he comes around attempting to tug on your emotions & you say "NO" so sternly that it'll scare you & him 🤣🤣🤣
This young lady does not need to look for another man. She needs to FIND herself. Btw, she is very attractive. She needs counseling. She needs a relationship with Jesus above all. ✝️🛐
I pray that this is the catalyst for her to invest in herself How do we let her know she is beautiful Even in her natural state You can normally tell a persons beauty based on there natural state No makeup bad lighting no hair on show STILL BEAUTIFUL WHOEVER MADE THIS GIRL FEEL LIKE SHE IS UGLY GOD CURSE YOU
I’m so sorry that the people around you failed you sis. You are still beautiful and you will be fine. Girl, you better start loving yourself first and subscribe to Cynthia G. and keep watching Destiny Uteh! 😢
She's so beautiful, sad she can't see herself. This starts with parents, clearly she was never shown how special she is. I hate seeing Young ladies crying over pathetic boys.
Ladies I have learned guys are not genuine when they are broke because their main priority is getting rich and sadly when they get rich , it comes with him finding himself and what he REALLY wants such as women etc that’s why a lot of us women that ride with them from broke and end up alone after is because he used you to take some of whatever he had off his plate till he can stand again and then leaves you… I learned the hard way.. so ladies just leave the the dudes that are struggling alone.. you can’t fix everybody and give all your resources to everyone because sadly you will be taken advantage of, unappreciated, abused , and risk putting your goals last. Life is too short to be out here just playing a guess game of o hope he will stick with you. Look at all the patterns and just stick to your gut.
getting rich doesn’t come with finding yourself it comes with a means to be able to buy people and buy what you want even the woman you want that’s not find it yourself
I am so sorry for her... I used to be a "ride or die"... Never again. i realised that things are simple: If you are a placeholder for a man, he'll use you. If you are his "dream girl", he'll improve and work hard to be at your level. Plus, she is beautiful, she have a lovely face! She is still sooo young! She should keep her head up, she'll be alright. If she ever can see this message, I'd like to know we roots for her
If a man don’t invest in you he don’t care about you. The more he invests, the more he’ll make sure he doesn’t do silly things to lose you. Respect him, love yourself.
Well, that explains it. He's from Chicago, and that's the way the men move there. I'm from there, so it's not a shocker. These Florida men are on different kinds of games. They'll scramble your brain, make you think that you're crazy and will watch you lose your mind.
I’m not understanding. What does white supremacy got to do with her growing up feeling unattractive. You know what growing up down south the only ones that made me feel unattractive was my own kind never the yt people . We need to take a closer look at our community.
This lady is not unattractive. I don't know why she feels she that way.Focus on yourself before you enter another relationship. How can you expect someone else to love or like you when you don't love or like yourself?
I don’t know why women sit here and be like oh you’re beautiful you’re beautiful you’re beautiful you can tell people they’re beautiful all you want if if it’s not getting the results that beautiful people get it means nothing people tell me I’m beautiful all the time and yay the people that it matters to never approached me never try to ask me out nothing, so am I really beautiful
When you repeat it to yourself over and over you will believe it. A lot of people were never affirmed in childhood of their worth and beauty and taught how to love themselves. In therapy you learn about positive affirmations and how they can have such a big impact on self esteem and self love
As I am on social media and I see these stories.. I have a 10yr old & a 19 yr old daughters.. I literally have the same conversations with them. As a mom it’s important to build up ur daughter’s self esteem.. They both know that mom is a judgement free zone, they can talk to me about ANYTHING… And they do.. My little one in the 4 grade, I get to ear hustle since her friend group are all doing face time, playing games and just doing daily life.. The boys are already showing there degenerate personalities, and I get to intervene to say not to just her, but to all the little girls to never allow anyone to treat you this way.. It is important to teach these young ladies to value themselves, teach them what abuse looks like.. Build up their self esteem… The world will blame everything on them.. Because at the end of the day.. It will be said, She should’ve known… My college girl, we talk about a lot, and the guys are running rampant on campus…
Yeah we've all either been there ourselves or know someone who's been there too! Some people are just awful! They're just trash human beings and it sounds like her first boyfriend was just THAT! Eventually we all come into contact with someone who is nothing but mean, selfish and immature AF! It's a horrible shock to discover you were fooled by such a person and it can make you second guess yourself and your judgement! But it's all part of the learning and growing journey of life! It sucks she went through that, but she's smarter now for it! So that's a plus+
It did not take her 21 years to find this guy. Perspective is everything!!! She’s just getting started!!!! She hasn’t even been of legal age for very long. She needs to slow down and prioritize her mental and physical health. After doing that, then worry about merging your life with someone else. Ladies, put yourself FIRST!!!!!!
Im going to show her some Grace cause we all been there ...she will learn over time the way we all did. She is beautiful and I pray she understands this each day !!!!
I think people need to chill and not send her mean or critical messages. She correctly identified at the jump why she was vulnerable to a bad man. She knows she has low self-esteem and that he was able to take advantage of that. She’s just sharing her story, and a lot of people probably find some comfort in knowing that they’re not alone, that this has happened to other women, and they’re gonna be okay. People like to act like they’re perfect and make perfect decisions at all times and are never vulnerable and never let anything slide with men, and that’s fake as hell. We’re human beings, being a human is hard, and we are hardwired to seek connection with other people, even to our own detriment sometimes. It’s okay to admit it happens.
Finally, an intelligent and sensible comment. It is *WILD* to me to see so many people get pissy in the comments on some of these videos at others for seeking connections, and saying why they can't enjoy being alone all the time... We are human, it is *literally* in our biology to crave social interactions *sometimes.* Weird how they try to deny it.
The best thing he ever did for you was ghost you (set you free). Take time from dating. Work on yourself. LOVE on yourself. Pray! Heal! When you truly love yourself, you'll be strong enough to never accept less than from anyone.
No. She has such a pretty face. Let's take that hat off and help that sister discover her beauty. I want to hug her and fight for her all at once. And lovely it wasn't 21 years. Consider that you were just a child within those 21 years. Realistically she probably started thinking about boys and relationships around teens so maybe it was 5 years? I hope she can see that and not feel she has lost years. She can bounce back and please do not take that caterpillar back.
This isn't a conversation for the internet. If she thought she had an issue with him, shit bout to get worse. This requires a therapist. Not better help but a real therapist. Smdh.
I don't have anything bad to say about her or her videos. We were all young once and did stupid things for what we thought was love. She'll be aight. Women are resilient.
She’s such a cutie pie.😭 I just wish I can give her a hug. As a mother, This breaks my heart seeing this girly cry like this & talk abt some of what she’s been through. & she is not ugly at all & her precious, delicate heart has 2 be protected by her & her future partner.❤ She shouldn’t feel embarrassed. Everyone has invested time in a peasant.💯🎯
Find yourself, find a high paying job, find a small group of trusted friend, find a way to see the rest of the planet and it glorious beauty and cultures. Stop trying to find a man. What an absolute waste of life.
She’s beautiful. She just needs to fix herself up and build confidence. Unfortunately narcissists can sense insecurity and they will use it against you. I know this from experience.
You are beautiful, that doesn't matter because your looks have nothing to do with the respect, love, and dignity you deserve. He isn't a good person and now you know what to look for and demand in a relationship. It's going to hurt for a while, but you will be okay soon enough.
Unfortunately I think too many people are using TikTok instead of going to see a therapist. People please go see a therapist!! It will help you so much 💕
I think these are “let’s see her downfall” followers not “let’s see her do better”, people love to see other people struggle let’s see more positive content! This makes me sad and brings down the energy. Trauma bonding all day and then they get paid
The young lady in the video is beautiful!!! Unattractive where?!!!! Just because you choose not to wear makeup doesn’t mean your unattractive love it’s so many men that love women that dnt wear it you being exactly who you are in your natural being is attractive & even more having a bomb personality & know how to treat people that attractive, your attractiveness just attracted a bum that was just a user, your true love is out here somewhere dry your eyes love & just be patient your true love will find you.
But yet males holler how we should be willing to build with them, this is exactly why we're not supposed to. This is bound to happen, they really don't want the women who will build with them, they end of resenting them after the survival mode is over.
She has no clue but this clean break is the best thing that could have happened. His new girl made him block her. She should spend time in therapy and simply finding herself. In divine timing the proper relationship will come.
Also we have to like those who like us! I will say i grew up as a little nerd but I always had boys who liked me but i paid them no attention... not because i was conceited but i was so self conscious i didnt know how to act and had not confidence
If you notice her use of words it tells you everything she already concluded in her mindset that she is not confident by just the use of her words when you speak to people notice how they use their words because that will tell you everything about they’re mindset! If you want to change your life or your brain starts changing how you speak about yourself how you speak to others! Her used of words were all im not attractive wrong! and men with male characteristics as hunters i tell you they can spot insecurity long before you even speak! They are good at spotting weak creatures to used be careful ladies! When you date don’t speak so much let him speak notice details ! Be aware of your body language and use of words do meditation so you’re more intune with your intuition! Sadly most women go on dating fully blinded men are the most dangerous person you can encounter in these planets if you can’t protect yourself with wisdom you will loose big time
POOR UNFORTUNATE SOUL... I'M SORRY THIS HAPPENED 2 HER. SHE SAID IT WAS HER FIRST RELATIONSHIP. WE LIVE & WE LEARN. DELT WITH THAT TYPE OF 🐂💩 IN MY EARLY 20'S. OVER TIME I PRAY HER SELF ESTEEM GROWNS AND SHE LEARNS HER LESSON FROM DEALING WITH THIS TYPE OF DUDE. I'M A ♋ TOO & WE LOVE VERY HARD/CARE TOO MUCH AT TIMES. BUT WE GROW THROUGH THINGS. BABY GONNA DEVELOPE SOME TOUGHER SKIN!
Equating beauty with what attracts a man is a major problem in our society. We need to stop educating our girls that they need a relationship to be "somebody".
