Your expectations for character growth aren't realistic 

It was an interesting perspective on character growth 🥰. Also, I feel like very often the whole character arc where there’s a flaw and at some point in the book that flow is fixed, happens so that the character’s growth can fit within the duration of the story. This is why conscious reading as you point out in the video can make a huge difference. It makes us aware that this “realistic character growth” is just a tool to drive the story forward and to keep the readers hooked. It’s not reality but an adapted representation of it. At least that’s how I usually think about this ☺️ thank you for sharing! ❤️

I think it gets even harder to understand when the layman has picked up terminology that is used by academics and experts. because most the time the terminology is objectively defined as something incredibly specific for the subject matter experts. But is used by laymen in a broader and more subjective sense, so the misunderstanding gets worse because the same terminology is used by means different things depending on if they are writers or readers.