Your big sis in Christ | seeking validation from guys 😔💔 

Interestingly enough, though many men in Christ don’t admit it, we experience this same sense of inadequacy and same desire to be desired by women that God never confirmed for us…..thank you for this video Deborah! 🙏

Seeking validation, regardless of the source, from guys, girls, bosses, parents...if not from God, will always lead us to a dark hole, and it will never be enough. We are very much loved and wanted, and thats from the greatest of them all. Jesus Christ, and he has those scars on his hands as one of the thousands of ways he's shown us the immensity of that love. Nothing beat that.

For someone who grew up with a father and never felt Seen, Loved , Respected , I understand searching for validation in men . I will never seek anything from anyone , But my Father Jesus Christ . God has truly changed my Desires , It’s my responsibility to protect his temple . 👏🏼❤️I always wanted a sister Glad I found your Channel it’s really speaking to my heart ❤️ 🥺😫 Thank you sis

Sis, your testimonies always hit home. I’m 28, never had a boyfriend, last time I kissed was probably in high school. But I was so insecure and ashamed that I created this persona for my friends who is supposed to be a hottie, having sex and I even started drinking and smoking to fit in. It was so bad that I wouldn’t go anywhere including family gathering without makeup to seek validation and appear as a baddie. Ever since I had a mental breakdown and God helped me out of that state I decided to be my own self and honor the lord. I created a new Instagram where I only share positive quotes, I stopped going on random dates just to have a story to tell and not have to justify why I’m single. I’m not ashamed of being a 28 yo virgin or look a certain way without makeup because God doesn’t look on our appearance he looks on our heart. Your are such a blessing to me and I am grateful God blesses us through you❤

ive been celibate for almost 3 months now (which is a lot to me, compared to my past) its been so hard & ive been literally fighting the spirit of lust & sexual temptation. i feel so seen with this video. God led me here to confirm what he told me.

Those men don't even deserve you Deborah... You are smart, beautiful, talented and the most important; you have God in your heart. Thank you my sister.

This was my experience as well. Seeking validation, yearning for a relationship yet only being used and confused as to why it never worked. Still, I feel I’m being “ hidden” but God definitely knows if I get in a relationship I will stray from Him in this season. Thank you for sharing your story❤

Hi Deborah, I’m 41 & still single. I cried because that what I been through in my past with the wrong guys. I know God is in control of everything. Thank you so much for sharing and I needed that. May God continue to bless you and many more! ❤

Thank you for your powerful testimony. I have a son and daughter about your age, my daughter had a similar path before, and I prayed years for her that the Lord will straighten her path. She is now happily married and had two sons and another on the way. Our God is a good Father, and I truly believe that God is preparing the man of God rightfully for you, and will bless you with God fearing children. HE will reward your obedience and will bless you more abundantly, you will be like a tree planted along riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Your leaves never wither, and you prosper in all you do. -Psalm 1:3. Stay bold, strong and courageous woman of God! HE is with your wherever you go. God bless you!!

In OUR WEAKNESS HIS STRENGTH is made perfect. Your transparency is healing thousands... I am sending this to my daughter. Thank you my sister... Dr. Tara United States

I was on the same boat, I didn’t listen and now I’m in a marriage i don’t want to fight for. I don’t regret it because I was blessed with two amazing baby boys, but it is hard to get through a relationship that was not ordained by God. I hope and pray every young person in here truly takes this advice to heart! ❤

Thank you so much for this video!! I’m 23 and never had a boyfriend, and it would always make me feel weird starting from age 18..so I constantly found myself seeking validation and acceptance from guys..but as a result I couldn’t really learn to embrace being single and learn who I am through Christ. One of my main goals now.

I found a spiritual father from church, he treats me like a daughter and gold! ❤ I'm grateful to God for him because no man can ever devalue me... he's the reason I'm able to even have a channel and talk about God, encourages everything I do 😭

I come back to this video everytime I need a reminder to not sell myself short for a man but instead rest in Gods love and trusting in his timing 🙏🏾 Thank you so much for this amazing video 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

This is so timely. Im in my early 20s and am experiencing the beginning of my first romantic relationship. Even though this guy cares for me and I for him, God is rearranging things to hide me in this season so that I can make Him my first love before anyone else comes into the picture. Im still on this journey but thank you for your wisdom and please pray that your sister learns to want Him above everyone and everything else 🙏🏾💓💒.

This is so relatable. “If he gave me what I wanted I would’ve never went back to God”

I’m literally going through this right now. God always speaks to me through social media and RU-vid. God directed me to you. I just finished crying asking God for help, I know there’s a life better than this. He directed me to you😢 thank you for sharing ❤

Exactly what I needed to hear this morning! Thanks for sharing your story. I’m on a path to freeing myself from guys’ validation also. I’m enough in God’s eyes and there’s absolute freedom in that ❤

That’s the book He led me to one day when I was fantasizing about marriage and He showed me that HE IS MY HUSBAND firstly that I need to receive that revelation first 🌸🤯just wow

I can relate 2 your story😊.....I have been there but Jesus❤ found me n m happy being single in Christ.

Thanks darling for sharing with us ❤️ love you so much from East Africa, Uganda 🇺🇬 keep the fire of God burning dear 🙏🌹 God bless you so much 🥰

Wow!!! Deborah you are amazing!!! I see the Lords validation all over you!! I thank God for you because you are touching lives with the Gospel..!! The youth especially. We love you!! God bless

This is the only thing I could find on exactly what I’m going through, there’s not even one article on this on google. So thank you for responding in obedience to God. This has blessed me and comforted in such a great way. Grace and peace to you, Deborah😭 Glory to God for you.

Omg!! Deborah, this was sooo needed! A lot of women seek validation from men and it’s beginning to be wayyy too much. With social media, women are forgetting to embrace Gods love FIRST before any man! I realized this last year when I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. I was more miserable than anything because I was seeking man’s approval rather than Gods!!! His love is pure and it’s all I need in my life!!! 😊 I trust God completely 😊

I struggled with this but recently realised it was distorting how I viewed myself and what I am capable of doing. I am now on a journey of self-discovery and building my relationship with Christ.

Thank you Deborah!🥰 I’m reading this book called “Captivating” by Stasi & John Eldredge and it’s all abt how God wants to be the one to fill us w the love we’ve been looking for and heal all the wounds that came from our failed attempts from looking… this video came right on time💗 I rlly suggest the book too!

I'm tearing up in the office, the way I relate, going through this right now, needed this

Its when we're broken that God is able to heal us and build us up to the person He intended for us to be. We never need validation from anyone, whether its a guy or a friend. We have already been validated through the Blood of Jesus!!

As a guy I can relate a lot to the struggle you talk about, and finding validation in girls that I should've found in God. What you ended with about their not being a point really struck my heart, so hearing you say that you dared to pray about being hidden and finding peace in God through it really blessed me. I pray we all come to that that point guy or girl of surrendering to God and letting his love restore and sustain us into who He has made us to be

Hey Deborah. I can tell that this was not easy for you share because sharing means reliving the memories. So thank you for sharing with us, and I am sorry you had to go through all of that. In my case, I wont call it seeking validation per say, but I have been in a friendship group where I was really hurt over and over again and I know how hard it was to let go, so I understand. I pray that as you continue to walk through this journey with God, that He’ll bring you to a beautiful rest. One of which will include a man that will love, adore and respect you. Amen❤️

I’m 32 and have a had so many failed relationships. I didn’t understand who God was, his ways or the Bible until last year and I’m finally surrendering to God. I’m tired of doing this on my own. It’s been painful and I wish all my wounds could be healed over night but I’m learning to just take it day by day. I pray for a kingdom husband and marriage as well. I pray God fills all my needs and voids during this season and forever 🙏🏼❤

I am muslim but your thoughts were really inspirational thank you sis❤

Thank you so much for saying that. It really is important that people start talking about this more. God bless you❤❤❤

Thank you for being honest and sharing this. I‘ve searched for love in my family instead of God. It’s draining begging for love from the wrong places. God is Love so therefore I have to align myself with God and seek him daily. God bless you, Deborah🙏🏾

And we overcome by the Blood of the lamb and with the word of our testimony. Thanks for sharing ❤❤ powerful!

The timing of this video is crazy and it just proves that God speaks to your specific need through people. I am currently going through a heart break and I am feeling like when am I going to be enough for someone? I have been sitting in my disappointment and hurt for a weeks now but this is so timely and I could not agree with you more. Thank you so much for this message and I pray God continues to heal you and use you to help heal others! God bless you Deborah

You have such a pure heart ❤ I bless you to meet true love 💗

This is an inspirational message for those who are seeking validation from this temporary world. Hebrews 12:2 Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. We should always look to our creator, not the creation because in Christ is our validation, sometimes our spouse can not give us that validation and that is why many marriages end up in divorce and relationships are been broken. ❤

Such an honest person. God bless you. I'm glad I found your channel

This same journey happened to me! I didn't know the Lord at all, until one day I was at my breaking point and I prayed. He came into my home and gave me an unexplainable peace and I've seeked him ever since ❤

Hey gal. I can relate to this conversation. I also spent a lot of time seeking validation from guys until God shifted my mindset. Thank you for the inspiration. Blessings and much love from Kenya

Whew this is a word! I grew up w/ a father in and out my life and watching all my friend's have dad's or boyfriend's love them, I became a bit jealous. I didn't understand why I could feel like I was good enough and now I am unlearning those toxic & trauma that I went through. I no longer want forced love, but genuine love that God sends to me. But now that I am 26, I am learning to understand that all the love and such that I crave, God is the first one who has done it and I am genuinely blessed to see it like this. Love this channel ❤

Amen !! Sis Deborah , I wholeheartedly Concur !!

Wow! Thank you for saying all of it! I needed to hear this

Wow🙏🏽🫶🏽 thank you , I needed this !!

The compassion of Christ fills my heart as I am listening to you, sister Deborah. The fundamental reason for this thirst for validation from guys is the foundational issues associated with the absence of fathers. It is a deep-seated inner conflict as we all seek fathers. Truly, some of us have been given obvious names, perhaps because God knew that we would need to be reminded of our callings and destines even through our names and saving us from the world of sin. I am deeply humbled by this moment of your transparency in sharing your "then experiences" sister Deborah. We are not our behaviors nor our mistakes but rather the finished progressive work of the Father perfected in Christ Jesus. God has more of you in Him. Thank God for His salvation and mercy as He is giving you a voice to them that are held hostage to announce to them "Live" Thank you woman of God. God bless you my sister❤

Thank you so much Deborah🤍God Bless you sister!!

Oh my goodness!! What a wonderful message!!💕💕💕 May the Lord bless you!!

thank you for sharing this sis!! this was so so timely! God bless you🥹

You're my favorite big sis-I love you!!!Where have you been all my life??

This is so good Deborah . Am in my early thirties,been single for 6 years and recently found myself wanting attention from guys. So I recently stepped away from social media to get my "act" together. Thank you so much

Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story ❤️

We are NOT enough, that’s why we absolutely need Jesus Christ!

I needed this 🥺🥹

Hi Debbie❤ this made me so emotional. I can relate a lot with certain aspects. I lost my mum as a baby and I was left with my father as a parent. He was present but he did not protect me. It just felt like he was absent when I’d be hurting and going through pain. I’m 26 toooo and navigating relationships can be tough because of the trauma. But I’m glad you’re sharing. We are all here healing and learning together. I have learnt that every time I think to chase a guy I should rather chase God… read the Word or listen to worship songs and it helps my focus remain on God. Thank you Debbie. Thank you for sharing the truth. Love you all❤ let’s keep learning

This was beautiful! Thank you for sharing your story. I needed this. 💕🙏🏾

You're one of my favourite RU-vidrs. Keep going!

Wow! Girl this is so timely. I believe your video was sent from God straight to meee😂. No because I'm 17 and I struggle with male validation and due to having an absent alcoholic father and a toxic narcissistic mother ( which plays in to the daddy issues) I feel like I have daddy issues too. I literally have been praying to God about this because whenever I feel unloved due to my father not being around or whenever i would argue with my mum and she would insult me like crazy, it's like I would run to boys as a bandage to heal me but they just used me for my body and left, sometimes took advantage. I have done this so many times and God taught me that not only will it affect me but sometimes them because as a result of my actions i noticed occasionally i would become toxic or use boys for my own gain. Kind of like come here im sad let me release my pain on you and then leave. However, I'm so grateful that we serve a God who is ready to restore us even tho we make the wrong choices. What your doing is really helping young girls like me. God bless you girl and thanks for sharing your story❤️❤️❤️

this was so healing. thank you.

Thank you for being vulnerable Sis! You have a beautiful heart!!!!💕💕💕💕

I found you today and this video helped me a lot! Keep going!

so good my love! ❤️

Thank you for this video! Really needed to hear that❤

Thank you for being vulnerable & honest with us❤️‍🔥🤍🤍

Thank you for your transparency. I understand where you are coming from & just like you said...now that I'm growing "I'm good!" You are beautiful inside & out!!!❤

You made this so simple! I will be sharing this with so many ppl... I haven't been able to articulate it like this! Thank you.!

this video tore me down and brought me to tears. it was the video I needed for the longest and I am so glad God lead me to this channel for I finally understand why I have been facing the problems that I have been facing with my relationship and desire to be desired by men. God is so good and His light is really shining through you. thank you for uploading this video. i know it must have taken a lot of courage to upload it. all glory to God, may he continue to bless you and may your ministry continue to thrive

Thank you so much for this . Very helpful and motivating. Thank you so much big sis in Christ 🥹.

so relatable. thank you for your transparency this was awesome

Thank you for your transparency. This was amazing and encouraging.

Big Sis!! After seeing this video and reading Hosea…I just couldn’t get this off my mind! I must have read the chapter 3 or 4 times in various versions of the Bible! I was so blessed that I was awaken at 4:30 am and i had to journal ! As I looked in my journal I looked at the page where I was writing a letter to my future husband but I didn’t finish. I actually couldn’t get past the first line! There is where I continued my journaling and wrote a letter to my LORD! Saying just as you restored Israel back to you after her whorish ways in Hosea, restore me back! I am no longer interested in chasing after lovers. I too am done partying! I am a wife and I submit to you JESUS! Then I wrote on describing my new perspective and serving God as my Husbandman by consulting and respecting Him, and speaking with Him and spending time in His presence! So “Thank you” for this video I am glad you were obedient to GOD! Praying for you!!!

This has been a blessing to me❤️

this has blessed me so much. praise God for your ministry.

I love you Deborah. Thank you for sharing this!

Thank you Deborah 🤍🫶🏾

Thank you for sharing! This was much needed and appreciated 🙏🏽

Thankyou for sharing ur story, i’m in tears🥺, Bless u🤍

I saw this right on time. Thank you!

Thank you so much Deborah for being open with this important topic and giving us all encouragement 🤎! May God continue to bless you and raise you up as you inspire others to be all they are called to be ✨.

Thank you, dear Deborah! I have just "randomly" discovered your channel and I have been positively touched by your message! Thank you, for using your energy, to bring people back to G od! Stay blessed!

Sis, this is soooo powerful!! I stumbled on it in God's perfect timing! Thank you so much and may God continue to bless you and give you strength to endure!!

Amen Deb!!! ❤❤❤ this speaks to me.

Praise Jesus. Thank you for posting this Deborah Love you girl!

Hi Deborah, girlll everything about this video was so on point as usual but the Hosea verse just hit different 😭 whew chillll😰 . Thank you for your transparency and being so relatable 🤍

Thank You For Your TRANSPARENCY ❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾⚘️BLESSINGS TO YOU SIS

Thank you so much for sharing, sister in Christ. This video is so real. God bless you ❤️

I can totally relate! It is soul crushing when they don't reciprocate but it is not of God! ❤

I really thought I was going mad crazy about how validation seeking hurts people❤

Thank you so much for this testimony 🤍🤍🤍

Wowwww!!! This video is so so timely! God is so good! I’ve been in a season of healing and God has given me reoccurring dreams of me seeking validation from men. I told Him last night that I’m open to healing now and that I’m tired of seeking validation. I’m so obsessed with romance but God is showing me that I’m truly looking for romance in Him but I’m looking for it in all the wrong places.

Thanks for sharing this and your vulnerability and honesty. I thought I was the only one who experienced this.

Thank you for being so transparent and sharing the gospel. To God be the glory.

Just here to say I'm thankful for your sharing and while one might not always comment, I am always watching and liking. Stay Blessed

Ouuu you really described how I was last year. It’s crazy!! I just keep saying “YUP, YUP” to everything you said. soooooo glad we left that behind😇🤍

I relate to this as someone who has been through so much heartbreak because I didn’t let God choose for me. It’s better to just wait for ur kingdom spouse heartbreak are not nice too much trauma to heal from

Thanks for posting this❤ It helps feeling less alone and understand better what we went through. Thanks for letting God inspire me through your work in here...(sorry English isn't my first language). I pray for you too sis, God is great❤🎉

powerful and eyeopening, thank u so much

Thank you much for this video sister, it’s some i wish i found sooner. Amen

You have become my spiritual little sister in only a few days. Your messages speak directly to my heart and I learn so much and get so much hope from watching you ❤. You also remind me of my real lil sis which makes me love you even more! You are great and so beautiful inside and out ❤🎉

Thank you for being obedient and sharing sis! Sending love & hugs, may God continue to heal your heart & those dealing with similar situations. I pray what you’ve been diligently waiting for will be waaaayyyy more than you could ever think or imagined!! ❤