@@darcy5761 It happend to my sister in her first pregnancy, she didn't divorce she move out and forgive her usless husband and come back to have another baby, disgusting, because she knew what happen when your husband cheated on you, our dad did the same on our mom, but no, divorce wasn't a solution 🙄, that' why I'm single and childfree
The postpartum smell is REAL. the first time I used the bathroom after having my baby I almost passed out. Every time I went to the bathroom for the first few days I just cried (hormones were a big part of that, but it was genuinely traumatic between the pain and the smell)
I didn't have rot crotch after either one of my kids. That's disgusting. However, after being a mother to 2 kids.... I can honestly say, motherhood is overhyped and be very cautiously aware of any woman who tries to shame you, change your mind, or overly convince you about having kids. They're lying.
my own mother shamed me for not wanting to have children and it was the third (?) time shes mentioned how much she loved being pregnant. didnt mention much about anything else. great. thanks! 😂
That’s all well and good for rational, respectful people like you. The problem I have is with people who rant and rave about how any woman who doesn’t have kids is going to unalive alone with 50 cats or something. 😑
Imagine charging parents $57 for a can of formula because you know those parents are going to pay that price to feed their children, how evil can a company be
Mom had a horrible pregnancy when it came to vomiting. She'd throw up throughout the day, anytime, any place. It was about a 7 second span from 'I'm probably gonna vomit' to vomit. So she would bring along a handy dandy half gallon, metal to-go cup in the car because she got tired of not making it to the side of the road and vomiting in her hand/on the floorboard/across the outside of the car/etc. So for about 8 mths straight, she just threw up at random in her cup, emptied it, washed it when she could and moved on. She got so good at it, I once watched her use her free hand to unscrew the lid, vomit, screw the lid back on, and continue driving and talking to my dad on the phone tucked against her shoulder...while going 80. Also one sister lost 3 front teeth to her pregnancy and the other tore from front to back. I'm crossing my legs tight for LIFE.
All I needed to do as a childfree 25-year-old admin was LISTEN to the other women at lunch during their half-hour gripe sessions about their kids and the housework and their kids and their useless husbands and Their Kids and their nonstop home-and-office toil while Hubby watches TV and waits for her to finish dinner and Their Kids and ... And then they'd turn to me with biiiig brainless Stepford Smiles and ask me WHEN I was gonna get married and have my kids too. And every time they smugly told me "YOU'LL change your miiinnd!" ...Funny thing happened. When I was in my childfree 40s? Some of those very same women told me "You are so LUCKY." Because now of course they had grandkids to take care of as well as their adult kids still living at home. I'm over 60 now. Still childfree. No. Regrets.
My mom's memory of childbirth was so traumatic that for YEARS every time she saw a pregnant woman, she would burst into tears and weep uncontrollably. Oh HELLL NO
I have 3 kids and I always get shamed when I tell people it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. You could want them and prepare for them, but you can’t predict how it will go. Failed epidurals, horrible pregnancies. I was throwing up looking at a grocery flyer. Making dishes would make me sick. It’s not fun, at all. If you are on the fence, don’t do it
Pretty sure postpartum smells have nothing to do with babies need to sniff you out. They don't come to find you, they're essentially immobile for the first few weeks whilst that smell is there. It's the parent's prerogative to know where the baby is and feed them!
I'm trying to figure out why people don't tell us about the post partum smell and other things.... Oh yeah because people would refuse to go thru with getting pregnant. 😂😂😂 Loving being childfree!
Same with pets , I didn't know that a pet medical bills would cost more than my medical bills. I didn't even know pets have that many sickness. But if people told you that beforehand no one would adopt a pet. Not to compare kids to pets but just saying. Veteraninans would run out of money.
@@NovaPrincess yup unfortunately my baby just died of old age couple months ago. But no one warns you that having a dog is very expensive! Even after you asked the pet adoption company all the allergies your dog might have, The only thing they warn me about was that she would chased after cars😂😂
My sister try to convince me to have a child after telling me that she passed for so many pain during child birth and all the bad thing to happened to her, we are not from US, public hospitals don't give epidural or painkillers at all, well, I told her I'm not going to pass through this, I prefer to cut off my tubes, now I'm on the list for the surgery, no babies for me, only freedom, I have my nephew today screaming and having tantrums for nothing, he's 4 so is normal, I'm not taking care of him I'm just in the same house, I live here with my mom, I don't want that every day, and the money, kids are extremly expensive.
I was pregnant with twins and the weirdest shit ever... Any time I would sneeze it would be a.. double sneeze? Like, instead of "Ahh-CHOO!" For the entirety of my pregnancy it was "aah- CHOO-CHOOO!!"
I started puking from the moment they were conceived and didn't stop up until the night before they were born! I lost 30 lbs my first trimester and wasn't showing until I was 6 months 🥴 That was the only birth control I needed from then on 😅
I know I was made to have children because nothing said in these videos phased me at all... Not even the vomit ... Thank you for your videos. They help childfree people stay childfree, and people like myself be super sure they want kids...
Had an oopsie baby 20 years ago and I'm still broke. Love him but omg now he's going to college I am definitive millenial. Just take my paycheck I'll go live in the woods. 20 more years until I 'retire' - like that will be a thing. Surely capitalism will find a way to keep me broke and working til I die for lint. If these dusty ass billionaires want everyone having babies, pay Moms! As it should be anyway. I will die on that hill.
@@roreo1612 Bro. What are you on about? Paying people living wages? I didn't ask them to pay my hospital bill, or buy me diapers. But, enough to actually cover rent, food, and utilities for the amount of work I was doing would have been amicable. You're giving landlord energy.
@@jeannetterw its not capitalism thats keeping you broke , part of it yes, but mostly the oopsi baby you had. you can choose retirement or kids but unfortunately not both , not anymore
If you have baby fever, just become a babysitter, and do multiple families so that you are busy with it about 10 hours per week. If possible, do a whole weekend or a 24h shift. That baby fever will wear off in no time because you don't want to be awaken two times a night or be asked questions all day or play tons of boring kid's games or watch annoying af kid's shows, even if the kid is a total sweetheart
If more people were honest about pregnancy and childbirth, it wouldn't be viewed as this amazing experience. Show this list to a sex ed class, and everyone there will be using condoms for the rest of their lives.
Definitely a no for me. I want no parts of _anything_ that’s going to turn me away from garlic.❤❤❤ P.S. I learned about pinworms in 12th grade and I am scarred to this day…
Did anyone else had a mom that lie and pretends her pregnancy was a joy when i was my mom got pregnant with my brother and she was miserable she was sick all the time angery hormonal af everything her and she couldn't eat anything and her giving birth was even worse it trumatized me as a kid yet when asked she tells everyone how joyful and easy it was 😅and thx to this vid i know now why she smelled so bad after for like 2 months
My mom walked through everything without a single complaint but told me never get married or have kids. Shes both an evil witch and a saint I swear to god. 😂
😂😂😂 Yes. My mom would trash women who couldn't lose weight postpartum. She would call them fat and lazy until she had her 3rd kid and gained so much weight. She ate her words so hard. She never did lose the weight. I remembered it bothering her but it was karma. She was MEAN to overweight women before she got huge
I remember when I could smell if a woman was on her period when I was pregnant and it made me want to vomit. It was not fun being able to smell food people ate or their bodily functions. I swear I could smell if someone didn't wash their as
When my mom had her first child, me, I was 5 days late, so they had to induce us. The doctors check and said that at the rate I was going, they should give her the epidural in an hour or two. I'm 82% certain that I spend up the process out of spite for being forced out. By the time they realized, the window of opportunity was fully shut and locked, so my mom had to give birth naturally. One of my reasons for not having kids is that during the birth my mother says she cursed me to have the same fate if I had a child.
I had a friend who's pregnancy wasn't too bad, but when she was in labor she said the guy who was supposed to give her the epidural messed up and hit her bone instead of the spinal cord. She said it hurts so so bad she started to cry and it's still hurts to this day. Her baby just turned three.
I had three kids and didn’t stank. However I did throw up every day of two pregnancies until I delivered. If I had it all to do again I would find a doctor somewhere to give me a hysterectomy when I was 18.
I have a friend who's close family ate her placenta.🤢🤢🤢🤮 Apparently this is some kind of tradition. Combining that thought with the smell is really grossing me out.
On the pinworms; you also gotta thoroughly disinfect the toilet, shower, sink, sheets and clothes and constantly change them out till the worms and eggs have been properly killed off and also trim your (and your kid's) nails short to make cleaning them easier bc worm eggs can and will stay trapped under your finger nails. My mom's school had two kids w worms last spring and they had to use an isolated toilet with the cleaning lady and my mom on constant duty of cleaning the toilet with special cleaning solution. Nobody else in class got worms thankfully and those two kids learned the importance of washing your hands thoroughly and are now the cleanest kids in their grade lol.
Thankfully when I was a little girl the big running joke was how painful childbirth is. I heard about it so much that by the time I was 12 I knew I would never.
It's insanely overpriced in the US! Here in Germany a 1200 g container of formula costs 25€ (off-brand might be even cheaper). In the US, a 20 oz (567 g) container costs 32 dollars. To get the same amount of product you'd have to pay $67,72.
I'm so sorry but I slightly laughed at 12:23 when the girl kept saying, "MY BUTT! HE'S COMING OUT OF MY BUTT!" And then I felt awful because she's clearly in distress. Plus, I bet the father's/baby daddies were out cheating like they always do! And I bet they're gonna leave and all the childrearing will fall on the women! I'm so glad I'm forever childfree! Sign me up for the cat lady deluxe package!
Uh... I wasn't consciously aware of any smell stronger than regular pms... but the sicknesses!?!?... the strangest things would make me yak. The worst was a video of deep fried bacon... 🤮
Who recorded that poor woman giving birth through her toot shoot? That is insane. I couldn't finish watching that video, but thanks to that video, I am now sterile. :)
My favorite part is nurses are always laughing in the back. If I was in intense pain and I heard people laughing behind me they would not make it to see the next day
like imagine if someone got their leg chopped off and the nurses are in the back laughing... oh yeah that would never happen bc loosing a leg is a "legitimate pain"
@@sweatergod5386A lot of these nurses are narcs or sadists and enjoy feeling control over people who are sick, unwell, or helpless. God help the patients who have nobody looking out for them and are alone in the room with these power hungry healthcare workers.
My mother had 3 children, when i was around 10 years… i didn‘t even notice the smell… and i am very sensitive to smells… i actually think women are so brainwashed that they hate their own smell, which is very light… and when it gets different and a bit more smelly their trauma about their hygiene just hits them hard…
Last year, I've had a vasectomy done. This video reminds me, that it's time to make yet another test checking, that there are still no soldiers in my sploodge and that the seminal ducts did not grow back together. Just to be sure.
Congrats! My husband had his done about a year ago as well (we have no kids) and yep it's time to double check. I somehow still manage to get paranoid every month until my period comes. Something funny the doctor told him that really helped our peace of mind was: "don't worry, you're not gonna just wake up one day in 5 years and your vas deferens magically decide to grow themselves back together" lmao. He said no harm if we double check anyway though. :)
@@darcy5761the women should be breastfeeding. If a woman is such a shit parent that she can’t do the most basic thing and feed her own baby, she shouldn’t have kids. She shouldn’t be raping someone else’s mother and murdering her baby so she can steal her milk.
This was hard to hear. I raised 3 kids while my husband worked 6 days a week. I appreciated that he financially supported the family in construction. My mom had died, my in-laws non existent.Some days I sat on kitchen floor and cried. Was depressed. Was regretful. Was so tired I would have hallucinations. Days I thought what an awful mother I was. That my life sucked. I cried for the woman I was - going out, trips… Being a mother is the hardest responsibility in the world. But I persevered, found strength, relished in the good times because Love is bigger than any other emotion. Responsibility takes over when you think you can’t go on. Now I have 7 grandkids and a tight knit family. Weekends My house is filled with kids laughter. I help my kids and they help me.Do I regret having children? Never
Honestly I would rather create babys in labs instead of it growing ~inside~ of me. We are a hella advanced species, I think it’s time that we make child birth easier and more convenient 😄
even my sis told me: DONT DO it she got 2 nope.. think never will have them.. yesterday ditched a dude who tried to pressure me into motherhood I pressured him to tell me what he want from life: me: kids or no? he: " omg 😂 so much options- " me: " so you dont even know what you want? so you are fence sitter and want to keep your options open without giving a shit what I want? " he: " lets not talk about kids now " me: I wont waste my time on fence sitters and baby trappers * BLOCK
We need a scientist to verify the purpose of the postpartum smell. We can't really say it's so your baby can find you to come feed - newborns cannot crawl or walk so how is the baby gonna come find you??
4:01 I ate sand, got butt worms. Found out by the FULL bottle of meds for me, found 15 years after prescribed. She only told me what it was after I confirmed I do not still have worms🙃
I am so glad I have the best birth control in the world: keeping legs closed. It also has a wonderful side effect of keeping men's bs away. I highly recommend it XD
A postpartum smell? must be different for each person. I've had 4 children. I have no recollection of it smelling terrible. Yeah, I smelled blood. You know, cause you bleed a long time after. But I didn't have any rotting smell. And it was not horrendous, hanging in the air. I would have gone straight back to my doctor.
Eschar is more intense than menstrual blood, same way menstrual blood smells more putrid than regular body blood. It’s the wet scab left behind from the placenta, same way menstrual blood has more tissue to it than plasma and red blood cells. Hormones, which the intense hormones last postpartum, can still give you heightened sense of smell of yourself as well. Count yourself lucky. Many people go to the doctors and after getting checked, are told it’s normal for up to around 2 months postpartum, which it is. I had 3 as well, and the smell was the same even though I had retained amniotic sac with my last. So, had an ultrasound and pelvic exam after it was out to know there was nothing left just normal postpartum like my first 2.
Two things I want to point out! If you still want kids; a lot of the pain that you feel giving birth is from lying down! We naturally have an inclination to squat when giving birth and let gravity do the work but one freaky French king ruined the concept when he wanted ti watch women give birth lying down. Try looking into water birth to be 1000% more comfortable However another thing to consider! We are evolving away from natural birth! The heads are too big and our hips are too small, it’s simply not going to be viable to give birth one day (at least not naturally) so honestly there’s another excuse to stop
The worms thing can be even worse, since catching some worms from another person can allow thise eggs to distribute to other parts of the body, including the brain. ChubbyEmu has a video on this (though it was a different parasitic worm, and from an unhygenic adult)
Imagine Palestinian women having miscarriages, pregnancies,births during a genocide and then losing those children to 💣 bombs when they are few weeks old There's a saying in Palestine That A Palestinian Mother Carries Her Son Twice Once during Pregnancy Second At His Funeral 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
The world is over populated. My state is also running out of water. Thankfully mother nature is gonna take care of the problem while i can go where i want, where there is water and all these families are stuck and fucked.
Baby Formula is ultra processed trash. I get some women can't do the brrastfeed but why set up your child for future health problems when you have free food?..
I was aware that the postpartum smell was stronger but not horrible. Periods can be just as bad. The funniest thing I do remember is when my daughter was under the blue lights for jaundice and there was a thunderstorm one night. I was totally convinced that the lightning would come through the machine and electrocute her. 🙈 I must have sounded completely off my head. I was only ever sick on myself once….in the shower….at least I was able to clean it off 😂
