That’s why I get so annoyed when people call child free women selfish. They always ignore things like trauma, neurodivergent, etc. I’m so glad you’re getting help and healing
In my 30’s. No kids or a hateful man derailing my progress. I just graduated with a degree last Friday, with honors. 😍 I start my doctorate this fall. My Roth IRA of 11 years is growing nicely. Now that it’s summer, I go to sleep whenever I want and wake up whenever I want. My skin is smooth. The body is snatched! There’s no man in my ear telling me I’m not smart enough to do this or that. You do whatever you want, whether you want! Retirement was planned when I was 24 years old.
Its fun when they experience something nice, or say something funny unintentionally. My kid keeps me rolling, and it's really fun when they finally go to sleep😂😂😂
Yes. 54 and child free. I'm retiring early in a couple of years, and have my traveling plans together. In lieu of having kids, I babysit my sister's little ones, develop my many many hobbies, and will be writing full time after my retirement. My life is full.
It’s not fun all the time but what lifestyle is fun all the time life has challenges and maintenance no matter what. No job is completely fun all the time.
33 I live my life -plan my vacations for the year -plan concerts -do pilates go to the gym every day -work on grad school -go to work -meal prep -visit family, friends -travel to different cities for shopping -take swim classes -most importantly, sleep in
I have 1 child and I support y'all in any choices you make! I'm here to WOOT WOOT women through life, because y'all are doing some amazing things- kids or child free! WOOT WOOT!
I’m 26 and child free, I have my degree, certification, career, went on 3 vacations in the past 2 months and do whatever I want. Currently house shopping
U deserve it hun but please don't pay the asking price for any houses I'm 27 n every house r land I brought I never paid over 5000$ even for 10acres I built on good luck tho u got this
24 and a baby on the way. I can respect women and men who decide to be childfree I really truly don't understand the hate they get. Y'all are just living your life the way you want❤
Bought some land in the Caribbean, spent the last few years consumed with building a house. Now I am listening to this as I pack to head down to sleep in my new home for the first time. My best friend is heading with me for two weeks to assemble furniture and decorate. I have a list of child free friends who will be vacationing with me in my new home starting this August. No kids have allowed me to spend my money the way I want. Work and play are how I spend my days.
37, childfree, man free!!! I have a friend who turned 60. She is child and man free also. Ive known her for 30 years. Oldest age people think i am is 24, and i know she is 60 but i keep thinking we are the same age because she looks like she is in her early 30s. I spend my time now due to a disability taking whatever classes i want to get a certain degree, I have learned five languages, I make Christmas ornaments, i watch whatever shows i want, hang out with my dog and when i can drive again, ill go back to traveling solo and just going anywhere i want. Im the fun aunt/godmother. And everytime i hear you say you're turning 40... I blink so hard because i keep thinking you look 25.
Girl yes! Being child free keeps you looking young. I’m 38 and people are shocked when they find out I’m not in my 20s. I see how my older sisters with kids are aging and I do not envy them.
@@idontarguewithpeasants And I have a twin sister... She looks older than me. 😐🥴 I'm not ashamed of her but I do not introduce her as my twin because she got so upset at the look that man had a while back when he just couldn't believe we were the same age.
Im 38 and have daughter with my loving faithful husband. My daughter that the Creator blessed us with has fulfilled my deepest heart desire and is the apple of her father's eye. Ladies if you have children it needs to be with a loving husband who desires children and wants to be the best father in the world.
SAME HERE!!! Like what’s her info !?? I got a few questions ! 😭 BTW I’m 33 with no kids ! I’m a teacher and I loooove traveling ! I’m also a licensed esthetician , bartender and makeup artist. ❤️❤️❤️ I do whatever I wants when I want !
I'm 31 and I'm child free. I work, travel, shop, eat, read, sleep WHENEVER I WANT! I don't look a day over 25 because I don't deal with much stress. I absolutely love it. I eventually want kids but not right now. My parents are 66 and my mom had me at 34 so I really don't feel bad. I still got time!
Enjoy it! Marriage isn't a necessity. I didn't get married until 37. Had a baby at 39. So glad I enjoyed my single days because my life is over now😭😭😭a toddler runs me alllllll day long😂
Then you’re not child free you’re child less . Child free means you never want kids . Her contént is for more so childfree because she us childfree also. . Everyone’s genetic clock isn’t the same . My friends couldn’t have kids older even though their parents had them later in life . Hope it works out !
Just turned 32 a few weeks ago and have decided to not bring children into the world. I am WAY MORE helpful in my community, my rather large friend group and can dedicate so much mental energy to my beautiful relationship with my Husband. My heart is SO FULL. I do not feel as if I am missing anything in my life that a child could change. My husband and I get off of work at 5pm every day of the week and we nourish each other’s brains and lives, keep our three cats happy and healthy. My home is a safe place that I don’t think I could have cultivated if I spent so much of my time and energy to a child. I help hear my inner child and the inner children of my loved ones with all this unused Motherly energy.
36, married introvert with no kids. Daily, I do all the normal chores, but less, because no kids and my spouse is actually mature. I work in our business on my own schedule and enjoy my hobbies (writing, art, craft, knitting, designing, dog-training, exercise) daily. I waste time scrolling on social media (listening while I do other things), reading comics and books (fiction and nonfiction) and watching television when I eat, because I’ve *too many things I want to do* than just do one thing at a time. When money flow is good, I travel a number of times through the year, because I get cabin fever, but if I lived near friends or family, then I’d probably go out more than once a week for date night.
48 and CF. I never really wanted kids or to get married and now I’m sooooo grateful to my younger self for sticking to my own path. I have so much peace and I only have to cook for myself. I can go do things when I want. I look and feel ten years younger. It’s amazing.
Just entered my 30s and I know if I had kids I would be depressed. I am blessed to be childfree, not really coz I support the kids in my family, but I love the freedom of still being able to work overtime on my goals. This is where my brain is at now...
I am 50, and I am a lady of leisure. I have switched over to working remotely in my career field and have the mentality of I work to support me, my wants and needs. I go where I want to and do what I want to, and always have since I was a late teen. Never thought of it as anything but normal. I personally could not imagine taking responsibility of anything beyond a dogo.
I’m 32 and Team childfree and single for life over here 🎉❤ I’ve been to 38 countries (some more than 3x) and I like to sleep in late when I want, I create plushies, I work in the corporate cannabis industry as a grower and process tech. I’m summited Mt Kilimanjaro and reached Mt Everest! I’m a climber and outdoorsman. I take high risks for high rewards in life. I’m an auntie as well. The list goes on….FREEDOM!
I love this for those women who KNOW they don’t want to be a mother. It’s definitely overrated but I love both mine & can’t imagine life without them. I love how self aware they are!!!! Kids are not easy!
Recently turned 30 (5/6), childfree. Studying to be a doctor. 2 degrees (bachelor’s and masters), I paint and write poetry in my free time, engaged. I love aviation and will be getting my private pilot license later this year. I travel to different black history museums across the states, try different cultural foods, go to art and classical music events, nap, study science, spoil my nieces and nephews. Etc, I do what I want when I want. Furthering my education is important and becoming a surgeon. My partner and I ( DINK relationships) are happy 4B supporters. We do a lot of self care and making our it home ( man cave and glam room 😂) Perfect. I love it here!!! I am living out my dreams and doing whatever my heart desires. Some days I sleep and binge watch my favorite shows ❤
Being single and child free, is just having your life for yourself to make choices that do not involve having to take care of a child and most times putting their needs before your own and dedicate your life to getting yourself to where you want to be mentally, physically and financially without having to sacrifice your time and energy taking care of children.
I’m 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I’m an introvert and I enjoy my autonomy and freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want. That becomes impossible when you are married with children.
37 remote job with frequent work travel. I take every opportunity to extend my business trips and explore/relax! This year Bahamas, Belize and Key Biscayne highlights so far. One of the best things is being able to travel for Thanksgiving and Christmas! Europe, Asia, Jamaica, South America…skipping the holiday stress is my favorite part ❤
29 here, not having kids is living my life at my own pace. I somewhat have a routine that works for me, but if I need to stray from that routine for whatever reason, I don't get stressed out, which means I don't get unnecessarily angry or anxious or whatever negative emotion. I'm never in a hurry. If I have to wait in line somewhere, and it takes longer than it should, I never feel really bothered by it because I'm not a parent, and I don't have to pick up my kids from school or drive them to their sports game, or make sure they eat on time, and supervise their homeworks. My time is free and it's such a relief for my mental health. If I need to run to the store to buy something I'm missing, I don't have to bring the kids with me which would usually double/triple the time it takes to just run that errand. People say that not having kids will make you feel empty and without purpose but I have many interests, hobbies and goals in life. And my only wish is to live the life I wanna live on my own terms. I NEED quiet in my life. I cannot stand ear-piercing cries, screaming, loudness, chaos, tantrums, etc. I don't have the energy for that. Don't get me wrong, if a kid needed help, I would make sure they are okay and help them as best as I could. I believe in caring and protecting children in private or public spaces. But I don't want this responsibility 24/7, I can't do it. I would lose myself, fall into depression and probably grow resentful somewhere along the line, and I don't want that. No kid deserves a resentful parent.
39 child free and man free. I be work I vacay I eat I work on being a better person I enjoy my friends and try new things all the time. I am absolutely in love with my life! Motherhood and marriage is not the all be all for me and never have been.
31 with no kids yet. Married and working on my Bachelor's to do a career change. Already have a house and 2 dogs 🐕 Planning to have a kid, but I refuse to do that in poverty 😂 so we're planning as much as we can.
Spend my time watching Destiny Uteh on child-free content at 9:12am on Saturday morning, in my fluffy robe, in my bed... while eating coconut cream pie 🥧 😋. I'm chilling!
Woke up 1hr before work, ate breakfast in bed...had two clients, got a massage, resting before heading to a paint and sip in a couple hours 😊...That's my Friyay🎉 In general I work on self improvement, started a new career path 2 years ago that I'm building, watch way too much RU-vid, travel, sleep in when I can, have a protein shake when I don't want to cook, go to therapy and the the chiropractor weekly, workout 6 times a week...I'm living my life ❤❤❤
It may not be a "right time" exactly. However, the right time is doing it on your own time /will & with the right person in a healthy dynamic. Until that happens....child free life is actually a world of peace & freedom & more food in the house. Instead of buying diapers I buy shoes. Praise him 🙌🏾
Comparison is the thief of joy. Enjoy your children, if you have them. They're here now and so are you, that's what matters. Enjoy your freedom if you don't have children. All we can do is make the best of our own journey. Embrace everything, good and bad and take it as experience for whatever is awaiting us in the next life.
Trying to survive this inflation. Idk how women with children (especially single mothers) are doing it. I’m 33 on May 23rd. I personally think the right time is when you find your right partner.
32 and single, I read a lot and walk daily, practice yoga and pilates, I love cooking nutritious food, I sleep in on weekends and I cannot tell you how much I value the ability to just book a last minute break away on the same day even! 🎉 and the silence.... nothing could make me trade that, I need a lot of solitude to function, and then I can give everything I have to my family and friends 🧡 I'm currently house hunting and I cannot wait to finally live alone on my own terms!
Since I don't have kids (I'm 25 btw 😊 and on the fence about having kids) I plan on continuing my Bachelor's in English, furthering my education even more, writing and publishing books, traveling the world, making money, making friends, spending time with my boo, helping the less fortunate, making more money, having fun, opening schools/university for those who can't afford it, healing the Earth, ... Oh, and did I forget having even more fun!!! 🤣
32 and one half of a happy DINK lifestyle. 🎉 My MIL and FIL would love for us to have a child but we agreed we aren’t long before we got married. We love to work, make money together and give each other all our attention. Having a kid would put a wrench in all of that. My sister has 3 children with her husband and they do take care of them but they don’t sleep, they’re pretty broke and they really are relying heavily on “the village” to take care of them so they can have a break. I’m not necessarily a fan but I love my sister and BIL because at least they’re not entitled assholes about it. I just know I’m too selfish and lazy to take care of a baby. I’m not struggling financially but I don’t want to get in that pit before I even bring the baby home from birthing it 😮
Oh I love these. I’m 32, my bf and I are LAT. I am a personal trainer, just got my associates, and I’m considering finishing my bachelors in nutrition. I am generally happy and relaxed day to day. I like to shop, try new recipes, read, and I just started looking into investing. I get to see my friends relatively often. Life is laid back!
Im in my 30s and childfree. I work 50 hour work weeks then i come home relax with my husband and play video games (mosly Pokémon) I enjoy my peace and quiet.
I work and make over 170k yearly , take vacations, eat at new restaurants, go shopping at will , spa days , salon appointments, changing out things in our home , buying our home , planing entrepreneur ventures , learning new recipes, prioritizing my health , taking self defense classes because unhinged men are obsessed with us
I had my one and only child at 32 and it was a perfect time for me and my partner. I think the women that are salty about some women being child free is bc they wish they were child free! They were sold a dream and got into and realized what it really was and that they’re not cut out for it so they want other people to be miserable so they themselves don’t feel so foolish for believing they had to have kids at all. You really got to have your stuff inline before having a kid. Our lives are so smooth and our son so calm. This is my best life! But I also know my perfect life is someone else’s nightmare 🤣😂
I have one child at 23. And I have a grandchild. I raised my child until she was 3. Then I had to give her up for adoption. I had a TBI, PTSD, etc from the military. My child was from rape. It was a hard decision. I'm happy I had her, but I never wanted a child. So it was weird finding out how happy I was with her. She is now 21. I'm glad I didn't have her from then because of my injuries I needed a lot of help and had a hard time taking care of myself. Im 44 now.
🤭 A growing pattern among child free by choice women are the fact that they’ve worked with kids before for them to come to that lifestyle choice 🙇🏽 whether it be babysitter, nanny or PRE-SCHOOL TEACHER (oh hi there🙋🏽).🫣
I'm 25, never wanted/want kids, it warms my heart to see childfree people living their best lives and listening to their stories makes me excited for my future 🥰
To have kids or not is a personal decision. When to have children is a personal decision. People have to decide that for themselves based on their financial stability, emotional and physical health and support system. If you are lonely, feeling empty, or unstable, do not have children.
Being with a man, you're always subjected to negging . Its like having the devil in your ears 24/7. Thank God I'm out of that. I'm focusing on language classes, fitness, beauty treatments, cooking, looking after my pets, going to fancy restaurants, travelling etc.
44 years old, my remote tech. job is sending me to London this summer. Im adding on a week to go to Amsterdam. I have other trips planned. I can travel when I want. I have friends all over, I also have my own business. Also love running so meet up with run groups when I travel. I also pet sit sometimes for my friend who is a widow and sometimes travels for work. I literally make money, work out, travel, hang out with friends and shop. No shade to kids or families, I just really love my freedom ❤
I’m child free and it’s peaceful. I get to do whatever I want when I want when I’m not working or running errands. I get up when I want to, and I eat what I want to. Seeing this video made me realize that I should start to enjoy my freedom more
38 no kids, never been married. I work with children so that’s enough for me! Working on a masters in education-special education. I live peacefully with my clingy cat. I have no drama coming from any musty, dusty, abusive, jealous hearted man…been there done that. 7 yrs single and loving it!
I have known since I was a teenager that I wanted to be child. I remember I told my parents when I was 15 years old. And they said all you are too young. You will eventually change your mind and give us grandkids. I am now 32 and my mind has not changed at all. I am happy and I’m living my life. So my parents think I’m miserable I am single and I don’t have a child. They have even tried to compromise with me by saying that they will be willing to take on all the childcare duties if I can just give them one grandchild. It has gotten so out of hand that I had to distance myself. The final straw is when they had my great grandma call me to try and convince me to give me a grandchild.my great grandma is 98 years old. That’s what I realize that I needed to limit my contact. I love my parents to death, but they went way overboard trying to get my great grandmother involved. I hope one day they can accept the fact that I do not plan on having kids. But until then I am just going to limit our interactions to phone calls only and if they do bring up kids I’m just going to politely hang up.
34 years old child free. My days consist of working long hours at work and on my days off I work on my arts and crafts which makes me happy 😊. I spend a lot of time with my family ❤.
36 married. No kids. I use to want them but it wasn't in the cards. I notice most people only talk about having kids to support them when they are old or saying they wished they never had them. So honestly now i feel i dodged a bullet. I am a SAHW and a independent author so my days are mostly mine to do whatever i want while my husband works.
i’m 26, the ONLY way i’m going to have children is if my husband AND i are wealthy and financially comfortable. if not, i’m honestly COOL with just being the rich auntie and going HOME to my quiet house. i have so much trauma yet to heal, and so so much of my career to yet fully enjoy. i’m an artist, so for me it’s a longer game, and it requires a bit more than if i went the corporate route. so i’m happy right where where i am at
29 child free 🆓 and life is good 👍😊. No man telling me how to live my life or use Domestic Voilence against me, my money 💰 is my own, I can come and go as I please, sleep 💤 😴 in when I want 😊, Dress 👗 how I want, hang around the mall as long as I like 😊, Eat what I want 😋, travel 🧳 to destination I want to visit 😊.
39 Wake at 9a live downtown so walk to gym to meet girlfriends. Workout then brunch. Walk back home. Clean, shower, WFH 3-12a. Out to eat once a month. Vacation quarterly. Read lots of books. No pets. Just one plant. Really couldn't imagine having kids.
I'm 32 and at peace. I will find a man when the time is right. Until then, I study, hang with friends, indulge in my hobbies, travel, and consider investment ideas.
40 today! No kids, in relationship but live separately. I don't think about any of this. Lol. I read alot, planning my masters program for spring, planning my cruise in October, sleeping, working, and playing with my dogs. 🤷🏽♀️
I'm in my 30's my house stay peacefully quiet and clean. I get to sleep in often. I cook whenever I feel like it. I don't have to look for babysitters or complain about the dad not helping. I don't have to worry about someone harming my kids or dying before them and thinking no one would care for them like I would. I don't have to stay in a loveless, unfulfilled relationship because of them. I get to spend my money on what I need and like. Get to travel or have a great time whenever I want. You're more appealing when dating because you don't come with baggage/ extra responsibilities.
I liked that one woman: I am the child.😂😂 One thing people have not mentioned is the levels of anxiety about having a child in your life is waaay down when you don't have them. I don't have to worry about my child's safety and life and just the constant worry periodt! If I had a child my anxiety levels would be through the roof!!!
Im 29. Waiting until I get married, hopefully in my 30s and will be having babies soon after. However way it works out, I won’t force it. I Love life without children it has been amazing for me.
IDK why but I feel like her question is veiled in some way…..anyhow,I'm currently taking evening classes in skill based subjects that I am interested in. I just finished up tiling, next is plumbing and electrical. My dream is to build my own house, doing about 80% of the work myself. I do dance classes, workout.and later this year once a few of my classes finish up, I will be going back to swimming classes to perfect my technique. There are other things that I want to do too but this is already too long🤣🤣
35 no kids, sometimes I want kids but I'm always happy I don't have any. For some women having kids is the most fulfilling thing for them and I think that's amazing for those women. This may sound selfish but, I love knowing I'm only responsible for me. I'm in a relationship and neither of us have or want kids. We've been traveling and just living. We wake up and randomly take day trips. Hella spa days. Shit I'm just living 😂❤❤
I’m in my early 30’s & I spend my free time doing whatever I want 😜 but quite literally I nap, relax, I have time to think about my career /finances/future, travel, I hangout with my family & friends. I just live life like everyone else! I’m able to focus on myself, my personal development, & my goals…that’s my favorite thing about not having kids.. I’m only responsible for myself!
Child free and late 30s. I do what I want when I want. I play video games, I’m finishing up my Masters which will be my 3rd college degree. I go hiking with my husband and travel when we can. It’s a beautiful, somewhat stress free existence and I would change a thing.
Im in my 40s and wanted children UNTIL I met my soon to be ex fiance. He is an ENTIRE ball of energy (he is in his 30s, has a daughter and has ADHD) and I also spent my life taking care of an elderly parent. So, the way I look at it, I have an adult son and an adult daughter! Lol and smh. I cant see myself dealing with a baby and not having a husband engaged in child rearing. Im good.
I absolutely love being child-free, being the cool titi who travels the world and spoils the babies of my loved ones, focusing on my career and hobbies and chosen family
I am 41 no kids and I wanted them . I had 3 miscarriages , took care of many children that were not mine and felt like I deserved them. I am lonely at times but not bitter. I was born to be a mom.
The right time is whenever you meet the partner who makes you feel safe enough to do so. If it doesn't work out, then that doesn't mean you made a mistake. You just trusted the wrong one. I don't think there is a right time to have kids. I got a degree, moved to my apartment at 25, and then I'm in the process of buying my home next week at 28. I'll continue enjoying the everyday as it comes, whether it's gardening, volunteering or traveling
If like me it's your genuine feeling, you will not regret it. I am in my late 40s now. I love my life. Plus, I've had children in my life, and I'm a great aunty and godmother, and I've helped with little extras and be the fun aunty and give parents a break.
I am right now.Apparently 44 years old.I spent most of my 30s in therapy and now I'm in my 40s.I'm physical therapy.And I honestly will say that if I had a child now that I think I probably would regret it because all of the mental therapy that I've needed to even be able to accept myself right now.I don't think I'll be able to have raised a human being properly
As a 33 year old childfree woman I enjoy caring for myself, I even gave my dog away because I got tired of the obligation and inconvenience . I enjoy doing what I want and I enjoy doing nothing when I want. However, I do give assistance to the single mothers in my life. I'm usually the one they come to if they need to borrow money, vent, babysit or have a good time. My money is strictly for me but I love children but I also enjoy peace and quiet.
54 and childfree. For me, it's more than a choice, I was born with a natural disdain for kids. I do love kids and even work with them, but to be responsible for them, terrifies me. When I was younger, I feared pregnancy and childbirth. As I got older, it was more of a fear of being responsible for a child.
I just turned 30, engaged and no kids. Life is glorious. I don't know how yall do it. I be tired with everything I do. I don't want none of them mfs. And thankfully my fiance does not either. Praise Jesus!!!
I started early 30s, ended late thirties, and was prepared in all ways to have them. Having said that, I sometimes am a little jealous of my childfree cousin who is a year younger than me.
