your fear of being seen is only proof it's your calling. 

For those of us raised in narcissistic environments, we've often been conditioned to suppress our voices, remain fearful, conform, and stay small. Thank you for this message, so have the courage to be seen, be loud, and be authentic

"it's not about talent, it's about courage"

You are right. I want to be seen. I feel like I have ideas others could really benefit of. I trust my path. I accept my mission. 🙏💖🌈

This video spoke volumes to me 🥰 For almost 10 years I've wanted to start a RU-vid but I've always been a private person. Fast forward, I started a women's wellness channel "Jade Bliss Inc" in June 2024 and have 14 subscribers 😀. It's small lol but I am so very proud of myself🎉

I recently admitted to my husband that I want to be famous. It’s the first time since I realised i had this desire as a kid, that someone took that desire seriously and didn’t judge it.

“In the beginning we are the ones on the stage and we are the ones in the audience.” BARS!!!!

I want to be seen I want to inspire and motivate the collective I want to influence greatness I am brave, bold and confident

"The more I resist it the more I will be haunted by what could have been." Thank you for this message. I find myself making up every excuse not to show up, and here you come with "it's not about talent, it's about courage" ♥

i failed my first year in medical school. i wasn't able to come back because my mom got sick and died. but moreover, i feel embarrassed to come back... and yet the desire to become a doctor is still there. this video came to me at the right time. thank you for this. ❤

This spoke to my soul. I’ve been talking about creating content for 4 going on 5 years and still have not started. Due to fear and social anxiety I’ve been dealing with all of my life. Today it ends though, purchasing ring light and Osmo pocket 3 to create content, do subscribe and stay tuned!

Girl!!!!!!! No one has said this like this before. Again, I’ve so needed this. I know being seen is part of my healing.

I’ve never seen your profile or videos until tonight. Today is August 27th. The anniversary of my youngest daughter’s death. As I’ve had small voices in my head and on my heart for weeks to make my sad past (beyond my loss) public, to have a longing of creating my own life and leave my day job SCREAM at me….. this video came across my feed, and I watched it. It drove me to tears. I NEEDED to hear this! I can’t tell you how much this video spoke to me, and on an emotional day like today, I really wanna believe that my daughter wants to me to create that life I so desperately want. The mention of feeling out of alignment if I don’t give in to that calling of being seen, really got to me. And more that just sharing my story, but to share the gifts that I feel I was born to share with the world. Thank you for making this video. ❤❤❤❤❤

I was in the middle of rage crying when I saw the title of this video calling me for this very moment. I was furious, livid, thinking back on how objectively alone my path has been. How nobody seems to have ever cared about me. How I've always had to do everything alone and worse, how I can't just give up. It's not just the pain, sweat, blood, and tears that enrages me, it's my stubborn ass never giving up. I couldn't just give in to drugs or alcohol, I couldn't just stop trying at work and stay poor, I couldn't just bed rot and pretend like I don't have responsibilities, I had to compulsively keep fighting tooth and nail. And when it finally got to be too much and I was ready to end my life, I changed it instead. I've been holding back on posting because I didn't feel in a sunshine and rainbows place like many personal growth influencers appear to always be in, but just now I realized...as angry and alone as I feel, I don't want to die. That alone is a miracle. Maybe my message will not be linear, it will change as I evolve, and right now the message is...how to love life even when it's hard, even when you feel like nobody cares.

Took till now to realise. I want to be seen.

The power in this video is wow!!!!! Your channel is going to be HUGE!

I love all of you guys 🥹🥹🥹🥹 all a bunch of cuties in this comment section

… tears started streaming within 4 minutes of watching your video thank you

Ayanda there is not a plate big enough for what you are cooking, yet you continue to both serve and eat, if I might say so. Insightful and beautiful as always, I am so grateful that you allow me to see you, and to see myself through you. Ugh, so much love.

Your video showed up for me at this moment when I can no longer bear my own self-inflicted silence in the world. I realize I’ve been keeping my empathy focused on the critics instead of allowing myself to feel the people who might be helped by whatever I share. It’s a very old habit of self-protection. But you’re right. Maybe it’s not about protecting myself from what critics will say. Maybe I’ve been protecting myself from acknowleding the wounding I’ve already experienced through judgement, and acknowledging the judgement I place so harshly on myself. And if you had edited yourself and never recorded this video, I would not have finally recognized the deep pain I have been feeling around not speaking up. It’s always there, and you’re right…it is increasingly difficult to swallow. Thank you, thank you for using your voice so bravely. Know that you have impacted my life powerfully at a crucial moment. 💜

Yup she was meant to speak. That's it that's all I have to say. ❤

“In the beginning we are the one on the stage and the only one in the audience.” 🤯🤯🤯

“It only gets louder” it’s so true, I cannot escape the feeling that I should be doing the things I’m so afraid of doing. Thank you for this video ❤

I'm one of these people aswell, I want to be seen, but it never happens. My toxic family is also a problem, because I don't want to be seen by them.

"A sense of guilt and self betrayal" 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭"part of your healing"😭😭😭😭😭I want to be seen! So many years I have hid myself so that others could be seen!!! Thank you so much for these powerful words. I felt the burden lift from me.❤🙏🏾💪🏾

this came to me at the right time. I am so grateful for this moment. I am done worrying about what people think of me. I am focused on giving myself permission to be who I am because I cannot stop being myself. Not for friends, not for family, not for strangers. I am supposed to be me, and every thing I do is a reflection of who I am. I refuse to leave this earth being small and limiting my experiences because of fear. I''ve been feeling this way for a while; now, is my time to take that first step towards being true to who I am and what I want for myself.

what if this is your way to heal? that really resonated with me. that one sentence.

You're a healer, Ayanda. I'm always in awe

Im crying. I used to have a million views on YT when i was 12. now Im an adult and i wanna do YT again, but i was threatened and groomed by the internet that it became scary. I need to try. Thank you for reminding me what i was made for

I know this is truth. You are a perfect example. I heard something similar once “when you feel that longing to share your story, it is because there is someone somewhere right now who desperately needs to hear it”

Ever since I first found out about RU-vid, when I was like 6 years old, I wanted to be a RU-vidr, but my fear of being judged kept getting in the way. About a year ago I faced my fears, I posted my first video, and then I felt drawn to keep posting even more. After that, I started to get more and more popular and now I have over 100 subscribers, all because I faced my fears. Lately I've been doubting myself because I want to try to be a musician and the doubt is just my fear again, this video has helped me remember how to face my fears again. Thank you.

I wanted to let you know that when I began watching your message, it was like magic dust was sprinkled onto me and I instantly knew what fears needed to be healed. I'm proud to say I just posted my first video!!!! Thank you for the perfect message at the perfect timing! Much ❤❤

THANK YOU! 🙏🏽 I needed this video! 😭 As the eldest daughter I was conditioned to not be seen… I was to be a good girl, set a good example, make sure everyone was comfortable to the point I lost myself when I got married and had children. The people pleasing kept me from living my dreams for fear of them not being good enough and disappointing others. (I’m 47 and people of my age group and older don’t understand “this social media thing”). I am now divorced, with grown children and FINALLY walking in my true self love and fighting with my ego. It’s hard to say to others, much less myself, “I want to be seen (and heard)!” #claimingit #manifesting #healing 🙏🏽

I want to be seen. I want people appreciate me and what I have to offer

Woo *clutches chest* this brought up so many repressed feelings I had to hit pause and go lay down. I deleted my instagram and Facebook in high school, like 11 years ago, and haven’t been on social media since because I’m afraid to be seen. Now I have a business and I need social media, but am terrified. I just committed to posting and putting myself out there. It’s my goal to also publish e-books pertaining to my field, but also for poetry. I feel dizzy and sick when I think about it. I’m going to sit with these feelings and then return to the video to take in and process the rest. I believe that the timing of me finding your video was divine. Your content is amazing and so helpful, thank you ❤️

'you love yourself so much that you still allowed it to be received' - amazing thank you so much

We are the medicine for one another. It’s becoming more and more clear to me, especially in the black community. We must hold space for one another to exist, raw and naturally but also in our brilliant essence🖤🌀🙏🏾

This video made my mind blow asf and my spirit vibrating like never before. The fact that I've find this video on my time-line as I'm just having an urge to make content (I still don't now what type but surely podcasts ) for so long but specially 2 weeks. And the best part was at 9:54 THERE you hit me you just pointed what I feel since so much time and now I really understand a lot more who I am. I want to be seen, I want to share I want to meet other poeple from all around the world, even if I have to face poeple not agreeing with my ideas, my visions. I want the world to remember me a 100 years after the end of my life. Thank you very much and thank you universe to made me seen this video. ❤❤❤

I wrote it yesterday in my business diary! That my new exercise is to follow & do what I fear. And now I see your video:) Thank you!

girl shivers all over my body, I been so ashamed for all the mistakes I've done and all the drama I was involved before awakening that I literally wanted to dissapear, but there was always this part of me that knew I had something to say, I have a story and a way of seeing the world that must be heard, thank you for reminding me of my power, blessings

This message could not have come at a better time omg 😌❤️ the universe is speaking through you Ayanda

I struggle to find people on this platform that SPEAK to me. I appreciate you. Thank you.

You feel like a guardian angel❤

'I know you say I wish I started earlier but you'll say the same thing 5 years from now if you don't start' Thank you. It is all about courage.

We often look to the world outside of ourselves for the inspiration we are seeking. Sometimes feeling as if we don't yet fully understand we belong leads to melancholy, fear, and sadness, but really it is our own personal struggles in which we find the capacity to inspire others by expressing ourselves regaurdless of the sense that we are lacking something. Courage is the capacity to stand for something which would otherwise be a mere fantasy in the minds of those who love you for the hope you bring into this world. If you are ever feeling rejected, remember that there is someone else on the other side, trying to inspire the world just like you... we are all connected by our passion, despite circumstance, to make our own lives beautiful.

amen and love to everyone here wanting to be seen like that. I feel you and I see you❤

It’s not about talent it’s about courage❤ LITERALLY! Talent will evolve along the way when you decide to start where you are right now!

This video is so powerful. I don't even have words to describe the feelings it called up in me. I've tried this so many times and always found reasons not to. well not anymore

Your videos are incredibly helpful and comforting. You radiate wisdom and love

I feel seen and called. Very grateful that your words have reached me. It’s part of my path. I will listen to this again and again

That really resonates with me..that the desire I feel is not just my and Spirits shared desire, it's also the collective's desire to have me express that I'm in the place to keep showing up and sharing my creations no matter what. I like what Rick Rubin says about creating...we have to do it for ourselves. Forget the audience. People find that energy palpable ❤mmm so good. Thank you

Oh my god girl just found your channel and I have to say, the very first thing you spoke about SANG to me. No one was ever able to explain it in such a way that makes perfect spiritual sense like you did. We show ourselves to the world to heal ourselves and to grow as we learn new things about ourselves. I love that!

The irony that your frequency is often motivating/encourging us to walk and stand in our own frequencies! Full circle. Apperciate your words❤

This is my first comment on youtube to someone.Thank you so much.Beeing seen always feels like burden and judgements for me.I didnt open to receive because fear of humiliating.I receive love from you know. Thanks sis 🖤

Thanks You SO Much Angel 🙏🏻 It has been more than two years since I've started writing my own music, and I've always imagined myself singing it in front of people. But my body feels so nervous and terrified when it comes to play in front of people. Now I'm thinking about sharing my music on my socials but once again, I am feeling so petrified. I have been on this path for years, I've sometimes put asides making music but it always always came back to me. It is my soul purpose and I'm shaking writing those words. I've posted some videos on here but, I feel "hidden" and safe because nobody knows me on RU-vid. I've got to take the leap of posting on my socials, where everybody knows me, but oh gosh... I wish everyone a safe path full of love and wonders. Thank you for the video and I love your vibe

This was so powerful! I think this is actually my first youtube comment ever because I never even think about writing things under videos due to perfectionism, fear of being seen, criticized etc. This is a huge inspiration to face the fear and doubt and move through the blockages that I’ve been facing. Thank you so much for giving me the courage to hit send 🙏

Such powerful words, Ayanda. I swear you speak life in a way, I've been holding so close to my chest but been so afraid to share out of fear being perceived as crazy. Thank you for surrendering.

I recently got out of a funk where I was believing a lot of garbage thoughts I had about myself. I'm in the midst of purging all of that negativity out of myself so that I can really be here for myself in the way that I need to. This will help me, my music, and even extend out to my audience. Thank you for such a positive message in a world that puts a spotlight on negative things!!

currently in tears, as you said, someone really needed to hear the exact words you had to say. 💗

Ayanda, I”m sobbing, in the best way. - I saved this video to come back 222… TODAY was the day. Beyond grateful for you and your message 👑

Gosh, I love you. It is always such a heavy dose of intentionality and love. Beautiful energy, thank you for being.

I’ve been a RU-vidr for 6 years now, I’m extremely proud of the community of love that I’ve built but was fearful to switch lanes. Thank you for this video, it’s answered prayer for me 🤍

❤ This is the first video and time Ive ever heard of you. At this time, the video was released 2 mo ago. I have prayed the last 3 days for a sign and have stayed open to a sign, and your video popped up today with this massage.❤ thank you.

You have been a HUGE catalyst in this major life change I'm undertaking. Your words are so powerful and so appreciated ❤

whewww i want to be seen! I am trusting in my journey to inspire a generation of independent creative powerhouses like myself

I started sobbing 5 minutes in and didn't stop until the end. I needed these words today. Mercury Retrograde has given me such a powerful healing Tower moment this week. I have cut a friend out of my life today who I hadn't even realised until 2 days ago was gaslighting me into doubting my own feelings, making me second guess my intuition and devaluing my self worth. I am done with him and with any other limiting beliefs that have been keeping me stuck. Your words gave me such a powerful release from all of this that's been holding me back. I am ready to walk away from the crumbling ruins and towards the pull.

I was about to search for a calming meditation for helping me through a self presentation I have to record and send today - struggling with how I identify myself and how I am received. Instead I was blessed with your video. Perfect timing. Thanks 🙏

I needed to hear this!🥺 I want to be seen! Ive gone into hiding and its been almost 2 years now. I want to be seen and celebrated. I want to connect and do my part for the betterment of the collective! My fear of being seen, has and is, ruining my life! Im ready to show up as the woman of my dreams! Not only am I missing out on people but people are missing out on me. There is life to be lived! I thank you so much for using your platform to reach girls like me!🙌🏾🥰🙋🏾‍♀

I was holding back tears the entire time. Thank you for sharing this!

“Desire speaks to you through fear” I immediately clicked on this after seeing that,,, thank you for this video ❤️

thank you for this. it’s humbling to hear that my fears are not unique; it’s like you’re speaking to me personally. “your friend from high school, your mom, your ex” - exactly the people I’m afraid of seeing and hearing me. even leaving this comment feels like a great vulnerability. strangers may scroll down and see my name, read my words. it hurts but you’re right, I am haunted by what could have been, increasingly every day. this resistance to do what I NEED to do ❤ to anyone who is reading this, I am sending you love and support.

This has touched my heart so much and opened up a light to view my fear of being seen from a new perspective- on the spectrum of desire and a unique fulfillment in service to the collective. Life changing. Thank you!!

Yes! I especially loved “it’s not about talent, it’s about courage!” Thank you for all your messages ❤

Crying at the last part. You are such a powerful speaker, thank you

WOW!!! This was such a warm hug from fear and about our misconception of fear. I saved it and will be listening to it often, thanks for letting this message come out and not be stopped.

perfect way to get my day started ❤

I cannot explain to you how hard every single one of your words hit me and brought up feelings of sadness and pain I hadn't considered to face in a long time. Every word spoken applied so perfectly to what I feel.

This truly blessed me. I felt like you were talking directly to me. Thanks you for your love and light. Blessing unto you.

I am so grateful for you sharing your wisdom and heart... thank you, truly.

I cried watching this video it really felt like a message from my (our) highest self, I´ve been wanting to start a RU-vid Chanel for literally 10 years, its crazy what fear can do, I´ve been healing so I feel okey but i think it´s time. Between now and November. Thank you as you said in the video a message can change someone´s lives and your definetly touch me.

Today I sent an email that I’ve been battling with for 3 weeks. It wasn’t even difficult email. It is the fear of being seen as something new. Gosh.. why do we do that?! Now seeing your video, I have clarity. Much love ❤️

Omg omg omg she is speaking to my Spirit!!! I promise to be brave!!!! I promise I will be seen!!! I will be heard!!! I am here and I will share!!!! I have gift and I will share them with the world!!!!

This was so needed I’m crying I felt that in my soul thank you for sharing ❤

This video has found me at 8am, almost exactly a week from the day I quit my warehouse job due to constant safety issues that ultimately led to a back injury. I kept telling myself that once I could afford to live I would start to allow myself to create. To do music and makeup and writing again. But the time is now. While I’m in the uncertainty and the calling and longing is louder than ever. Before the next job pushes it down again until a day that may never come. Thank you for the loving dialogue that has given me the push I needed to finally say out loud that I do want to be seen. That I am afraid of what people will say. That I must create, with confidence, anyway.

Thank you so much for sharing your voice! I resonate so much with your energy! Love you girl!❤

Thank you. I just posted a video on Instagram and a lot of doubt, fear and shame is rising. But also a lot of courage, hope and joy. And now I am listening to you as a valuable support. Thank you thank you thank you!

This message applies to so much more in life, not just the creative field, but also.. to just existing in the world? To the outliers, to the deviants, the freaks, and also to everyone who is just different in one way or another and is possibly ashamed of it: don't, the universe put you there because that's how it expresses itself through you! And as you long to exist in the world, the world is longing to witness your existence, to hear what you have to say, to see you for who you are! 💜💜

This whole video felt like exactly what advice my higher self would tell me. Honestly I dont think I’ve ever felt so moved by a RU-vid video. Thank you so much. You message, your voice, your communication and passion is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing and inspiring us creators to face our fears and allow ourselves to be seen. Thank you 🙏

You're right. Thank you for lifting my voice higher. I spent 20yrs in an unhealthy marriage and I've been living with the fear and guilt of exposing my narcissist husband. I've lived in fear of not being believed. I've lived in fear that one day my children would find out. I've lived in fear because of the way he has altered my way of thinking. I've lived in my own for 2 years in a healing community finally starting to realize this man i love, hurts me deeply every time we talk. And that's not love. I now know what healthy love feels like, i know what healthy love sounds like. I feel empowered to begin forming a plan to tell my story. It ends with me.

You have definitely come at the divine timing of my calling. I do want to be seen. I was prophetically told in a dream (in 2010!) you even said that year in this video😇that the purpose of my business was going to be one that would force this fear of being seen out of me. You have inspired me with the last touch of salt that I needed to take that bite out of fear …thank you Princess🙏🏽 you are so very powerful in n your light. Continue in your journey as I meet up with you down this path. 🕊️🕊️

The concept of the longing being a response to the pull of the collective absolutely exploded my mind, I´ve listen to that couple minutes like 3 time straight. You are a such a great messenger.

I was once told, “the things you are the most afraid to say are the things that someone needs to hear the most” and it really changed my confidence in my ideas🩵

You said it all, i want to be seen, everyday of my life i feel like my life is waisting away for not been able to do what i love to do

I have always wanted to share myself to the world, and especially in these last few years. I grew up in a narcissistic family, so the insecurity slapped onto me stuck for a long time and still struggling. I’m sure there will be some healing involved, whether big or small, but personally I feel I really want to share my gifts to the world. I don’t want to just keep it to myself, I don’t want to be the only one enjoying this experience. I believe this video was sent. I do want to be seen!

Im crying… i’ve always had issues with being seen and residing in fear and shame from physical and mental abuse and neglect stimming from a very long, shame filled childhood. I have done some healing with this but it still wasn’t enough. I’ve been letting fear stop me from making my podcasts and posting on socials for years now…. I really needed this, i can’t thank you enough, this really has shifted me into a new headspace/frequency, i feel like this is gonna be responsible for changing my life.

it’s rare for me to feel suchhhh deep resonance with a video. every word you say rings through the fibre of my being. thank you so much for creating this. you’re right, you’re the light and love that universe wanted to be shared. i want to be seen. i want to resonate with people as much as others have resonated with me. maybe this is my way of giving back to the world. even if not, it will definitely lead me to it.

First time viewer - "consuming content to fulfill the desire of being a creator " really ate me up and spit me out there

Wow you are such a beautiful butterfly. The calling is deep to share my poetry but through RU-vid. When I read my work it’s so much deeper! And I’ve never looked at it this way, thank you beautiful ❤

I want to say thank you. I started my channel in Dec 2023. Since then I have made incredible connections (and friendships here) yet had to deal with negative comments that honestly hurt me. Sometimes I found myself wondering why I put myself out there/here. I’m in a different place now and yes, you are right on every single point you make. Thank you, thank you. There was a calling in me to get on YT, it was not easy but I moved through the fear of being seen, moving through more layers with each video-loving myself more with each video. Accepting my true self more with each video. I have grown so much-more than I could have ever understood before I got on this platform. Service: I see this. I help others feel confident in creating a home that they love. It’s important work to guide others to this place because in it they too experience self love, acceptance and awakening their own creativity. I hope more creatives on this platform see your video 🤍 Sending you love and gratitude.

Working thru the Fear is the real therapy & homework

I needed this, big time 💪🏽💯🙌🏽 In line with the Universe, no excuses. Face your fears and triumph. “Why did your voice choose this time”……..marinate on that….ahhhhh. When the truth you hear hits so hard you want to stop listening as to not be held accountable, but you are glued to every word…..healing… done with hiding, no longer resisting.